“Uncertainty creates fear, fear create anger” -- Lara Currie Out of control Karen’s are the poster people for the rise in bad behavior. Uncertainty causes fear, and fear causes anger. All too often that anger is vented in the wrong venue. Customers rage at service workers, policies trigger push back, and those who want things to ‘go back to normal’ (whatever that is) are walking around in a heightened emotional state that your staff has to deal with. In today’s episode, what ONE THING you can do to tame those unruly clients and diffuse the anger that your clients are expressing  Why people are more disrespectful Is incivility on the rise? How do you show empathy when they are a jerk What key phrases will work to calm a tense situation  Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

“Uncertainty creates fear, fear create anger” -- Lara Currie Out of control Karen’s are the poster people for the rise in bad behavior. Uncertainty causes fear, and fear causes anger. All too often that anger is vented in the wrong venue. Customers rage at service workers, policies trigger push back, and those who want things to ‘go back to normal’ (whatever that is) are walking around in a heightened emotional state that your staff has to deal with. In today’s episode, what ONE THING you can do to tame those unruly clients and diffuse the anger that your clients are expressing <ul> <li>Why people are more disrespectful</li> <li>Is incivility on the rise?</li> <li>How do you show empathy when they are a jerk</li> <li>What key phrases will work to calm a tense situation</li> </ul> Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

185 How to Tame a Client

We spend a lot of time with the people we work with. Whether in person or online friendships form, and leadership often tries to encourage a sense of camaraderie with staff. Without knowing it, this can create strife between coworkers without meaning to. When does camaraderie become toxic? With a nod to systems theory, we can learn how and why what is intended as 'team building' may, in fact, grow animosity.  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

We spend a lot of time with the people we work with. Whether in person or online friendships form, and leadership often tries to encourage a sense of camaraderie with staff. Without knowing it, this can create strife between coworkers without meaning to. When does camaraderie become toxic? With a nod to systems theory, we can learn how and why what is intended as 'team building' may, in fact, grow animosity.  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

184 Camaraderie; Toxic or Not

Do you ever wonder how a workplace turns toxic? It doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Like a pot that slowly boils there are a lot of steps along the way where you can stop the chain reaction of events before the workplace turns toxic. When blame, exaggeration, and generalizations are used in a conflict communication gets lost. Generalizing is another way to label and dismiss a person or a topic. Exaggeration inflames what may otherwise be no big deal, into a conflict.  When identifying errors turns into a blame game, that is where the conversation ends. Tune in and discover what to be on the lookout for to make sure that your workplace doesn't slide down the slippery slope and wind up TOXIC. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Its by inches we travel miles What to be on the lookout for How to address minor issues before they become major Intergenerational communication Toxic workplaces Where it all starts How coworkers make it worse  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Do you ever wonder how a workplace turns toxic? It doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Like a pot that slowly boils there are a lot of steps along the way where you can stop the chain reaction of events before the workplace turns toxic. When blame, exaggeration, and generalizations are used in a conflict communication gets lost. Generalizing is another way to label and dismiss a person or a topic. Exaggeration inflames what may otherwise be no big deal, into a conflict.  When identifying errors turns into a blame game, that is where the conversation ends. Tune in and discover what to be on the lookout for to make sure that your workplace doesn't slide down the slippery slope and wind up TOXIC. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>Its by inches we travel miles</li> <li>What to be on the lookout for</li> <li>How to address minor issues before they become major</li> <li>Intergenerational communication</li> <li>Toxic workplaces</li> <li>Where it all starts</li> <li>How coworkers make it worse</li> </ul> Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/CommunityHappensGroup/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Community Happens Group”</a> Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

183 How Toxic Happens

On top of everything else that you have had to deal with this past year, now loneliness is on the rise, and the impact of loneliness on you and the work you do is impactful. Douglas Nemecek, MD, chief medical officer for behavioral health at Cigna says that the impact of loneliness on your health is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day and is possibly worse than obesity and that isolated people risk having a significantly shorter life span.  I don’t think it's any surprise that any stress on your emotions impacts you physically, as the saying goes, your body keeps the score of your emotions.  Contact with others is not connection, while you may interact with a lot of people, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are connecting with them. On today's episode, signs of loneliness, what to watch out for, and what to do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Signs of loneliness that you might not be aware of Mask emotions and their purpose What to watch out for What the heck is going on What next? Healthy alternatives What you need to combat loneliness  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

On top of everything else that you have had to deal with this past year, now loneliness is on the rise, and the impact of loneliness on you and the work you do is impactful. Douglas Nemecek, MD, chief medical officer for behavioral health at Cigna says that the impact of loneliness on your health is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day and is possibly worse than obesity and that isolated people risk having a significantly shorter life span.  I don’t think it's any surprise that any stress on your emotions impacts you physically, as the saying goes, your body keeps the score of your emotions.  Contact with others is not connection, while you may interact with a lot of people, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are connecting with them. On today's episode, signs of loneliness, what to watch out for, and what to do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>Signs of loneliness that you might not be aware of</li> <li>Mask emotions and their purpose</li> <li>What to watch out for</li> <li>What the heck is going on</li> <li>What next?</li> <li>Healthy alternatives</li> <li>What you need to combat loneliness</li> </ul> Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/CommunityHappensGroup/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Community Happens Group”</a> Work with Lara:  Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

182 Leadership & Loneliness

Our best self makes all the plans but she doesn't always show up to implement them The world is full of information, a plethora of knowledge is just a Bing search away, psych, we all use google. Yet with all this information at our fingertips, we can know a thing, understand it, but when it comes to implementing, it’s not as simple, we can have a hard time putting that information, that knowledge into practice.  So what do you need to make sure that you, and your team, walk the walk, and get implementing?   What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  What sinks a team Learning vs knowing What three things you need before you implement The $325 billion dollar business getting in your way?  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Our best self makes all the plans but she doesn't always show up to implement them The world is full of information, a plethora of knowledge is just a Bing search away, psych, we all use google. Yet with all this information at our fingertips, we can know a thing, understand it, but when it comes to implementing, it’s not as simple, we can have a hard time putting that information, that knowledge into practice.  So what do you need to make sure that you, and your team, walk the walk, and get implementing? What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>What sinks a team</li> <li>Learning vs knowing</li> <li>What three things you need before you implement</li> <li>The $325 billion dollar business getting in your way?</li> </ul> Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/CommunityHappensGroup/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Community Happens Group”</a> Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

181 Walk the Walk

Carol Cox

This is a juicy episode filled with the way’s that you can use stories in your everyday work life, from the boardroom to the stage. Carol and I talk about everything from our personal struggles and successes to the DNA of the feminine, from speaker hijackers to why Emma should stop watching Law and Order SVU. Carol tells us how she uses the three-act story structure and the Hero’s journey when working with clients. There are lots of free giveaways on dealing with conflict and a strategic speaking guide.  What you’ll hear in this podcast:  Stories help us see ourselves in others experiences Stories help us ‘rewrite history’ so that we can see a better way We don’t know how our personal story can impact others and the work that we do Throughout history it was dangerous for Women to speak their truth How recognizing patterns can help your storytelling Do an after-action review post speaking engagement, guest podcast episode, board meeting etc. Practice and repeat you message as often as possible to become more comfortable Visualize your environment Use skills practice and reflection to become a better speaker  Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

This is a juicy episode filled with the way’s that you can use stories in your everyday work life, from the boardroom to the stage. Carol and I talk about everything from our personal struggles and successes to the DNA of the feminine, from speaker hijackers to why Emma should stop watching Law and Order SVU. Carol tells us how she uses the three-act story structure and the Hero’s journey when working with clients. There are lots of free giveaways on dealing with conflict and a strategic speaking guide.  What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Stories help us see ourselves in others experiences</li> <li>Stories help us ‘rewrite history’ so that we can see a better way</li> <li>We don’t know how our personal story can impact others and the work that we do</li> <li>Throughout history it was dangerous for Women to speak their truth</li> <li>How recognizing patterns can help your storytelling</li> <li>Do an after-action review post speaking engagement, guest podcast episode, board meeting etc.</li> <li>Practice and repeat you message as often as possible to become more comfortable</li> <li>Visualize your environment</li> <li>Use skills practice and reflection to become a better speaker</li> </ul> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/10tips/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

180 Using Stories to Relate to Clients with Carol Cox

Well, some difficult S*it just happened. In 176 weeks of recording the difficult happens podcast, I have never missed a publication.  It’s time for me to model the very behavior I talk about. We will all go through some … stuff in our lives and I want you to do the same when you encounter some really difficult stuff,  take care of yourself and your family. Next week, I will be back and I will be combating toxic, manipulative, bullying behavior head-on!  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types  Deep thoughts by Jack Handy (SNL) © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Well, some difficult S*it just happened. In 176 weeks of recording the difficult happens podcast, I have never missed a publication.  It’s time for me to model the very behavior I talk about. We will all go through some … stuff in our lives and I want you to do the same when you encounter some really difficult stuff,  take care of yourself and your family. Next week, I will be back and I will be combating toxic, manipulative, bullying behavior head-on!  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:help@difficulthappens.com">help@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpKRAq2VOM8&amp;list=PLnCJp8j83vkHIdFv_4NfQxexhen2PFlUt" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Deep thoughts by Jack Handy (SNL)</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

179 Difficult Indeed Happened

Everyone, at one point in their life, has experienced a compliment that did not sit right. Either it was way too personal, or it felt a little backhanded. That's why we're tackling whether or not compliments are toxic! When we break down compliments, we can see that it depends on a variety of factors; Who is giving the compliment, the context, and the motive. When it comes to genuine compliments, you know it when you see it.    What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Compliments Gaslighting and Narcissism Genuine compliments Overly familiar compliment Sideways compliments Backhanded compliments Awkward compliments Fishing compliments Toxic or Not?    Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Squad   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Everyone, at one point in their life, has experienced a compliment that did not sit right. Either it was way too personal, or it felt a little backhanded. That's why we're tackling whether or not compliments are toxic! When we break down compliments, we can see that it depends on a variety of factors; Who is giving the compliment, the context, and the motive. When it comes to genuine compliments, you know it when you see it.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>Compliments</li> <li>Gaslighting and Narcissism</li> <li>Genuine compliments</li> <li>Overly familiar compliment</li> <li>Sideways compliments</li> <li>Backhanded compliments</li> <li>Awkward compliments</li> <li>Fishing compliments</li> <li>Toxic or Not?</li> </ul> Work with Lara: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                       </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Squad</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

176 Toxic or Not? Compliments

"Knowledge is when you learn something new every day." We learn learn learn all day long but do we take enough time to apply? I love to learn, and learning the concepts is one thing, but implementing is another. This brings us to the one thing that we all need that we cannot do without. Something paramount to implementing better ways of communication, and that is empathy. What is empathy to you?   Empathy is the ability to understand what other people feel emotionally and see things from their perspective. Empathy is important because it is a precursor to any conversation. However, there is more to empathy than meets the eye, especially for business leaders.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Learning Implementing Empathy Will Smith: Fault vs. Responsibility Empathy and Accountability Ways to show empathy          Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types     You Tube: Will Smith - Fault vs. Responsibility   Squad           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone 

"Knowledge is when you learn something new every day." We learn learn learn all day long but do we take enough time to apply? I love to learn, and learning the concepts is one thing, but implementing is another. This brings us to the one thing that we all need that we cannot do without. Something paramount to implementing better ways of communication, and that is empathy. What is empathy to you? Empathy is the ability to understand what other people feel emotionally and see things from their perspective. Empathy is important because it is a precursor to any conversation. However, there is more to empathy than meets the eye, especially for business leaders. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>Learning</li> <li>Implementing</li> <li>Empathy</li> <li>Will Smith: Fault vs. Responsibility</li> <li>Empathy and Accountability</li> <li>Ways to show empathy</li> </ul> Work with Lara: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> You Tube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln21-WhJyec" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Will Smith - Fault vs. Responsibility</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Squad</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

175 The one thing that makes all the difference

What kind of energy do you give off? Do you find yourself expressing more masculine attributes or feminine? This concept of masculine and feminine has been around a lot, and we are beginning to see it take hold in the entrepreneurial and small business fields. Someone who is more focused and driven is seen to have stronger masculine traits, while more caring and creative is seen as having more feminine traits. Discussing masculine and feminine energies is based on a continuum, yin and yang. People are made up of different traits, and when we say "masculine energy" or "feminine energy" in this context, it does not mean male and female, yet these attributes and expressions are often used in a male/female way.   In this episode of Difficult Happens, we tackle the concept of masculine and feminine energy and how that impacts your interpersonal and professional relationships. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  What is Masculine and Feminine The Squad membership Yin and Yang Masculine traits Feminine traits Where the concepts break down Tone policing Communication          Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Squad           © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone 

What kind of energy do you give off? Do you find yourself expressing more masculine attributes or feminine? This concept of masculine and feminine has been around a lot, and we are beginning to see it take hold in the entrepreneurial and small business fields. Someone who is more focused and driven is seen to have stronger masculine traits, while more caring and creative is seen as having more feminine traits. Discussing masculine and feminine energies is based on a continuum, yin and yang. People are made up of different traits, and when we say "masculine energy" or "feminine energy" in this context, it does not mean male and female, yet these attributes and expressions are often used in a male/female way. In this episode of Difficult Happens, we tackle the concept of masculine and feminine energy and how that impacts your interpersonal and professional relationships. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>What is Masculine and Feminine</li> <li>The Squad membership</li> <li>Yin and Yang</li> <li>Masculine traits</li> <li>Feminine traits</li> <li>Where the concepts break down</li> <li>Tone policing</li> <li>Communication</li> </ul> Work with Lara: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/apply/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Conflict Personality-Types</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/squad-membership/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Squad</a> © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by <a href="https://www.scottholmesmusic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scott Holmes Music</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

174 The Masculine Feminine Myth

Lara Currie is on a mission to transform the way we communicate with one another. The workplace doesn't have to be the source of conflict and discord. She'll teach you how to have open and honest communication with people, how to navigate conflict, and how to deal with the difficult "stuff" we all encounter in this ever increasingly defensive world. www.difficulthappens.comDifficult can happen anywhere, so Lara is here to make sure you know exactly how to create positive communication, decrease defensiveness, and navigate the difficult that we all have to deal with in life, at home, and in the work environment so that you, your business, and your team, can save time, money and energy.https://www.difficulthappens.com

Lara makes complex behavioral topics easier to understand. Her show takes listeners on a meaningful journey to seeing ourselves and others from new, encouraging, perspectives. Well worth a listen!

An inspiring podcast!

If you’re looking for leadership information, go no further! Lara does a fantastic job at taking issues and breaking them down.

Leadership made easier!

Lara Currie is on a mission to transform the way we communicate with one another. The workplace doesn't have to be the source of conflict and discord. She'll teach you how to have open and honest communication with people, how to navigate conflict, and how to deal with the difficult "stuff" we all encounter in this ever increasingly defensive world. <a href="http://www.difficulthappens.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.difficulthappens.com</a> Difficult can happen anywhere, so Lara is here to make sure you know exactly how to create positive communication, decrease defensiveness, and navigate the difficult that we all have to deal with in life, at home, and in the work environment so that you, your business, and your team, can save time, money and energy. <a href="https://www.difficulthappens.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.difficulthappens.com</a>

Difficult Happens; Effective Communication for Bosses

“Negative people have a problem for every solution.” ― Albert Einstein  It’s the little things that create a weak spot in your boundaries, and this weak spot creates a tear that manipulative people will exploit. Manipulators don’t wear name tags, they hide in plain sight and one person's toxic boss is another persons’ motivating mentor. So how can you tell the difference? In this episode, we explore 5 phrases to be on the lookout for that manipulators use that will cause you to doubt yourself. Toxic people, incivility, bad behavior, tyrants, bully’s, and entitlement. Bad behavior is on the rise. This episode will help you protect yourself. What you’ll hear in this podcast:   Is incivility and bad behavior on the rise? Toxic people and how they can hide What to watch out for with a manipulator How manipulators assault your boundaries Why toxic people use these phrases Why are these phrases a warning sign? What your body has to do with it How manipulators assault your self-esteem For a manipulator, it’s all about them  Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources:  “Don’t you know who I am?” How to stay sane in an era of narcissism, entitlement, and incivility.” Durvasula Ph.D, Ramani S. Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

“Negative people have a problem for every solution.” ― Albert Einstein It’s the little things that create a weak spot in your boundaries, and this weak spot creates a tear that manipulative people will exploit. Manipulators don’t wear name tags, they hide in plain sight and one person's toxic boss is another persons’ motivating mentor. So how can you tell the difference? In this episode, we explore 5 phrases to be on the lookout for that manipulators use that will cause you to doubt yourself. Toxic people, incivility, bad behavior, tyrants, bully’s, and entitlement. Bad behavior is on the rise. This episode will help you protect yourself. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Is incivility and bad behavior on the rise?</li> <li>Toxic people and how they can hide</li> <li>What to watch out for with a manipulator</li> <li>How manipulators assault your boundaries</li> <li>Why toxic people use these phrases</li> <li>Why are these phrases a warning sign?</li> <li>What your body has to do with it</li> <li>How manipulators assault your self-esteem</li> <li>For a manipulator, it’s all about them</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VY9QTXG/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Don’t you know who I am?” How to stay sane in an era of narcissism, entitlement, and incivility.” Durvasula Ph.D, Ramani S.</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

96 Toxic Tactics to watch out for

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  What is Blame-Shifting The Manipulative tactics in action How a victim might be shifting the blame on you Why minimizing you is on the menu How quickly a toxic workplace can be created What you should never do What you should do when blame is shifted onto you  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group”   Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Hilarious Word Salad Video  © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Episode Photo by  Hailey Moeller on  Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse. In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU.  What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>What is Blame-Shifting</li> <li>The Manipulative tactics in action</li> <li>How a victim might be shifting the blame on you</li> <li>Why minimizing you is on the menu</li> <li>How quickly a toxic workplace can be created</li> <li>What you should never do</li> <li>What you should do when blame is shifted onto you</li> </ul> Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/CommunityHappensGroup/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Community Happens Group”</a> Work with Lara: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Lara@difficulthappens.com">Lara@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wVs5AyjzwRM" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hilarious Word Salad Video</a> © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Episode Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@haileymoeller?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Hailey Moeller</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/collections/9996177/art?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Unsplash</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

112 Blame Shifting - Toxic Work environment 101

Perfectionism is a trap that can keep you frozen in inaction or frenzied in productive procrastination. This perfectionist trap can trigger feelings that lead you down the road to a fight, flight, freeze or appease reaction and start you on that familiar hampster wheel of emotions which impacts the way you feel, act, and react. In today’s episode dive into recognizing one of the things that can trigger you, how you identify it and what you can do about it. Want to break free from this trap? Tune in and get out from under the stress of perfectionism What you’ll hear in this podcast:   How perfectionism impacts you What an emotional desire path is What a triggered reaction is How to identify when you have been triggered What an emotional or feeling trigger is How triggered reactions can be positive ones How to identify your triggers How to break free from the stress   Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Trainings  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources:   The Neurobiology of Sentence Comprehension The Conflict Personality-Types  College Campus Desire Paths  How the Brain Decodes Sentences The Secret Gift in Every Emotion   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Perfectionism is a trap that can keep you frozen in inaction or frenzied in productive procrastination. This perfectionist trap can trigger feelings that lead you down the road to a fight, flight, freeze or appease reaction and start you on that familiar hampster wheel of emotions which impacts the way you feel, act, and react. In today’s episode dive into recognizing one of the things that can trigger you, how you identify it and what you can do about it. Want to break free from this trap? Tune in and get out from under the stress of perfectionism What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>How perfectionism impacts you</li> <li>What an emotional desire path is</li> <li>What a triggered reaction is</li> <li>How to identify when you have been triggered</li> <li>What an emotional or feeling trigger is</li> <li>How triggered reactions can be positive ones</li> <li>How to identify your triggers</li> <li>How to break free from the stress</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Trainings</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="http://faculty.washington.edu/losterho/neurobiology_of_sentence_comprehension.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Neurobiology of Sentence Comprehension</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Conflict Personality-Types</a> <a href="https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C5CHFA_enUS704US704&amp;q=desire+paths+university&amp;tbm=isch&amp;source=univ&amp;sa=X&amp;ved=2ahUKEwiRr8yD-f3jAhWpj1QKHT9rC-0QsAR6BAgIEAE&amp;biw=1631&amp;bih=867" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> College Campus Desire Paths</a> <a href="https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/how-the-brain-decodes-sentences/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> How the Brain Decodes Sentences</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Episode: 87 Perfectionism Triggers & the Feels

If you are a Perfectionist or have the Disease to Please, your very environment can trigger you. www.difficulthappens.com We have unconscious reactions all day long, ones that we aren’t aware of and yet they impact us in ways that will surprise you. Your subconscious is in control of your actions and reactions 99% of the time so it’s no surprise that it takes a strong reaction or reason to take a mindful look at why we respond in a certain way. Don’t wait for a conflict to identify yours. When you shine the light on triggered reactions, where the ‘action’ of any interaction happens, you can respond with purpose. Break free from the pull of perfectionism join me today and discover how to identify your triggered reactions. What you’ll hear in this podcast:  Where ‘difficult’ stuff comes from The trap of perfectionism The disease to please What a triggered reaction is What an environmental trigger is How to identify your environmental triggers Becoming who we were meant to be Don’t ‘should’ on yourself Why my sister passed out in Geology 101   Work with Lara  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory  29 Why your subconscious is the REAL boss Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

If you are a Perfectionist or have the Disease to Please, your very environment can trigger you. <a href="http://www.difficulthappens.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.difficulthappens.com</a> We have unconscious reactions all day long, ones that we aren’t aware of and yet they impact us in ways that will surprise you. Your subconscious is in control of your actions and reactions 99% of the time so it’s no surprise that it takes a strong reaction or reason to take a mindful look at why we respond in a certain way. Don’t wait for a conflict to identify yours. When you shine the light on triggered reactions, where the ‘action’ of any interaction happens, you can respond with purpose. Break free from the pull of perfectionism join me today and discover how to identify your triggered reactions. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Where ‘difficult’ stuff comes from</li> <li>The trap of perfectionism</li> <li>The disease to please</li> <li>What a triggered reaction is</li> <li>What an environmental trigger is</li> <li>How to identify your environmental triggers</li> <li>Becoming who we were meant to be</li> <li>Don’t ‘should’ on yourself</li> <li>Why my sister passed out in Geology 101</li> </ul> Work with Lara  <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Your Conflict Personality Type</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Assessments in all their glory</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/29-why-your-subconscious-is-the-real-boss-with-melina-palmer/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 29 Why your subconscious is the REAL boss</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

88 Where you are is the problem

How do you find gratitude when you have a bad attitude?  As whole human beings, we experience a range of emotions every day, some are good, and some we think of as bad. So how do you practice gratitude when you just don’t feel like it, that is the topic of today’s episode. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves to ourselves, about situations and experiences and what those stories mean to us. Those stories become a self-fulfilling prophecy, that by just believing in them, make them true. When you practice gratitude, in whatever way works for you, you will be a happier healthier person. What you’ll hear in this podcast:   How the stories we tell ourselves create our reality How to have a clinicians attitude How to reframe to turn your mind How gratitude changes your mood Have to versus get to   Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: The Secret Gift in Every Emotion Your Conflict Personality Type Assessments in all their glory   Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown James Wedmore     Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

How do you find gratitude when you have a bad attitude?  As whole human beings, we experience a range of emotions every day, some are good, and some we think of as bad. So how do you practice gratitude when you just don’t feel like it, that is the topic of today’s episode. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves to ourselves, about situations and experiences and what those stories mean to us. Those stories become a self-fulfilling prophecy, that by just believing in them, make them true. When you practice gratitude, in whatever way works for you, you will be a happier healthier person. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>How the stories we tell ourselves create our reality</li> <li>How to have a clinicians attitude</li> <li>How to reframe to turn your mind</li> <li>How gratitude changes your mood</li> <li>Have to versus get to</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Your Conflict Personality Type</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Assessments in all their glory</a> Mentioned in this episode: <a href="https://brenebrown.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brene Brown</a> <a href="https://www.jameswedmoretraining.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">James Wedmore</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

90 Attitudes and Gratitudes

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein In this year-end episode, Amee Quiriconi of the One Broken Mom Podcast joins me to talk about endings and beginnings.  Change is an inevitability in this world. Sometimes the change is something we choose such as ending a relationship or a job, and sometimes the change is thrust on us, like a relationship ending or losing a job.  When things end, whether we chose the end or not, there is a lot that you can learn about yourself, what you want more of in your life, and what you want less of. Reflection helps you not only see things in a different way but allows you to learn the lesson you need to from a situation.  When you know what you want, you have a clearer direction and can make better choices for your new beginnings! What you’ll hear in this podcast:   Change that you chose, and change that you didn’t Change in your personal life &amp; change at work Endings, the gift that keeps on giving The pain that change often causes The growth that endings, change, gives us How knowing what you don’t want helps you focus on what you do How reflection, considering something deeply leads to personal-growth Some personal stories of endings and beginnings that Lara &amp; Amee have had  Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Amee Quiriconi One Broken Mom Podcast  Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein In this year-end episode, Amee Quiriconi of the <a href="https://www.ameequiriconi.com/one-broken-mom-podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">One Broken Mom</a> Podcast joins me to talk about endings and beginnings.  Change is an inevitability in this world. Sometimes the change is something we choose such as ending a relationship or a job, and sometimes the change is thrust on us, like a relationship ending or losing a job.  When things end, whether we chose the end or not, there is a lot that you can learn about yourself, what you want more of in your life, and what you want less of. Reflection helps you not only see things in a different way but allows you to learn the lesson you need to from a situation.  When you know what you want, you have a clearer direction and can make better choices for your new beginnings! What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Change that you chose, and change that you didn’t</li> <li>Change in your personal life &amp; change at work</li> <li>Endings, the gift that keeps on giving</li> <li>The pain that change often causes</li> <li>The growth that endings, change, gives us</li> <li>How knowing what you don’t want helps you focus on what you do</li> <li>How reflection, considering something deeply leads to personal-growth</li> <li>Some personal stories of endings and beginnings that Lara &amp; Amee have had</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: Amee Quiriconi <a href="https://www.ameequiriconi.com/one-broken-mom-podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">One Broken Mom Podcast</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a>

95 Endings & Beginnings with Ameé Quiriconi

Summary:  “You are a master to the words you don’t say and a slave to the ones you do.” Touchy conversations can be a minefield to navigate, so how do you decide what to say and when to say it?  Sometimes we respond out of habit, without thinking through what we are saying. What we choose to say, and when we choose to say it has everything to do with our experiences, our expectations, and our assumptions. And You know what my Dad used to say about AssUmptions?... In this episode, we take a look at 5 things to STOP saying, and what you should say instead. As a BONUS, I tell you how to turn the conversation around when these words or phrases are being used “AT” you, so you will know what to say when your buttons are pushed. What you’ll hear in this podcast:  Stop Shoulding on yourself Always is a word that is Never true - the use of Emphaticals in conversation I hear what you are saying BUT… How the word but is really a dismissal It has always been done this way - and other useless phrases How you hear is just as important as how you speak Excuses, excuses and other things we don’t care about Why his Drama is an inconvenience    Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens; How Triggers Boundaries &amp; Emotions Impact YOU Every day by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Summary: “You are a master to the words you don’t say and a slave to the ones you do.” Touchy conversations can be a minefield to navigate, so how do you decide what to say and when to say it?  Sometimes we respond out of habit, without thinking through what we are saying. What we choose to say, and when we choose to say it has everything to do with our experiences, our expectations, and our assumptions. And You know what my Dad used to say about AssUmptions?... In this episode, we take a look at 5 things to STOP saying, and what you should say instead. As a BONUS, I tell you how to turn the conversation around when these words or phrases are being used “AT” you, so you will know what to say when your buttons are pushed. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Stop Shoulding on yourself</li> <li>Always is a word that is Never true - the use of Emphaticals in conversation</li> <li>I hear what you are saying BUT… How the word but is really a dismissal</li> <li>It has always been done this way - and other useless phrases</li> <li>How you hear is just as important as how you speak</li> <li>Excuses, excuses and other things we don’t care about</li> <li>Why his Drama is an inconvenience</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens; How Triggers Boundaries &amp; Emotions Impact YOU Every day by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

99 Dont say that, say this

Summary:  “Not Making a choice is a choice.” When is the right time to make a change? Change happens in a moment, a moment when the status quo, the way things have always been, becomes intolerable.  Saying yes when you really mean no. When you openly give and they take more. These are the tiny boundary over-reaches that create a crack, a crack that manipulative or selfish people will use to exploit. When a relationship or a pattern of behavior becomes too painful to tolerate, when it hurts to stay where you are, these are the moments that push us to make a drastic change.  This tipping point propels you into action, it emboldens you to make the changes that are right for you. Your Fear takes a back seat and you make the jump. What you’ll hear in this podcast:  Where Real Change Happens How a boundary overstep impacts you Why we need a tipping point This far no further The shifting of a mindset Trigger Season A time for re-birth Don’t fall for the shoulda - coulda - woulda spiral Your subconscious and its power Building  resilience How experiences feel personal and professional growth Those who embrace change and those who avoid it  Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Star Trek - Jean Luke Piccard “This far no farther”  Big Bang Theory  How Micro-Managing Let to a Toxic work environment [Case study] Boundaries and the Extinction Burst Behavior Columbo - (this far no farther) The Conspirators  The Tipping Point  Secret Gift in Every Emotion Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Summary: “Not Making a choice is a choice.” When is the right time to make a change? Change happens in a moment, a moment when the status quo, the way things have always been, becomes intolerable.  Saying yes when you really mean no. When you openly give and they take more. These are the tiny boundary over-reaches that create a crack, a crack that manipulative or selfish people will use to exploit. When a relationship or a pattern of behavior becomes too painful to tolerate, when it hurts to stay where you are, these are the moments that push us to make a drastic change.  This tipping point propels you into action, it emboldens you to make the changes that are right for you. Your Fear takes a back seat and you make the jump. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Where Real Change Happens</li> <li>How a boundary overstep impacts you</li> <li>Why we need a tipping point</li> <li>This far no further</li> <li>The shifting of a mindset</li> <li>Trigger Season</li> <li>A time for re-birth</li> <li>Don’t fall for the shoulda - coulda - woulda spiral</li> <li>Your subconscious and its power</li> <li>Building  resilience</li> <li>How experiences feel personal and professional growth</li> <li>Those who embrace change and those who avoid it</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jln3mi0vfJU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Star Trek - Jean Luke Piccard “This far no farther”</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUMcABvgoIg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Big Bang Theory</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/94/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How Micro-Managing Let to a Toxic work environment [Case study]</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/77/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Boundaries and the Extinction Burst Behavior</a> <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077354/reviews" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Columbo - (this far no farther) The Conspirators</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Tipping-Point-Little-Things-Difference/dp/0316346624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Tipping Point</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

100 Where to draw the line

Summary:   When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad!   One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.  Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?  One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.”   It is words, language, that is used to Gaslight. (A form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt, making you question your own memory, perception, or judgment.)    There are some classic tricks used in Magical Speaking that you should be on the lookout for, in this episode, we dive into those red-flag phrases and what you can do to protect yourself.   Bad behavior is on the rise, arm yourself with the tools you need to protect yourself against manipulative behavior.   What you’ll hear in this podcast:   What is  Magical Speaking How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone What to do when someone  is talking in circles How manipulators obfuscate the truth What to do when anger is used against you Examples of magical speaking in real life (Depp, Heard) 6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions What self-love has to do with it Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead The emotional toll of manipulation How your triggers play in    Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources:  The Secret Gift in Every Emotion  Your Conflict Personality Type  The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense  How to Combat Manipulative Behavior   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Image for episode graphic Photo by  Aarón Blanco Tejedor on  Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Summary: When a manipulator starts spinning their tale it can feel like you are being tossed in a word salad! One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.  Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?  One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.” It is words, language, that is used to Gaslight. (A form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt, making you question your own memory, perception, or judgment.)  There are some classic tricks used in Magical Speaking that you should be on the lookout for, in this episode, we dive into those red-flag phrases and what you can do to protect yourself. Bad behavior is on the rise, arm yourself with the tools you need to protect yourself against manipulative behavior. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>What is  Magical Speaking</li> <li>How words are used to ‘gaslight’ someone</li> <li>What to do when someone  is talking in circles</li> <li>How manipulators obfuscate the truth</li> <li>What to do when anger is used against you</li> <li>Examples of magical speaking in real life (Depp, Heard)</li> <li>6 tactics manipulators use, along with words, to control your reactions</li> <li>What self-love has to do with it</li> <li>Why you should ignore the ‘implied’ and speak to the words instead</li> <li>The emotional toll of manipulation</li> <li>How your triggers play in</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                       </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/conflict-personality-types/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Your Conflict Personality Type</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Art-Verbal-Self-Defense/dp/0880290307" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> How to Combat Manipulative Behavior</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Image for episode graphic Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@healing_photographer?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Aarón Blanco Tejedor</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/stress?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Unsplash</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Magical Speaking - When words are used to manipulate (102)

Summary:  “You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” ― Joyce Meyer  What do you do about a Jerk? You can’t avoid coming across one. You may even have one in your office, social group or sphere of influence. Jerky behavior is unavoidable and does not discriminate on who it inflicts. Men, women, young and old, jerks come in all shapes and sizes. What makes a jerk a jerk? It’s in their snide reactionary behavior.  They are negative, and often angry and cynical and are looking for an outlet, somewhere to share these negative feelings,  and if you are in their way, like the Eye of Sauron, when a jerk focuses on you and spews their vitriol it’s not pleasant. Don’t let them steal your sunshine, arm yourself with these 3 things you can do when you are dealing with a jerk. What you’ll hear in this podcast:  The Jerk The intentional Jerk The unintentional Jerky behavior Why it is about them, not you Are there more jerks now than ever? How negativity creates jerky behavior What three things you can do to protect yourself from a Jerk    Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Steal My Sunshine - Len Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Summary: “You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” ― Joyce Meyer What do you do about a Jerk? You can’t avoid coming across one. You may even have one in your office, social group or sphere of influence. Jerky behavior is unavoidable and does not discriminate on who it inflicts. Men, women, young and old, jerks come in all shapes and sizes. What makes a jerk a jerk? It’s in their snide reactionary behavior.  They are negative, and often angry and cynical and are looking for an outlet, somewhere to share these negative feelings,  and if you are in their way, like the <a href="https://lotr.fandom.com/wiki/Eye_of_Sauron" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Eye of Sauron</a>, when a jerk focuses on you and spews their vitriol it’s not pleasant. Don’t let them <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1fzJ_AYajA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">steal your sunshine</a>, arm yourself with these 3 things you can do when you are dealing with a jerk. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>The Jerk</li> <li>The intentional Jerk</li> <li>The unintentional Jerky behavior</li> <li>Why it is about them, not you</li> <li>Are there more jerks now than ever?</li> <li>How negativity creates jerky behavior</li> <li>What three things you can do to protect yourself from a Jerk</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1fzJ_AYajA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Steal My Sunshine - Len</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

97 How to Deal with Jerks

It is a super strange time that we are in right now. Things are changing by the hour. One thing is certain, during a Pandemic, there will be some uncertainty. In today’s episode, I dive into how people react, why they react a certain way and what you can do to connect, communicate and understand one another without risk of starting a conflict. Stress, anxiety, and fear look different in different people. From a Laissez-faire attitude to shut down, from overly-informed to the conspiracy theorist, reactions that seem opposite to one another all have their root in uncertainty. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Why someone has a laissez-faire attitude What anxiety looks like  How fear shows up in our day to day interactions How your senses are triggered Ways to cope with uncertainty How to inspire confidence Tuning into your  body Your senses and how they can help you Long breaths and calm Your body is the key Do what works for you  Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Calming Client Fears Free Webinar © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Episode Photo by  Irina on  Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

It is a super strange time that we are in right now. Things are changing by the hour. One thing is certain, during a Pandemic, there will be some uncertainty. In today’s episode, I dive into how people react, why they react a certain way and what you can do to connect, communicate and understand one another without risk of starting a conflict. Stress, anxiety, and fear look different in different people. From a Laissez-faire attitude to shut down, from overly-informed to the conspiracy theorist, reactions that seem opposite to one another all have their root in uncertainty. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>Why someone has a laissez-faire attitude</li> <li>What anxiety looks like </li> <li>How fear shows up in our day to day interactions</li> <li>How your senses are triggered</li> <li>Ways to cope with uncertainty</li> <li>How to inspire confidence</li> <li>Tuning into your  body</li> <li>Your senses and how they can help you</li> <li>Long breaths and calm</li> <li>Your body is the key</li> <li>Do what works for you</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Lara@difficulthappens.com">Lara@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/webinar/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Calming Client Fears Free Webinar</a> © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Episode Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@sofiameli?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Irina</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/empty?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Unsplash</a> Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

108 Pandemic 101; Assume That & Do This

Dysfunctional communication, incivility, and bad behavior impact us all. Taking your power back and building strong boundaries is easier than you think. This is why I podcast. To raise awareness of dysfunctional communication styles and how to combat them. To raise awareness of boundary breaches that take your power away from you. To raise awareness of the physical impact that conflict, incivility, and negativity has on you. By some accounts, 89% of Americans were raised in dysfunction which leads to dysfunctional communication styles that end up impacting you every day. This is WHY the Difficult Happens podcast is here, to help you navigate these everyday interactions. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  What is dysfunction How dysfunction plays in the way we communicate Incivility is on the rise What to  do about bad behavior Everything is a spectrum Bad behavior and negativity  Work with Lara Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura

Dysfunctional communication, incivility, and bad behavior impact us all. Taking your power back and building strong boundaries is easier than you think. This is why I podcast. To raise awareness of dysfunctional communication styles and how to combat them. To raise awareness of boundary breaches that take your power away from you. To raise awareness of the physical impact that conflict, incivility, and negativity has on you. By some accounts, 89% of Americans were raised in dysfunction which leads to dysfunctional communication styles that end up impacting you every day. This is WHY the Difficult Happens podcast is here, to help you navigate these everyday interactions. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>What is dysfunction</li> <li>How dysfunction plays in the way we communicate</li> <li>Incivility is on the rise</li> <li>What to  do about bad behavior</li> <li>Everything is a spectrum</li> <li>Bad behavior and negativity</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Lara@difficulthappens.com">Lara@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Art-Verbal-Self-Defense/dp/0880290307" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense</a> © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a>

This is Why (105)

Amber Hawley

“When you can be strong alone, you will be stronger together.” It can feel like you have to choose between a successful career and a successful relationship, especially in this modern age where the line between a high functioning person, a real go-getter and a workaholic can get blurred. But you don't have to! Amber Hawley spent most of her career helping high-achieving couples in silicon valley. As a licensed therapist she understands the particular struggles and demands of this modern landscape. For over 20 years she has been helping passionate, striving high achieving couples reconnect and rekindle their relationships and she is here today to share her wisdom.  In today’s episode, we talk about masculine and feminine energy, the line between striving and avoiding, the clues that your relationship may be in trouble and what ONE thing you can do right now to make your relationship better. Join us as we take a look at all this, and how ADHD, perfectionism and high achievement go together. What you’ll hear in this podcast:    Why strong women may struggle in relationships Societies fear of masculine energy in women What does it mean to be high achieving High functioning, high achieving, the go-getter, a  rose by any other name What does ADHD have to do with it? The “balance” backlash When overwhelm warns you Are you a workaholic? How to communicate when Communication goes out of the window  Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Support@laracurrie.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources / mentioned in the show: Peter Pumpkinhead  Secret Gift in Every Emotion Couples Fix Amber Hawley My Biz Bestie   Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura

“When you can be strong alone, you will be stronger together.” It can feel like you have to choose between a successful career and a successful relationship, especially in this modern age where the line between a high functioning person, a real go-getter and a workaholic can get blurred. But you don't have to! Amber Hawley spent most of her career helping high-achieving couples in silicon valley. As a licensed therapist she understands the particular struggles and demands of this modern landscape. For over 20 years she has been helping passionate, striving high achieving couples reconnect and rekindle their relationships and she is here today to share her wisdom.  In today’s episode, we talk about masculine and feminine energy, the line between striving and avoiding, the clues that your relationship may be in trouble and what ONE thing you can do right now to make your relationship better. Join us as we take a look at all this, and how ADHD, perfectionism and high achievement go together. What you’ll hear in this podcast: <ul> <li>Why strong women may struggle in relationships</li> <li>Societies fear of masculine energy in women</li> <li>What does it mean to be high achieving</li> <li>High functioning, high achieving, the go-getter, a  rose by any other name</li> <li>What does ADHD have to do with it?</li> <li>The “balance” backlash</li> <li>When overwhelm warns you</li> <li>Are you a workaholic?</li> <li>How to communicate when Communication goes out of the window</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Support@laracurrie.com">Support@laracurrie.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/workwithme/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/</a> Resources / mentioned in the show: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYupSHWEJxA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Peter Pumpkinhead</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/secret-gift-in-every-emotion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Secret Gift in Every Emotion</a> <a href="https://amberhawley.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Couples Fix Amber Hawley</a> <a href="https://www.mybizbestie.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">My Biz Bestie</a> Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a>

Love and the Modern Woman with Amber Hawley (101)

Calm

Summary:   Oh-No she didn’t! It doesn’t matter who you are; mother Theresa, Oprah Winfrey, my Mom, you get mad.   Not like ‘teenager forbidden to date a boy’ type mad - that’s a singular type of rage, more like a ‘defend your honor, correct a falsehood, shut down a misogynist’ type anger. Which can be a bad look for a professional.   We are whole human beings, and anger is part of life and it has its purpose. Once you are angry, and before you vent that anger onto others, there is a simple and extremely effective method you can use to calm down.   This method is so effective it is used by the military, medical, and mental health fields alike. And now you can use it too.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode:   How Anger impacts  you physically Your senses and how they  can help you What is the  5-4-3-2-1 method? Long breaths and calm Shame &amp; anger, two sides of the same coin Your body is the key What works for you    Work with Lara   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Episode Image Photo by Faye Cornish on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

Summary: Oh-No she didn’t! It doesn’t matter who you are; mother Theresa, Oprah Winfrey, my Mom, you get mad. Not like ‘teenager forbidden to date a boy’ type mad - that’s a singular type of rage, more like a ‘defend your honor, correct a falsehood, shut down a misogynist’ type anger. Which can be a bad look for a professional. We are whole human beings, and anger is part of life and it has its purpose. Once you are angry, and before you vent that anger onto others, there is a simple and extremely effective method you can use to calm down. This method is so effective it is used by the military, medical, and mental health fields alike. And now you can use it too. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: <ul> <li>How Anger impacts  you physically</li> <li>Your senses and how they  can help you</li> <li>What is the  5-4-3-2-1 method?</li> <li>Long breaths and calm</li> <li>Shame &amp; anger, two sides of the same coin</li> <li>Your body is the key</li> <li>What works for you</li> </ul> Work with Lara <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/on-air-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!</a> <a href="https://calendly.com/laracurrie/assessment" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Free Breakthrough Assessment</a> Got a Question? Comment? Email <a href="mailto:Lara@difficulthappens.com">Lara@difficulthappens.com</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/work-with-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Corporate Training</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Happens-Triggers-Boundaries-Emotions-ebook/dp/B0759VW5F2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                       </a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/services/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ </a> Resources: <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/manipulation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Series on Manipulation</a> <a href="https://difficulthappens.com/assessments/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Series on Assessments</a> © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by <a href="http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Asura/Bonus_Beat_Blast_2011/09_asura-whispering_through" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Asura</a> Episode Image Photo by Faye Cornish on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android &amp; iPhone

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