I've had people tell me this, and I've heard other breast cancer survivors say it. And I feel like no good can come from this phrase. In this episode, I break down the 3 different ways I find this phrase used and also how it tends to backfire in our lives.

I've had people tell me this, and I've heard other breast cancer survivors say it. And I feel like no good can come from this phrase. In this episode, I break down the 3 different ways I find this phrase used and also how it tends to backfire in our lives.

Everything Does Not Happen For a Reason

I think breast cancer survivors use positive and happy interchangeably and it's doing them a disservice. In this episode I dig into the differences I see between them, and why I think its so important to be clear.

I think breast cancer survivors use positive and happy interchangeably and it's doing them a disservice. In this episode I dig into the differences I see between them, and why I think its so important to be clear.

Positive and Happy are Not the Same

In the post-holiday slump, some people are feeling ungrateful for gifts they don't like. The same sometimes happens for women around gifts they receive from well-meaning friends and family when they are diagnosed with breast cancer. In this episode I talk about feeling around receiving - and giving - gifts.

In the post-holiday slump, some people are feeling ungrateful for gifts they don't like. The same sometimes happens for women around gifts they receive from well-meaning friends and family when they are diagnosed with breast cancer. In this episode I talk about feeling around receiving - and giving - gifts.

Feeling Ungrateful for Gifts

As we stare down a new year, many of us are looking to set resolutions, or goals or intentions. And some of those will revolve around what you consume - or don't consume. In this episode I talk about one of the common pitfalls we often fall into when we are looking to change what we consume.

As we stare down a new year, many of us are looking to set resolutions, or goals or intentions. And some of those will revolve around what you consume - or don't consume. In this episode I talk about one of the common pitfalls we often fall into when we are looking to change what we consume.

Mindful Consuming After Breast Cancer

It’s a fine line between self-protection and self-sabotage. In this episode I share the signs you are slipping into self-sabotage, and why it happens in the first place.

It’s a fine line between self-protection and self-sabotage. In this episode I share the signs you are slipping into self-sabotage, and why it happens in the first place.

Self Protection or Self Sabotage After Breast Cancer

Going through an event like breast cancer, with so much unknown, its easy to slip into a place of relying on your treatment team to keep you informed. But this is handing over responsibility for your experience. In this episode I talk about being fiercely responsible for your life and your experience.

Going through an event like breast cancer, with so much unknown, its easy to slip into a place of relying on your treatment team to keep you informed. But this is handing over responsibility for your experience. In this episode I talk about being fiercely responsible for your life and your experience.

Responsibility for Your Life During and After Breast Cancer

After a life changing event like cancer, it's natural to focus on things you don't want in your life. You may start to plan for the worst, because then you'll feel less disappointment if it happens. But beyond this being a less enjoyable way to go through life, it also sets yourself up for your negative thoughts to become self-fulfilling prophecies. In this episode I talk about your RAS and how you need to be careful about how you think so your RAS is working for you, not against you.

After a life changing event like cancer, it's natural to focus on things you don't want in your life. You may start to plan for the worst, because then you'll feel less disappointment if it happens. But beyond this being a less enjoyable way to go through life, it also sets yourself up for your negative thoughts to become self-fulfilling prophecies. In this episode I talk about your RAS and how you need to be careful about how you think so your RAS is working for you, not against you.

Your Brain Filter After Breast Cancer

Most of us feel uncomfortable around the idea of uncertainty - especially after going through breast cancer. But did you know that you can feel uncomfortable around certainty also? In this episode I talk a bit about how this might be true, why it might happen, and how to not let it stop you.

Most of us feel uncomfortable around the idea of uncertainty - especially after going through breast cancer. But did you know that you can feel uncomfortable around certainty also? In this episode I talk a bit about how this might be true, why it might happen, and how to not let it stop you.

99. Uncomfortable with Certainty

There are a lot of sneaky sub-conscious beliefs that women have after breast cancer, and many of them can create that feeling of being stuck. Finding those beliefs is the first step, but what do you do once you find it? This episode gives you the visual guide that helps me when I am in the process of shifting a belief.

There are a lot of sneaky sub-conscious beliefs that women have after breast cancer, and many of them can create that feeling of being stuck. Finding those beliefs is the first step, but what do you do once you find it? This episode gives you the visual guide that helps me when I am in the process of shifting a belief.

How to Shift a Belief

In this episode I interview Survival is Insufficient member Leesa. She shares about her breast cancer experience during COVID and the resulting emotions she is working through now in the post-treatment phase with the help of the Survival is Insufficient program. She also shares about how her inner mean girl shows up and her resistance to listening to her and how she may be using anger as a cover emotion.

In this episode I interview Survival is Insufficient member Leesa. She shares about her breast cancer experience during COVID and the resulting emotions she is working through now in the post-treatment phase with the help of the Survival is Insufficient program. She also shares about how her inner mean girl shows up and her resistance to listening to her and how she may be using anger as a cover emotion.

Interview with Leesa

The podcast dedicated to the mental and emotional healing after breast cancer treatments have ended. How to get out of survival mode and into a fully lived life. Because Survival is Insufficient

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Beliefs to Move Forward After Breast Cancer

Beliefs About Breast Cancer

What are beliefs and what impact do they have on your breast cancer recovery?

What are beliefs and what impact do they have on your breast cancer recovery?

18 - Beliefs

The STORM method is the process I use and that I coach my clients to use to keep their anxiety in check. This episode dives into how to use it.   Download the workbook at www.coachrobinfern.com/storm-method

The STORM method is the process I use and that I coach my clients to use to keep their anxiety in check. This episode dives into how to use it.   Download the workbook at <a href="http://www.coachrobinfern.com/storm-method" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.coachrobinfern.com/storm-method</a>

8 - The STORM Method to Alleviate Anxiety

I'm wrapping up Season 1 with my breast cancer story.

I'm wrapping up Season 1 with my breast cancer story.

Episode 17: My Breast Cancer Story

I thought it  would help to do a series that digs a little deeper into the different parts of the  STORM method. I’m going to start at the beginning and talk about the idea that Situations and Subjects are neutral. This concept is so hard to grasp at first. I had a lot of resistance to the idea. I couldn’t accept that certain things in life aren’t either positive or negative. Cancer is bad, mmkay?

I thought it  would help to do a series that digs a little deeper into the different parts of the  STORM method. I’m going to start at the beginning and talk about the idea that Situations and Subjects are neutral. This concept is so hard to grasp at first. I had a lot of resistance to the idea. I couldn’t accept that certain things in life aren’t either positive or negative. Cancer is bad, mmkay?

Episode 9 - Situations are Neutral

So why do some of us struggle with survivors guilt? Well, let’s start with the thoughts that create that feeling of guilt. Then decide if the emotion we are feeling is really guilt or something else. And if it's something else, what is it and is it something you want or not? If it is, what deeper thought is causing the guilt?

So why do some of us struggle with survivors guilt? Well, let’s start with the thoughts that create that feeling of guilt. Then decide if the emotion we are feeling is really guilt or something else. And if it's something else, what is it and is it something you want or not? If it is, what deeper thought is causing the guilt?

Survivors Guilt After Breast Cancer

This next step is where you go after you’ve created self awareness and you recognize areas you may want to make adjustments to. Areas where you aren’t feeling or acting the way you want or getting the results you want in your life.  This is where the Reframe comes in. I call this step the Reframe, because it is making adjustments to your existing framework. You are going to reframe your thoughts to create the chain reaction that moves you in the direction you want to go.

This next step is where you go after you’ve created self awareness and you recognize areas you may want to make adjustments to. Areas where you aren’t feeling or acting the way you want or getting the results you want in your life.  This is where the Reframe comes in. I call this step the Reframe, because it is making adjustments to your existing framework. You are going to reframe your thoughts to create the chain reaction that moves you in the direction you want to go.

Reframe

Outcomes are the actions you take and the results you get from your thoughts and emotions. In this episode we dive into why changing our results is hard.

Outcomes are the actions you take and the results you get from your thoughts and emotions. In this episode we dive into why changing our results is hard.

Episode 11 - Outcomes

Our thoughts are what create our interpretation of life. Our emotions are created by our thoughts. We dive in to the next step of the STORM Method to get a better understanding of this.

Our thoughts are what create our interpretation of life. Our emotions are created by our thoughts. We dive in to the next step of the STORM Method to get a better understanding of this.

Episode 10 - Thoughts and Emotions

Facing reconstruction can bring about so many thoughts and feelings. And most of them, unfortunately aren’t positive. Do your research, understand your options, understand the risks . . . AND THEN MAKE A DECISION. You need to consider everything and be comfortable with the decision you make.  No matter which procedures you are a candidate for, there are pros and cons, plus risk factors. But spinning in indecision isn’t helpful either. It’s a fine line between doing the necessary research and overdoing it and just delaying making a decision. Don’t end up in paralysis by analysis. Resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/ breastcancer.org

Facing reconstruction can bring about so many thoughts and feelings. And most of them, unfortunately aren’t positive. Do your research, understand your options, understand the risks . . . AND THEN MAKE A DECISION. You need to consider everything and be comfortable with the decision you make.  No matter which procedures you are a candidate for, there are pros and cons, plus risk factors. But spinning in indecision isn’t helpful either. It’s a fine line between doing the necessary research and overdoing it and just delaying making a decision. Don’t end up in paralysis by analysis. Resources: <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/</a> <a href="http://breastcancer.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">breastcancer.org</a>

Breast Reconstruction and Decision Making

In this episode I share about how my lack of consistent written thought work during my recent trip to China turned out. Spoiler alert - not terrible but certainly could have been better.  My cockiness and confidence in my ability to manage my thoughts internally only did not work well. Listen to learn the value of this lesson, and about an exciting new project I'm working on.

In this episode I share about how my lack of consistent written thought work during my recent trip to China turned out. Spoiler alert - not terrible but certainly could have been better.  My cockiness and confidence in my ability to manage my thoughts internally only did not work well. Listen to learn the value of this lesson, and about an exciting new project I'm working on.

Episode 16 - Consistency is Key

Anxiety is an inevitable part of our lives because it's a normal human emotion. This is especially true after breast cancer. But when it starts to overtake your life, it's time to bring it down a few notches. In this episode I offer some tools that can help do just that. 

Anxiety is an inevitable part of our lives because it's a normal human emotion. This is especially true after breast cancer. But when it starts to overtake your life, it's time to bring it down a few notches. In this episode I offer some tools that can help do just that.

Tools for Anxiety After Breast Cancer

Anxiety is a normal part of being human. But it can get out of control. Many women experience overwhelming anxiety after breast cancer treatments end. This episode focuses on the causes of anxiety after cancer. Tune in next episode for tools to help alleviate anxiety.

Anxiety is a normal part of being human. But it can get out of control. Many women experience overwhelming anxiety after breast cancer treatments end. This episode focuses on the causes of anxiety after cancer. Tune in next episode for tools to help alleviate anxiety.

Anxiety After Breast Cancer

Self-criticism can be such a pervasive issue that bleeds into all areas of your life. This episode gives you one of the most effective tools to combat self-criticism.

Self-criticism can be such a pervasive issue that bleeds into all areas of your life. This episode gives you one of the most effective tools to combat self-criticism.

The Best Tool for Self Criticism After Breast Cancer

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