 Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, we’re talking about something you probably haven’t thought about before. Did you know there’s such a thing as being TOO POSITIVE? It’s called toxic optimism. Toxic Optimism is when we use “positivity” or Christian platitudes to bypass difficult feelings rather than allow ourselves to face and feel the difficult things.  But what we’re actually doing is burying the trauma, the grief, and the pain — instead of dealing with it. And ironically, when we bury it, we end up prolonging the pain because the best way to preserve something is to bury it.  Today I’m talking with Courtney, who struggles with this very thing. Her whole life she’s tried to be “tough, and positive” and make all the right choices in hopes of pleasing God and the people around her…but she’s at a place where all that is on the backburner because she’s feeling really burnt out. We talk through this today, in a raw and honest conversation about her toxic optimism, where it began, and how she uses it to keep from actually dealing and healing. It’s an eye opening conversation with her, and I think it will be for you as well. It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode about toxic optimism. And learn more about toxic optimism in my new book Reset! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, we’re talking about something you probably haven’t thought about before. Did you know there’s such a thing as being TOO POSITIVE? It’s called toxic optimism. Toxic Optimism is when we use “positivity” or Christian platitudes to bypass difficult feelings rather than allow ourselves to face and feel the difficult things. But what we’re actually doing is burying the trauma, the grief, and the pain — instead of dealing with it. And ironically, when we bury it, we end up prolonging the pain because the best way to preserve something is to bury it.  Today I’m talking with Courtney, who struggles with this very thing. Her whole life she’s tried to be “tough, and positive” and make all the right choices in hopes of pleasing God and the people around her…but she’s at a place where all that is on the backburner because she’s feeling really burnt out. We talk through this today, in a raw and honest conversation about her toxic optimism, where it began, and how she uses it to keep from actually dealing and healing. It’s an eye opening conversation with her, and I think it will be for you as well. It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode about toxic optimism. And learn more about toxic optimism in my new book Reset! _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET from Toxic Optimism

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor’s wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions.  Whether it’s screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance…addiction is subtle until it’s serious.  It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor’s wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions.  Whether it’s screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance…addiction is subtle until it’s serious.  It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode! _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET from Addiction (with Irene Rollins)

 Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe it’s your relationship with food.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.  _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe it’s your relationship with food.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.  _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a> <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET My Relationship with Food (on-air session with Erin)

Alex Seely

 Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we’re talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years — but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today…and what a journey!!! It’s such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God — and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God — and WHY.  It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we’re talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years — but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today…and what a journey!!! It’s such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God — and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God — and WHY.  It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET Your View of God (with Alex Seely)

 It’s BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I’m sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I’m talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the “inside-out”. This is an episode you’re going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!! It’s not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day — so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you…and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message – in your life!!! We’re ready for a RESET!!! (Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!) RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

It’s BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I’m sharing my heart behind my new book <a href="https://amzn.to/3mTvFaE" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I’m talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the “inside-out”. This is an episode you’re going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/3mTvFaE" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>!! It’s not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day — so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you…and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message – in your life!!! We’re ready for a <a href="https://amzn.to/3ZO4cWr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>!!! (Check out my Instagram page today <a href="https://www.instagram.com/debrafileta/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@DebraFileta</a> to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!) <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET!! Exclusive BOOK LAUNCH Bonus Episode with Debra

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after – and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix’s story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he’s been holding onto from childhood – that are coming up in his relationships today. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.  _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Please click <a href="https://forms.gle/R2pxjsapZ5otrqjZ6" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  ___ In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after – and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix’s story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he’s been holding onto from childhood – that are coming up in his relationships today. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.  _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a> is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

RESET from Unhealthy Relationships (on-air Session with Felix)

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. _______ RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you’ll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Please click <a href="https://forms.gle/R2pxjsapZ5otrqjZ6" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.  Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.  Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.  Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.  Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.  Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.  It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.  Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.  My new book <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>is all about getting healthy from the inside out. <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">It’s a book of 31 practices</a> that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.   In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>.  We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!  As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life</a>. _______ <a href="https://amzn.to/41NRkB8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RESET </a>comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you’ll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">DebraFileta.com/RESET</a> to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses! <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written six books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>, and <a href="https://debrafileta.com/reset/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">RESET</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a>

It’s Time for RESET! (Audiobook Sneak Peek!)

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today’s on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child — and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far. It’s the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you’re going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways! But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper.  You know what I’m going to say — it’s always deeper than what’s happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions.  Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love &amp; Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCAST –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

Please click <a href="https://forms.gle/R2pxjsapZ5otrqjZ6" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> to fill out our listener survey Today’s on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child — and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far. It’s the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you’re going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways! But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper.  You know what I’m going to say — it’s always deeper than what’s happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions.  Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love &amp; Relationships Podcast</a> and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE</a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://podcasts.google.com/search/Debra%20fileta" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PODCAST</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a> is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">BOOK A SESSION. </a> <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written five books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/@DebraFileta" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more.

Don’t Take It Out On Me. Couples Therapy with Abigail and Daniel.

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we’re digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.  Today we’re digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present. Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don’t take the time to heal. Today we’re going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It’s a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn’t before. We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you’ll listen and learn from this courageous couple. Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love &amp; Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

Please click <a href="https://forms.gle/R2pxjsapZ5otrqjZ6" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> to fill out our listener survey Today we’re digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Today we’re digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present. <blockquote>Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don’t take the time to heal.</blockquote> Today we’re going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It’s a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn’t before. We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you’ll listen and learn from this courageous couple. Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love &amp; Relationships Podcast</a> and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE</a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a> is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BOOK A SESSION. </a> <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written five books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more.

Childhood Wounds. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 2

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.  Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations — and hadn’t talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture.  When they got into marriage and things didn’t match what they expected – they didn’t know what to do. Their wedding night didn’t go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they’ve avoided intimacy every since — physically, emotionally, and even spiritually.  In today’s episode they reveal a big secret they’ve never shared with anyone…and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there’s a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret.  Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love &amp; Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.

Please click <a href="https://forms.gle/R2pxjsapZ5otrqjZ6" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> to fill out our listener survey I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations — and hadn’t talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture. When they got into marriage and things didn’t match what they expected – they didn’t know what to do. Their wedding night didn’t go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they’ve avoided intimacy every since — physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today’s episode they reveal a big secret they’ve never shared with anyone…and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there’s a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret. Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love &amp; Relationships Podcast</a> and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE</a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a> is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BOOK A SESSION. </a> <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Debra Fileta Counselors Network</a>. She’s written five books including <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage,</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iuoXlx" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Are You Really OK?</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/31g0WJT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Married Sex</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="https://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://debrafileta.com/counseling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her or someone from her team today!</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more.

The Disconnected Marriage. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 1

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Love and Relationships with Debra Fileta

Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it?  You can’t avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. “Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy.” (Tweet it!) That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that Dr. Les Parrott (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of the podcast.  After answering my listener question about how she should deal with conflict in her brand-new-marriage, I knew there would be no one better to chat with than Dr. Parrot, leading expert in the area of conflict. Because how you handle conflict tells me a lot about your relationships.   In fact, in this episode, I tell you about an out-of-this-world research study that was able to prove with 90% ACCURACY, which couples would stay together and which couples would get divorced based on how they fought.  That’s no joke. But the good news is that we also talk about what it takes to be successful in this important area of your life. Your fight style is key to the success of your relationships…so you better learn how to fight well. Because conflict can also lead to greater intimacy, if you know how to manage it in a healthy way. Give this episode (31 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy (Tweet it!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today’s show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 003 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: You heard us mention the importance of knowing yourself on today’s show. There are so many aspects to your personality and your fight style is one of those things. Take the YADA assessment and learn more about your personality, your relationships style, your approach to conflict, and so much more: CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE YADA ASSESSMENT NOW! Learn more about your communication patterns, as well as strategies to navigate conflict in a healthy way, including the Speaker-Listener technique mentioned on the show in Chapters 2 &amp; 3 of Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me  Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more.

Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can’t avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. <h2>“Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy.” <a href="https://truelovedates.us3.list-manage.com/track/click?u=bc300aaf47ccb6ad3b6e4b974&amp;id=3327ff5fc7&amp;e=0ad5afb69b" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">(Tweet it!)</a></h2> That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that <a href="https://truelovedates.com/love-is-kind/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dr. Les Parrott</a> (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of the podcast.  After answering my listener question about how she should deal with conflict in her brand-new-<a href="https://truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">marriage</a>, I knew there would be no one better to chat with than Dr. Parrot, leading expert in the area of conflict. Because how you handle conflict tells me a lot about your <a href="https://truelovedates.com/order/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">relationships</a>.  In fact, in this episode, I tell you about an out-of-this-world research study that was able to prove with 90% ACCURACY, which couples would stay together and which couples would get divorced based on how they fought.  That’s no joke. But the good news is that we also talk about what it takes to be successful in this important area of your life. Your fight style is key to the success of your relationships…so you better learn how to fight well. Because conflict can also lead to greater intimacy, if you know how to manage it in a healthy way. <a href="https://truelovedates.us3.list-manage.com/track/click?u=bc300aaf47ccb6ad3b6e4b974&amp;id=8d0682323a&amp;e=0ad5afb69b" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Give this episode (31 minutes) a quick listen</a>, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy <a href="https://truelovedates.us3.list-manage.com/track/click?u=bc300aaf47ccb6ad3b6e4b974&amp;id=a86fb9c955&amp;e=0ad5afb69b" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">(Tweet it!)</a> Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today’s show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 003 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> You heard us mention the importance of knowing yourself on today’s show. There are so many aspects to your personality and your fight style is one of those things. Take the <a href="https://www.yada.com/?aid=b1hnia15yjk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">YADA assessment</a> and learn more about your personality, your relationships style, your approach to conflict, and so much more: <a href="https://www.yada.com/?aid=b1hnia15yjk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE YADA ASSESSMENT NOW</a>! Learn more about your communication patterns, as well as strategies to navigate conflict in a healthy way, including the Speaker-Listener technique mentioned on the show in Chapters 2 &amp; 3 of <a href="https://amzn.to/2LNIOKU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> <a href="https://amzn.to/2NNy8ws" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in <a href="https://amzn.to/2JR6zjq" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to learn more.

90% of Couples Who Got a Divorce Had This One Issue

How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship?  If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school.  Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs.   So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin?  Whether you’re praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love.  8 Ways To Pray For Love Today on the podcast, we’re talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one.  So check out episode 62 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life.  SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: abide.co/love and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you’re going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It’s a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It  FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship?  If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school. <blockquote> Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs.  </blockquote> So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin?  Whether you’re praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love.  <h2>8 Ways To Pray For Love</h2> Today on the podcast, we’re talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one.  So check out episode 62 of the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> to learn eight ways to pray for your love life.  <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:</h2> MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: <a href="https://abide.co/love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">abide.co/love</a> and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you’re going to love <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/21-days-to-pray-for-your-love-life-program/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life</a> Devotional and Prayer Journal. It’s a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! <a href="https://amzn.to/2E2ecD9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season!</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/30iTtFj" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/spring-relationship-growing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/summer-intimacy-loveineveryseason-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/fall-questions-to-ask-your-partner-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/apathy-in-relationship-winter-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://truelovedates.com/free-relationship-quiz/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY</a> Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at <a href="http://getfaithful.com/debra" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://getfaithful.com/debra</a> — 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today!</a>

8 Ways To Pray For Love (Even Before You Have a Relationship)

“Guard your heart”.  That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? How To Guard Your Heart Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart…because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it’s worth protecting. We’ve got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries.  Today we’re talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 36 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

“Guard your heart”.  That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? <h2>How To Guard Your Heart</h2> Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart…because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it’s worth protecting. We’ve got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries.  Today we’re talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 36 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart! Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/oversharing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

How To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded

Ben Stuart

Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?  A: Today’s question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like…is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex? Healthy Dating Is A Thing On today’s episode, we’re talking through this question and the belief that healthy dating is a real thing!! It IS POSSIBLE to date in a way that leaves you with no regrets — even in today’s chaotic culture of relationships. Joining me to answer this question today, is Pastor Ben Stuart from Passion City Church in DC and formerly served as the director of BreakAway Ministries. Ben’s work with young adults and his heart for this topic made him a perfect candidate to tag-team this question with me today. In this episode, we talk through:  Why is dating such a struggle for Christians? How to look at dating in a way that takes the pressure off. The THEME verse that should define the way we do dating. What are some of the key ingredients that make healthy dating a possibility. The three Cs of dating. Why mutual interest and initiation is SO important. Why charm is deceptive… And so much more!!!  Don’t miss this great conversation! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 42 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.  10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys  Connect with Ben Stuart on Instagram or check out his book: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. For more information check out Passion City Church, DC.  Don’t Miss our LAST Online Singles Event of 2019 this FRIDAY!!! Check it out by clicking the photo below:  OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?  A: Today’s question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like…is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex? <h2>Healthy Dating Is A Thing</h2> On today’s episode, we’re talking through this question and the belief that healthy dating is a real thing!! It IS POSSIBLE to date in a way that leaves you with no regrets — even in today’s chaotic culture of relationships. Joining me to answer this question today, is Pastor Ben Stuart from Passion City Church in DC and formerly served as the director of BreakAway Ministries. Ben’s work with young adults and his heart for this topic made him a perfect candidate to tag-team this question with me today. In this episode, we talk through: <ul> <li>Why is dating such a struggle for Christians?</li> <li>How to look at dating in a way that takes the pressure off.</li> <li>The THEME verse that should define the way we do dating.</li> <li>What are some of the key ingredients that make healthy dating a possibility.</li> <li>The three Cs of dating.</li> <li>Why mutual interest and initiation is SO important.</li> <li>Why charm is deceptive…</li> <li>And so much more!!!</li> </ul> Don’t miss this great conversation! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 42 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:</h2> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/biblical-dating-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. </a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/10-girls-heart-break-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/dating-bad-boys-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys</a></li> </ul> Connect with Ben Stuart on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ben_stuart_/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> or check out his book: <a href="https://amzn.to/2JamIDc" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Single, Dating, Engaged, Married</a>. For more information check out <a href="https://passioncitychurch.com/dc/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Passion City Church, DC. </a> Don’t Miss our LAST <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/the-person-you-never-thought-youd-date-a-true-love-dates-singles-online-event/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Online Singles Event of 2019</a> this FRIDAY!!! Check it out by clicking the photo below: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/the-person-you-never-thought-youd-date-a-true-love-dates-singles-online-event/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a>(Debra’s New Book: <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a> Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today</a>!

Healthy Dating Looks Like This: With Ben Stuart

Compatibility is key.  Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship.  Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it’s one that often get’s ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships.  When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to “fit together” well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn’t about finding an exact replica of yourself, it’s about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life.  In order to find a good match, you’ve got to know your shape, and your colors.  Compatibility Looks Like… There are certain big picture topics where it’s important to make sure you have compatibility when you’re in a relationship.  Today on the podcast, we’re talking through those topics! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 44 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband  BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Compatibility is key. Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship.  Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it’s one that often get’s ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships.  When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to “fit together” well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn’t about finding an exact replica of yourself, it’s about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life.  In order to find a good match, you’ve got to know your shape, and your colors.  <h2>Compatibility Looks Like…</h2> There are certain big picture topics where it’s important to make sure you have compatibility when you’re in a relationship.  Today on the podcast, we’re talking through those topics! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 44 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:</h2> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/healthy-dating-podcast-ben-stuart/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/boundaries-with-the-opposite-sex-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband</a></li> </ul> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> (Debra’s New Book: <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a> Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today</a>!

Compatibility in Relationships: How To Know You’re A Good Match

How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship?  What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don’t find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there’s  strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you’re looking for? What if you’re married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog.  Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes – My Body Says No? In today’s episode, I’m having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I’m talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you’ll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you’re going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover:  2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you’ve got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted.  How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical “type” and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you’re living in “the extremes” and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of “physical attraction” in the equation of what you’re looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse.  I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife!  Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You’re going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Gary Thomas, and find all the info about his latest books, at his blog. And be sure to check out my two favorite marriage books he’s written: Sacred Marriage, and Cherish. Find out more about the understanding your attraction template and your sexual pallet, and  learn ways to rekindle attraction in marriage in my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me.

How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship?  What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don’t find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there’s  strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you’re looking for? What if you’re married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog.  Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? <h2>My Mind Says Yes – My Body Says No?</h2> In today’s episode, I’m having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I’m talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you’ll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you’re going to love this candid conversation. <h2>Physical Attraction 101</h2> In this hot-topic episode, we cover: <ul> <li>2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you’ve got a healthy understanding of physical attraction.</li> <li>The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it.</li> <li>We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted. </li> <li>How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction.</li> <li>Understanding your typical “type” and when to be open to other options.</li> <li>Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things.</li> <li>Learning whether or not you’re living in “the extremes” and whether or not you have healthy expectations.</li> <li>Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of “physical attraction” in the equation of what you’re looking for (yep, I said it).</li> <li>The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it!</li> <li>Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse. </li> <li>I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book <a href="https://amzn.to/2wvGKlg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage.</a></li> <li>The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife!</li> </ul> Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You’re going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Connect with Gary Thomas, and find all the info about his latest books, at his <a href="http://www.garythomas.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">blog</a>. And be sure to check out my two favorite marriage books he’s written: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Cb3vQu" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sacred Marriage</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2NML85Y" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Cherish</a>. Find out more about the understanding your attraction template and your sexual pallet, and  learn ways to rekindle attraction in marriage in my book, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a>.

How Important Is Sexual & Physical Attraction: A Candid Conversation with Christian Men

“You just need to wait on God to bring you a relationship.” If you’re single, there’s a good chance you’ve heard that advice at some point along the way. The problem is that what it means to “wait on God” often get’s misinterpreted into meaning that you should DO NOTHING.  Too many singles are on the side of the spectrum of passivity when it comes to their relationships, because they have been taught that waiting on God means you do less and trust God more.  In today’s episode, I’m unpacking why I think this is “bad advice” and what waiting on God should look and feel like when it comes to our romantic relationships. How do you wait on God, yet still continue to pursue your heart’s desire for relationships? Is waiting a God an action, or a place of the heart?  That’s what we’re talking about today!! I love this episode so much, and especially because I’m joined by my friend Kait Warman, an amazing woman with a heart for singles and healthy dating, and who is currently living the single life!! I know this episode will challenge and encourage you, so be sure to tune in! Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to check out our upcoming singles mixer for people in their 20s! It’s an incredible way to connect with eligible singles from the comfort of your own home. I just hosted one for people in their 30s and it was such a huge success. Click the link above to read what everyone said about our time together.  Tune in to Episode 66 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!  SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE  Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It  FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

“You just need to wait on God to bring you a relationship.” If you’re single, there’s a good chance you’ve heard that advice at some point along the way. The problem is that what it means to “wait on God” often get’s misinterpreted into meaning that you should DO NOTHING.  Too many singles are on the side of the spectrum of passivity when it comes to their relationships, because they have been taught that waiting on God means you do less and trust God more.  In today’s episode, I’m unpacking why I think this is “bad advice” and what waiting on God should look and feel like when it comes to our romantic relationships. How do you wait on God, yet still continue to pursue your heart’s desire for relationships? Is waiting a God an action, or a place of the heart?  That’s what we’re talking about today!! I love this episode so much, and especially because I’m joined by my friend Kait Warman, an amazing woman with a <a href="https://www.instagram.com/heartofdating/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">heart for singles and healthy dating</a>, and who is currently living the single life!! I know this episode will challenge and encourage you, so be sure to tune in! Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to check out our upcoming <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/singles-mixer-application/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">singles mixer for people in their 20s</a>! It’s an incredible way to connect with eligible singles from the comfort of your own home. I just hosted one for people in their 30s and it was such a huge success. Click the link above to read what everyone said about our time together.  Tune in to Episode 66 of the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at <a href="http://getfaithful.com/debra" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://getfaithful.com/debra</a> — 10% off your first month!! <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:</h2> <a href="https://amzn.to/2E2ecD9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK today!</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/spring-relationship-growing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/summer-intimacy-loveineveryseason-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/fall-questions-to-ask-your-partner-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/apathy-in-relationship-winter-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://truelovedates.com/free-relationship-quiz/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY</a> MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her today!</a>

Just Wait on God (and other bad relationship advice)

Should I marry him? Today’s caller is having some doubts in the relationship she’s in. She’s not sure if she should just fight through, or if she should just walk away. When do you know that the doubts you’re facing are normal doubts, and when do you recognize that there’s something going on that might be a signal that you need to walk away from this relationships?  In Love In Every Season, I explain that sometimes the problem is in YOU – and sometimes, the problem is in the relationship. It’s important not to simply ignore these doubts, but instead see them as a signal that something needs to change. Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t Get Married In today’s episode, we’re talking through 5 signs that you need to step back from the relationship, and instead, take some time to deal with what is going on from the inside out. If you find yourself wondering “should I marry him/her?” then this episode is for you. If you’re not dating yet, I challenge you to tune in and recognize these signs so that you don’t find yourself struggling in this type of situation. Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to Episode 57 of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season!   For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It  FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Should I marry him? Today’s caller is having some doubts in the relationship she’s in. She’s not sure if she should just fight through, or if she should just walk away. When do you know that the doubts you’re facing are normal doubts, and when do you recognize that there’s something going on that might be a signal that you need to walk away from this relationships?  In <a href="https://amzn.to/36WmKY4" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>, I explain that sometimes the problem is in YOU – and sometimes, the problem is in the relationship. It’s important not to simply ignore these doubts, but instead see them as a signal that something needs to change. <h2>Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t Get Married</h2> In today’s episode, we’re talking through 5 signs that you need to step back from the relationship, and instead, take some time to deal with what is going on from the inside out. If you find yourself wondering “should I marry him/her?” then this episode is for you. If you’re not dating yet, I challenge you to tune in and recognize these signs so that you don’t find yourself struggling in this type of situation. Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to Episode 57 of the Love + Relationship Podcast. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:</h2> <a href="https://amzn.to/2E2ecD9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season!</a> <a href="https://amzn.to/30iTtFj" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> <a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/30iTtFj" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/spring-relationship-growing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/summer-intimacy-loveineveryseason-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/fall-questions-to-ask-your-partner-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/apathy-in-relationship-winter-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://truelovedates.com/free-relationship-quiz/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY?</a> MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today!</a>

Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t.

Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date? When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together. The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you to read about more in this article called “Why You Always Date Jerks“. But make no mistake about it – these bad boys can be recognized from a distance – and the healthier you are, the more quickly and easily you’ll be able to recognize a bad boy when he comes along. Dating The Bad Boys: What To Look For But in this episode – we’re not talking about the WHY….we’re talking about the WHAT. What are the traits that help us recognize when a guy is not good for us? In this 25th of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I’m talking you through a list of 10 guys that you need to avoid like the plague if you start noticing these qualities in your relationship. Because what you see in dating, you’ll see multiplied times 100 in marriage….the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tune in and subscribe by clicking below! And be sure to tune in next week when we talk about the 10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date? When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together. The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you to read about more in this article called “<a href="https://truelovedates.com/why-you-date-jerks/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Why You Always Date Jerks</a>“. But make no mistake about it – these bad boys can be recognized from a distance – and the healthier you are, the more quickly and easily you’ll be able to recognize a bad boy when he comes along. <h2>Dating The Bad Boys: What To Look For</h2> But in this episode – we’re not talking about the WHY….we’re talking about the WHAT. What are the traits that help us recognize when a guy is not good for us? In this 25th of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a>, I’m talking you through a list of 10 guys that you need to avoid like the plague if you start noticing these qualities in your relationship. Because what you see in dating, you’ll see multiplied times 100 in marriage….the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tune in and subscribe by clicking below! And be sure to tune in next week when we talk about the 10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date! Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys?

What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with no prospect of love in sight? “I never imagined I’d be single in my 30s”.  Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined.  I’m not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it’s with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint.  And in this world, there aren’t always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we’re demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart.  Single in my 30s If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward.  Tune into Episode 28 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE  Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST.   For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with no prospect of love in sight? “I never imagined I’d be single in my 30s”. Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself <a href="https://truelovedates.com/5-important-things-to-learn-while-youre-single/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">single </a>at an age she never imagined. I’m not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it’s with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint. And in this world, there aren’t always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/breaking-free-from-the-lies-of-singleness-program/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">lies we can make sure we’re demolishing</a> as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart. <h2>Single in my 30s</h2> If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward. Tune into Episode 28 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a> by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Check out the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/breaking-free-from-the-lies-of-singleness-program/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness</a> Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST. <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/breaking-free-from-the-lies-of-singleness-program/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

Single in Your 30s: How To Hold On To Hope

When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common advice, and unfortunately, it’s advice that comes with a lot of controversy as well as negative repercussion. So should women initiate? And what does that look like in dating, as well as in marriage? The bad relationship advice series continues at TrueLoveDates.com by unpacking this relationship advice and why it can actually wreak havoc on your relationship in the long run.  Should Women Initiate? I’m joined by my friend and author, Phylicia Masonheimer, as we tag-team this important subject. Both Phylicia and I heard and applied this bad relationship advice that women should not initiate at different points in our lives, and in this episode we each unpack how it impacted our respective marriages, discuss why we think this is bad advice, and then offer you a healthier alternative to relationships.  If you’re a woman who has ever wondered about a woman initiating in a relationship, or if you’re a man who has ever had questions about this topic, you don’t want to miss this candid episode that’s not only grounded in psychology, but in biblical truth.  Tune in to Episode 68 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!  SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE  Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: More on this subject:  Leadership, Submission &amp; Headship with Tim + Anne (podcast) 3 Ways To Show Him You’re Interested (article) Can a Woman Make The First Move (podcast) 4 Reasons It’s Okay For a Woman to Initiate a Relationship  ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It  FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common advice, and unfortunately, it’s advice that comes with a lot of controversy as well as negative repercussion. So should women initiate? And what does that look like in dating, as well as in marriage? The <a href="https://truelovedates.com/?s=bad+relationship+advice" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bad relationship advice series</a> continues at <a href="http://TrueLoveDates.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a> by unpacking this relationship advice and why it can actually wreak havoc on your relationship in the long run.  <h2>Should Women Initiate?</h2> I’m joined by my friend and author, <a href="https://phyliciamasonheimer.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Phylicia Masonheimer</a>, as we tag-team this important subject. Both Phylicia and I heard and applied this bad relationship advice that women should not initiate at different points in our lives, and in this episode we each unpack how it impacted our respective marriages, discuss why we think this is bad advice, and then offer you a healthier alternative to relationships.  If you’re a woman who has ever wondered about a woman initiating in a relationship, or if you’re a man who has ever had questions about this topic, you don’t want to miss this candid episode that’s not only grounded in psychology, but in biblical truth.  Tune in to Episode 68 of the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at <a href="http://getfaithful.com/debra" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://getfaithful.com/debra</a> — 10% off your first month!! <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:</h2> More on this subject: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/headship-in-marriage-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Leadership, Submission &amp; Headship with Tim + Anne (podcast)</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/3-ways-to-show-him-youre-interested/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">3 Ways To Show Him You’re Interested (article)</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/make-the-first-move-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Can a Woman Make The First Move (podcast)</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/4-reasons-why-its-okay-for-a-woman-to-initiate-a-relationship/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">4 Reasons It’s Okay For a Woman to Initiate a Relationship</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://amzn.to/2E2ecD9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK today!</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/spring-relationship-growing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/summer-intimacy-loveineveryseason-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/fall-questions-to-ask-your-partner-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/apathy-in-relationship-winter-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://truelovedates.com/free-relationship-quiz/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY</a> MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book an online session with her today!</a>

Women Should Not Initiate (and other bad relationship advice)

I’m always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious or seeming desperate. Today’s episode I’m talking you through THREE things the men said a woman can do to show him she’s interested in him! I interviewed and surveyed all kinds of men to get you these answers, and they’re so much more simple than you would imagine. Showing interest is something that often looks a little different too each gender, so next week- we’re covering the flip side! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 47 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Have a relationship question for me? Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband  BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  (Debra’s New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

I’m always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious or seeming desperate. Today’s episode I’m talking you through THREE things the men said a woman can do to show him she’s interested in him! I interviewed and surveyed all kinds of men to get you these answers, and they’re so much more simple than you would imagine. Showing interest is something that often looks a little different too each gender, so next week- we’re covering the flip side! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 47 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Have a relationship question for me? Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:</h2> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/compatibility-in-relationships-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/healthy-dating-podcast-ben-stuart/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/boundaries-with-the-opposite-sex-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband</a></li> </ul> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> (Debra’s New Book: <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a> Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today</a>!

3 Ways You To Show Him You’re Interested

Q: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”.  A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family? Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be – as well as how you do relationships. Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it’s important to understand the dynamics that are at play.  In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I’m joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today. Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order – why it’s an actual thing, and how we’ve seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through: Birth Order Episode:  We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses. The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses. We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses. What it’s like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!) A hilarious story of how the Willis’ totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child. Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships. How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up. The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order.  It’s a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you’ll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order – and how it might be impacting your closest relationships. So subscribe and click below to tune in to episode 23 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Dave and Ashley Willis have become some of America’s most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas. Check out their latest book, The Naked Marriage, available for pre-order today! For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman’s book: The Birth Order Book, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

Q: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”.  A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family? Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be – as well as how you do relationships. <blockquote>Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it’s important to understand the dynamics that are at play. </blockquote> In this episode of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a>, I’m joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, <a href="https://www.marriagetoday.com/daveandashleywillis/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today</a>. Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order – why it’s an actual thing, and how we’ve seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through: <h2>Birth Order Episode:</h2> <ul> <li>We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses.</li> <li>The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses.</li> <li>We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses.</li> <li>What it’s like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!)</li> <li>A hilarious story of how the Willis’ totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child.</li> <li>Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships.</li> <li>How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up.</li> <li>The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order.</li> </ul> It’s a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you’ll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order – and how it might be impacting your closest relationships. So subscribe and click below to tune in to episode 23 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a>. Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> <a href="https://www.marriagetoday.com/daveandashleywillis/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dave and Ashley Willis</a> have become some of America’s most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas. Check out their latest book, <a href="https://amzn.to/2FQGaEa" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Naked Marriage</a>, available for pre-order today! For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman’s book: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Dpr2Mj" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Birth Order Book</a>, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/oversharing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

Birth Order & Your Love Life: How Birth Order Impacts Your Relationships

What do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can’t recall when I heard a sermon about sexual struggles on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis….one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to “tame the drive” is something you’re going to deal with after you’re married as well. So I thought it was about time to do an episode about sex drive and singleness. LET’S TALK ABOUT…THE SEX DRIVE When we talk about sex on the podcast, everyone gets excited…no pun intended. So, without further to do, click the links below to listen this insightful (and at times, awkward) conversation, as I answer today’s caller who is wondering how on earth can he deal with “the sex drive”  – as he puts it – while he waits for marriage. In this episode I cover:  Why your sex drive (annoying as it may be at times while you’re single) is actually a good thing. Why the sex for marriage sentiment is actually backed up by psychology. The dangerous power of premarital sex. Why your sex drive is actually a symptom of something ELSE going on. The #1 way to stop having shame about your sex drive. How to fuel the spirit and starve the flesh, and what that means for your sex life. Some practical ways to control your sex drive while you’re single. Identifying things you are doing that might be growing your sex drive instead of controlling your sex drive. Why learning to control your sex drive is something you’ll need after you’re married as well. And a whole…lot…more!  You’re going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this necessary, honest, and insightful Episode 011 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about JUNK FOOD RELATIONSHIPS Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Go deeper with this audio lesson: Sex and the Single Life: What To Do with Sexual Desires While You Wait Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

What do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can’t recall when I heard a sermon about <a href="https://truelovedates.com/porn-and-relationships-when-are-sexual-struggles-a-deal-breaker/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">sexual struggles</a> on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis….one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to “tame the drive” is something you’re going to deal with after you’re married as well. So I thought it was about time to do an episode about sex drive and singleness. <h2>LET’S TALK ABOUT…THE SEX DRIVE</h2> When we talk about sex on the podcast, everyone gets excited…no pun intended. So, without further to do, click the links below to listen this insightful (and at times, awkward) conversation, as I answer today’s caller who is wondering how on earth can he deal with “the sex drive”  – as he puts it – while he waits for marriage. In this episode I cover: <ul> <li>Why your sex drive (annoying as it may be at times while you’re single) is actually a good thing.</li> <li>Why the sex for marriage sentiment is actually backed up by psychology.</li> <li>The dangerous power of <a href="https://truelovedates.com/talkaboutsex/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">premarital sex</a>.</li> <li>Why your sex drive is actually a symptom of something ELSE going on.</li> <li>The #1 way to stop having shame about your sex drive.</li> <li>How to fuel the spirit and starve the flesh, and what that means for your sex life.</li> <li>Some practical ways to control your sex drive while you’re single.</li> <li>Identifying things you are doing that might be growing your sex drive instead of controlling your sex drive.</li> <li>Why learning to control your sex drive is something you’ll need after you’re married as well.</li> <li>And a whole…lot…more!</li> </ul> You’re going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this necessary, honest, and insightful Episode 011 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about <a href="https://truelovedates.com/junk-food-healthy-relationships-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JUNK FOOD RELATIONSHIPS</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Go deeper with this audio lesson: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/audio-lesson-sex-and-the-single-life-what-to-do-with-desires-while-you-wait/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex and the Single Life: What To Do with Sexual Desires While You Wait</a> Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

Sex Drive & The Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before It Controls You

Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on last weeks popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn’t Date. Avoiding Heart Break These 10 ladies will string you on…drag you down…and break your heart. But it doesn’t have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we’re going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into Episode 26 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a>, we turn the tables on last weeks popular episode, <a href="https://truelovedates.com/dating-bad-boys-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date</a> by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn’t Date. <h2>Avoiding Heart Break</h2> These 10 ladies will string you on…drag you down…and break your heart. But it doesn’t have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we’re going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into Episode 26 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a> by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heart Break

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I’m talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that?  Or maybe you know someone, someone who you’re in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we need to? How do we apply this to the world of dating and relationships? Oversharing in Relationships Today’s caller is a Melissa – a woman who is struggling with oversharing. She’s wondering why she overshares, and how to know when she’s shared too much. Specifically, she’s dealing with oversharing about her sexual history – finding herself always leading the way with that conversation. On today’s episode, she’s calling in today to talk through some of the issues this has brought up in her relationships. “Because your sexual history may shape you, but it doesn’t define you.” 10 Things NOT TO SHARE early on There are a few reasons why people overshare, and specifically when it comes to our past, we need to understand why we overshare, what’s important to share, and where we need to tone it down. I talk through some reasons we overshare in this episode, because just like I tell Melissa: “It’s not healthy to dive into the deep end of a relationship, before you’ve walked through the shallow end.” So after my conversation with Melissa, I’m talking you through some practicals: 10 things NOT to talk about too soon in a relationship – especially when you’re first getting to know someone in a dating relationship (or even in the early stages of a friendship). Who Should I Share With? And lastly, on this episode I’m talking through the three groups of people in your life, how to categorize them, and understand how much to share with each group. Whether you’re dating, single, or navigating friendships, tune in to Episode 016 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, to listen to this important conversation about oversharing! Episode Highlights:  What does oversharing look like? Why do we overshare in relationships? What are some subjects we should stay away from? When do we share mental health issues? Sexual history? 10 things NOT to talk about early on in a relationship. How to recognize who to share with, and who not to.  SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I’m talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that?  Or maybe you know someone, someone who you’re in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we need to? How do we apply this to the world of dating and relationships? <h2>Oversharing in Relationships</h2> Today’s caller is a Melissa – a woman who is struggling with oversharing. She’s wondering why she overshares, and how to know when she’s shared too much. Specifically, she’s dealing with oversharing about her <a href="https://truelovedates.com/how-far-is-too-far-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">sexual history</a> – finding herself always leading the way with that conversation. On today’s episode, she’s calling in today to talk through some of the issues this has brought up in her relationships. <blockquote>“Because your sexual history may shape you, but it doesn’t define you.”</blockquote> <h2>10 Things NOT TO SHARE early on</h2> There are a few reasons why people overshare, and specifically when it comes to our past, we need to understand why we overshare, what’s important to share, and where we need to tone it down. I talk through some reasons we overshare in this episode, because just like I tell Melissa: <blockquote>“It’s not healthy to dive into the deep end of a relationship, before you’ve walked through the shallow end.”</blockquote> So after my conversation with Melissa, I’m talking you through some practicals: 10 things NOT to talk about too soon in a relationship – especially when you’re first getting to know someone in a dating relationship (or even in the early stages of a friendship). <h2>Who Should I Share With?</h2> And lastly, on this episode I’m talking through the three groups of people in your life, how to categorize them, and understand how much to share with each group. Whether you’re dating, single, or navigating friendships, tune in to Episode 016 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>, to listen to this important conversation about oversharing! <h2>Episode Highlights:</h2> <ul> <li>What does oversharing look like?</li> <li>Why do we overshare in relationships?</li> <li>What are some subjects we should stay away from? When do we share mental health issues? Sexual history?</li> <li>10 things NOT to talk about early on in a relationship.</li> <li>How to recognize who to share with, and who not to.</li> </ul> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about <a href="https://truelovedates.com/junk-food-healthy-relationships-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient</a> Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “<a href="https://truelovedates.com/the-one-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Finding The One</a>“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

Oversharing in Relationships: 10 Things NOT To Talk About Too Soon

How do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust? How does your past influence how you trust in the present? And what if you’ve been burned in your past? We are back with the first episode of season 2 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, answering this important question! To Trust, or Not To Trust: Three Types of Trust Personalities In today’s episode, I’m answering an important question from Danny from St. Louis who finds himself feeling burned from trusting too quickly in relationship because of his tendency to trust too quickly. I talk him through the three different types of trust-personalities: the walls, the free, and the fences…and the trust-temperaments that each one of them brings to relationships. 5 Ways To Build Trust in a Relationship At the end of the episode, I explain 5 important ways to develop trust. Trust in a relationship is such an important thing, but it’s not something that happens automatically, because trust has to be earned. These five things can be used to develop trust for the first time, or even rebuild trust after it’s been broken. This episode is important for anyone who has ever struggled with the topic of trust in a relationship. Click below to tune in to Episode 21 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

How do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust? How does your past influence how you trust in the present? And what if you’ve been burned in your past? We are back with the first episode of season 2 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, answering this important question! <h2>To Trust, or Not To Trust: Three Types of Trust Personalities</h2> In today’s episode, I’m answering an important question from Danny from St. Louis who finds himself feeling burned from trusting too quickly in relationship because of his tendency to trust too quickly. I talk him through the three different types of trust-personalities: the walls, the free, and the fences…and the trust-temperaments that each one of them brings to relationships. <h2>5 Ways To Build Trust in a Relationship</h2> At the end of the episode, I explain 5 important ways to develop trust. Trust in a relationship is such an important thing, but it’s not something that happens automatically, because trust has to be earned. These five things can be used to develop trust for the first time, or even rebuild trust after it’s been broken. This episode is important for anyone who has ever struggled with the topic of trust in a relationship. Click below to tune in to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 21 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS Podcast!</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about <a href="https://truelovedates.com/junk-food-healthy-relationships-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient</a> Or check out this episode and find out what I think about the concept of “<a href="https://truelovedates.com/the-one-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Finding The One</a>“. BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

5 Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

Spiritual warfare isn’t something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the context of our relationships. But by not having this conversation, what if we’re missing something? Because what if there are forces unseen at work, waging war against our hearts and against our relationships? Spiritual Warfare in Relationships According to scripture, “our battle is not simply against flesh and blood…but against the powers of this dark world…and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm” (Ephesians 6:12). According to God’s word – the struggles we face in our lives and in our relationships are often more “unseen” than we realize. Today on the podcast, our question comes from a young man who is wondering exactly if and how spiritual warfare is something that impacts our ability to have healthy relationships. Spiritual Warfare vs. Relationship Problems How do you know if the problem is in the relationship, or if it’s a spiritual attack? What are some things you can do to defend yourself from spiritual warfare? What’s the proper balance of looking at something spiritually, but not seeing everything as a spiritual attack? What’s the role of the armor of God against spiritual warfare? To tag-team this important topic, I invited my friend Dr. Tim Muehlhoff, Director of Resources Biola University’s Center for Marriage and Relationships, and author of Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle. His latest book is an eye-opening look into the implications of spiritual warfare and how it plays out in marriage and relationships. This episode was such a challenging and convicting look into the health of our spiritual life and our spiritual lens. I hope it encourages you as much as it encouraged me. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about spiritual warfare and relationships! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: We talked about the importance of praying as a weapon against spiritual attack. Take some time to PRAY OVER YOUR FUTURE LOVE LIFE by enrolling in the 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Program. Learn more about Biola University’s Center for Marriage and Relationships! For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Spiritual warfare isn’t something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the context of our relationships. But by not having this conversation, what if we’re missing something? Because what if there are forces unseen at work, waging war against our hearts and against our relationships? <h2>Spiritual Warfare in Relationships</h2> According to scripture, “our battle is not simply against flesh and blood…but against the powers of this dark world…and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm” (<a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+6%3A12&amp;version=NIV" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ephesians 6:12</a>). According to God’s word – the struggles we face in our lives and in our relationships are often more “unseen” than we realize. Today on the podcast, our question comes from a young man who is wondering exactly if and how spiritual warfare is something that impacts our ability to have healthy relationships. <h2>Spiritual Warfare vs. Relationship Problems</h2> How do you know if the problem is in the relationship, or if it’s a spiritual attack? What are some things you can do to defend yourself from spiritual warfare? What’s the proper balance of looking at something spiritually, but not seeing everything as a spiritual attack? What’s the role of the armor of God against spiritual warfare? To tag-team this important topic, I invited my friend Dr. Tim Muehlhoff, Director of Resources Biola University’s <a href="http://cmr.biola.edu/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Center for Marriage and Relationships</a>, and author of <a href="https://amzn.to/2JkzT53" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle</a>. His latest book is an eye-opening look into the implications of spiritual warfare and how it plays out in marriage and relationships. This episode was such a challenging and convicting look into the health of our spiritual life and our spiritual lens. I hope it encourages you as much as it encouraged me. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about spiritual warfare and relationships! Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Extras:</h2> We talked about the importance of praying as a weapon against spiritual attack. Take some time to PRAY OVER YOUR FUTURE LOVE LIFE by enrolling in the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/21-days-to-pray-for-your-love-life-program/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Program</a>. Learn more about <a href="http://cmr.biola.edu/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Biola University’s Center for Marriage and Relationships</a>! For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <a href="https://truelovedates.com/age-differences-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage</a> BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/skype-consultation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">book a session with her today</a>!

Spiritual Warfare & Relationships: Is it a relationship problem or a spiritual attack?

Are you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking – you must be. Because you’re here. Reading this article. And you’re in the right place!! At TrueLoveDates.com (the #1 Faith-based relationship advice blog!) I surveyed thousands of people asking them WHERE they were meeting Christian singles…and today I’m sharing the Top 10 places to meet Christian singles.  10 Places To Meet Christian Singles…actually 11 including this:  And make sure to listen to the VERY end…because I have a very practical #11 place — an opportunity for you to meet Christian Singles at our upcoming SINGLES MIXERS!  You’re going to be encouraged by this episode, and reminded that yes, Christian singles DO exists, and there are places to meet Christian singles no matter where you live.  So check out episode 61 of the Love + Relationships Podcast all about places to meet Christian singles! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:  Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It  FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.  And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Are you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking – you must be. Because you’re here. Reading this article. And you’re in the right place!! At <a href="http://TrueLoveDates.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a> (the #1 Faith-based relationship advice blog!) I surveyed thousands of people asking them WHERE they were meeting Christian singles…and today I’m sharing the Top 10 places to meet Christian singles.  <h2>10 Places To Meet Christian Singles…actually 11 including this: </h2> And make sure to listen to the VERY end…because I have a very practical #11 place — an opportunity for you to meet Christian Singles at our upcoming <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/30s-singles-mixer-application/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SINGLES MIXERS</a>! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/product/30s-singles-mixer-application/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> You’re going to be encouraged by this episode, and reminded that yes, Christian singles DO exists, and there are places to meet Christian singles no matter where you live.  So check out episode 61 of the Love + Relationships Podcast all about places to meet Christian singles! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> – <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> – <a href="https://play.google.com/music/m/Ib5kd73gv7az4s7km24besie7fy?t=Love__Relationships_with_Debra_Fileta" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GOOGLE PLAY</a> –  <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-love-relationships-with-de-31158552/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">iHEART RADIO</a> <h2>Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:</h2> <a href="https://amzn.to/2E2ecD9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season!</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2oxI1Yh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/30iTtFj" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: <ul> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/spring-relationship-growing-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/summer-intimacy-loveineveryseason-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/fall-questions-to-ask-your-partner-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume</a></li> <li><a href="https://truelovedates.com/apathy-in-relationship-winter-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://truelovedates.com/free-relationship-quiz/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY</a> Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at <a href="http://getfaithful.com/debra" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://getfaithful.com/debra</a> — 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2ASTa8h" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://amzn.to/2JG8bzi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> And Check out Debra’s <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>, and <a href="https://amzn.to/2YG3Jdv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love In Every Season</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. 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It’s not usually the big things that cause relationship problems…it’s the small things.  It’s the little things that go unaddressed and add up with time that end up causing more damage in a relationship than anyone ever expects. So how do you avoid them? You start by recognizing them. Top 10 Relationship Problems There’s a few big picture things that can really mess with your relationship and with your marriage. The problem is, most people don’t know about these things. They aren’t on the lookout. And then they come into counseling years later when their marriage is practically on life support. This is why I believe the more we know, the better we will do. And that’s exactly why I want to take the time to talk through these relationship problems on this episode of the podcast. So tune in to Episode 017 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to listen to this important conversation addressing 10 major relationship problems that you need to know about! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE   Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers.  Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! 

It’s not usually the big things that cause relationship problems…it’s the small things.  It’s the little things that go unaddressed and add up with time that end up causing more damage in a relationship than anyone ever expects. So how do you avoid them? You start by recognizing them. <h2>Top 10 Relationship Problems</h2> There’s a few big picture things that can really mess with your relationship and with your marriage. The problem is, most people don’t know about these things. They aren’t on the lookout. And then they come into counseling years later when their marriage is practically on life support. This is why I believe the more we know, the better we will do. And that’s exactly why I want to take the time to talk through these relationship problems on this episode of the podcast. So tune in to Episode 017 of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a> to listen to this important conversation addressing 10 major relationship problems that you need to know about! <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE</a> <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351?mt=2&amp;i=1000416638379" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Additional Ways To Listen: <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/debra-fileta/love-relationships-with-debra-fileta?refid=stpr" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">STITCHER</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/36P7FuUa8DZefzNLYHtfFE?si=hh9vDX9qR5GtiY-51EAiGw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SPOTIFY</a> Want to be on the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast?</a>  Go to <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/</a> to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the <a href="https://truelovedates.com/top-10-relationship-killers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Top 10 Relationship Killers.</a> <h2>Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:</h2> Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about <a href="https://truelovedates.com/junk-food-healthy-relationships-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient</a> Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “<a href="https://truelovedates.com/the-one-podcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Finding The One</a>“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out <a href="https://amzn.to/2Kn3cRl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We &gt; Me</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life</a>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2BJDWG7" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://amzn.to/2QABmWh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"></a> DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/choosingmarriage/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Choosing Marriage</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2vYqrwI" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">True Love Dates</a>. She’s also the host of the hotline style <a href="https://truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Love + Relationships Podcast</a>. Her popular relationship advice blog, <a href="http://www.truelovedates.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">TrueLoveDates.com</a>, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/truelovedates/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, or <a href="http://twitter.com/DebFileta" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>!

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