Prompted by a few emails over the years. Today is all about dealing with having an insecure attachment style and how to best cope in a relationship despite it. 36 questions that lead to love.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Prompted by a few emails over the years. Today is all about dealing with having an insecure attachment style and how to best cope in a relationship despite it. <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/?post=episode-228" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 36 questions that lead to love.</a> <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Insecure Attachment

We often look at mental health as being a brain thing rather than a body thing but of course our brain is part of our body, it's an organ that needs looking after like every other organ does.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

We often look at mental health as being a brain thing rather than a body thing but of course our brain is part of our body, it's an organ that needs looking after like every other organ does. <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Foundations of Mental Health

Today is all about Obsessive Compulsive Personality.OCD is talked about a lot because it's such a life destroying disorder, and so is quite obvious if someone has it. But when it's a personality trait people can often just get labelled as "difficult" and they don't seek help.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about Obsessive Compulsive Personality. OCD is talked about a lot because it's such a life destroying disorder, and so is quite obvious if someone has it. But when it's a personality trait people can often just get labelled as "difficult" and they don't seek help.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Obsessive Compulsive Personality

Striking a balance between too much logic and too much emotion isn't easy. But with a bit of practise you can create what therapists sometimes refer to as the Wise Mind.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Striking a balance between too much logic and too much emotion isn't easy. But with a bit of practise you can create what therapists sometimes refer to as the Wise Mind. <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Emotional vs Rational Thinking

Outside of psychology, "Rumination" is the word used for the way certain animals chew their food.Animals with multiple stomachs are able to move food from one stomach back up to their mouth to chew it some more before swallowing it back down again ready to chew it again a bit later.That's why we use it in psychology to mean to chew over your thoughts. Even if you swallow your thoughts down they keep coming back up for you to chew over again.That's rumination. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Outside of psychology, "Rumination" is the word used for the way certain animals chew their food. Animals with multiple stomachs are able to move food from one stomach back up to their mouth to chew it some more before swallowing it back down again ready to chew it again a bit later. That's why we use it in psychology to mean to chew over your thoughts. Even if you swallow your thoughts down they keep coming back up for you to chew over again. That's rumination.  <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Rumination

Today is all about biases.In particular the in-group and out-group bias that drives our emotions way more than it should in the modern world.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about biases. In particular the in-group and out-group bias that drives our emotions way more than it should in the modern world. <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

You Can't Always Trust Your Gut

It's often said that there are 3 types of perfectionism. Self-Oriented Perfectionism, Other-Oriented Perfectionism and Socially Prescribed Perfectionism. Let's take a peek into them shall we?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's often said that there are 3 types of perfectionism. Self-Oriented Perfectionism, Other-Oriented Perfectionism and Socially Prescribed Perfectionism. Let's take a peek into them shall we?<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Perfectionism

I have a couple of catchphrases, or if you ask my wife I repeat myself a lot and can be boring and predictable, either way you'll often hear me say one particular phrase."The brain can't separate fact from fiction."If you've got this far through my Podcast series and not heard me say that then I must boring after all because you clearly fell asleep, because I say it a lot. And for good reason.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I have a couple of catchphrases, or if you ask my wife I repeat myself a lot and can be boring and predictable, either way you'll often hear me say one particular phrase."The brain can't separate fact from fiction."If you've got this far through my Podcast series and not heard me say that then I must boring after all because you clearly fell asleep, because I say it a lot. And for good reason.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Empathy

Gratitude, even about the simpler things in life, helps to dilute down the frustrations about the annoying things. But it's not always easy to find reasons to be grateful is it?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Gratitude, even about the simpler things in life, helps to dilute down the frustrations about the annoying things. But it's not always easy to find reasons to be grateful is it? <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

What COULD You Be Grateful For?

Seeing as it's Spring, not that you'd know it *shakes fist at the clouds* a time for having a good old clear out.I thought I'd revisit an old topic and talk about the psychology of stuff this week.In particular the way our brain can get very confused.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Seeing as it's Spring, not that you'd know it *shakes fist at the clouds* a time for having a good old clear out. I thought I'd revisit an old topic and talk about the psychology of stuff this week. In particular the way our brain can get very confused. <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Hoarding

To inspire, educate and motivate you to be the best you can be. Learn about tackling mental health problems like Anxiety and Depression as well as simple tips to understand the world better, in a down to earth and genuine way with the Best Selling Author and Psychotherapist Richard Nicholls.

This guy’s podcast is uplifting and concise with helpful information in understanding myself and others. I start the day with my coffee and one of his past episodes to catch up to date. 
He has motivated me to make small changes in my life that has made me more content and joyful.

So helpful!

There&#39;s just something about this guy I really like.

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The Richard Nicholls Podcast

Today is all about having meaning and purpose to your life, something that crops up a lot in emails from listeners and definitely comes up in the therapy room. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about having meaning and purpose to your life, something that crops up a lot in emails from listeners and definitely comes up in the therapy room. Become a patron of the podcast!<a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a> Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> YouTube <a href="https://youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://youtube.com/richardnicholls</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

The Meaning of Life

Regularly clients will tell me that they've had frightening bizarre thoughts, sometimes about hurting, or even killing, someone that they care about. Odd as it may seem this is something that everyone experiences, but it doesn't really get talked about for fear of other people thinking we're strange or even dangerous. So I want to put your mind at rest that if you have thoughts like this, you need to remember that they're just thoughts, they're not reality. Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Regularly clients will tell me that they've had frightening bizarre thoughts, sometimes about hurting, or even killing, someone that they care about.  Odd as it may seem this is something that everyone experiences, but it doesn't really get talked about for fear of other people thinking we're strange or even dangerous. So I want to put your mind at rest that if you have thoughts like this, you need to remember that they're just thoughts, they're not reality. Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls </a> Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net&gt;" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net </a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor </a> <a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Dealing With Crazy Thoughts

Although I’m not a relationship coach or a couple therapist a lot of clients will come to one to one therapy and discuss their relationships, with many of them saying things such as “I don’t know what a real relationship is supposed to feel like!”I think that in a society that looks at so many things in life as disposable it can be very hard to think of something in your life as permanent, and may even be a bit scary for a lot of people. Which is why so many clients say to me that they feel trapped when they’re in a relationship yet they feel lonely and insignificant when they’re not.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Although I’m not a relationship coach or a couple therapist a lot of clients will come to one to one therapy and discuss their relationships, with many of them saying things such as “I don’t know what a real relationship is supposed to feel like!” I think that in a society that looks at so many things in life as disposable it can be very hard to think of something in your life as permanent, and may even be a bit scary for a lot of people. Which is why so many clients say to me that they feel trapped when they’re in a relationship yet they feel lonely and insignificant when they’re not.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

What Makes A Good Relationship?

If you Google the words "how to be more productive" you get 187 million results. Interestingly that's the same number of results as "how to learn Romanian." And although everyone learns in different ways we all know the answer to both of those questions. If you want to learn a new language, you need to read it, listen to it and absorb it until you understand it. And the key to that is simply to practise. And the answer to how to get more things done is simply to "do more things."But is everything really that easy? Can it be so black and white? Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

If you Google the words "how to be more productive" you get 187 million results. Interestingly that's the same number of results as "how to learn Romanian." And although everyone learns in different ways we all know the answer to both of those questions.  If you want to learn a new language, you need to read it, listen to it and absorb it until you understand it. And the key to that is simply to practise.  And the answer to how to get more things done is simply to "do more things."But is everything really that easy?  Can it be so black and white? Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a>Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net&gt;" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

How To Get More Done

Did you know that if you're physically tired then you will estimate hills as steeper than they actually are? And that a place in the distance is further away? But did you also know that it's not just our physical resources that influence our perception of the world?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Did you know that if you're physically tired then you will estimate hills as steeper than they actually are? And that a place in the distance is further away? But did you also know that it's not just our physical resources that influence our perception of the world?<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Self-Worth and Anxiety

It's a new year! And for a hypnotherapist who specialises in helping people to make changes in their life people will often say to me things like "I bet you'll be busy at work in January then, all the New Years resolutions." Yet, it's nothing like February, when all those that have tried to make some changes are a month in and can feel themselves giving up and need help. Which raises questions doesn't it? Because if the changes you make are something you actually want, then why would we feel like giving up?Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's a new year!  And for a hypnotherapist who specialises in helping people to make changes in their life people will often say to me things like "I bet you'll be busy at work in January then, all the New Years resolutions."  Yet, it's nothing like February, when all those that have tried to make some changes are a month in and can feel themselves giving up and need help.  Which raises questions doesn't it? Because if the changes you make are something you actually want, then why would we feel like giving up? Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a>Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net&gt;" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Practise Doesn't Make Perfect

Depression is a huge topic. It’s a big problem in the 21st Century and to try and understand it by listening to a single podcast episode probably isn’t going to be enough. Even 4 years at medical school wouldn’t do that. But I hope that with today’s episode I can help you to gain a bit of extra insight into it and I encourage you to read up on it if it’s something that you feel you need to understand more about.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletterSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Depression is a huge topic. It’s a big problem in the 21st Century and to try and understand it by listening to a single podcast episode probably isn’t going to be enough.  Even 4 years at medical school wouldn’t do that.  But I hope that with today’s episode I can help you to gain a bit of extra insight into it and I encourage you to read up on it if it’s something that you feel you need to understand more about.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletter%3E" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletter</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Dealing With Depression

It's often said that optimism isn't all it's cracked up to be. That expecting the best only leads to disappointment, and I can understand why but I think it's important to see the difference between expectations and goals.Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's often said that optimism isn't all it's cracked up to be. That expecting the best only leads to disappointment, and I can understand why but I think it's important to see the difference between expectations and goals.Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a>Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net&gt;" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Disappointment & Low Expectations

Is there something you want to achieve that you know is going to take a while? Maybe something that has many steps, such as getting fitter or writing a dissertation? If so then you need to be aware that doing anything that brings you closer to the end result is better than doing nothing at all. That might seem obvious, but it’s not uncommon for people to be really hard on ourselves for not putting in maximum effort.Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Is there something you want to achieve that you know is going to take a while? Maybe something that has many steps, such as getting fitter or writing a dissertation?  If so then you need to be aware that doing anything that brings you closer to the end result is better than doing nothing at all. That might seem obvious, but it’s not uncommon for people to be really hard on ourselves for not putting in maximum effort. Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Anything Is Better Than Nothing

Many people feel a need to be unique, to be different from everyone else but that shouldn’t be at the expense of our sense of belonging. If we’re missing belongingness in our life then we can often feel as if we’re insignificant, unimportant and may as well crawl under a rock to die. Sure, be different, your life is your own, and any self esteem boost you get from your uniqueness can be used to help you recognise that actually, we’re all different, we’re all unique.Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Many people feel a need to be unique, to be different from everyone else but that shouldn’t be at the expense of our sense of belonging. If we’re missing belongingness in our life then we can often feel as if we’re insignificant, unimportant and may as well crawl under a rock to die. Sure, be different, your life is your own, and any self esteem boost you get from your uniqueness can be used to help you recognise that actually, we’re all different, we’re all unique.Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

The Need To Belong

Imagine you're invited to a friend’s house for a party and you find yourself chatting to a total stranger. If they were to say to you "So, what do you do?" What's the first thing that pops into your mind? Go on, what do you do? Do you swim? do you play cricket? Do you party? Of course, we all know that what they really mean is "What do you do for a living?" It may well be simply small talk just to get a conversation going but what someone does for a living is the usually the first place people tend to go when learning about someone else. And I think it's worth questioning whether that’s appropriate, because there's more to us than our job.Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards https://www.podcastawards.comSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Imagine you're invited to a friend’s house for a party and you find yourself chatting to a total stranger. If they were to say to you "So, what do you do?" What's the first thing that pops into your mind?  Go on, what do you do? Do you swim? do you play cricket? Do you party?  Of course, we all know that what they really mean is "What do you do for a living?" It may well be simply small talk just to get a conversation going but what someone does for a living is the usually the first place people tend to go when learning about someone else. And I think it's worth questioning whether that’s appropriate, because there's more to us than our job.Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards <a href="https://www.podcastawards.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.podcastawards.com</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Don’t Let Your Career Define You

Have you ever met someone with a wooden leg? Not a real wooden leg, but a metaphorical one? In the 60’s, a psychiatrist called Eric Berne, turned some common problematic psychological processes into what he called “Games People Play” One of which he called the wooden leg game.Imagine a man with a wooden leg who has used it as an explanation for why his life is unfulfilled all of his life, he would often say “If it wasn’t for this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete.” Or when he complains that he’s unemployed he says “What do you expect from a guy with one leg?”The wooden leg game can hold us back from enjoying life and feeling fulfilled, and there are many things that can be your wooden leg. People will say...Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletterSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Have you ever met someone with a wooden leg? Not a real wooden leg, but a metaphorical one?  In the 60’s, a psychiatrist called Eric Berne, turned some common problematic psychological processes into what he called “Games People Play” One of which he called the wooden leg game.Imagine a man with a wooden leg who has used it as an explanation for why his life is unfulfilled all of his life, he would often say “If it wasn’t for this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete.” Or when he complains that he’s unemployed he says “What do you expect from a guy with one leg?”The wooden leg game can hold us back from enjoying life and feeling fulfilled, and there are many things that can be your wooden leg. People will say...Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletter%3E" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletter</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Wooden Legs & Excuses

There’s an annoying quirk to our psychology that means we can easily be drawn towards the exact thing that we’re trying to avoid, as the old saying goes 'be careful what you look for, because you just might find it.' Because the alternative means that you might have made yourself part of the problem, rather than the solution.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

There’s an annoying quirk to our psychology that means we can easily be drawn towards the exact thing that we’re trying to avoid, as the old saying goes 'be careful what you look for, because you just might find it.' Because the alternative means that you might have made yourself part of the problem, rather than the solution.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

What We Fight, We Invite

I've been thinking about this topic for a long time and I've been a bit wary of talking about it because what I mean by "it's the thought that counts" is that it's our own thinking that counts towards whether an experience is a good one a bad one or simply just is. And with some really quite extreme situations too. But I don't want it to come across as if it's our own fault if we feel bad because something happened to us. It belittles someones experiences to say "Oh you're traumatised are you? Try thinking differently about it!" Because that's not quite how the brain works. Dr Shan Hussain - Enduring Health Podcast https://apple.co/2FRt2AhBecome a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I've been thinking about this topic for a long time and I've been a bit wary of talking about it because what I mean by "it's the thought that counts" is that it's our own thinking that counts towards whether an experience is a good one a bad one or simply just is.  And with some really quite extreme situations too. But I don't want it to come across as if it's our own fault if we feel bad because something happened to us. It belittles someones experiences to say "Oh you're traumatised are you? Try thinking differently about it!" Because that's not quite how the brain works. Dr Shan Hussain - Enduring Health Podcast <a href="https://apple.co/2FRt2Ah" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://apple.co/2FRt2Ah</a>Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a>Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net&gt;" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

It's The Thought That Counts

Making decisions can be hard, and not just with the big things in life.Sometimes even things that should be insignificant in the grand scheme of things can paralyse us. So how do we get around it?Todays episode is about just that. Getting a better perspective on these things and even the bigger ones too.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Making decisions can be hard, and not just with the big things in life. Sometimes even things that should be insignificant in the grand scheme of things can paralyse us. So how do we get around it? Todays episode is about just that. Getting a better perspective on these things and even the bigger ones too.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Options & Decisions

October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and this years focus is on suicide prevention. Suicide is twice as common as Homicide and is the second biggest cause of death in people under 30. In todays episode I hope to provide some insight into how to spot suicidal ideation in friends and family, and hopefully open up some conversations so as to prevent the worst happening.Samaritans UK 116 123 www.samaritans.orgSane UK 0300 304 7000 www.sane.org.ukMind 0300 123 3393 86463 www.mind.org.ukBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and this years focus is on suicide prevention.  Suicide is twice as common as Homicide and is the second biggest cause of death in people under 30.  In todays episode I hope to provide some insight into how to spot suicidal ideation in friends and family, and hopefully open up some conversations so as to prevent the worst happening.Samaritans UK 116 123 <a href="https://www.samaritans.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.samaritans.org</a>Sane UK 0300 304 7000 <a href="https://www.sane.org.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.sane.org.uk</a>Mind 0300 123 3393 86463 <a href="https://www.mind.org.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.mind.org.uk</a>Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a> Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> YouTube <a href="https://youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://youtube.com/richardnicholls</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Suicide Prevention

If we’ve hurt someone then I think it’s probably healthy to feel bad about it, to wish that we’d behaved differently and to want to make amends. But what isn’t healthy is continually beating yourself up over it or to think of yourself as a bad person because of what happened. Feeling bad because you hurt someone is guilt. But feeling as if you’re a bad person is shame, and they’re a bit different. Guilt you can do something with, you can learn from it. You can apologise, make amends and move on. But shame? There’s not really anywhere to go with that, and I think it’s important that we recognise that good people can do bad things, just like bad people can do good things.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

If we’ve hurt someone then I think it’s probably healthy to feel bad about it, to wish that we’d behaved differently and to want to make amends.  But what isn’t healthy is continually beating yourself up over it or to think of yourself as a bad person because of what happened. Feeling bad because you hurt someone is guilt. But feeling as if you’re a bad person is shame, and they’re a bit different.  Guilt you can do something with, you can learn from it. You can apologise, make amends and move on. But shame? There’s not really anywhere to go with that, and I think it’s important that we recognise that good people can do bad things, just like bad people can do good things.<a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Guilt And Shame

Resilience

Despite their setbacks and failures some people seem to have the ability to brush things off and bounce back almost stronger than before, they seem to have a grit and determination not to let bad experiences affect them. Is this something than can be learned?Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards https://www.podcastawards.comSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Despite their setbacks and failures some people seem to have the ability to brush things off and bounce back almost stronger than before, they seem to have a grit and determination not to let bad experiences affect them. Is this something than can be learned?Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards <a href="https://www.podcastawards.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.podcastawards.com</a>Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Bobby Temps

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and because of that I have an extra episode this month for you! I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health. He's a great guy, have a listen.Bobby's Links Podcast https://www.mentalpodcast.co.uk/ Petition https://www.change.org/p/make-mental-health-education-mandatory-in-all-schoolsRichard's Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and because of that I have an extra episode this month for you!  I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health.  He's a great guy, have a listen.Bobby's Links Podcast <a href="https://www.mentalpodcast.co.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.mentalpodcast.co.uk/</a> Petition <a href="https://www.change.org/p/make-mental-health-education-mandatory-in-all-schools" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.change.org/p/make-mental-health-education-mandatory-in-all-schools</a>Richard's Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Bonus Episode: Interview With Bobby Temps

Over the last couple of years I've had a few messages from listeners about their fear of an uncertain future, and it's cropped up in the consulting room quite a lot too. One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful. We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Over the last couple of years I've had a few messages from listeners about their fear of an uncertain future, and it's cropped up in the consulting room quite a lot too.  One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful.  We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that.  Become a patron of the podcast! <a href="https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/richardnicholls</a> Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. <a href="https://www.richardnicholls.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.richardnicholls.net</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> YouTube <a href="https://youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://youtube.com/richardnicholls</a><a href="https://patreon.com/richardnicholls" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">Support the show</a>Submit a question <a href="https://richardnicholls.net/question/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://richardnicholls.net/question/</a> Social Media Links Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/richardnicholls</a> Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal</a> Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor</a> Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls</a> Mastadon <a href="https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls</a>

Anxiety Of The Unknown

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