This is the 250th episode of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. For those of you who have been wondering why the show has been inconsistent for the last little while, this is your answer.  I hope you find meaning and comfort in our story.    In today’s episode, my family and I share the mental health struggles that have affected our lives over the past four years, as well as the things we did to address, and eventually, overcome them.  This episode is mainly about my son Nathan’s struggle with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but the lessons hiding inside it related to compassion, family, and perseverance apply to all mental health challenges, ADHD included.   A few notes:  I did not propose the idea.  My kids did.  They wanted to do this for the 250th episode.   Also, we talk pretty frankly about Nate’s OCD, and even joke about some of the events it caused.  None of that was done with resentment or ill will.  The entire conversation was based in love and acceptance.  If anyone, especially Nate, had appeared uncomfortable or distressed by the conversation at any point, I would have ended it and not posted this.   Finally, this was recorded in January.  The boys finished 8th grade two days prior to posting, and did so with great success.  I’m proud to say that in the time since we recorded, our entire family has moved from a place of healing to a place of growth growth.   OCD Resource Links: International OCD Foundation:  https://iocdf.org/ McLean Hospital's OCD Programs: https://www.mcleanhospital.org/treatment/ocd-institute  NOCD: https://www.treatmyocd.com/     ADHD Essentials Links:   Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Join Our Facebook Community Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com 

This is the 250th episode of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. For those of you who have been wondering why the show has been inconsistent for the last little while, this is your answer.  I hope you find meaning and comfort in our story.   In today’s episode, my family and I share the mental health struggles that have affected our lives over the past four years, as well as the things we did to address, and eventually, overcome them.  This episode is mainly about my son Nathan’s struggle with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but the lessons hiding inside it related to compassion, family, and perseverance apply to all mental health challenges, ADHD included. A few notes:  I did not propose the idea.  My kids did.  They wanted to do this for the 250th episode.   Also, we talk pretty frankly about Nate’s OCD, and even joke about some of the events it caused.  None of that was done with resentment or ill will.  The entire conversation was based in love and acceptance.  If anyone, especially Nate, had appeared uncomfortable or distressed by the conversation at any point, I would have ended it and not posted this.   Finally, this was recorded in January.  The boys finished 8th grade two days prior to posting, and did so with great success.  I’m proud to say that in the time since we recorded, our entire family has moved from a place of healing to a place of growth growth. OCD Resource Links: <ul><li>International OCD Foundation: <a href="https://iocdf.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://iocdf.org/</a></li> <li>McLean Hospital's OCD Programs: <a href="https://www.mcleanhospital.org/treatment/ocd-institute" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.mcleanhospital.org/treatment/ocd-institute</a> </li> <li>NOCD: <a href="https://www.treatmyocd.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.treatmyocd.com/</a> </li> </ul> ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a>brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul>

Episode 250:  OCD in the Family

Seoniadh Jameson

Today, we’re talking to Seoniadh Jameson.  Seoniadh is a fitness professional with ADHD and the author of “Why You Skipped Your Workout”. Seoniadh talks to us about her book, and exercise in general.  She discusses the mind-body connection and how exercising can help our brains, the nature of making changes in our lives, the power of self-talk, and the emotional side of ADHD and exercise.   &gt;&gt;&gt;  Learn About the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups

Today, we’re talking to Seoniadh Jameson.  Seoniadh is a fitness professional with ADHD and the author of “Why You Skipped Your Workout”. Seoniadh talks to us about her book, and exercise in general.  She discusses the mind-body connection and how exercising can help our brains, the nature of making changes in our lives, the power of self-talk, and the emotional side of ADHD and exercise. <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt;  Learn About the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups</a>

Why You Skipped Your Workout with Seoniadh Jameson

Lynn Lyons

Anxiety Audit

Today, we’re talking to Lynne Lyons.  Lynn is a psychotherapist, author, and speaker in private practice for over 30 years.  She specializes in treating anxiety disorders in adults and children. Lynne talks to us about her book “The Anxiety Audit”, and anxiety in general.  She discusses the differences between stress, anxiety, and worry, how accommodations play a different role treating ADHD than they do with anxiety, where many parents go wrong with their kid’s anxiety, all or nothing thinking, and how anxiety affects us physiologically.   &gt;&gt;&gt;Get Your ADHD Essentials Merch Here!!!

Today, we’re talking to Lynne Lyons.  Lynn is a psychotherapist, author, and speaker in private practice for over 30 years.  She specializes in treating anxiety disorders in adults and children. Lynne talks to us about her book “The Anxiety Audit”, and anxiety in general.  She discusses the differences between stress, anxiety, and worry, how accommodations play a different role treating ADHD than they do with anxiety, where many parents go wrong with their kid’s anxiety, all or nothing thinking, and how anxiety affects us physiologically. <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/adhd-essentials?ref_id=25278&amp;utm_campaign=25278&amp;utm_medium=affiliate&amp;utm_source=ADHD%2BEssentials&amp;fbclid=IwAR29bGnG2yg2KSMtRksi52DjxMt3zPtUbEeSAbiJ6igDsVnEDVTzXj1uhoA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt;Get Your ADHD Essentials Merch Here!!!</a>

Anxiety Audit with Lynn Lyons, LICSW

Brendan Mahan

It's just me for this episode.  I'm sharing my thoughts on neurodiverse masking - what it is, why we do it, and the need for a more nuanced conversation in that area with regard to what I'm seeing online.&gt;&gt;&gt; Book your free information call about the  ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups!

It's just me for this episode.  I'm sharing my thoughts on neurodiverse masking - what it is, why we do it, and the need for a more nuanced conversation in that area with regard to what I'm seeing online.<a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt; Book your free information call about the  ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups!</a>

Thoughts on Masking with Brendan Mahan your domino-donning-and-doffing dude

Caroline Maguire

Today, we’re talking to author Caroline Maguire.  Caroline is the author of “Why Will No One Play With Me?”, as well as a social skills and ADHD coach.  She recently did a TEDx Talk about her social spy approach to improving our interpersonal skills.    Caroline talks to us about being a social spy during the holidays.  She shares how (and what) to observe when we first enter into social situations, why it’s so important to read the room, helping sensitive kids manage their sensitivity, and ways to gamify the teaching of social skills.   &gt;&gt;&gt; Book your free information call about the  ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups!

Today, we’re talking to author Caroline Maguire.  Caroline is the author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=why+will+no+one+play+with+me+book&amp;i=stripbooks&amp;gclid=CjwKCAiA7vWcBhBUEiwAXieItjYbDsSFjX5lJ9twPwA7OzT-Y9yKzkbMvM4iisSKitHiZlo30FRksRoCP5wQAvD_BwE&amp;hvadid=581350430074&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvlocphy=9001842&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvqmt=e&amp;hvrand=12904431085503734991&amp;hvtargid=kwd-852697806911&amp;hydadcr=22594_10356233&amp;tag=googhydr-20&amp;ref=pd_sl_2snxbwhgzl_e" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">“Why Will No One Play With Me?”</a>, as well as a social skills and ADHD coach.  She recently did a <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7Dia1TwTuY" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TEDx Talk about her social spy</a> approach to improving our interpersonal skills.    Caroline talks to us about being a social spy during the holidays.  She shares how (and what) to observe when we first enter into social situations, why it’s so important to read the room, helping sensitive kids manage their sensitivity, and ways to gamify the teaching of social skills. <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt; Book your free information call about the  ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups!</a>

Navigating the Holidays, Social Spying, and Sensitive Kids with Caroline Maguire

David Greenwood

Today, we’re talking to David Greenwood, author of "Overcoming Distraction", and "Overcoming Burnout".David talks to us about burnout. We discuss causes of burnout, different kinds, including professional and caregiver burnout, and David gives us tips for both managing and avoiding it. Alright, let’s get rolling.   &gt;&gt;&gt;Register for the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups

Today, we’re talking to David Greenwood, author of "Overcoming Distraction", and "Overcoming Burnout". David talks to us about burnout. We discuss causes of burnout, different kinds, including professional and caregiver burnout, and David gives us tips for both managing and avoiding it. Alright, let’s get rolling. <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt;Register for the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups</a>

Overcoming Burnout with David Greenwood

Today, we're continuing our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, as well as the previous and the next are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guests for this chat are numerous, honestly, I'm toasted from the conference.  But among them are ADHD luminaries Dani Donovan, Jessica McCabe, Caroline Maguire, Eric Tivers, and Cate Osborn, as well as past show guests Dr. Caroline Lentzsch-Parcells and Chris from NASA.  That's a lot of names.  I didn't even mention everyone.  We may have had a pizza party.     ADHD Essentials Links:   Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Join Our Facebook Community Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com    ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials ADHD Diversified

Today, we're continuing our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, as well as the previous and the next are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guests for this chat are numerous, honestly, I'm toasted from the conference.  But among them are ADHD luminaries Dani Donovan, Jessica McCabe, Caroline Maguire, Eric Tivers, and Cate Osborn, as well as past show guests Dr. Caroline Lentzsch-Parcells and Chris from NASA.  That's a lot of names.  I didn't even mention everyone.  We may have had a pizza party. ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a>brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul> ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li> <li><a href="https://adhddiversified.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Diversified</a></li></ul>

Rough Cut ADHD Con 2022 Day 3

Today, we're continuing our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, as well as the previous and the next are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guest for this chat are Lollie Weeks, Kate Barrett, Marc Almodovar, Elizabeth Kilmer, John Hazelwood, and Michelle Buzgon.   ADHD Essentials Links:   Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Join Our Facebook Community Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com    ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials ADHD Diversified

Today, we're continuing our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, as well as the previous and the next are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guest for this chat are Lollie Weeks, Kate Barrett, Marc Almodovar, Elizabeth Kilmer, John Hazelwood, and Michelle Buzgon. ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a>brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul> ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li> <li><a href="https://adhddiversified.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Diversified</a></li></ul>

Rough Cut ADHD Con 2022 Day 2

Today, we're beginning our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, and the following two are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guest for this chat are Anne Marie Nantais, Keith Gelhorn, Keith Griffin, and Zach Gershon.   ADHD Essentials Links:   Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Join Our Facebook Community Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com    ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials ADHD Diversified

Today, we're beginning our annual episodes from the International ADHD Conference.  This episode, and the following two are all quick, minimally edited group debriefs of ADHD Con 2022.  My guest for this chat are Anne Marie Nantais, Keith Gelhorn, Keith Griffin, and Zach Gershon. ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a>brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul> ADHD reWired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li> <li><a href="https://adhddiversified.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Diversified</a></li></ul>

Rough Cut!  ADHD Con 2022 Day 1

Norrine Russell

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Norrine Russell. Dr. Russell is a former psychology professor, and the founder and owner of Russell Coaching for Students.  Russell Coaching is one of the largest student coaching practices in America, and works with complex students to help them develop executive functioning skills and social emotional skills. Norrine talks to us about lying and ADHD.  She shares reasons why our kids might lie to us (and themselves), and why it’s not as offensive as we might think.  She also shares how the core deficits of ADHD relate to lying, and things to do to reduce and even prevent lying.    &gt;&gt;&gt;Register for the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Norrine Russell. Dr. Russell is a former psychology professor, and the founder and owner of <a href="https://russellcoaching.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Russell Coaching for Students</a>.  Russell Coaching is one of the largest student coaching practices in America, and works with complex students to help them develop executive functioning skills and social emotional skills. Norrine talks to us about lying and ADHD.  She shares reasons why our kids might lie to us (and themselves), and why it’s not as offensive as we might think.  She also shares how the core deficits of ADHD relate to lying, and things to do to reduce and even prevent lying.  <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&gt;&gt;&gt;Register for the ADHD Essentials Parenting Groups</a>

ADHD and Lying with Dr. Norrine Russell

I’m a mom with ADHD with 2 kids, 1 already diagnosed with ADHD

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ADHD Essentials

ADHD Essentials, Episode 2! In this episode, I'm talking with Sam Gardner.  Sam is the mother of a daughter with ADHD.  (Even better, her daughter is in middle school!)  Sam shares the frustration, joy and adventure of being part of a family affected by ADHD.  We talk about selfcare, the importance of learning how best to manage your kid with ADHD, and the importance of recognizing growth in yourself and your child.  Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.   As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.   Ep 2 Sam Gardner Show Notes   2:00                 How School reveals ADHD 2:40                 Why you might not be a Helicopter Parent 3:30                 Managing Teachers when you have a kid with ADHD 4:27                 School Struggles 5:17                 Letting Go and Letting the Kid Take the Lead 7:45                 The Importance of Breaking Parental habits to Help the Kid 9:21                 ADHD Outside of School 9:34                 Fearlessness and Getting Lost at Target 11:07               Disney’s “The Circle” 12:31               Social Media &amp; Technology Challenges 17:23               Good Things ADHD Adds 20:27               The Value of Having Friends Who also have kids with ADHD 20:50               The Ripple Effect of Joining the School Play 22:05              What Parents Have to Learn 25:40               Self Care 30:05               How an Outside Perspective Helps you See Growth 34:24               On Medication 36:57               Judgment from Other Parents 39:10               Ending Essential

<a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a>, Episode 2! In this episode, I'm talking with Sam Gardner.  Sam is the mother of a daughter with ADHD.  (Even better, her daughter is in middle school!)  Sam shares the frustration, joy and adventure of being part of a family affected by ADHD.  We talk about selfcare, the importance of learning how best to manage your kid with ADHD, and the importance of recognizing growth in yourself and your child. Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.   As usual, I can be found at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHDessentials.com</a>. Ep 2 Sam Gardner Show Notes 2:00                 How School reveals ADHD 2:40                 Why you might not be a Helicopter Parent 3:30                 Managing Teachers when you have a kid with ADHD 4:27                 School Struggles 5:17                 Letting Go and Letting the Kid Take the Lead 7:45                 The Importance of Breaking Parental habits to Help the Kid 9:21                 ADHD Outside of School 9:34                 Fearlessness and Getting Lost at Target 11:07               Disney’s “The Circle” 12:31               Social Media &amp; Technology Challenges 17:23               Good Things ADHD Adds 20:27               The Value of Having Friends Who also have kids with ADHD 20:50               The Ripple Effect of Joining the School Play 22:05              What Parents Have to Learn 25:40               Self Care 30:05               How an Outside Perspective Helps you See Growth 34:24               On Medication 36:57               Judgment from Other Parents 39:10               Ending Essential

What Parents Have to Learn with Sam, Parent of a child with ADHD

Seth Perler

Today, we’re talking to Seth Perler.  Seth is an Executive Function and Twice Exceptional Coach who has dedicated his life to helping kids overcome their challenges so they can live great lives.  He does this by teaching the world about executive function. Unsurprisingly, he’s also the founder of The Executive Function Online Summit. In today’s episode, Seth and I talk about the resistance our kids sometimes experience when faced with challenging tasks, how major shifts come from millions of little successes, The Executive Function Online Summit (TEFOS), and the importance of our relationships with our kids.    Register The Executive Function Online Summit (TEFOS)  Guest Links:Learn more about Seth at https://sethperler.com.    Replay of my ADDitude Webinar on The Wall of Awful ADHD Essentials Links:Learn about &amp; Register for the next round of The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Seth Perler.  Seth is an Executive Function and Twice Exceptional Coach who has dedicated his life to helping kids overcome their challenges so they can live great lives.  He does this by teaching the world about executive function. Unsurprisingly, he’s also the founder of The Executive Function Online Summit. In today’s episode, Seth and I talk about the resistance our kids sometimes experience when faced with challenging tasks, how major shifts come from millions of little successes, The Executive Function Online Summit (TEFOS), and the importance of our relationships with our kids.  <a href="https://executivefunctionsummit.com/ref/15/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Register The Executive Function Online Summit (TEFOS)</a>  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about Seth at <a href="https://sethperler.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://sethperler.com</a>.</li> </ul> <a href="https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/how-to-help-a-child-with-low-self-esteem/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Replay of my ADDitude Webinar on The Wall of Awful</a>   ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the next round of <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

Resistance, Execution, and Executive Function with Seth Perler, Executive Function and 2e Coach, Founder of The Executive Function Online Summit. 

Melissa Orlov

Today, we’re talking to Melissa Orlov.  Melissa is a marriage consultant, specializing in helping ADHD-affected couples rebalance their relationships. She is a cum laude graduate of Harvard College and an award winning author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. In Today’s Episode, Melissa and I talk about ADHD in family relationships.  We discuss how status within the relationship affects ADHD marriages, why the parent-child dynamic doesn’t work, why it happens, and how to get out of it.  We also discuss Melissa’s three legged conceptual model for ADHD treatment, the power of verbal cues and silos, ADHD as a reward deficiency syndrome  - meaning punishment just isn’t an effective way to parent our kids, and why knowledge is power when it comes to ADHD. Register for the next ADHD reWired Podcast Network Q&amp;A!  Guest Links:Learn more about Melissa's work at https://www.adhdmarriage.com ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs:ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials   Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups ADHD Essentials Links:  Contact Brendan about booking a workshop for your organization Join Our Facebook Community Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com

Today, we’re talking to Melissa Orlov.  Melissa is a marriage consultant, specializing in helping ADHD-affected couples rebalance their relationships. She is a cum laude graduate of Harvard College and an award winning author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. In Today’s Episode, Melissa and I talk about ADHD in family relationships.  We discuss how status within the relationship affects ADHD marriages, why the parent-child dynamic doesn’t work, why it happens, and how to get out of it.  We also discuss Melissa’s three legged conceptual model for ADHD treatment, the power of verbal cues and silos, ADHD as a reward deficiency syndrome  - meaning punishment just isn’t an effective way to parent our kids, and why knowledge is power when it comes to ADHD. <a href="http://www.ADHDreWired.com/events" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Register for the next ADHD reWired Podcast Network Q&amp;A!</a>  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about Melissa's work at <a href="https://www.adhdmarriage.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdmarriage.com</a> </li></ul>ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li> </ul>  Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/contact-brendan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Contact Brendan</a> about booking a workshop for your organization</li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li></ul>

The ADHD Effect on Marriage Relationships with Melissa Orlov, ADHD Expert, Marriage Consultant, and Author

Penny Williams

Today, we’re talking to Penny Williams of Parenting ADHD and Autism.  Penny is a luminary in the field of ADHD and Autism.  Her son’s ADHD diagnosis sent her on a journey from needing help to providing it.  She’s written four award-winning books on the subject, and offers services like mom retreats, and coaching for parents in need.  It was an pleasure to talk to her, and I’m very glad we’ve connected.REGISTER FOR THE PARENTING AUTISM SUMMIT!  (IT'S USEFUL FOR ADHD PARENTS, TOO!)In today’s episode, we talk about Penny’s journey as the mom of an ADHD son, the importance of parent mindset and how it can affect the emotional well-being of our homes, gaps between ability and output, and being a survivor.  RSVP for the Upcoming Live Podcast Episode at info@commlearn.com. Guest Links:Learn more about Penny's work at https://parentingadhdandautism.com. Register for Penny's Parenting Autism Summit.ADHD Essentials Links:Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Penny Williams of <a href="https://parentingadhdandautism.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Parenting ADHD and Autism</a>.  Penny is a luminary in the field of ADHD and Autism.  Her son’s ADHD diagnosis sent her on a journey from needing help to providing it.  She’s written four award-winning books on the subject, and offers services like mom retreats, and coaching for parents in need.  It was an pleasure to talk to her, and I’m very glad we’ve connected.REGISTER FOR THE <a href="https://parentingadhdandautism.teachable.com/a/aff_rddgd07b/external?affcode=41504_qks5vhpk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">PARENTING AUTISM SUMMIT</a>!   (IT'S USEFUL FOR ADHD PARENTS, TOO!) In today’s episode, we talk about Penny’s journey as the mom of an ADHD son, the importance of parent mindset and how it can affect the emotional well-being of our homes, gaps between ability and output, and being a survivor.  RSVP for the Upcoming Live Podcast Episode at <a href="mailto:info@commlearn.com">info@commlearn.com</a>.  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about Penny's work at <a href="https://parentingadhdandautism.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://parentingadhdandautism.com</a>.</li> <li><a href="https://parentingadhdandautism.teachable.com/a/aff_rddgd07b/external?affcode=41504_qks5vhpk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Register for Penny's Parenting Autism Summit</a>.</li></ul>ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

Managing Our Parental Mindset with Penny Williams of Parenting ADHD and Autism. ADHD Expert, Author and Mother. 

Mindy Katz

Today, we’re talking to Mindy Katz.   When Mindy learned that she and her daughter had ADHD, it led to her becoming an ADHD coach, and eventually a Social Worker. She’s a big proponent of positive psychology, and developing resiliency in our kids.    In today’s episode, we talk about how to manage our sabotaging thoughts,  upward spirals of emotion, and the power of curiosity.     Alright, let’s get rolling.       Shameless Plugs:     Go tohttps://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers. Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/.    In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Being calendar challenged Why no two people with ADHD have the same challenges Managing self-sabotaging thoughts Positive Psychology Growth vs. Fixed Mindset Valuing the process more than the results Resilience How perfectionism undermines our efforts Upward Spirals of Emotion Positive Paper Chains How hard it is to talk about what’s going well Using curiosity to celebrate good news Kids want to succeed.  If they aren’t, something is wrong with the process Coach training &amp; social work Going back to work as a grey-haired adult Alan Brown’s See-Saw Visual    Guest Links: Mindy’s Website: http://mindyschwartzkatz.com      ADHD Essentials Links: Learn about &amp; Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Mindy Katz. When Mindy learned that she and her daughter had ADHD, it led to her becoming an ADHD coach, and eventually a Social Worker. She’s a big proponent of positive psychology, and developing resiliency in our kids.  In today’s episode, we talk about how to manage our sabotaging thoughts,  upward spirals of emotion, and the power of curiosity. Alright, let’s get rolling. Shameless Plugs:   <ul><li>Go to<a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/</a> for details about the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers.</li> <li>Learn about <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a>!</li> <li>Or register at <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/</a>.</li> </ul> In Today’s Episode We Discuss: <ul><li>Being calendar challenged</li> <li>Why no two people with ADHD have the same challenges</li> <li>Managing self-sabotaging thoughts</li> <li>Positive Psychology</li> <li>Growth vs. Fixed Mindset</li> <li>Valuing the process more than the results</li> <li>Resilience</li> <li>How perfectionism undermines our efforts</li> <li>Upward Spirals of Emotion</li> <li>Positive Paper Chains</li> <li>How hard it is to talk about what’s going well</li> <li>Using curiosity to celebrate good news</li> <li>Kids want to succeed.  If they aren’t, something is wrong with the process</li> <li>Coach training &amp; social work</li> <li>Going back to work as a grey-haired adult</li> <li>Alan Brown’s See-Saw Visual</li> </ul> Guest Links: <ul><li>Mindy’s Website: <a href="http://mindyschwartzkatz.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://mindyschwartzkatz.com</a></li> </ul> ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

43: Managing Self-Sabotaging Thoughts, Positive Psychology, and Upward Spirals of Emotion with Mindy Katz, ADHD Coach, Social Worker, and Parent with ADHD of Adult Kids with ADHD

Michele Monteiro

Episode 3 finds me talking to Michele Monteiro.  She's a special education teacher at a school for kids with social, emotional, and other disabilities.  Many of her students have ADHD. We talk aobut how students taking, or not taking, their prescribed medication affects both themselves, and their classmates, the importance of letting kids earn back your opinion of them when they mess up, and the transformative power of chef Boyardee and ramen. Side Note: During our conversation, Michele and I express frustration with the the fact thatn not all educators are able to understand/respect the social and emotional challenges of their students. No offense is intended. I’ve worked with a great many teachers and administrators who deeply value social emotional learning. And, given that you’re here, I’m sure you do too.   Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.   As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.  Show Notes:   2:10      Bit by ADHD 3:40      Time Blindness 6:31      How not taking Prescribed Meds affects classroom  10:16      Shame and ADHD 16:18      Effort Grades 17:26      Separating attitude from performance 18:08      Earning point back by doing well afterward 19:15      Teaching Self-Care 21:06      Why Projects don’t work for Michele’s population 22:08      Emotions Beat Academics 22:31      ADHD &amp; Comorbidities 23:12      Why Michele Loves Her Job 24:38      The Value of Kids Putting Their Heads on Their Desks 27:31      Managing the Emotional Drain 27:47      The Value of Shared Experience 29:23      The Transformative Power of Chef Boyardee and Ramen 30:23      On Self-Care 31:55      Self Care Outside of School 32:31      Being Goofy in Class 34:22      Ending Essential 

Episode 3 finds me talking to Michele Monteiro.  She's a special education teacher at a school for kids with social, emotional, and other disabilities.  Many of her students have ADHD. We talk aobut how students taking, or not taking, their prescribed medication affects both themselves, and their classmates, the importance of letting kids earn back your opinion of them when they mess up, and the transformative power of chef Boyardee and ramen. Side Note: During our conversation, Michele and I express frustration with the the fact thatn not all educators are able to understand/respect the social and emotional challenges of their students. No offense is intended. I’ve worked with a great many teachers and administrators who deeply value social emotional learning. And, given that you’re here, I’m sure you do too.   Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.   As usual, I can be found at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHDessentials.com</a>. Show Notes: 2:10      Bit by ADHD 3:40      Time Blindness 6:31      How not taking Prescribed Meds affects classroom  10:16      Shame and ADHD 16:18      Effort Grades 17:26      Separating attitude from performance 18:08      Earning point back by doing well afterward 19:15      Teaching Self-Care 21:06      Why Projects don’t work for Michele’s population 22:08      Emotions Beat Academics 22:31      ADHD &amp; Comorbidities 23:12      Why Michele Loves Her Job 24:38      The Value of Kids Putting Their Heads on Their Desks 27:31      Managing the Emotional Drain 27:47      The Value of Shared Experience 29:23      The Transformative Power of Chef Boyardee and Ramen 30:23      On Self-Care 31:55      Self Care Outside of School 32:31      Being Goofy in Class 34:22      Ending Essential

Separating Attitude from Performance with Michele Monteiro, Special Education Teacher

Cindy Jobs

Today, we’re talking to Cindy Jobs. Cindy is a professional organizer and ADHD coach who I met at last month’s ADHD conference.  And I’m really glad I did, because organization is a thing we ADHD folks tend to struggle with. In today’s episode, we talk about organization as a balance between space and stuff, the clutter/anxiety connection, and making holiday kits.   In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Why Cindy enjoys working with ADHD folks The benefits of having a "Why" Organization takes time Brendan's two organizational insights (that came to him really late in life) Clutter correlating with anxiety Closet drama Getting rid of duplicates  Looking at space like real estate Storing like things together Organizing through kits The geography of organization Reducing the barrier to entry Reducing the barrier to completion Organizational consent    Guest Links: Cindy's Website: https://www.cindyjobs.com  ADHD Essentials Links: Learn about &amp; Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to <a href="https://www.cindyjobs.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Cindy Jobs</a>. Cindy is a professional organizer and ADHD coach who I met at last month’s ADHD conference.  And I’m really glad I did, because organization is a thing we ADHD folks tend to struggle with. In today’s episode, we talk about organization as a balance between space and stuff, the clutter/anxiety connection, and making holiday kits. In Today’s Episode We Discuss: <ul><li>Why Cindy enjoys working with ADHD folks</li> <li>The benefits of having a "Why"</li> <li>Organization takes time</li> <li>Brendan's two organizational insights (that came to him really late in life)</li> <li>Clutter correlating with anxiety</li> <li>Closet drama</li> <li>Getting rid of duplicates </li> <li>Looking at space like real estate</li> <li>Storing like things together</li> <li>Organizing through kits</li> <li>The geography of organization</li> <li>Reducing the barrier to entry</li> <li>Reducing the barrier to completion</li> <li>Organizational consent</li> </ul> Guest Links: <ul><li>Cindy's Website: <a href="https://www.cindyjobs.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.cindyjobs.com</a></li> </ul> ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

49: Talking Organization with Cindy Jobs, Professional Organizer &amp; ADHD Coach

Ari Tuckman

Today, we’re talking to Ari Tuckman. Dr. Tuckman is a psychologist in private practice, specializing in diagnosing and treating children, teens, and adults with ADHD, anxiety, and depression. He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post and The Boston Globe. And now, he’s on the Pod!  In today’s episode, we talk relationship skills.  The episode focuses on marital and parent/child relationships, but the concepts discussed apply to all of them.  And we dig deep, discussing the roles effort, shame, problem-solving, communication and even asymmetrical information play in our relationships.  I really enjoyed doing this episode, and think you’ll enjoy listening just as much.   Guest Links: Find Dr. Tuckman at AdultADHDBook.com    Shameless Plugs:   Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details on the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers. Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/. Join the ADHD Essentials Facebook Community.    In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Happiest ADHD couples felt that their partner put in good effort on managing ADHD The importance of communication Prioritizing relationship &amp; partner needs bodes well for a relationship If it’s easy for me, but hard for you, I might not give you enough credit for doing it. Why scapegoating ADHD is a bad plan Bob Brooks’ Islands of Competence The narrative of imbalance “Is this how it needs to be?  Do we have better options?” Demystifying the perils of doing the dishes Why we rate our effort as higher than that of others Changing our questions/assumptions The anxiety of not doing your job. “We can’t expect our partner to behave better than we do” “Giving the other person your dilemma” Emotional self-regulation is the key to healthy relationships Strategies for having hard conversations A good relationship is one that pushes us to be a better person Modeling self-advocacy &amp; flexible problem-solving Communicate honestly.  Listen respectfully. Work together.

Today, we’re talking to Ari Tuckman. Dr. Tuckman is a psychologist in private practice, specializing in diagnosing and treating children, teens, and adults with ADHD, anxiety, and depression. He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post and The Boston Globe. And now, he’s on the Pod!  In today’s episode, we talk relationship skills.  The episode focuses on marital and parent/child relationships, but the concepts discussed apply to all of them.  And we dig deep, discussing the roles effort, shame, problem-solving, communication and even asymmetrical information play in our relationships.  I really enjoyed doing this episode, and think you’ll enjoy listening just as much. Guest Links: <ul><li>Find Dr. Tuckman at <a href="http://www.adultadhdbook.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">AdultADHDBook.com</a></li> </ul> Shameless Plugs:   <ul><li>Go to <a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/</a> for details on the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers.</li> <li>Learn about <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a>!</li> <li>Or register at <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/</a>.</li> <li>Join the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdessentialscommunity/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Facebook Community</a>.</li> </ul> In Today’s Episode We Discuss: <ul><li>Happiest ADHD couples felt that their partner put in good effort on managing ADHD</li> <li>The importance of communication</li> <li>Prioritizing relationship &amp; partner needs bodes well for a relationship</li> <li>If it’s easy for me, but hard for you, I might not give you enough credit for doing it.</li> <li>Why scapegoating ADHD is a bad plan</li> <li>Bob Brooks’ Islands of Competence</li> <li>The narrative of imbalance</li> <li>“Is this how it needs to be?  Do we have better options?”</li> <li>Demystifying the perils of doing the dishes</li> <li>Why we rate our effort as higher than that of others</li> <li>Changing our questions/assumptions</li> <li>The anxiety of not doing your job.</li> <li>“We can’t expect our partner to behave better than we do”</li> <li>“Giving the other person your dilemma”</li> <li>Emotional self-regulation is the key to healthy relationships</li> <li>Strategies for having hard conversations</li> <li>A good relationship is one that pushes us to be a better person</li> <li>Modeling self-advocacy &amp; flexible problem-solving</li> <li>Communicate honestly.  Listen respectfully. Work together.</li></ul>

A Good Relationship Pushes Us to Be a Better Person with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA

Emily Kircher-Morris

Today, we’re talking to Emily Kirscher Morris of the Mind Matters Podcast. Emily is a mom with ADHD, who is has kids with ADHD, and is married to a husband with ADHD, as well as a mental health counselor who is motivated to help gifted and talented kids with the social emotional challenges the face.  In today’s episode, we talk about Emily’s journey from teacher to mental health counselor, making educational decisions for our kids, reframing our expectations to help us accept our flaws and navigate perfectionism, and the importance of taking a strength-based approach to our kids, process over product, and a deep dive on motivation. Guest Links:Emily's Counseling Services Emily's Mind Matters Podcast Brendan's Episode on the Mind Matters Podcast   The Gifted Support Network   ADHD Essentials Links:  Contact Brendan about booking a workshop for your organization Join Our Facebook Community Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com   ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs:ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials

Today, we’re talking to Emily Kirscher Morris of the <a href="https://www.mindmatterspodcast.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mind Matters Podcast</a>. Emily is a mom with ADHD, who is has kids with ADHD, and is married to a husband with ADHD, as well as a mental health counselor who is motivated to help gifted and talented kids with the social emotional challenges the face.  In today’s episode, we talk about Emily’s journey from teacher to mental health counselor, making educational decisions for our kids, reframing our expectations to help us accept our flaws and navigate perfectionism, and the importance of taking a strength-based approach to our kids, process over product, and a deep dive on motivation.  Guest Links: <ul><li><a href="http://www.unlimitedpotentialstl.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Emily's Counseling Services</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.mindmatterspodcast.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Emily's Mind Matters Podcast</a> <ul><li><a href="https://www.mindmatterspodcast.com/home/2019/10/30/executive-functioning-the-building-blocks-of-success" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brendan's Episode on the Mind Matters Podcast</a></li> </ul> </li> <li><a href="https://www.giftedsupportnetwork.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Gifted Support Network</a></li> </ul>  ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/contact-brendan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Contact Brendan</a> about booking a workshop for your organization</li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul>  ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li></ul>

ADHD, Perfectionism, Parenting, and Motivation with Emily Kircher-Morris of the Mind Matters Podcast, Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD Mom 

 As I spoke with Dan and Stacy, our guests for this episode, I was struck by how clearly their love for each other and their kids came across.  Dan's thoughfulness about how ADHD affects their family of four, and Stacy's understanding and acceptance of the struggles it presents were moving.  As was their clear support for one another, and their children.  I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed recording it. As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com. Or email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com.   Episode 004: Routines, Giggles, and Belonging with Dan and Stacy   2:44     Child Evaluation leads to Parental Diagnosis 4:42     ADHD has always been there 8:22     Counting Down for Compliance, not Completion 8:51     Routine, Practice and Habit 12:37   Kids as “Little Recorders of Us”        14:19   Giggles in the Walls 16:25   The Value of Routines 17:07   Disrupted Routines 18:32   Relationships and Belonging 24:44   Overcoming Fear at Disneyland 35:19   Evening Routines 36:06   Love and Humility 38:36   Catching Lessons 39:04   Empathy and Marginalization 41:25   Ending Essentials

As I spoke with Dan and Stacy, our guests for this episode, I was struck by how clearly their love for each other and their kids came across.  Dan's thoughfulness about how ADHD affects their family of four, and Stacy's understanding and acceptance of the struggles it presents were moving.  As was their clear support for one another, and their children. I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed recording it. As usual, I can be found at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHDessentials.com</a>. Or email me at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a>. Episode 004: Routines, Giggles, and Belonging with Dan and Stacy 2:44     Child Evaluation leads to Parental Diagnosis 4:42     ADHD has always been there 8:22     Counting Down for Compliance, not Completion 8:51     Routine, Practice and Habit 12:37   Kids as “Little Recorders of Us”        14:19   Giggles in the Walls 16:25   The Value of Routines 17:07   Disrupted Routines 18:32   Relationships and Belonging 24:44   Overcoming Fear at Disneyland 35:19   Evening Routines 36:06   Love and Humility 38:36   Catching Lessons 39:04   Empathy and Marginalization 41:25   Ending Essentials

Routines, Giggles and Belonging with Dan and Stacy, ADHD Parents

Monica Hassell

I really enjoyed this conversation with ADHD coach Monica Hassal of Connect ADHD. Monica and I met  at last year’s ADHD Conference, and she’s been a big supporter of this show. I am overjoyed to finally have her on!  She's incredibly knowledgeable, as evidenced by this episode.  I'm sure I'll have her back on in the future. You can learn more about her work at ConnectADHD.com. In today’s episode, we discuss Executive Function, why ADHD rarely travels alone, and the various layers that underly problem behaviors through Monica’s outstanding Volcano of Attention deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.   (Scroll Down to See an Image of Monica's Volcano Below.)  ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!REGISTRATION CLOSES MONDAY, JULY 10th!  Monica Hassall's Volcano Model of ADHD:   Guest Links:Learn more about Monica and her work at www.ConnectADHD.com.   ADHD Essentials Links:Learn about &amp; Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

I really enjoyed this conversation with ADHD coach Monica Hassal of Connect ADHD. Monica and I met  at last year’s ADHD Conference, and she’s been a big supporter of this show. I am overjoyed to finally have her on!  She's incredibly knowledgeable, as evidenced by this episode.  I'm sure I'll have her back on in the future. You can learn more about her work at <a href="http://www.connectadhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ConnectADHD.com</a>. In today’s episode, we discuss Executive Function, why ADHD rarely travels alone, and the various layers that underly problem behaviors through Monica’s outstanding Volcano of Attention deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.   (Scroll Down to See an Image of Monica's Volcano Below.)  ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!</a> REGISTRATION CLOSES MONDAY, JULY 10th! Monica Hassall's Volcano Model of ADHD:  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about Monica and her work at <a href="http://www.connectadhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.ConnectADHD.com</a>.</li> </ul>  ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> </ul>  SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/essentials/the-wall-of-awful/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">"Wall of Awful"</a> model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How to ADHD</a> channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uo08uS904Rg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 1</a> and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlObsAeFNVk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 2</a>).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

Executive Function, Volcanoes, and Why ADHD Rarely Travels Alone, with Monica Hassell of Connect ADHD

In today's episode, I discuss 8 Ways to Help Your Kid Manage Their Stress and Anxiety.     In Advance 1.  Reduce sensory stimulation 2.  Set &amp; Have Reasonable Expectations 3.  Be clear about your own escalation   (4-6) In the Moment 4.  Help them get grounded in reality 5.  Name emotions 6.  Reflective Listening   (7-8) In the Aftermath 7.  Forgive 8.  Fix   Shameless Plugs:   Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details on the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers. Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/. Join the ADHD Essentials Facebook Community. 

In today's episode, I discuss 8 Ways to Help Your Kid Manage Their Stress and Anxiety. In Advance 1.  Reduce sensory stimulation 2.  Set &amp; Have Reasonable Expectations 3.  Be clear about your own escalation (4-6) In the Moment 4.  Help them get grounded in reality 5.  Name emotions 6.  Reflective Listening (7-8) In the Aftermath 7.  Forgive 8.  Fix Shameless Plugs:   <ul><li>Go to <a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/</a> for details on the monthly Q&amp;A with Eric Tivers.</li> <li>Learn about <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a>!</li> <li>Or register at <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/</a>.</li> <li>Join the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdessentialscommunity/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Facebook Community</a>.</li> </ul>

8 Ways to Help Your Kids Manage Stress & Anxiety

Keith Griffin

Today, we’re talking to Keith Griffin! Keith is an ADHD coach, and host of “This ADHD Life” on YouTube.  He’s also got a webinar on surviving the holidays with ADHD coming up through the Attention Deficit Disorder Association.   Keith can be found at ThisADHDLife.com.   In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Information Overload How music can help our morning routines No screens in the bedroom Productivity Tips Tragic Stories How to Positivify Brendan's "Today's Awesome" gimmick on FB The difference between eating watermelon and eating grapes Self advocacy And doing less    Shameless Self Promotion: Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/. Don't forget to give us a 5-Star rating &amp; review on iTunes!  Thanks!

Today, we’re talking to Keith Griffin! Keith is an ADHD coach, and host of “<a href="http://www.ThisADHDLife.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">This ADHD Life</a>” <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuchI9z9ilMFWMIJUwqjrjg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">on YouTube</a>.  He’s also got a <a href="http://www.EFingHolidays.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">webinar on surviving the holidays with ADHD</a> coming up through the <a href="https://add.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Attention Deficit Disorder Association</a>.   Keith can be found at <a href="http://www.thisadhdlife.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ThisADHDLife.com</a>. In Today’s Episode We Discuss: <ul><li>Information Overload</li> <li>How music can help our morning routines</li> <li>No screens in the bedroom</li> <li>Productivity Tips</li> <li>Tragic Stories</li> <li>How to Positivify</li> <li>Brendan's "Today's Awesome" gimmick on FB</li> <li>The difference between eating watermelon and eating grapes</li> <li>Self advocacy</li> <li>And doing less</li> </ul> Shameless Self Promotion: <ul><li>Learn about <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a>!</li> <li>Or register at <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/</a>.</li> <li>Don't forget to give us a 5-Star rating &amp; review on iTunes!  Thanks!</li></ul>

46: This ADHD Life with Keith Griffin, ADHD Coach

Disclaimer:   Part of today’s show includes our guest sharing a time of struggle, when she considered ending her life.  Obviously she didn’t, and we spend the majority of the episode on other topics, including some of the strategies she used to move past that stage, and being a mom with ADHD.  But I want to be mindful of my listeners, so I’m telling you in advance.  That said, I also recognize that shying away from such topics doesn’t help anyone. People consider suicide when their emotional pain overwhelms their coping resources, often when they are in the depths of depression. If you, or someone you know, is considering suicide: Please call the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255.   Text “HOME” to 741741 Or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org    This is episode 29.  Today, I’m talking to talking my friend, Kat. Kat is a single mother with ADHD, whose child is neurotypical.  She is among the strongest people I know. In this episode, Kat tells us about her journey with ADHD and depression.  Along the way, she’ll share why she initially found her ADHD diagnosis to be so devastating, her 3 Ts of Thought, tips on co-parenting, and, of course, her love for her son.   In Today’s Episode We Discuss: Kat’s Journey with ADHD &amp; Depression Kat’s Three Ts of Thought and how they have helped her Getting help for suicidal ideation The moralization of ADHD and how it impacts ADHDers Divorce How shame can affect friendships The wrong way to tell your kids they have ADHD Being a mom with ADHD of a neurotypical son The Cult of Being Busy 

Disclaimer: Part of today’s show includes our guest sharing a time of struggle, when she considered ending her life.  Obviously she didn’t, and we spend the majority of the episode on other topics, including some of the strategies she used to move past that stage, and being a mom with ADHD.  But I want to be mindful of my listeners, so I’m telling you in advance.  That said, I also recognize that shying away from such topics doesn’t help anyone. People consider suicide when their emotional pain overwhelms their coping resources, often when they are in the depths of depression. If you, or someone you know, is considering suicide: <ul><li>Please call the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255.  </li> <li>Text “HOME” to 741741</li> <li>Or visit <a href="https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">suicidepreventionlifeline.org</a></li> </ul>   This is episode 29. Today, I’m talking to talking my friend, Kat. Kat is a single mother with ADHD, whose child is neurotypical.  She is among the strongest people I know. In this episode, Kat tells us about her journey with ADHD and depression.  Along the way, she’ll share why she initially found her ADHD diagnosis to be so devastating, her 3 Ts of Thought, tips on co-parenting, and, of course, her love for her son.   In Today’s Episode We Discuss: <ul><li>Kat’s Journey with ADHD &amp; Depression</li> <li>Kat’s Three Ts of Thought and how they have helped her</li> <li>Getting help for suicidal ideation</li> <li>The moralization of ADHD and how it impacts ADHDers</li> <li>Divorce</li> <li>How shame can affect friendships</li> <li>The wrong way to tell your kids they have ADHD</li> <li>Being a mom with ADHD of a neurotypical son</li> <li>The Cult of Being Busy</li> </ul>

29:  The Toxicity of Comparing Ourselves to Others with Kat, mother with ADHD of a Neuro-Typical Son

Krista Gordon

Today, we’re talking to Krista Gordon.  Krista is mom of two kids with ADHD, and the founder of Tranquil Little One. Krista shares her story of getting her kids diagnosed with ADHD, learning how to help them manage their it though both mental and physical therapies, and how that led to her work with Tranquil Little One. In today’s episode, we discuss how the way our children feel physically can affect how they feel emotionally, why core strength matters, anxiety, yoga, and learning from our kids.   Online ADHD Parenting Summit: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up! Guest Links: Krista's Website: https://www.tranquillittleone.com     ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.   ADHD Essentials Links: Learn about &amp; Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community 

Today, we’re talking to Krista Gordon.  Krista is mom of two kids with ADHD, and the founder of <a href="https://www.tranquillittleone.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tranquil Little One</a>. Krista shares her story of getting her kids diagnosed with ADHD, learning how to help them manage their it though both mental and physical therapies, and how that led to her work with Tranquil Little One. In today’s episode, we discuss how the way our children feel physically can affect how they feel emotionally, why core strength matters, anxiety, yoga, and learning from our kids.   Online ADHD Parenting Summit: <a href="https://parentingadhdandautism.teachable.com/a/aff_g8kkh43y/external?affcode=41504_qks5vhpk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!</a> Guest Links: <ul><li>Krista's Website: <a href="https://www.tranquillittleone.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.tranquillittleone.com </a></li> </ul>   ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups: <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!</a>   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/essentials/the-wall-of-awful/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">"Wall of Awful"</a> model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How to ADHD</a> channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uo08uS904Rg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 1</a> and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlObsAeFNVk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 2</a>).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.   ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> </ul>

When Your Kid Becomes a Puddle:  Anxiety, Movement, and the Physical Side of ADHD, with Krista Gordon, Mom, and founder of Tranquil Little One

Jason Dulac

Today, we’re talking to Jason Dulac.  Jason is a mental health counselor, and expert in stress management, having taught about it at the college level.  He’s also an old friend.  We’ve worked together as both teachers, and as mental health clinicians. In today’s episode, we talk about the physical nature of stress, various levels of stress management ranging from short term Band-Aids to  more long-term approaches, and I even share a story about the time I was assaulted in Whole Foods.   ADHD Essentials Links: Learn about &amp; Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Jason Dulac.  Jason is a mental health counselor, and expert in stress management, having taught about it at the college level.  He’s also an old friend.  We’ve worked together as both teachers, and as mental health clinicians. In today’s episode, we talk about the physical nature of stress, various levels of stress management ranging from short term Band-Aids to  more long-term approaches, and I even share a story about the time I was assaulted in Whole Foods. ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

55:  Stress Management with Jason Dulac, M.Ed., M.S.

Beth Dinelli

Alex Fortuna

Today, we’re talking to Beth Dinelli and Alex Fortuna of the Commonwealth Learning Center.  The Commonwealth Learning Center supports kids with learning disabilities through specialized, one-to-one instruction.  Beth is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Danvers, MA, and Alex is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Needham, MA. LAST DAY TO REGISTER for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!   In today’s episode, we’re talking about the intersection of reading and ADHD.   Alex, Beth and I look at the various elements that going into reading, from very basic foundational elements, to more sophisticated ones.  We also discuss multiple reading disorders, dyslexia among them, and ways parents can help their kids read better, and more. Sign-Up for October's ADHD reWired Live Q&amp;A!! SPECIAL NOTE:  The audio on this one is a little static-y and click-y.  I apologize in advance.  We did what we could to clean it up, but some of it is still there.  BONUS SPECIAL NOTE:  In order to celebrate ADHD Awareness month, and to get to 100 episodes before the upcoming ADHD Conference November 7ththrough the 10th, I will be posting two bonus episodes during the month of October.  So keep your eye out for them.  Guest Links:Learn more about the work of the Commonwealth Learning Center.ADHD Essentials Links:Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Beth Dinelli and Alex Fortuna of the Commonwealth Learning Center.  The Commonwealth Learning Center supports kids with learning disabilities through specialized, one-to-one instruction.  Beth is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Danvers, MA, and Alex is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Needham, MA. <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LAST DAY TO REGISTER for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!</a> In today’s episode, we’re talking about the intersection of reading and ADHD.   Alex, Beth and I look at the various elements that going into reading, from very basic foundational elements, to more sophisticated ones.  We also discuss multiple reading disorders, dyslexia among them, and ways parents can help their kids read better, and more. <a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sign-Up for October's ADHD reWired Live Q&amp;A!!</a> SPECIAL NOTE:  The audio on this one is a little static-y and click-y.  I apologize in advance.  We did what we could to clean it up, but some of it is still there.  BONUS SPECIAL NOTE:  In order to celebrate ADHD Awareness month, and to get to 100 episodes before the upcoming ADHD Conference November 7ththrough the 10th, I will be posting two bonus episodes during the month of October.  So keep your eye out for them.  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about the work of the <a href="https://www.commlearn.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Commonwealth Learning Center.</a></li></ul>ADHD Essentials Links: <ul><li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li></ul>

Reading is a Complicated Process, with Beth Dinelli and Alex Fortuna, Reading Specialists

Chandler Creedon

Chandler Creedon is a veteran educator with over 40 years of experience, working as a school psychologist, counselor, and college professor. He’s also a former professor of mine, and one of my mentors.  It was an honor to have him on the show. Learn more about today's show at http://www.adhdessentials.com/whats-skill-set-thats-missing/ I'm going to be launching ADHD parent coaching groups soon. If you're interested, email me here: Brendan@ADHDessentials.com. And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com. 

Chandler Creedon is a veteran educator with over 40 years of experience, working as a school psychologist, counselor, and college professor. He’s also a former professor of mine, and one of my mentors.  It was an honor to have him on the show. Learn more about today's show at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com/whats-skill-set-thats-missing/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.adhdessentials.com/whats-skill-set-thats-missing/</a> I'm going to be launching ADHD parent coaching groups soon. If you're interested, email me here: <a href="mailto:Brendan@ADHDessentials.com">Brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a>. And, as usual, I can be found at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.ADHDessentials.com</a>.

18: "What's The Skill Set That's Missing?" with Chandler Creedon, School Psychologist 

Cara Fleming

Cara Fleming is a school psychologist at the high school level, as well as a transition consultant. What’s a transition consultant? I’m glad you asked. Transition consultants help kids successfully make the leap from high school to college and/or the workforce. Cara was great to interview. We laughed a fair amount, looked at things in new ways, and discovered some interesting things along the way. Cara talks transitions, testing, and shares why she isn’t a geneticist. Her knowledge and enthusiasm really shine through. I’m sure you’ll enjoy the show. Cara can help with questions around transition from high school, and also performs independent testing for families looking into Special Education diagnosis in the New England area. She can be contacted at CaraFlemingTransitions@gmail.com. As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com. Or email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com.   P.S. This was the first episode I recorded for the podcast. I’ve learned some things since then (mostly on the technical end - editing &amp; recording stuff), but I’m pretty happy with it.   SHOW NOTES: 2:27    The child HAS to be involved in the transition process 3:31     Kids need to have something they can succeed at 5:49     Disability Awareness 7:18     Disability documentation and the transition to college 8:08     Some colleges specialize in students with disabilities 10:13   Self-Advocacy and College 11:46   ADHD Supports in College 14:06   504 vs. IEP 16:42   Why Special Ed Teachers want to be useless 18:31   But, what if my kid isn’t going to college!?! 19:01   Licenses and 504s 19:56   How to ask for accommodations in the real world 22:28   Know your disability 23:15   “How can I do a better job for you?” 23:38   Sparkle! Sparkle! Sparkle!… Documentation 25:55   Empathy for testers and school staff 27:47   Credentials to look for in outside evaluators 29:05   The Historical Perspective 30:04   ADHD leaves a footprint in cognitive testing 31:55   Transition Plans for the Post-High School World 32:45   A Three-Legged Stool on a Really Nice Rug 32:59   The Academic Leg (which Cara turns into a prong) 33:12   Performance based tasks of attention 33:35   Cara changes the stool by adding a fourth leg/prong 34:32   Cara recaps the leg/prongs 34:48   The rug is for transition planning 35:35   ONET 38:14   You have to know what’s bad about the job you want 38:55   Cara talks about transitioning from a Geneticist to a poet (to a school psychologist) 40:37   What Cara loves about her job! (Besides the kids) 41:16   Why helping kids understand who they are matters 42:31   Self knowledge shifts the locus of control to the individual 43:43   Cara’s daughter turning 15 gave her a new empathy for parents 45:06   Ending Essentials

Cara Fleming is a school psychologist at the high school level, as well as a transition consultant. What’s a transition consultant? I’m glad you asked. Transition consultants help kids successfully make the leap from high school to college and/or the workforce. Cara was great to interview. We laughed a fair amount, looked at things in new ways, and discovered some interesting things along the way. Cara talks transitions, testing, and shares why she isn’t a geneticist. Her knowledge and enthusiasm really shine through. I’m sure you’ll enjoy the show. Cara can help with questions around transition from high school, and also performs independent testing for families looking into Special Education diagnosis in the New England area. She can be contacted at <a href="mailto:CaraFlemingTransitions@gmail.com">CaraFlemingTransitions@gmail.com</a>. As usual, I can be found at <a href="http://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHDessentials.com</a>. Or email me at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a>. P.S. This was the first episode I recorded for the podcast. I’ve learned some things since then (mostly on the technical end - editing &amp; recording stuff), but I’m pretty happy with it. SHOW NOTES: 2:27    The child HAS to be involved in the transition process 3:31     Kids need to have something they can succeed at 5:49     Disability Awareness 7:18     Disability documentation and the transition to college 8:08     Some colleges specialize in students with disabilities 10:13   Self-Advocacy and College 11:46   ADHD Supports in College 14:06   504 vs. IEP 16:42   Why Special Ed Teachers want to be useless 18:31   But, what if my kid isn’t going to college!?! 19:01   Licenses and 504s 19:56   How to ask for accommodations in the real world 22:28   Know your disability 23:15   “How can I do a better job for you?” 23:38   Sparkle! Sparkle! Sparkle!… Documentation 25:55   Empathy for testers and school staff 27:47   Credentials to look for in outside evaluators 29:05   The Historical Perspective 30:04   ADHD leaves a footprint in cognitive testing 31:55   Transition Plans for the Post-High School World 32:45   A Three-Legged Stool on a Really Nice Rug 32:59   The Academic Leg (which Cara turns into a prong) 33:12   Performance based tasks of attention 33:35   Cara changes the stool by adding a fourth leg/prong 34:32   Cara recaps the leg/prongs 34:48   The rug is for transition planning 35:35   <a href="https://www.onetonline.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ONET</a> 38:14   You have to know what’s bad about the job you want 38:55   Cara talks about transitioning from a Geneticist to a poet (to a school psychologist) 40:37   What Cara loves about her job! (Besides the kids) 41:16   Why helping kids understand who they are matters 42:31   Self knowledge shifts the locus of control to the individual 43:43   Cara’s daughter turning 15 gave her a new empathy for parents 45:06   Ending Essentials

Transitions, Testing, and and Helping Kids Understand Who They Are with Cara Fleming, School Psychologist

Carrie Herzberger

Today, we’re talking to Carrie Herzberger. Carrie is a coach who helps kids  and teens with ADHD and anxiety get unstuck, and develop the skills, mindsets and confidence they need to meet with success.  Her goal is to help kids achieve in school, but also stand out, in their own way, outside of school. In today’s episode, Carrie and I talk about helping our kids embrace little wins to build their confidence, how to try different rather than harder, and the importance of mindset shifts in the pursuit of success.  Guest Links:Learn more about Carrie and her work at https://carrieherzberger.com. ADHD Essentials Links:  Contact Brendan about booking a workshop for your organization Join Our Facebook Community Learn about &amp; Register for the The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups  Check out the ADHD Essentials Homepage Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com   ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs:ADHD reWired Hacking Your ADHD ADHD Essentials

Today, we’re talking to <a href="https://carrieherzberger.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Carrie Herzberger</a>. Carrie is a coach who helps kids  and teens with ADHD and anxiety get unstuck, and develop the skills, mindsets and confidence they need to meet with success.  Her goal is to help kids achieve in school, but also stand out, in their own way, outside of school. In today’s episode, Carrie and I talk about helping our kids embrace little wins to build their confidence, how to try different rather than harder, and the importance of mindset shifts in the pursuit of success.  Guest Links: <ul><li>Learn more about Carrie and her work at <a href="https://carrieherzberger.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://carrieherzberger.com</a>.</li></ul>  ADHD Essentials Links:   <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/contact-brendan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Contact Brendan</a> about booking a workshop for your organization</li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/276287049556745/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join Our Facebook Community</a></li> <li>Learn about &amp; Register for the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups</a> </li> <li>Check out the <a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials Homepage</a></li> <li>Contact Brendan at <a href="mailto:brendan@ADHDessentials.com">brendan@ADHDessentials.com</a></li> </ul>  ADHD Rewired Podcast Network Plugs: <ul><li><a href="https://www.adhdrewired.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD reWired</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.hackingyouradhd.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hacking Your ADHD</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.adhdessentials.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ADHD Essentials</a></li></ul>

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