Diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder in adulthood, high school dropout John Elder Robison went on to become a successful business owner, best-selling author and neurodiversity scholar. Join us for this poignant and moving conversation about his life on the spectrum. 

Diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder in adulthood, high school dropout John Elder Robison went on to become a successful business owner, best-selling author and neurodiversity scholar. Join us for this poignant and moving conversation about his life on the spectrum.

Life on the Spectrum

Dr. Jordan Harris, LMFT joins us to discuss tips for couples to protect their bond while raising healthy, resilient children. With compassion and honesty he acknowledges how difficult modern parenting is, using his own experiences as a husband and father of three young children.

Dr. Jordan Harris, LMFT joins us to discuss tips for couples to protect their bond while raising healthy, resilient children. With compassion and honesty he acknowledges how difficult modern parenting is, using his own experiences as a husband and father of three young children.

Maintaining Connection While Raising Kids

Deb &amp; Nao welcome from Switzerland ADHD experts and EFT therapists Alexine Thompson-De Benoit and Ben Kneubühler. With their personal experiences and years of expertise, they share what they've learned about adult ADHD in relationships. 

Deb &amp; Nao welcome from Switzerland ADHD experts and EFT therapists Alexine Thompson-De Benoit and Ben Kneubühler. With their personal experiences and years of expertise, they share what they've learned about adult ADHD in relationships.

Adult ADHD in Relationships

Reclaiming a loving connection to one's core self is pivotal for all other relationships, and paves the way for joy and connection. Psychologist and author SueAnne Piliero, developer of Core Self Reclamation Therapy joins us to share what's she's learned about this powerful process.

Reclaiming a loving connection to one's core self is pivotal for all other relationships, and paves the way for joy and connection. Psychologist and author SueAnne Piliero, developer of Core Self Reclamation Therapy joins us to share what's she's learned about this powerful process.

Healing & Reclaiming The Self

Deb &amp; Nao welcome from the UK fellow therapist and author Anne Power to talk about her research on what the common factors are in contented couples. When the initial rush of falling in love subsides, how do we get to the lasting comfort of deep abiding love? Join us to find out.

Deb &amp; Nao welcome from the UK fellow therapist and author Anne Power to talk about her research on what the common factors are in contented couples. When the initial rush of falling in love subsides, how do we get to the lasting comfort of deep abiding love? Join us to find out.

The Secrets of Contented Couples

In this uplifting episode, expert Linda Graham, LMFT shares what she's learned about resilience--why it matters, how our brains are wired for it and what individuals (and communities) can do to cultivate it and thrive, even when the road gets rough.

In this uplifting episode, expert Linda Graham, LMFT shares what she's learned about resilience--why it matters, how our brains are wired for it and what individuals (and communities) can do to cultivate it and thrive, even when the road gets rough.

Resilience

We take a deep dive inside the brain's reward center with Dr. Anna Lembke, physician-researcher and NYT best selling author to understand how addiction changes the brain. Join us for this enlightening episode and discover why a dopamine fast might be just the ticket to regain balance.

We take a deep dive inside the brain's reward center with Dr. Anna Lembke, physician-researcher and NYT best selling author to understand how addiction changes the brain. Join us for this enlightening episode and discover why a dopamine fast might be just the ticket to regain balance.

Dopamine Nation

Daniel Mate, co-author and son of Gabor joins us for a frank and engaging look at how adult children can learn to let go of injuries inflicted by their parents, and come to a place of authenticity and strength. Using his own complicated relationship with his famous father, he offers wisdom and hope for healing and growth.

Daniel Mate, co-author and son of Gabor joins us for a frank and engaging look at how adult children can learn to let go of injuries inflicted by their parents, and come to a place of authenticity and strength. Using his own complicated relationship with his famous father, he offers wisdom and hope for healing and growth.

Letting Go of Childhood Wounds/Finding Your Place in Adulthood

Deb and Nao describe three common behaviors that fuel the negative cycle when we're triggered, and offer tips for change. By recognizing and exiting these modes, we are more likely to find the reassurance, comfort and connection that we need. 

Deb and Nao describe three common behaviors that fuel the negative cycle when we're triggered, and offer tips for change. By recognizing and exiting these modes, we are more likely to find the reassurance, comfort and connection that we need.

The Externalizer, The Over-Explainer and The Folder

Dr. Jonice Webb is back to help us understand how Childhood Emotional Neglect shows up in relationships, and what can be done to heal it. Whether with yourself, your partner, your child or your parent, she has tips for how to have productive conversations about CEN.

Dr. Jonice Webb is back to help us understand how Childhood Emotional Neglect shows up in relationships, and what can be done to heal it. Whether with yourself, your partner, your child or your parent, she has tips for how to have productive conversations about CEN.

Healing CEN in Relationships

The Couch offers an opportunity to hear experienced marriage counselors share what they've learned from decades of working with couples. If you and your partner are disconnected, unable to talk without arguing or wondering if you can save your relationship, Deb and Nao can help. Their warm, engaging way of talking about EFT can offer hope when all seems lost in your relationship.

I love how Jila is able to explain the complexities of emotions around grief, loss, immigration and marriage and shame. Thank you!

Beautiful description of immigration experience and grief

Such an amazing podcast. Especially the episode on COVID, the “Difficult Conversations during Challenging Times,” explores the range of emotions most of us feeling during the pandemic. Very validating.

Amazing

That Relationship Show

Deb and Nao welcome New York Times Bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski, expert on women's sexual wellbeing. Using warmth and humor, she covers everything women need to know--from the impact of stress on women's health and well-being to modern day romance novels to the importance of bringing joy and pleasure to our lives. 

Deb and Nao welcome New York Times Bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski, expert on women's sexual wellbeing. Using warmth and humor, she covers everything women need to know--from the impact of stress on women's health and well-being to modern day romance novels to the importance of bringing joy and pleasure to our lives.

What Women Need

Deb and Nao welcome Dr. Patricia Papernow, stepparent, psychologist, author and expert on the subject of stepfamilies. Dr. Papernow discusses the inherent challenges that adults and children face, explains why the notion of blending ought apply to smoothies and not families, and offers the best tools for second-family couples to maintain connection to each other, their children and stepchildren whilst building new traditions together.

Deb and Nao welcome Dr. Patricia Papernow, stepparent, psychologist, author and expert on the subject of stepfamilies. Dr. Papernow discusses the inherent challenges that adults and children face, explains why the notion of blending ought apply to smoothies and not families, and offers the best tools for second-family couples to maintain connection to each other, their children and stepchildren whilst building new traditions together.

Stepcoupling---The Ultimate Challenge

Deb and Nao land the interview of their dreams with Psychologist and EFT developer Dr. Susan M. Johnson. Sue shares the stories of her childhood and young adulthood that led to her passion for helping couples find connection.

Dr. Sue in the House

Triggers are the match and core struggles the gasoline that set the negative cycle ablaze for couples. In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao enlist the help of EFT supervisor extraordinaire Jean Shirkoff LICSW to help couples learn how to turn off the gas valve and snuff out the match before too much damage is done. By identifying our triggers and seeking support for our core struggles, we can avoid the negative cycle and enjoy a more calm and loving connection with our partner. As if that weren't enough, we hear about Phil &amp; Dolly Curtis's honeymoon as well.

Triggers are the match and core struggles the gasoline that set the negative cycle ablaze for couples. In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao enlist the help of EFT supervisor extraordinaire Jean Shirkoff LICSW to help couples learn how to turn off the gas valve and snuff out the match before too much damage is done. By identifying our triggers and seeking support for our core struggles, we can avoid the negative cycle and enjoy a more calm and loving connection with our partner. As if that weren't enough, we hear about Phil &amp; Dolly Curtis's honeymoon as well.

Triggers and Core Struggles

Deb and Nao enlist the help of EFT trainer, author and adjunct faculty member at UNC Greensboro Lorrie Brubacher, LMFT &amp; RMFT to talk about the most painful of injuries for couples. Lorrie shares her extensive knowledge about how couples can come together after safety and trust have been shattered, to a place of deep healing and reconnection. 

Deb and Nao enlist the help of EFT trainer, author and adjunct faculty member at UNC Greensboro Lorrie Brubacher, LMFT &amp; RMFT to talk about the most painful of injuries for couples. Lorrie shares her extensive knowledge about how couples can come together after safety and trust have been shattered, to a place of deep healing and reconnection.

Attachment Injuries - The Deepest Cuts

Traumatic events, whether in childhood or adulthood leave an indelible mark on us as individuals. It turns out they can also wreak havoc on our relationships. Deb and Nao offer different definitions of trauma, including a few that may surprise listeners. They welcome renowned specialist Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT certified trainer who brings a wealth of information about how EFT can help couples impacted by trauma to a place of hope and healing.

Traumatic events, whether in childhood or adulthood leave an indelible mark on us as individuals. It turns out they can also wreak havoc on our relationships. Deb and Nao offer different definitions of trauma, including a few that may surprise listeners. They welcome renowned specialist Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT certified trainer who brings a wealth of information about how EFT can help couples impacted by trauma to a place of hope and healing.

Trauma and Relationships

In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao enlist the help of experts Mike Moran and Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya to tackle what can be one of the most difficult topics for couples to discuss---sex. With certifications in sex therapy and years of helping couples and training therapists between them, these NYC-based therapists provide answers to some of the most-asked questions on this topic. Dr. Zoya and Mike offer hope---even for those couples who might fear that they can never rekindle their sexual connection.

In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao enlist the help of experts Mike Moran and Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya to tackle what can be one of the most difficult topics for couples to discuss---sex. With certifications in sex therapy and years of helping couples and training therapists between them, these NYC-based therapists provide answers to some of the most-asked questions on this topic. Dr. Zoya and Mike offer hope---even for those couples who might fear that they can never rekindle their sexual connection.

Deb &amp; Nao welcome Master Trainer George Faller to share his wisdom about how EFT can best help couples and families. From his experiences as a firefighter during 9/11 to working with couples impacted by trauma to training hundreds of therapists in the model, George brings his unique brand of warmth and humor to The Couch.

Deb &amp; Nao welcome Master Trainer George Faller to share his wisdom about how EFT can best help couples and families. From his experiences as a firefighter during 9/11 to working with couples impacted by trauma to training hundreds of therapists in the model, George brings his unique brand of warmth and humor to The Couch.

The Best Tools for Couples & Families

Deb &amp; Nao interview Trainer and Co-Director of ICEEFT Gail Palmer, MSW, RMFT. From her early collaboration with Sue to her decades working with families and teaching EFT to students and therapists, Gail brings her warmth and wisdom to The Couch. She explains how the model of EFT is used with families to promote connection and growth throughout the lifespan. 

Deb &amp; Nao interview Trainer and Co-Director of ICEEFT Gail Palmer, MSW, RMFT. From her early collaboration with Sue to her decades working with families and teaching EFT to students and therapists, Gail brings her warmth and wisdom to The Couch. She explains how the model of EFT is used with families to promote connection and growth throughout the lifespan.

Emotionally Focused Family Therapy

Deb and Nao tackle the timely topic of narcissism. Deb interviews Dr. Craig Malkin, psychologist, expert and author of the book Rethinking Narcissism on how narcissism develops, impacts relationships and can be addressed using an attachment-based approach like EFT. Dr. Malkin explains how to tell when loving a narcissist has hit a dead-end.

Deb and Nao tackle the timely topic of narcissism. Deb interviews Dr. Craig Malkin, psychologist, expert and author of the book Rethinking Narcissism on how narcissism develops, impacts relationships and can be addressed using an attachment-based approach like EFT. Dr. Malkin explains how to tell when loving a narcissist has hit a dead-end.

The Narcissist in All of Us

Deb and Nao enlist the help of Master EFT therapist Jim Thomas to discuss what it's like to be a man in relationships. From familial to cultural messages, they list the subtle and overt pressures that can make connection difficult for men. In the process they conclude that men are not, in fact, from Mars; they originate right alongside women on planet Earth.

Deb and Nao enlist the help of Master EFT therapist Jim Thomas to discuss what it's like to be a man in relationships. From familial to cultural messages, they list the subtle and overt pressures that can make connection difficult for men. In the process they conclude that men are not, in fact, from Mars; they originate right alongside women on planet Earth.

The Men's Episode

Addiction hurts everyone in its path---from the person who uses to everyone who cares about them. Yet "tough love" approaches have not proven effective. In this episode we welcome from Atlanta Certified EFT trainer Michael Barnett LPC, who has years of experience treating couples and treating addiction. He weaves these together with EFT to create a gentle, respectful model that promotes healing for couples impacted by addiction.

Addiction hurts everyone in its path---from the person who uses to everyone who cares about them. Yet "tough love" approaches have not proven effective. In this episode we welcome from Atlanta Certified EFT trainer Michael Barnett LPC, who has years of experience treating couples and treating addiction. He weaves these together with EFT to create a gentle, respectful model that promotes healing for couples impacted by addiction.

Connection: The Antidote for Addiction

In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao talk with renowned EFT therapist and international trainer Jim Thomas about the complex issue of addiction, and the devastating impact it has on relationships. Through his engaging style and 30+ years of experience, Jim offers hope and healing to couples and families impacted by addiction.

In this episode, Deb &amp; Nao talk with renowned EFT therapist and international trainer Jim Thomas about the complex issue of addiction, and the devastating impact it has on relationships. Through his engaging style and 30+ years of experience, Jim offers hope and healing to couples and families impacted by addiction.

Addiction and Relationships

Deb &amp; Nao welcome renowned psychologist and expert on sexuality in relationships Dr. Barry McCarthy. In this candid and often explicit interview, Dr. McCarthy tells us why sex should be a team sport, how desire can be rekindled and when we should engage in foreplay. This is not an episode to listen to with your kids in the car, but definitely worth sharing with your partner!

Deb &amp; Nao welcome renowned psychologist and expert on sexuality in relationships Dr. Barry McCarthy. In this candid and often explicit interview, Dr. McCarthy tells us why sex should be a team sport, how desire can be rekindled and when we should engage in foreplay. This is not an episode to listen to with your kids in the car, but definitely worth sharing with your partner!

Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex (but were afraid to ask)

Deb &amp; Nao welcome Dr Susan Simonds from Moscow, Idaho to talk about a passion of hers; the intersection of trauma, relationships and healing through creative expression. She explains how forgetting the orange juice can be a blip on the radar or a nuclear meltdown, depending on our trauma history. 

Deb &amp; Nao welcome Dr Susan Simonds from Moscow, Idaho to talk about a passion of hers; the intersection of trauma, relationships and healing through creative expression. She explains how forgetting the orange juice can be a blip on the radar or a nuclear meltdown, depending on our trauma history.

The Echoes of Trauma

In this episode Deb &amp; Nao talk about the challenges &amp; rewards of pursuing certification in EFT. They interview newly certified therapist Elizabeth Moitoza LICSW about her experience, and offer tips and support for those in the process. 

In this episode Deb &amp; Nao talk about the challenges &amp; rewards of pursuing certification in EFT. They interview newly certified therapist Elizabeth Moitoza LICSW about her experience, and offer tips and support for those in the process.

For Therapists Only:  The Certification Blues

Lori Gottlieb

Deb &amp; Nao welcome therapist, New York Times bestselling author and former Hollywood writer Lori Gottlieb to The Couch to talk about her new book Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. The book chronicles her own therapy and the ways it dovetails with four of her clients' stories. Funny, engaging and deeply personal, Lori's stories inspired us to reveal some of our own.

Deb &amp; Nao welcome therapist, New York Times bestselling author and former Hollywood writer Lori Gottlieb to The Couch to talk about her new book Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. The book chronicles her own therapy and the ways it dovetails with four of her clients' stories. Funny, engaging and deeply personal, Lori's stories inspired us to reveal some of our own.

The Other Side of the Couch with Lori Gottlieb

From Ireland via San Francisco, Deb &amp; Nao welcome Marriage &amp; Family therapist Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan. With his unique brand of warmth, humor and Irish charm, Figs shares his passion for helping others heal from emotional pain. He his therapist wife Teale run the company empathi.com, aimed at democratizing mental health care. 

From Ireland via San Francisco, Deb &amp; Nao welcome Marriage &amp; Family therapist Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan. With his unique brand of warmth, humor and Irish charm, Figs shares his passion for helping others heal from emotional pain. He his therapist wife Teale run the company <a href="http://empathi.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">empathi.com</a>, aimed at democratizing mental health care.

The Transformative Power of Empathy

From the dizzying exuberance of infatuation to the deep comfort of long-term companionship, Deb and Nao explore different aspects of love. They interview Certified EFT therapist and Supervisor, Nancy Knudsen. Nancy has facilitated numerous EFT couples weekend workshops, and co-created one called Hold Me Tight, Hold Me Just Right. She describes the possibilities for deepening connection in these workshops, and shares the stories of love she has witnessed along the way.

From the dizzying exuberance of infatuation to the deep comfort of long-term companionship, Deb and Nao explore different aspects of love. They interview Certified EFT therapist and Supervisor, Nancy Knudsen. Nancy has facilitated numerous EFT couples weekend workshops, and co-created one called Hold Me Tight, Hold Me Just Right. She describes the possibilities for deepening connection in these workshops, and shares the stories of love she has witnessed along the way.

LOVE

In this bonus episode, Deb &amp; Nao talk about Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy, and offer practical tips to help listeners learn how to identify, regulate and lean in to emotions. These skills empower us to have the kinds of relationships that fulfill us---whether with a partner, a co-worker, a child or a friend.

In this bonus episode, Deb &amp; Nao talk about Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy, and offer practical tips to help listeners learn how to identify, regulate and lean in to emotions. These skills empower us to have the kinds of relationships that fulfill us---whether with a partner, a co-worker, a child or a friend.

Helpful Tips for Individuals 

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