Getting back on the horse feels extra hard when you've been burned so badly!You don't want to get your heart broken again.You don't want to move through the inevitable BS on the apps.You don't want to waste your time on a bunch of duds.You don't want to be duped again.You'd rather hang with your friends!But there's a reason you're intrigued by hearing from someone who's about to suggest how to get back on the horse after being burned so bad:You REALLY want to share your life with the RIGHT person...RIGHT?In today's episode, Claire offers 5 steps to help you get back on the horse after getting burned.Don't the some lame-os of your past stop you from creating what you really really want!Enjoy!Episode reference: Dating App Smackdown

Getting back on the horse feels extra hard when you've been burned so badly!You don't want to get your heart broken again.You don't want to move through the inevitable BS on the apps.You don't want to waste your time on a bunch of duds.You don't want to be duped again.You'd rather hang with your friends!But there's a reason you're intrigued by hearing from someone who's about to suggest how to get back on the horse after being burned so bad:You REALLY want to share your life with the RIGHT person...RIGHT?In today's episode, Claire offers 5 steps to help you get back on the horse after getting burned.Don't the some lame-os of your past stop you from creating what you really really want!Enjoy!Episode reference: <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/a-dating-app-smackdown" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dating App Smackdown</a>

How to get back on the horse after getting burned

Whether you’re reeling over a long or short-term relationship, it’s already hard enough that you’re heartbroken, but then the layer of shame for how long it’s taking to heal, is a bad cherry on top!  Claire always says there is NO SHAME over how long it takes to get over any relationship, no matter how short-lived it was. The pain usually isn’t really about the other person anyway.It’s more about you and what you’re thinking that’s making you FEEL a certain way.(At least that’s Claire’s very simplified version of heartbreak) Thoughts like:  I’ll never get over him. Even if he’s wrong for me, I don’t know if anyone else will do it for me like he did.What’s wrong with me that I still want him back??  In this week’s episode Claire shares about a coaching exchange she had with a wonderful woman, who was struggling with fully letting her ex go, as well as struggling with the judgement she had about how long it was taking her to heal.At the end of their coaching, her client said she felt so much relief, and it is Claire’s hope that if you are relating to this woman’s struggles, that you too will find relief with what she shares in this episode.

Whether you’re reeling over a long or short-term relationship, it’s already hard enough that you’re heartbroken, but then the layer of shame for how long it’s taking to heal, is a bad cherry on top!  Claire always says there is NO SHAME over how long it takes to get over any relationship, no matter how short-lived it was. The pain usually isn’t really about the other person anyway.It’s more about you and what you’re thinking that’s making you FEEL a certain way.(At least that’s Claire’s very simplified version of heartbreak) Thoughts like:  <ul><li>I’ll never get over him. </li><li>Even if he’s wrong for me, I don’t know if anyone else will do it for me like he did.</li><li>What’s wrong with me that I still want him back??  </li></ul>In this week’s episode Claire shares about a coaching exchange she had with a wonderful woman, who was struggling with fully letting her ex go, as well as struggling with the judgement she had about how long it was taking her to heal.At the end of their coaching, her client said she felt so much relief, and it is Claire’s hope that if you are relating to this woman’s struggles, that you too will find relief with what she shares in this episode.

The Shame Of Taking So Long To Heal

It’s super disappointing when you’re doing the work and you feel like the universe keeps rolling out one disappointing dude after the next. Naturally, you want to question the universe, (If you happen to believe in a higher power) and wonder what it’s all for…In today’s episode, Claire unpacks a new situationship her client, Jen, was moving through, that she was very excited about— only to then find herself extremely hurt and sad when the guy she was newly seeing became a major disappointment.  She understandably wanted to know WHY this was happening, as she has really leaned in for ALL the healing and growth lessons, in order to attract her ideal person. It became quite clear to Claire what Jen’s unique lesson was here… it might not be YOUR exact lesson for why your person isn’t here yet, or why you keep attracting one unavailable after the next, but Claire hopes this episode will help you stretch your mind to see where your area of healing and growth lies, when you find yourself in similar situations to Jen and so many people navigating their finding-love journey. Enjoy! Referenced episode: Endless Possibilities to Finding Love. 

It’s super disappointing when you’re doing the work and you feel like the universe keeps rolling out one disappointing dude after the next. Naturally, you want to question the universe, (If you happen to believe in a higher power) and wonder what it’s all for…In today’s episode, Claire unpacks a new situationship her client, Jen, was moving through, that she was very excited about— only to then find herself extremely hurt and sad when the guy she was newly seeing became a major disappointment.  She understandably wanted to know WHY this was happening, as she has really leaned in for ALL the healing and growth lessons, in order to attract her ideal person. It became quite clear to Claire what Jen’s unique lesson was here… it might not be YOUR exact lesson for why your person isn’t here yet, or why you keep attracting one unavailable after the next, but Claire hopes this episode will help you stretch your mind to see where your area of healing and growth lies, when you find yourself in similar situations to Jen and so many people navigating their finding-love journey. Enjoy! Referenced episode: <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/endless-possibilities-to-finding-love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Endless Possibilities to Finding Love</a>.

Why The Universe Keeps Sending The Wrong Guy

Claire was inspired to do this episode because she's been coaching a few clients on not wanting to leave, and who justify staying while in the initial stages of a relationship with men who are demonstrating signs of unavailability.She is simultaneously coaching other women who are KICKING themselves for not leaving sooner but stayed for years because they painted green over red flags.In today's episode, Claire touches on when it's time to get out in the beginning stages of a relationship AND in the later stages of a relationship... Please keep in mind that she cannot cover EVERY single situation when it comes to relationships. There is always an exception to the general rules and guidelines Claire offers based on her personal experience, studies, as well as what she has observed and learned over the last 7 years of coaching on heartbreak, dating and relationships. If you are interested in her coaching you and assessing your individual situation, you can check out her group program HERE or apply to work with her 1:1 HERE.  

Claire was inspired to do this episode because she's been coaching a few clients on not wanting to leave, and who justify staying while in the initial stages of a relationship with men who are demonstrating signs of unavailability.She is simultaneously coaching other women who are KICKING themselves for not leaving sooner but stayed for years because they painted green over red flags.In today's episode, Claire touches on when it's time to get out in the beginning stages of a relationship AND in the later stages of a relationship... Please keep in mind that she cannot cover EVERY single situation when it comes to relationships. There is always an exception to the general rules and guidelines Claire offers based on her personal experience, studies, as well as what she has observed and learned over the last 7 years of coaching on heartbreak, dating and relationships. If you are interested in her coaching you and assessing your individual situation, you can check out her group program <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thegroupprogram" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE </a>or apply to work with her 1:1 <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/1-1-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE.</a>

How To Know When It's Time To Leave

Claire tries to avoid cliché phrases like “endless possibilities” and “stay present!” but these sayings are overused for a reason!In today’s episode, she invites you to go back to the basics of shifting into expansive beliefs when it comes to finding your person, vs reacting off of what is or isn’t happening in your love-life, and therefore making it mean that it will never work out.Claire uses two of her clients as examples who have a more unique circumstance than most of her clients… One client lost the love of her life because he passed away, making it extra difficult to imagine her new person, without comparing to her soulmate.The other client is in her late 60’s and wrestles with what she believes are extra limited options due to her age, as well as feeling a next level of pressure and being rushed because she has less time left, compared to her peers in Claire’s group program.Claire picked these two clients and their unique circumstances for this episode, because of how easy it would be to naturally fall into the trap of believing that it’s much harder for them, compared to most of her clients who come to her heartbroken over an ex who left the building and/or are single and searching in their late 20s- early 50s.But don’t get her wrong!  She DOES understand where these two women are coming from… However, if THEY can shift into a mindset of endless possibilities, Claire hopes this will inspire YOU to do the same with whatever you believe are limitations holding YOU back from finding your person. 

Claire tries to avoid cliché phrases like “endless possibilities” and “stay present!” but these sayings are overused for a reason!In today’s episode, she invites you to go back to the basics of shifting into expansive beliefs when it comes to finding your person, vs reacting off of what is or isn’t happening in your love-life, and therefore making it mean that it will never work out.Claire uses two of her clients as examples who have a more unique circumstance than most of her clients… One client lost the love of her life because he passed away, making it extra difficult to imagine her new person, without comparing to her soulmate.The other client is in her late 60’s and wrestles with what she believes are extra limited options due to her age, as well as feeling a next level of pressure and being rushed because she has less time left, compared to her peers in Claire’s group program.Claire picked these two clients and their unique circumstances for this episode, because of how easy it would be to naturally fall into the trap of believing that it’s much harder for them, compared to most of her clients who come to her heartbroken over an ex who left the building and/or are single and searching in their late 20s- early 50s.But don’t get her wrong!  She DOES understand where these two women are coming from… However, if THEY can shift into a mindset of endless possibilities, Claire hopes this will inspire YOU to do the same with whatever you believe are limitations holding YOU back from finding your person.

Endless Possibilities To Finding Love

Today, Claire brings on a very special guest, Caroline, who's based in Sweden and worked with Claire for a year and a half.  Caroline shares the ins and outs of her journey towards finding love, both as Claire's client and a continued independent student of the work. You're in for a real treat with some of the nuggets of wisdom Caroline brings to the table as she reflects back on her journey towards finding herself AND her dream partner. Enjoy! 

Today, Claire brings on a very special guest, Caroline, who's based in Sweden and worked with Claire for a year and a half.  Caroline shares the ins and outs of her journey towards finding love, both as Claire's client and a continued independent student of the work. You're in for a real treat with some of the nuggets of wisdom Caroline brings to the table as she reflects back on her journey towards finding herself AND her dream partner. Enjoy!

The Only Way To Find Love

Today's episode is inspired by Claire's client, Sarah, (name changed to protect her privacy) who fears her "clinginess" to the result of finding her person is messing up her process. You might be just as surprised and relieved to hear what Claire had to offer Sarah, who has been working SUPER HARD to find her person... as Sarah was! It's normal to be a little clingy and attached to really wanting something that matters to you, and in this episode Claire offers how you can approach this when it comes up for you. 

Today's episode is inspired by Claire's client, Sarah, (name changed to protect her privacy) who fears her "clinginess" to the result of finding her person is messing up her process. You might be just as surprised and relieved to hear what Claire had to offer Sarah, who has been working SUPER HARD to find her person... as Sarah was! It's normal to be a little clingy and attached to really wanting something that matters to you, and in this episode Claire offers how you can approach this when it comes up for you.

Too Attached to Finding Him

If you think you're a total catch, Claire is THRILLED. She tends to attract clients in two camps: those who feel insecure and unworthy, OR they think they're total catches.This episode is for the catches who are genuinely confused about why they're still single, and find themselves comparing and despairing a lot with thoughts like, "Why does SHE have someone and I don't??"As always, this is a safe space to look at our uncomfortable thoughts that may bring up shame and/or embarrassment, but let's not forget that we're all human first, and students of this work second!

If you think you're a total catch, Claire is THRILLED. She tends to attract clients in two camps: those who feel insecure and unworthy, OR they think they're total catches.This episode is for the catches who are genuinely confused about why they're still single, and find themselves comparing and despairing a lot with thoughts like, "Why does SHE have someone and I don't??"As always, this is a safe space to look at our uncomfortable thoughts that may bring up shame and/or embarrassment, but let's not forget that we're all human first, and students of this work second!

Confused Because You're A Catch

It's so hard to NOT take things personally when someone you care about leaves the building... Even if you only went on a couple of dates. But in today's episode Claire breaks down how you can look at NOT making it so personal.Also, between now and this Sunday 6/25/23, the "I'M ENGAGED!" mini-offer is available to you which includes Claire's course and a BONUS 1:1 session with Claire.CLICK HERE to sign up:https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer

It's so hard to NOT take things personally when someone you care about leaves the building... Even if you only went on a couple of dates. But in today's episode Claire breaks down how you can look at NOT making it so personal.Also, between now and this Sunday 6/25/23, the "I'M ENGAGED!" mini-offer is available to you which includes Claire's course and a BONUS 1:1 session with Claire.CLICK HERE to sign up: <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer</a>

How It Is and Isn't Personal

We're HERE! It happened. Claire gives the play by play of the best day of her life, along with a couple of cringey moments!Also check out her latest mini offer that expires June 25, 2023:https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer

We're HERE! It happened. Claire gives the play by play of the best day of her life, along with a couple of cringey moments!Also check out her latest mini offer that expires June 25, 2023: <a href="https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer</a>

That Time I Got Engaged

Heartbreak coach, Claire Byrne, breaks down exactly how you can finally STOP wanting your ex back on this podcast that is unlike any other heartbreak podcast out there! Heartbreak is messy, painful and overwhelmingly daunting at times, but it can also be the gateway to embark on a new journey beyond your wildest dreams if you LET it.  You will laugh, you will cry, and have your own mind BLOWN, by how POSSIBLE it will be for you to THRIVE from heartbreak, versus barely survive.   After years of enduring toxic relationships, and being at a loss on how to navigate through the pain, Claire is now dedicated to helping other women like her, not only STOP wanting him back, but become the best version of themselves, BECAUSE of the heartbreak. PLEASE NOTE:  Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak.  ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

I found Claire’s work and podcast via social media and recently binged the entire thing. While not going they heartbreak right now, her podcast is a fresh, honest, logical and intelligent take on processing heartbreak and  ALL that comes with it. She teaches you how to give yourself an inner makeover. Keep up the work, I esp love how you tackle a low star reviewer who completely misses a lot of your work with even more lessons for us! Love it!

Amazing & heartwarming podcast

Claire is incredible and is an expert at her craft. Her advice is unlike anything I’ve ever heard before - I’ve been struggling with a broken heart and this podcast is the only thing getting me through it. I am learning so much about healing my heart, loving myself, and attracting the right man for my life. Stop what you are doing and GO LISTEN!!! ❤️

So inspiring!

Heartbreak coach, Claire Byrne, breaks down exactly how you can finally STOP wanting your ex back on this podcast that is unlike any other heartbreak podcast out there! Heartbreak is messy, painful and overwhelmingly daunting at times, but it can also be the gateway to embark on a new journey beyond your wildest dreams if you LET it. You will laugh, you will cry, and have your own mind BLOWN, by how POSSIBLE it will be for you to THRIVE from heartbreak, versus barely survive. After years of enduring toxic relationships, and being at a loss on how to navigate through the pain, Claire is now dedicated to helping other women like her, not only STOP wanting him back, but become the best version of themselves, BECAUSE of the heartbreak. PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

I recently did a session with a new client and she said that all she wants is to stop thinking about him. In our session, the overriding thought, and I hear this from many of my clients, is that they are frustrated or sad because that person is in their mind 24/7. In this episode, I share with you why this kind of thinking isn’t serving you, and the questions you can ask yourself in order to end the unnecessary pain of breaking your own heart. Topics in this episodeThe circumstance is always neutral Trying to force the pain awayThe more you resist, the more it will persist.One of the first steps to heal a broken heart is to allow for self-compassionWhat are the feelings you want to feel? Be realistic.What can you think in order to tap into those feelings? Why meditation is so important on this journeyResourcesMy rock bottom heartbreak: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-storyBrooke Castillo’s podcast, The Lifecoach School: https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/InSight Timer App: https://insighttimer.com/

I recently did a session with a new client and she said that all she wants is to stop thinking about him. In our session, the overriding thought, and I hear this from many of my clients, is that they are frustrated or sad because that person is in their mind 24/7. In this episode, I share with you why this kind of thinking isn’t serving you, and the questions you can ask yourself in order to end the unnecessary pain of breaking your own heart. <h2>Topics in this episode</h2>The circumstance is always neutral Trying to force the pain awayThe more you resist, the more it will persist.One of the first steps to heal a broken heart is to allow for self-compassionWhat are the feelings you want to feel? Be realistic.What can you think in order to tap into those feelings? Why meditation is so important on this journey<h2>Resources</h2>My rock bottom heartbreak: <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story</a>Brooke Castillo’s podcast, The Lifecoach School: <a href="https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/</a>InSight Timer App: <a href="https://insighttimer.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://insighttimer.com/</a>

I Want To Stop Thinking About Him

Ashley Graber

Is it my gut? Or is it my projection? This is the topic I discuss with Ashley Graber, who I am honored to have back as a guest in this episode. Ashley is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and speaker. To hear our earlier conversation go to https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/23/claire-interviews-her-past-therapist-ashley-graber. In this episode, we dive deep and talk about what projection is, how to recognize it, and how to train your intuition. Ashley also shares how important it is to slow down so that you can do more, and how that plays a role in hearing your intuition.Topics in this episode:How people earn our trust“Not having time” is a thought construct The glitter jarThe upside of projectionThe factors that mold our reality Why self love is so important to connecting with your intuition. To hear the episode where I discuss self-love at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/26/whats-self-love-really-aboutName it to tame it. Feel it to heal it. Contact Info:Website http://www.ashleygrabertherapy.com/

Is it my gut? Or is it my projection? This is the topic I discuss with Ashley Graber, who I am honored to have back as a guest in this episode. Ashley is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and speaker. To hear our earlier conversation go to <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/23/claire-interviews-her-past-therapist-ashley-graber" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/23/claire-interviews-her-past-therapist-ashley-graber</a>. In this episode, we dive deep and talk about what projection is, how to recognize it, and how to train your intuition. Ashley also shares how important it is to slow down so that you can do more, and how that plays a role in hearing your intuition.Topics in this episode:<ul><li>How people earn our trust</li><li>“Not having time” is a thought construct </li><li>The glitter jar</li><li>The upside of projection</li><li>The factors that mold our reality </li><li>Why self love is so important to connecting with your intuition. To hear the episode where I discuss self-love at <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/26/whats-self-love-really-about" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/26/whats-self-love-really-about</a></li><li>Name it to tame it. Feel it to heal it. </li></ul>Contact Info:Website <a href="http://www.ashleygrabertherapy.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.ashleygrabertherapy.com/</a>

Is It My Gut or My Projection with Ashley Graber

SHOW NOTES  Episode 3 Why Is It Taking Me SO Long To Get Over Him? The shame you’re feeling from others about how long it’s taking you to get over him is really the shame you feel for yourself. Claire says the first thing you need to do, is OWN how long it’s taking you to heal. There’s no pressure or rush to heal! Instead of looking for ways to STOP her pain, Claire didn’t know she was actually in need of someone to help guide her THROUGH it. Attempting to stop the pain only PROLONGS it. Claire fully owns that it took her TWO-THREE years to get over Find a TRUSTED AND RELIABLE PROFESSIONAL to create a safe and compassionate space for you to fall apart, BEFORE you can transform your victim story into a HEROINE STORY… (the best part!) Don’t give up until you find the right professional to work with!   He or she is out there and if you’re interested in working with Claire, go to www.clairebyrnecoaching.com/connect Learning to be ok with NOT being ok and owning how long it takes to heal is huge! This doesn’t mean Claire is encouraging you to take 2-3 years to heal!   She didn’t have the tools at the time and knows it would be a quicker process if she knew what she knows now. But still, there isn’t a formulaic timeline on how long it “should” take to heal Even though unhealthy, toxic relationships are tough to move through, so are “healthy” break-ups! You mourn what you hoped was possible between the two of you, and just the fact that he was a good person and perhaps fear how hard it will be to find that connection again… Even WITH the tools, Claire opens up how one break-up took her almost a year to get over after only being with someone for four months. WHY DOES THAT HAVE TO BE A BAD THING? Who is ANYONE to judge. She applied the tools—leaned into the pain, went to a therapist, and a coach and used that heartbreak as inspiration to launch her coaching business as a HEARTBREAK COACH.  She didn’t shy away, and she allowed herself to miss this person until she didn’t…all the while doing thoughtwork daily, meditating, and living her life to the fullest. Be selective over who you talk about your heartbreak with!! Don’t indulge your victim story with someone who wants to relate and indulge with you! Cultivate your OWN approval of your pain. You will waver back and forth between wanting to heal and move forward, and then fall apart.  TOTALLY NORMAL.  HEARTBREAK is NOT a linear process. Before taking on a client, Claire wants to make sure you’re READY to move forward… if you’re going to keep checking his social media, or beating yourself up for still wanting him back, or continue to be in his business about what HE thinks of you, vs cultivating so much love and focusing on what YOU think of you… If you do all of the above, OF COURSE it’s going to take longer for you to get over him!!! Lots of ways to LOVE on yourself •	fall apart •	take a hot bath •	journal/thoughtwork •	lean into the pain •	reiki •	meditation •	yoga •	connect with TRUSTED sister-friends •	solo movie date. Speak with LOVE to that inner critic! Unhealed wounds will manifest in disease or play out in future relationships.  Heal it HEAD ON! Don’t believe you’re back to square 1 when you feel like it hurts so much after feeling like you were finally turning a corner of healing and moving on! This is TOTALLY normal!   NO MORE JUDGMENTS ON HOW LONG IT TAKES OR HOW DEEP THE PAIN. This too shall pass, and KNOW that you’re gonna be a better woman FOR all this work you’re doing on yourself!

SHOW NOTES Episode 3 Why Is It Taking Me SO Long To Get Over Him? The shame you’re feeling from others about how long it’s taking you to get over him is really the shame you feel for yourself. Claire says the first thing you need to do, is OWN how long it’s taking you to heal. There’s no pressure or rush to heal! Instead of looking for ways to STOP her pain, Claire didn’t know she was actually in need of someone to help guide her THROUGH it. Attempting to stop the pain only PROLONGS it. Claire fully owns that it took her TWO-THREE years to get over Find a TRUSTED AND RELIABLE PROFESSIONAL to create a safe and compassionate space for you to fall apart, BEFORE you can transform your victim story into a HEROINE STORY… (the best part!) Don’t give up until you find the right professional to work with! He or she is out there and if you’re interested in working with Claire, go to <a href="http://www.clairebyrnecoaching.com/connect" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.clairebyrnecoaching.com/connect</a> Learning to be ok with NOT being ok and owning how long it takes to heal is huge! This doesn’t mean Claire is encouraging you to take 2-3 years to heal! She didn’t have the tools at the time and knows it would be a quicker process if she knew what she knows now. But still, there isn’t a formulaic timeline on how long it “should” take to heal Even though unhealthy, toxic relationships are tough to move through, so are “healthy” break-ups! You mourn what you hoped was possible between the two of you, and just the fact that he was a good person and perhaps fear how hard it will be to find that connection again… Even WITH the tools, Claire opens up how one break-up took her almost a year to get over after only being with someone for four months. WHY DOES THAT HAVE TO BE A BAD THING? Who is ANYONE to judge. She applied the tools—leaned into the pain, went to a therapist, and a coach and used that heartbreak as inspiration to launch her coaching business as a HEARTBREAK COACH. She didn’t shy away, and she allowed herself to miss this person until she didn’t…all the while doing thoughtwork daily, meditating, and living her life to the fullest. Be selective over who you talk about your heartbreak with!! Don’t indulge your victim story with someone who wants to relate and indulge with you! Cultivate your OWN approval of your pain. You will waver back and forth between wanting to heal and move forward, and then fall apart. TOTALLY NORMAL. HEARTBREAK is NOT a linear process. Before taking on a client, Claire wants to make sure you’re READY to move forward… if you’re going to keep checking his social media, or beating yourself up for still wanting him back, or continue to be in his business about what HE thinks of you, vs cultivating so much love and focusing on what YOU think of you… If you do all of the above, OF COURSE it’s going to take longer for you to get over him!!! Lots of ways to LOVE on yourself •	fall apart •	take a hot bath •	journal/thoughtwork •	lean into the pain •	reiki •	meditation •	yoga •	connect with TRUSTED sister-friends •	solo movie date. Speak with LOVE to that inner critic! Unhealed wounds will manifest in disease or play out in future relationships. Heal it HEAD ON! Don’t believe you’re back to square 1 when you feel like it hurts so much after feeling like you were finally turning a corner of healing and moving on! This is TOTALLY normal! NO MORE JUDGMENTS ON HOW LONG IT TAKES OR HOW DEEP THE PAIN. This too shall pass, and KNOW that you’re gonna be a better woman FOR all this work you’re doing on yourself!

Why Is It Taking Me SO Long To Get Over Him?

This is Claire's FIRST completely unscripted episode, where she shares her raw, honest, and most vulnerable story about her rockbottom heartbreak. She laughs, she cries, and she intends to bring a comforting reminder to all of you who feel hopeless, at a loss, devastated, and stuck, that not only are you NOT alone, but you can 100% transform your life BECAUSE of this experience. Life isn't happening to you.  It's happening FOR you.

This is Claire's FIRST completely unscripted episode, where she shares her raw, honest, and most vulnerable story about her rockbottom heartbreak. She laughs, she cries, and she intends to bring a comforting reminder to all of you who feel hopeless, at a loss, devastated, and stuck, that not only are you NOT alone, but you can 100% transform your life BECAUSE of this experience. Life isn't happening to you. It's happening FOR you.

My Heartbreak Story

Claire gives a whole lotta TOUGH love in response to a question from a listener/reader that SO many women want to know the answer to-- including her bestie, Jamie Mckeowen, who she brings back again! REFERENCES from the episode. Remember her from the Bumble Shmumble episode? Jamie Mckeowen's Health Coaching site  Claire's Nutrition Coach Jenny the Nutritionist Claire references yet again, her Heartbreak Story Claire's interview with her longest-standing client Rachel Coll.  

Claire gives a whole lotta TOUGH love in response to a question from a listener/reader that SO many women want to know the answer to-- including her bestie, Jamie Mckeowen, who she brings back again! REFERENCES from the episode. Remember her from the <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/6/24/bumble-shmumble" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Bumble Shmumble</a> episode? Jamie Mckeowen's <a href="http://www.wholelifejems.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Health Coaching site </a> Claire's Nutrition Coach <a href="http://jennythenutritionist.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jenny the Nutritionist</a> Claire references yet again, her <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Heartbreak Story</a> Claire's interview with her longest-standing client <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/7/22/claire-interviews-her-longest-standing-client-rachel-coll" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rachel Coll. </a>

Why is it So Hard to Find Him?

Focusing on wanting a relationship to work in the future while it’s currently struggling, will F you up! Ask yourself : Why do I want to make this relationship work RIGHT NOW? And there has to be a better reason than love. Then if you are clear and do know you want to make it work for GOOD reasons, not desperate ones— get clear on what it is he/she wants and WHY. Then move through the challenges CONSCIOUSLY together, if you both are willing to move through the challenges together. Then what you DON’T do is RUSH into the next step of worrying about the relationship. You just BE in the relationship! Trust that the time to discuss the future will come from a place of security and love, and not desperation and fear.

Focusing on wanting a relationship to work in the future while it’s currently struggling, will F you up! Ask yourself : Why do I want to make this relationship work RIGHT NOW? And there has to be a better reason than love. Then if you are clear and do know you want to make it work for GOOD reasons, not desperate ones— get clear on what it is he/she wants and WHY. Then move through the challenges CONSCIOUSLY together, if you both are willing to move through the challenges together. Then what you DON’T do is RUSH into the next step of worrying about the relationship. You just BE in the relationship! Trust that the time to discuss the future will come from a place of security and love, and not desperation and fear.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Who can relate to feeling SO good about yourself because you’re DOING THE WORK and then you attract an amazing man and it’s all lining up in the magical way you dreamed, and then… He bounces. On the one hand, you wonder what the hell is the point of doing all this work? And then on the other hand… you think NO!  It’s HIM!  I’m AMAZING! HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU THINK THAT LATTER THOUGHT? Crappy.  Righteous?? Action:  Resist the reality of him leaving Result:  questioning your own greatness and wanting him back Brooke Castillo reference: If someone says you have blue hair, you wouldn’t bother to need him to see that you don’t.  You KNOW that you don’t. If you need someone to see your greatness, there’s a part of you that isn’t fully owning it. First step: Feel the disappointment. Investigate areas in your life where you don’t feel great—your job?  Your body?  Your home? We can’t control the circumstance of him leaving… We can only look at the thoughts we think about OURSELVES under the circumstances. This is an opportunity for you to do more work on you… NOT to get the right guy but to keep cleaning up where you’re not fully owning yourself. Do the work on your greatness for YOU, no matter what. Look for evidence as to why HE wasn’t great… Claire shares a few of her own personal experiences with men who ended it with her, who she quickly realized weren’t her guys. She clocked a few red flags along the way but stayed open when there was enough good… HOWEVER these noted red flags made it easy to remember that he WASN’T that great. No regrets!   There will always be things we don’t love about our partners so it’s important to stay open as long as there aren’t MAJOR dealbreakers, based on what you’re seeking in a partner. OWN YOUR GREATNESS Who cares if you do all this work and you still haven’t found him?? That’s not the point! Stepping into vulnerability and your authentic self isn’t meant to be for someone else! It’s never about what he thinks.  It’s always about what YOU think of you.

Who can relate to feeling SO good about yourself because you’re DOING THE WORK and then you attract an amazing man and it’s all lining up in the magical way you dreamed, and then… He bounces. On the one hand, you wonder what the hell is the point of doing all this work? And then on the other hand… you think NO! It’s HIM! I’m AMAZING! HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU THINK THAT LATTER THOUGHT? Crappy. Righteous?? Action: Resist the reality of him leaving Result: questioning your own greatness and wanting him back Brooke Castillo reference: If someone says you have blue hair, you wouldn’t bother to need him to see that you don’t. You KNOW that you don’t. If you need someone to see your greatness, there’s a part of you that isn’t fully owning it. First step: Feel the disappointment. Investigate areas in your life where you don’t feel great—your job? Your body? Your home? We can’t control the circumstance of him leaving… We can only look at the thoughts we think about OURSELVES under the circumstances. This is an opportunity for you to do more work on you… NOT to get the right guy but to keep cleaning up where you’re not fully owning yourself. Do the work on your greatness for YOU, no matter what. Look for evidence as to why HE wasn’t great… Claire shares a few of her own personal experiences with men who ended it with her, who she quickly realized weren’t her guys. She clocked a few red flags along the way but stayed open when there was enough good… HOWEVER these noted red flags made it easy to remember that he WASN’T that great. No regrets! There will always be things we don’t love about our partners so it’s important to stay open as long as there aren’t MAJOR dealbreakers, based on what you’re seeking in a partner. OWN YOUR GREATNESS Who cares if you do all this work and you still haven’t found him?? That’s not the point! Stepping into vulnerability and your authentic self isn’t meant to be for someone else! It’s never about what he thinks. It’s always about what YOU think of you.

I Think I’m Great But Why Doesn’t He?

A lot of us feel lonely, bored, out of focus, or spaced out with the ongoing isolation to the real world because of the pandemic, and if you just consider the positive side that this caused us, you would realize that this is the best time to heal, grow, and set your perspectives, especially if you're in the midst of a broken heart. I am happy to be with bestie Jamie today, as we discuss and answer some of the questions which are bothering you, and help you see the silver lining of Covid-19. Jamie is an incredible health and wellness coach, specializing in all things natural and organic. To hear a previous episode with Jamie, What to Eat on a Broken Heart, check it out here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heartThe seclusion triggers non-stop thinking about your ex, and you end up longing for that person who just vanished out of your life without explanation. Contemplating calling him because let's face it, you're lonely and deprived of the human touch, and thinking about the what-ifs or the has-beens, but wait! Why would you want to get back to that one person who completely fell off the face of the earth? Or, if he's reaching out, start asking yourself the real reason why he is going back to you. Is it because he's lonely, too? Lost? Does he feel the need for compassion because he lost a loved one? Get a grip and stay away from him. It will never be a walk in the park experience, but you'll be okay, and if it will be a struggle for you, I'm here to love and believe in you.  Don't use this pandemic as an excuse for you to go back to an old habit, instead, befriend loneliness by managing your mind. Love yourself unconditionally while toughening yourself, especially in your trigger points. And, if you are in a relationship, and keep having this perpetual fear, it's either break up with him or remind and toughen yourself that it's your choice to be in that relationship where you have to give your trust. You have to believe that he's not the same as your ass of an ex-boyfriend. Remember, thoughts create your results.Topics in this episodeDon’t use the pandemic as an excuse to bring old habits back, much more your ex! Focus on your future version of you in your most ideal relationship How to stay in no contact especially during Coronavirus pandemic Tips on realizing why it’s no use to bring back an old flame who fell off the face of the earth Do you want to sit around and think about the person who left you or move on and be a complete person who loves yourself more? How to toughen while loving yourself unconditionally Befriending loneliness especially in this trying times How to practice mind management ResourcesAll I want is for him to come back: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/3/4/all-i-want-is-for-him-to-come-backBefriending loneliness: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/1/13/befriending-lonelinessWhat to eat on a broken heart?: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heartJamie McKeown: http://www.wholelifejems.com/Stacey Boehman: https://staceyboehman.com/Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/Byron Katie: https://thework.com/Patti Stanger: https://www.millionairesclub123.com/

A lot of us feel lonely, bored, out of focus, or spaced out with the ongoing isolation to the real world because of the pandemic, and if you just consider the positive side that this caused us, you would realize that this is the best time to heal, grow, and set your perspectives, especially if you're in the midst of a broken heart. I am happy to be with bestie Jamie today, as we discuss and answer some of the questions which are bothering you, and help you see the silver lining of Covid-19. Jamie is an incredible health and wellness coach, specializing in all things natural and organic. To hear a previous episode with Jamie, What to Eat on a Broken Heart, check it out here: <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heart" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heart</a>The seclusion triggers non-stop thinking about your ex, and you end up longing for that person who just vanished out of your life without explanation. Contemplating calling him because let's face it, you're lonely and deprived of the human touch, and thinking about the what-ifs or the has-beens, but wait! Why would you want to get back to that one person who completely fell off the face of the earth? Or, if he's reaching out, start asking yourself the real reason why he is going back to you. Is it because he's lonely, too? Lost? Does he feel the need for compassion because he lost a loved one? Get a grip and stay away from him. It will never be a walk in the park experience, but you'll be okay, and if it will be a struggle for you, I'm here to love and believe in you.  Don't use this pandemic as an excuse for you to go back to an old habit, instead, befriend loneliness by managing your mind. Love yourself unconditionally while toughening yourself, especially in your trigger points. And, if you are in a relationship, and keep having this perpetual fear, it's either break up with him or remind and toughen yourself that it's your choice to be in that relationship where you have to give your trust. You have to believe that he's not the same as your ass of an ex-boyfriend. Remember, thoughts create your results.<h2>Topics in this episode</h2>Don’t use the pandemic as an excuse to bring old habits back, much more your ex! Focus on your future version of you in your most ideal relationship How to stay in no contact especially during Coronavirus pandemic Tips on realizing why it’s no use to bring back an old flame who fell off the face of the earth Do you want to sit around and think about the person who left you or move on and be a complete person who loves yourself more? How to toughen while loving yourself unconditionally Befriending loneliness especially in this trying times How to practice mind management <h2>Resources</h2>All I want is for him to come back: <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/3/4/all-i-want-is-for-him-to-come-back" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/3/4/all-i-want-is-for-him-to-come-back</a>Befriending loneliness: <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/1/13/befriending-loneliness" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/1/13/befriending-loneliness</a>What to eat on a broken heart?: <a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heart" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/8/12/what-to-eat-on-a-broken-heart</a>Jamie McKeown: <a href="http://www.wholelifejems.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.wholelifejems.com/</a>Stacey Boehman: <a href="https://staceyboehman.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://staceyboehman.com/</a>Brooke Castillo: <a href="https://thelifecoachschool.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://thelifecoachschool.com/</a>Byron Katie: <a href="https://thework.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://thework.com/</a>Patti Stanger: <a href="https://www.millionairesclub123.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.millionairesclub123.com/</a>

Heartbreak Q's During The Covid Pandemic Part 1

Claire was inspired to do this episode in response to hearing from several listeners and clients who desire to dig deeper on AUTHENTICALLY loving themselves. She hits home YET AGAIN on doing THOUGHT WORK to create REAL LOVE for yourself.  She offers suggestions on better-feeling thoughts you can COMMIT to in order to yield the result of true unabashed love for yourself. Don't knock it til you've tried it!! Links to references: Claire's Heartbreak Story Episode 5 What Is Kundalini Yoga? Brooke Castillo-- The Life Coach School

Claire was inspired to do this episode in response to hearing from several listeners and clients who desire to dig deeper on AUTHENTICALLY loving themselves. She hits home YET AGAIN on doing THOUGHT WORK to create REAL LOVE for yourself. She offers suggestions on better-feeling thoughts you can COMMIT to in order to yield the result of true unabashed love for yourself. Don't knock it til you've tried it!! Links to references: C<a href="https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">laire's Heartbreak Story Episode 5</a> <a href="https://www.yogajournal.com/yoga-101/types-of-yoga/kundalini" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">What Is Kundalini Yoga?</a> <a href="https://thelifecoachschool.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brooke Castillo-- The Life Coach School</a>

What's Self-Love Really About?

Claire reminds us yet again of her favorite Byron Katie quote: When you argue with reality, you suffer! She shares a couple of personal choices she’s made that caused more pain in the moment but that she ultimately has no regrets about, and shares why you shouldn’t either! Also, if you are in the LA area and feel that therapy would be a better healing route for you, Claire highly recommends her amazing mindfulness-based psychotherapist, Ashley Graber. Www.ashleygrabertherapy.com

Claire reminds us yet again of her favorite Byron Katie quote: When you argue with reality, you suffer! She shares a couple of personal choices she’s made that caused more pain in the moment but that she ultimately has no regrets about, and shares why you shouldn’t either! Also, if you are in the LA area and feel that therapy would be a better healing route for you, Claire highly recommends her amazing mindfulness-based psychotherapist, Ashley Graber. <a href="http://Www.ashleygrabertherapy.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Www.ashleygrabertherapy.com</a>

Shoulda Woulda Coulda

Why do we do this? Cultural pressure. THINKING it’s what we want even if we’re not ready. What makes us recklessly infatuated? Physical chemistry. Run from an immediate panty-dropper! There’s usually a painful soul lesson!! Or what the hell?  Show up, feel the pain, and LEARN FROM IT! Claire references her last reckless infatuation 5 years ago. NOT HIS FAULT. It was HER idea of what she wanted out of the relationship and was BLINDED by the physical chemistry off the bat. GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR WITH ANYONE YOU’RE DATING. It doesn’t matter how old you are! Obviously, don't be aggressive about your relationship goals and future right off the bat, but be direct and own what you’re looking for without apology.  Ask the right questions!    LISTEN to him.  Pay attention to his actions. Manifesting a partner is DIFFERENT.  That’s YOUR business in YOUR brain. Totally have fun visualizing and tapping into how you would think, feel, and behave with your ideal partner, and think about the woman you need to become to attract this high quality man, (not change to win him over, but grow to attract each other at both of your highest vibrational states!) The WORK WORKS. Claire then references a more recent dating situation last year… She started to really like him, he liked her.  Great chemistry, sense of humor, a lot in common until he said, I want to keep doing what we’re doing but I don’t want to date you. Disappointing? Yes. But clear as day that walking away was the RIGHT CHOICE.  She wasn’t attached to some fantasy about a future.  Was Claire hurt?  Yes.  But there was no false fantasy she was mourning in the end. If she was RECKLESSLY INFATUATED she would have continued on his terms bc it felt like dating anyway! SO HOW DO YOU SHOW UP IN YOUR DATING LIFE WITHOUT GETTING CARRIED AWAY? TAKE YOUR TIME GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE! Is he really SEEING YOU? Does he want the same things as you? Are his words lining up with his actions? Are you letting drinking hinder your perception of the connection you have? Making greater meaning out of an exchange of words because of alcohol? EVERYONE SHOULD READ ATOMIC HABITS by James Clear Where else are you not as present in your dating life? If your current result is NO PARTNER, how are you thinking, feeling and behaving in your dating life? Claire is currently looking at her own relationship with alcohol and reflecting on how it has NOT served her dating life, and will be expanding on this topic in future episodes as she embarks on a MODERATE drinking journey vs identifying as a REGULAR drinker. Always new stones to uncover in this personal growth work to keep expanding and THRIVING!!!

Why do we do this? Cultural pressure. THINKING it’s what we want even if we’re not ready. What makes us recklessly infatuated? Physical chemistry. Run from an immediate panty-dropper! There’s usually a painful soul lesson!! Or what the hell? Show up, feel the pain, and LEARN FROM IT! Claire references her last reckless infatuation 5 years ago. NOT HIS FAULT. It was HER idea of what she wanted out of the relationship and was BLINDED by the physical chemistry off the bat. GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR WITH ANYONE YOU’RE DATING. It doesn’t matter how old you are! Obviously, don't be aggressive about your relationship goals and future right off the bat, but be direct and own what you’re looking for without apology. Ask the right questions! LISTEN to him. Pay attention to his actions. Manifesting a partner is DIFFERENT. That’s YOUR business in YOUR brain. Totally have fun visualizing and tapping into how you would think, feel, and behave with your ideal partner, and think about the woman you need to become to attract this high quality man, (not change to win him over, but grow to attract each other at both of your highest vibrational states!) The WORK WORKS. Claire then references a more recent dating situation last year… She started to really like him, he liked her. Great chemistry, sense of humor, a lot in common until he said, I want to keep doing what we’re doing but I don’t want to date you. Disappointing? Yes. But clear as day that walking away was the RIGHT CHOICE. She wasn’t attached to some fantasy about a future. Was Claire hurt? Yes. But there was no false fantasy she was mourning in the end. If she was RECKLESSLY INFATUATED she would have continued on his terms bc it felt like dating anyway! SO HOW DO YOU SHOW UP IN YOUR DATING LIFE WITHOUT GETTING CARRIED AWAY? TAKE YOUR TIME GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE! Is he really SEEING YOU? Does he want the same things as you? Are his words lining up with his actions? Are you letting drinking hinder your perception of the connection you have? Making greater meaning out of an exchange of words because of alcohol? EVERYONE SHOULD READ <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=atomic+habits&amp;qid=1554669864&amp;s=gateway&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ATOMIC HABITS by James Clear</a> Where else are you not as present in your dating life? If your current result is NO PARTNER, how are you thinking, feeling and behaving in your dating life? Claire is currently looking at her own relationship with alcohol and reflecting on how it has NOT served her dating life, and will be expanding on this topic in future episodes as she embarks on a MODERATE drinking journey vs identifying as a REGULAR drinker. Always new stones to uncover in this personal growth work to keep expanding and THRIVING!!!

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