In today’s episode, we’re talking all about attachment styles and break-ups. While of course, break-ups are messy, personal and far from formulaic, there are undeniably certain themes in how our break-ups feel that can be traced to our attachment patterns.Understanding the ways in which attachment drives can shape how we relate to and experience break-ups is essential in finding greater compassion for our own experience, and depersonalising someone else’s behaviour to the extent that they’re processing the transition differently to us. Use the code PHOENIX to save $150 off Higher Love - https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about attachment styles and break-ups. While of course, break-ups are messy, personal and far from formulaic, there are undeniably certain themes in how our break-ups feel that can be traced to our attachment patterns. Understanding the ways in which attachment drives can shape how we relate to and experience break-ups is essential in finding greater compassion for our own experience, and depersonalising someone else’s behaviour to the extent that they’re processing the transition differently to us. Use the code PHOENIX to save $150 off Higher Love - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

Attachment Styles & Break-Ups

Does ghosting leave you feeling anxious, confused, and questioning your self-worth? If so, you’re not alone. Today, we're diving deep into this all-too-common dating phenomenon. We'll explore  why ghosting occurs, the common impacts it has on self-esteem, and how to give yourself the closure and peace you desire.  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Does ghosting leave you feeling anxious, confused, and questioning your self-worth? If so, you’re not alone.  Today, we're diving deep into this all-too-common dating phenomenon. We'll explore  why ghosting occurs, the common impacts it has on self-esteem, and how to give yourself the closure and peace you desire.  Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

Ghosting: Why It Happens & How to Process

In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure. We'll cover: how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationshipdifferent forms of abandonment (physical, emotional)relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead tothe link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment Last Chance For This Round to Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment  https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure.  We'll cover: <ul><li>how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationship</li><li>different forms of abandonment (physical, emotional)</li><li>relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead to</li><li>the link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment</li></ul> Last Chance For This Round to Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment  <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts Our Relationships

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about discomfort — specifically, why it’s so essential in any healing journey to reframe the way we approach and relate to getting uncomfortable. Most of us recoil at the first sign of discomfort, preferring to stay squarely within the domain of what we know and can control. But this often means we’re confining ourselves to a very limited experience of what’s possible in our lives. We’ll cover: Why we tend to gravitate towards what is familiar and knownHow embracing discomfort builds resilience Physical protocols for exploring discomfort Building our emotional capacity for discomfort   Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about discomfort — specifically, why it’s so essential in any healing journey to reframe the way we approach and relate to getting uncomfortable.  Most of us recoil at the first sign of discomfort, preferring to stay squarely within the domain of what we know and can control. But this often means we’re confining ourselves to a very limited experience of what’s possible in our lives.  We’ll cover: <ul><li>Why we tend to gravitate towards what is familiar and known</li><li>How embracing discomfort builds resilience </li><li>Physical protocols for exploring discomfort </li><li>Building our emotional capacity for discomfort  </li></ul> Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

The Importance of Discomfort in Life & Relationships

Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work?In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing. We'll cover: the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing)being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrivethe issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions) Join Healing Anxious Attachment here! 🎉 Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work? In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing.  We'll cover: <ul><li>the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing)</li><li>being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrive</li><li>the issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions)</li></ul> <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment-eb" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Healing Anxious Attachment here</a>! 🎉 Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

3 Essential Ingredients to Make a Relationship Work

Anxious attachment can be incredibly exhausting - but it doesn't have to govern your future.  And in today's episode, I'm going to be laying out the path to healing anxious attachment, walking you through the core pillars of my methodology.We'll discuss the importance of self-regulation and how we can start to build self-trust and safety from within rather than depending solely on a partner to make us feel secure.  We'll also delve deep into the core beliefs that drive anxious attachment, and how addressing these stories and wounds can liberate us from the fear of abandonment and feelings of unworthiness.  Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Anxious attachment can be incredibly exhausting - but it doesn't have to govern your future.  And in today's episode, I'm going to be laying out the path to healing anxious attachment, walking you through the core pillars of my methodology. We'll discuss the importance of self-regulation and how we can start to build self-trust and safety from within rather than depending solely on a partner to make us feel secure.  We'll also delve deep into the core beliefs that drive anxious attachment, and how addressing these stories and wounds can liberate us from the fear of abandonment and feelings of unworthiness.  Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

The Path to Healing Anxious Attachment

Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them. It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in the recovery process, and learn how to move on in a healthy way.  We'll cover: why we can feel more confused than relieved post-break uphow shame and isolation that can keep us cut off from our support networkswhy closure can be particularly elusive after dysfunctional relationships  Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Heal from your break up, build deep self confidence, and find healthy, aligned lovehttps://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them.  It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in the recovery process, and learn how to move on in a healthy way.  We'll cover: <ul><li>why we can feel more confused than relieved post-break up</li><li>how shame and isolation that can keep us cut off from our support networks</li><li>why closure can be particularly elusive after dysfunctional relationships </li></ul> Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Heal from your break up, build deep self confidence, and find healthy, aligned love <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From

Unless you're a true outlier, there's a pretty good chance you've had some experience with jealousy.  And yet, as universal as it is, jealousy is possibly one of the most maligned emotions we can have. In today's episode, join me on a journey to understand this complex emotion better and explore ways to transform it into a tool for strengthening relationships. We'll explore the various expressions of jealousy, ranging from the healthy to the unhealthy, and shed light on why it emerges, encouraging a perspective of curiosity and understanding over judgement. Today's episode will also be beneficial for those grappling with jealousy resulting from a partner's past wrongdoings. Together, we'll learn how to create a safe space for addressing these feelings and communicating them respectfully. So tune in, and let's redefine your understanding of jealousy in relationships.Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Unless you're a true outlier, there's a pretty good chance you've had some experience with jealousy.  And yet, as universal as it is, jealousy is possibly one of the most maligned emotions we can have.  In today's episode, join me on a journey to understand this complex emotion better and explore ways to transform it into a tool for strengthening relationships. We'll explore the various expressions of jealousy, ranging from the healthy to the unhealthy, and shed light on why it emerges, encouraging a perspective of curiosity and understanding over judgement. Today's episode will also be beneficial for those grappling with jealousy resulting from a partner's past wrongdoings. Together, we'll learn how to create a safe space for addressing these feelings and communicating them respectfully. So tune in, and let's redefine your understanding of jealousy in relationships. Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships

Ever been caught in that tricky situation of setting boundaries with an ex? Navigating this territory can be a daunting task at the best of times, and especially so when co-parenting or shared responsibilities are at play.  In today's episode, I'll be sharing some strategies for establishing and upholding boundaries with ex-partners that allow you to prioritise your wellbeing. I'll also share some tips on how to handle emotions that may surface during interactions with an ex, how to manage people-pleasing parts that want to keep everyone happy, and how to extract yourself from addictive but ultimately unhealthy dynamics.  Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Ever been caught in that tricky situation of setting boundaries with an ex? Navigating this territory can be a daunting task at the best of times, and especially so when co-parenting or shared responsibilities are at play.   In today's episode, I'll be sharing some strategies for establishing and upholding boundaries with ex-partners that allow you to prioritise your wellbeing. I'll also share some tips on how to handle emotions that may surface during interactions with an ex, how to manage people-pleasing parts that want to keep everyone happy, and how to extract yourself from addictive but ultimately unhealthy dynamics.  Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How to Navigate Boundaries with an Ex-Partner

Ever been stuck in a situationship, that in-between space where you're more than purely casual but not truly committed? In today's episode, we're unboxing this modern dating conundrum. We're peeling back the layers of why we find ourselves in these non-committal scenarios, particularly exploring the attachment drives that can both lead to and exacerbate this dynamic. More importantly, we'll explore how to opt out of this challenging cycle and pave our way towards healthier relationships.Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Ever been stuck in a situationship, that in-between space where you're more than purely casual but not truly committed? In today's episode, we're unboxing this modern dating conundrum. We're peeling back the layers of why we find ourselves in these non-committal scenarios, particularly exploring the attachment drives that can both lead to and exacerbate this dynamic. More importantly, we'll explore how to opt out of this challenging cycle and pave our way towards healthier relationships. Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

Breaking the Cycle of Situationships

Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships &amp; intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life &amp; relationships.

Are you feeling stuck in the perennial battle between seeking external validation and staying true to your authentic self? In today's Q&amp;A episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to detach from unhealthy people-pleasing behaviours that ask us to trade our authenticity for belonging and approval. This episode challenges you to take a deeper look into your people pleasing tendencies, learn to channel them more intentionally, and cultivate self-worth and self-respect. The goal? To build an internal foundation that allows us to handle criticism and rejection without losing our sense of self. Listen in as we explore the importance of cultivating conscious awareness around our patterns, discuss how to become more comfortable with who you are, and share practical tips to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Are you feeling stuck in the perennial battle between seeking external validation and staying true to your authentic self? In today's Q&amp;A episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to detach from unhealthy people-pleasing behaviours that ask us to trade our authenticity for belonging and approval.  This episode challenges you to take a deeper look into your people pleasing tendencies, learn to channel them more intentionally, and cultivate self-worth and self-respect. The goal? To build an internal foundation that allows us to handle criticism and rejection without losing our sense of self.  Listen in as we explore the importance of cultivating conscious awareness around our patterns, discuss how to become more comfortable with who you are, and share practical tips to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.  Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How to Care Less About Others' Opinions (For the Recovering People Pleaser)

Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let's journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style. We'll delve into the raw aspects of why this period can trigger our deepest sensitivities and how we can make this an empowering voyage of self-discovery. From learning to stay grounded, boosting confidence, to finding joy in the dating process, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice.This episode goes beyond mere dating advice. We'll explore: why it's problematic to completely alter your life for someone you've just met, and how it impacts the budding relationship. how to gain clarity about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship, and how to articulate those needs effectively. the importance of taking things slowhow to get comfortable with the uncertainty that is inherent in the early dating phase.  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Is your anxiety getting the better of you in the early stages of dating? Well, take a deep breath and let's journey together through this episode where we unravel the common anxieties in early dating, particularly for those with an anxious attachment style.  We'll delve into the raw aspects of why this period can trigger our deepest sensitivities and how we can make this an empowering voyage of self-discovery. From learning to stay grounded, boosting confidence, to finding joy in the dating process, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice. This episode goes beyond mere dating advice. We'll explore: <ul><li>why it's problematic to completely alter your life for someone you've just met, and how it impacts the budding relationship. </li><li>how to gain clarity about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship, and how to articulate those needs effectively. </li><li>the importance of taking things slow</li><li>how to get comfortable with the uncertainty that is inherent in the early dating phase. </li></ul> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

The Anxious Dater's Guide: How to Remain Grounded in the Early Dating Phase

Stan Tatkin

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by the one &amp; only Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), as well as being a prolific author of several best-selling books such as Wired for Love and most recently, In Each Other's Care. In this episode, Stan joins me to chat with me about how we can experience conflict within relationships in a safe way and really build secure foundations in our relationships.  We'll cover: How launching into self-protecting patterns can harm our relationshipsThe concept of secure functioning in a relationshipHow regret can be a powerful teacherThe concept of the couple bubbleFinding acceptance for our partner's imperfections Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by the one &amp; only Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), as well as being a prolific author of several best-selling books such as Wired for Love and most recently, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Each-Others-Care-Relationship-Conflicts/dp/1622039017/ref=asc_df_1622039017/?tag=hyprod-20&amp;linkCode=df0&amp;hvadid=598351558973&amp;hvpos=&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=3762179274586692681&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=1014232&amp;hvtargid=pla-1639571749626&amp;psc=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">In Each Other's Care</a>.  In this episode, Stan joins me to chat with me about how we can experience conflict within relationships in a safe way and really build secure foundations in our relationships.  We'll cover: <ul><li>How launching into self-protecting patterns can harm our relationships</li><li>The concept of secure functioning in a relationship</li><li>How regret can be a powerful teacher</li><li>The concept of the couple bubble</li><li>Finding acceptance for our partner's imperfections</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

The Art of Secure Relating with Stan Tatkin

In the absence of self trust, we see a lot of other dominoes fall in terms of self worth and self respect. This is something almost everyone I work with struggles with to some degree and it’s a challenging piece of the puzzle when it comes to our personal growth in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 tips for building self trust to help you to go out into the world and make aligned choices.  We'll cover: Knowing yourself and your valuesTrusting your own boundariesFinding others to sense check Knowing it’s not an instant fix  Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In the absence of self trust, we see a lot of other dominoes fall in terms of self worth and self respect. This is something almost everyone I work with struggles with to some degree and it’s a challenging piece of the puzzle when it comes to our personal growth in relationships. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 3 tips for building self trust to help you to go out into the world and make aligned choices. We'll cover: <ul><li>Knowing yourself and your values</li><li>Trusting your own boundaries</li><li>Finding others to sense check </li><li>Knowing it’s not an instant fix</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

3 Tips for Building Self-Trust

In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself   We'll cover: Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner? Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

In today’s episode, I’m continuing my series of answering your questions around the “reasonableness” of certain expectations and requests in relationship, with the goal of helping you build the muscle of discernment and capacity for self trust in navigating these nuances for yourself   We'll cover: <ul><li>Is it unreasonable to talk about the future - marriage, moving in, trips away?</li><li>Is it unreasonable to want my partner to come back within 24 hours after a fight?</li><li>Is it unreasonable when I ask my partner to think more about me in the relationship?</li><li>Is it unreasonable after 3 years, wanting my partner to anticipate my needs without me having to request them?</li><li>Is it unreasonable for me to want to spend 90% of my free time with my partner?</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

“Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 2)

Unless you’ve married your high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after, you have likely experienced a breakup in your life. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 reminders and ways to support yourself while you're going through a break-up. We'll cover: The break-up is going to be hardFinding other support peopleProcessing the break-up in anxious and avoidant waysNot making meaning or assumptions Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

Unless you’ve married your high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after, you have likely experienced a breakup in your life. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 reminders and ways to support yourself while you're going through a break-up. We'll cover: <ul><li>The break-up is going to be hard</li><li>Finding other support people</li><li>Processing the break-up in anxious and avoidant ways</li><li>Not making meaning or assumptions</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

5 Reminders If You're Going Through a Break-Up

Scott Lyons

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering why you keep attracting the same type of person, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Dr Scott Lyons, a holistic psychologist, educator and author, to talk about addiction to drama, and why we may subconsciously seek out chaos and intensity in our lives and relationships (even when we think we're trying to avoid it).  We'll cover: Understanding the addiction to dramaCommon characteristics of someone addicted to dramaBig emotions don’t equal vulnerabilityWhat the so-called “spark” really isFinding people who know how to love Find Scott on Instagram here, or check out his new book Addicted to Drama - https://www.drscottlyons.com/addicted-to-drama-bookUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses &amp; my Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering why you keep attracting the same type of person, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by <a href="https://www.drscottlyons.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dr Scott Lyons</a>, a holistic psychologist, educator and author, to talk about addiction to drama, and why we may subconsciously seek out chaos and intensity in our lives and relationships (even when we think we're trying to avoid it).  We'll cover: <ul><li>Understanding the addiction to drama</li><li>Common characteristics of someone addicted to drama</li><li>Big emotions don’t equal vulnerability</li><li>What the so-called “spark” really is</li><li>Finding people who know how to love</li></ul> Find Scott on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, or check out his new book Addicted to Drama - <a href="https://www.drscottlyons.com/addicted-to-drama-book" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.drscottlyons.com/addicted-to-drama-book</a> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses &amp; my Higher Love course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How to Navigate Addiction to Drama with Dr Scott Lyons

One of the things I’m most often asked is “How do I know if I’m being unreasonable in my relationship?”. This can be a really tough enquiry to determine for yourself, particularly when you’re getting a lot of pushback and self-trust may be lacking. In today’s episode, I’m offering my take on your specific examples as to whether certain expectations, requests or situations are reasonable (or not), to help you to be able to build your discernment muscle and ultimately feel equipped to make that decision for yourself in your relationships. We'll cover: Should someone text me everyday after 1 or 2 dates?Asking my partner to stop speaking to his ex because I compare myself with herAsking my significant other to not like scandalous or seductive pictures onlineAsking my partner to check in with me when they get home safely after drinkingWanting regular sleepovers when my partner sleeps better alone Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

One of the things I’m most often asked is “How do I know if I’m being unreasonable in my relationship?”. This can be a really tough enquiry to determine for yourself, particularly when you’re getting a lot of pushback and self-trust may be lacking.  In today’s episode, I’m offering my take on your specific examples as to whether certain expectations, requests or situations are reasonable (or not), to help you to be able to build your discernment muscle and ultimately feel equipped to make that decision for yourself in your relationships. We'll cover: <ul><li>Should someone text me everyday after 1 or 2 dates?</li><li>Asking my partner to stop speaking to his ex because I compare myself with her</li><li>Asking my significant other to not like scandalous or seductive pictures online</li><li>Asking my partner to check in with me when they get home safely after drinking</li><li>Wanting regular sleepovers when my partner sleeps better alone</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

“Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1)

So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing. We'll cover: How different attachment styles respond to stressLeading with compassion and careThe work that needs to be done with both attachment stylesLessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationships  Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off my masterclasses or the Higher Love course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

So much of the content around attachment theory focuses on the challenges that anxious-avoidant pairings can present. And while those challenges are undoubtedly very real, there are also real gifts within an anxious-avoidant dynamic when the individuals involved are prepared to meet in the middle. Today I’m sharing what those gifts can look like, and tips on making the most of your anxious-avoidant relationship so that it can become a space for healing. We'll cover: <ul><li>How different attachment styles respond to stress</li><li>Leading with compassion and care</li><li>The work that needs to be done with both attachment styles</li><li>Lessons and opportunities within anxious-avoidant relationships</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off my masterclasses or the Higher Love course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

The Gift of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

This week, I’m answering the community question, “How do I get my avoidant partner to open up?”. I’ll dive into how to pave the way for more genuine, authentic connection and what that looks like for people with avoidant attachment styles and anxious attachment styles within relationships.We'll cover: Preferences of wanting to receive informationTrust wounds in avoidant partnersSelf-serving behaviour that could be impacting this issueInsight into their experience Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com  Further Links &amp; Resources  Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust  Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg &amp; @onattachment  Visit my website 

This week, I’m answering the community question, “How do I get my avoidant partner to open up?”. I’ll dive into how to pave the way for more genuine, authentic connection and what that looks like for people with avoidant attachment styles and anxious attachment styles within relationships. We'll cover: <ul><li>Preferences of wanting to receive information</li><li>Trust wounds in avoidant partners</li><li>Self-serving behaviour that could be impacting this issue</li><li>Insight into their experience</li></ul> Use the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.stephanierigg.com</a> Further Links &amp; Resources <ul> <li>Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on <a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/buildingtrust" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building Trust</a> </li> <li><a href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62f1baf985187de9a5503c31" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download the free guide: Attachment 101</a></li> <li>Follow me on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanie__rigg/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@stephanie__rigg</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/onattachment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@onattachment</a> </li> <li><a href="https://stephanierigg.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit my website</a></li> </ul>

How do I get my avoidant partner to open up?

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