Check out the full post today's episode:  http://www.jairekrobbins.com/the-key-difference-between-dreamers-and-achievers/   Hello! We are back from a fun weekend house hunting in Miami! We enjoyed our time and totally enjoyed the vibe and energy of the city! We also got to tour some amazing properties, like the one above! Talk about #GOALS!   As we look to make this change, planning comes to the forefront of our minds. I've said it over and over - Your Dream life does not happen by accident. With that being said.. What is your performance plan?    In this week's Vlog, we dive into the key difference between those who achieve their dream and those whose remains just that.. a dream! ***Pardon the audio on this one. #learninglesson ***  Check it out and if you want support and accountability in making that dream happen, register for a 30-minute discovery session with one of our Performance Coaches!    To your success,   Jairek Robbins Best Selling Author of LIVE IT! Achieve Success By Living With Purpose Decorated Performance Coach &amp; World Renowned Speaker

Check out the full post today's episode:  <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/the-key-difference-between-dreamers-and-achievers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/the-key-difference-between-dreamers-and-achievers/</a> Hello! We are back from a fun weekend house hunting in Miami! We enjoyed our time and totally enjoyed the vibe and energy of the city! We also got to tour some amazing properties, like the one above! Talk about #GOALS! As we look to make this change, planning comes to the forefront of our minds. I've said it over and over - Your Dream life does not happen by accident. With that being said.. What is your performance plan?  In this week's Vlog, we dive into the key difference between those who achieve their dream and those whose remains just that.. a dream! ***Pardon the audio on this one. #learninglesson *** <a href="https://jairekrobbins.infusionsoft.com/app/email/broadcast/~Link-37029~" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Check it out</a> and if you want support and accountability in making that dream happen, register for a <a href="https://jairekrobbins.infusionsoft.com/app/email/broadcast/~Link-37031~" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">30-minute discovery session with one of our Performance Coaches</a>!  To your success, Jairek Robbins Best Selling Author of LIVE IT! Achieve Success By Living With Purpose Decorated Performance Coach &amp; World Renowned Speaker

The Key Difference Between Dreamers and Achievers

Roberto Monaco

Today we sit down with one of our featured Performance Coach University expert’s Mr. Roberto Monaco of http://influenceology.com/Let me give you some background. When I first starting my coaching and speaking career, I worked and practiced on my presentation over and over again. It was pretty good, or so I thought. Then one day, Roberto, a long-time friend of mine, sat me down. He said, you’re so close. You’re very very close. You know what’s missing. What will take you from just another aspiring speaker and coach to a true influencer, someone who makes a real difference in someone’s life? The audience needs more of YOUR stories.   Check out the full post and get the notes from today's interview here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/learning-to-influence-through-storytelling/

Today we sit down with one of our featured Performance Coach University expert’s Mr. Roberto Monaco of <a href="http://influenceology.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://influenceology.com/</a> Let me give you some background. When I first starting my coaching and speaking career, I worked and practiced on my presentation over and over again. It was pretty good, or so I thought. Then one day, Roberto, a long-time friend of mine, sat me down. He said, you’re so close. You’re very very close. You know what’s missing. What will take you from just another aspiring speaker and coach to a true influencer, someone who makes a real difference in someone’s life? The audience needs more of YOUR stories. Check out the full post and get the notes from today's interview here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/learning-to-influence-through-storytelling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/learning-to-influence-through-storytelling/</a>

Interview: Learning to Influence through Storytelling with Roberto Monaco

Check out this week's full episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/1-question-that-leads-to-real-results/   Hello! Thank you for checking out another episode of JRCtv! We are excited to share with you this week that we are transitioning to a new look and feel. Amanda and I want to be able to share more of our life with you and give you a peak into our daily routine so moving forward we will be sharing with you Vlog Style! In the coming weeks, we will have new interviews, resources and awesome new experiences to share. That’s not the only thing new coming, if you are not already, be sure to follow us on Facebook as we have some exciting giveaways happening in the coming weeks! Follow, Like and Stay tuned! Today we are packing up and heading to St. Louis to film with Shawn Stevenson author of Sleep Smarter: 21 Essential Strategies to Sleep Your Way to a Better Body, Better Health, and Bigger Success! Looking forward to sharing this experience with you soon. Until then, check out today’s episode where I dive into the one question you need to be asking yourself to ensure you achieve the results you are looking for in life, business, relationships and your physical goals.   To Your Success,   Jairek

Check out this week's full episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=5088&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/1-question-that-leads-to-real-results/</a> Hello! Thank you for checking out another episode of JRCtv! We are excited to share with you this week that we are transitioning to a new look and feel. Amanda and I want to be able to share more of our life with you and give you a peak into our daily routine so moving forward we will be sharing with you Vlog Style! In the coming weeks, we will have new interviews, resources and awesome new experiences to share. That’s not the only thing new coming, if you are not already, be sure to follow us on <a href="https://jairekrobbins.infusionsoft.com/app/email/broadcast/~Link-36241~" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> as we have some exciting giveaways happening in the coming weeks! <a href="https://jairekrobbins.infusionsoft.com/app/email/broadcast/~Link-36237~" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Follow, Like and Stay tuned!</a> Today we are packing up and heading to St. Louis to film with Shawn Stevenson author of Sleep Smarter: 21 Essential Strategies to Sleep Your Way to a Better Body, Better Health, and Bigger Success! Looking forward to sharing this experience with you soon. Until then, check out today’s episode where I dive into the one question you need to be asking yourself to ensure you achieve the results you are looking for in life, business, relationships and your physical goals. To Your Success, Jairek

VLOG: 1 Question that Leads to Real Results

Chris Voss

Interview: Negotiation Skills From Former FBI Agent Chris Voss

Download the worksheet that goes along with today episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-fail-your-way-to-success/     Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCtv, this week we’re talking about how to fail your way to success.    Now when talking about failure there’s three things that will teach you some of the most important lessons in life.  A hungry stomach, an empty wallet, and a broken heart.  Now I know that’s very motivating and exciting to start this week’s episode with but there’s truth in that.  If you’ve ever had a moment, I remember you know one time when I was in college I came home to my apartment and I checked the mail and I have a bunch of bills and I checked the bank account and there was a lot more bills than money in the bank account.    And I remember being like “Oh no!” and it wasn’t like a little bit off, it was like $50 compared to $2,000 off.  It was like “oh” and there was no feasible income coming in the range these bills were due.  Now I remember literally like having my stomach turn upside down, butterflies in my chest being like, “Oh shoot”, I really messed this one up this month.    And you know that will teach you a lesson like anything else, it’ll teach you how to prepare for the future.  It’ll teach you how to organize yourself, it’ll teach you how to really make sure you don’t do that again hopefully, not everyone learns a lesson the first time. Not only that, I remember there are times in my life where you know I hate to bring these memories up but I’m, sure you’ve had your time to where you had a heartbreak.    You know I remember in high school crying myself to sleep and waking up still feeling sad because I broke up with a girlfriend at that time and it was pretty heartbreaking and sad at that time but I remember learning from that experience.  I’m trying to figure out you know, what happened, what did I really learned in that process?  How can I grow from this?  How can I improve the next time around and make sure it doesn’t hurt as bad that time or a way to make sure I am better prepared from what might occur.    So there’s questions you can ask that can prepare you and we’re gonna put some of those in today’s download we wanna make sure you grab them and then finally, you know… a hungry stomach I know I’ve had days and times and luckily thank goodness, knock on wood I grew up in a very privileged position where both of my parents worked extremely hard in different ways and make sure that I never had nights where I’d go to bed hungry but I know all around the world there’s places where people do have that and then those nights where there are no food. I remember one of my closest friends in San Diego he told me “You know some of the biggest lessons I learned is when I was 13 years old walking around town, dude a dollar would have changed my life on that day.”  and I said, “What do you mean?” he’s like, “I just want a burrito and I’m pretty sure I could get one in a store for a dollar and I just didn’t have a dollar” and I said, “ What did you learn from it?” and he said “ You know, I learned I had to be hungry in life”  (laughs) and I said, “ No what does that really mean to you? “ and he said, “ I learned to be hungry enough, to work hard enough to never have a day in my life again that I’ll ever have to have that feeling in my stomach ever again and hopefully work hard enough that no one that I care about will have to have that feeling either.” And I was like “Wow!”   So what’s interesting about this is looking at this moment of “failure” when things don’t work out, when things fall apart, when things aren’t going the way you want, there’s one key consistent element in all these stories that allow it to serve you instead of break you.  And the one key element is something that an author of the book called, MINDSET, her name is Carol Dweck, she’s a researcher and she found out, there’s something called a “growth mindset”.    Now in today’s download, we’re gonna give you a bunch of key factors that a growth mindset has with.  We’ve talked about this before if you wanna hear a whole episode of this just Google “growth mindset Jairek Robbins and I’m sure other JRCTV episodes will pop up that we talked about it then and a growth mindset one factor that it believes is  “failure is part of the process”.   Failure in your relationship is part of the process.  Having times when it breaks down and it’s not what you imagined it would be is part of the process, you know having times in business where you go out and you give your best effort and didn’t work out, part of the process, you know having times in your health where you worked really hard and you don’t get the result you really want or you hurt yourself, ouch…failure… part of the process.    And so what’s interesting is part of the process allow you to stay centered, to stay strong, and stay grounded when it happened and go… part of the process.  But you can’t just go part of the process and keep doing the same thing and keep having the same failure over and over again, that’s a definition of insanity.  Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result meaning if every time you go about doing it you always fail you need a new strategy.    And so this is interesting because failure is part of the process but not failing at the same thing over and over again.  I remember I met a lady a long time ago, and she told me “Listen, sometimes when you run into a brick wall in life there’s usually three signals that life tries to send you before you actually have everything fall apart, the first that life send you is whisper, a little hint, a little soft intuition feeling that says hey you might need to update your strategy” and most people go… “ ahhh whatever “ and keep going. ' And eventually life takes a brick, and it just throws it at you and it says, “Hey! Update your strategy”  and you’re like "Awww, it kinda hurt I bet if I just keep going I bet it’ll work”  and some people keep letting it happen long enough that it burns everything down in your life.  What does that look like, your marriage falls apart, your business goes bankrupt, you go to the doctor and he says “Hey, you have so many days, weeks, or months to live.”  That’s life going “Hey! Attention! You need to update your strategy.”   That’s the extreme example.  I always tell people, listen to the whispers of destiny because they’re really really useful if you hear them.  And the key with this that you want to remember in listening for the whispers of destiny you wanna teach yourself to listen to your intuition.   Our friend Gabby Bernstein she’s been a guest in JRCtv she talks about listening to your inner guide and how to de-clutter your mind and emotions and the spiritual side of yourself to become more in tune with your intuition it’s a beautiful book she’d written on that process.    So, with that in mind what you wanna do is you wanna be really in tune with your gut so that you hear the whispers when life throws them in your way and you can allow them to guide you through the process of when you need to update your strategy and when you need to stay persistent, the key here is though throughout the process whether it’s staying consistent and persistent or it’s updating the strategy, either way, there’s one truth to be told and one truth to be told is you need a growth mindset if you’re gonna claim that victory in the end.   So I highly recommend that go grab a copy of Carol Dweck’s, Mindset and I highly recommend to download the worksheet today the reason I point down is hopefully it’s on the blog here.  Download today’s worksheet and you wanna answer a handful of questions on there to help you figure out if you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset as well we give you a link to a website to Carol Dweck created on how to shift your mindset from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset if you happened to be caught up in the fixed mindset.   Have fun with this, go apply it, share it with other people you know we have a philosophy of learn what it takes, live it and apply it yourself, and give it, pay it forward so make sure to pay this forward to friends and family who you believe that could benefit.  Have fun with this and I look forward to next week for another episode of JRCtv. Bye.

Download the worksheet that goes along with today episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=5060&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-fail-your-way-to-success/</a> Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCtv, this week we’re talking about how to fail your way to success.  Now when talking about failure there’s three things that will teach you some of the most important lessons in life.  A hungry stomach, an empty wallet, and a broken heart.  Now I know that’s very motivating and exciting to start this week’s episode with but there’s truth in that.  If you’ve ever had a moment, I remember you know one time when I was in college I came home to my apartment and I checked the mail and I have a bunch of bills and I checked the bank account and there was a lot more bills than money in the bank account.  And I remember being like “Oh no!” and it wasn’t like a little bit off, it was like $50 compared to $2,000 off.  It was like “oh” and there was no feasible income coming in the range these bills were due.  Now I remember literally like having my stomach turn upside down, butterflies in my chest being like, “Oh shoot”, I really messed this one up this month.  And you know that will teach you a lesson like anything else, it’ll teach you how to prepare for the future.  It’ll teach you how to organize yourself, it’ll teach you how to really make sure you don’t do that again hopefully, not everyone learns a lesson the first time. Not only that, I remember there are times in my life where you know I hate to bring these memories up but I’m, sure you’ve had your time to where you had a heartbreak.  You know I remember in high school crying myself to sleep and waking up still feeling sad because I broke up with a girlfriend at that time and it was pretty heartbreaking and sad at that time but I remember learning from that experience.  I’m trying to figure out you know, what happened, what did I really learned in that process?  How can I grow from this?  How can I improve the next time around and make sure it doesn’t hurt as bad that time or a way to make sure I am better prepared from what might occur.  So there’s questions you can ask that can prepare you and we’re gonna put some of those in today’s download we wanna make sure you grab them and then finally, you know… a hungry stomach I know I’ve had days and times and luckily thank goodness, knock on wood I grew up in a very privileged position where both of my parents worked extremely hard in different ways and make sure that I never had nights where I’d go to bed hungry but I know all around the world there’s places where people do have that and then those nights where there are no food. I remember one of my closest friends in San Diego he told me “You know some of the biggest lessons I learned is when I was 13 years old walking around town, dude a dollar would have changed my life on that day.”  and I said, “What do you mean?” he’s like, “I just want a burrito and I’m pretty sure I could get one in a store for a dollar and I just didn’t have a dollar” and I said, “ What did you learn from it?” and he said “ You know, I learned I had to be hungry in life”  (laughs) and I said, “ No what does that really mean to you? “ and he said, “ I learned to be hungry enough, to work hard enough to never have a day in my life again that I’ll ever have to have that feeling in my stomach ever again and hopefully work hard enough that no one that I care about will have to have that feeling either.” And I was like “Wow!” So what’s interesting about this is looking at this moment of “failure” when things don’t work out, when things fall apart, when things aren’t going the way you want, there’s one key consistent element in all these stories that allow it to serve you instead of break you.  And the one key element is something that an author of the book called, MINDSET, her name is Carol Dweck, she’s a researcher and she found out, there’s something called a “growth mindset”.  Now in today’s <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-fail-your-way-to-success/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">download</a>, we’re gonna give you a bunch of key factors that a growth mindset has with.  We’ve talked about this before if you wanna hear a whole episode of this just Google “growth mindset Jairek Robbins and I’m sure other JRCTV episodes will pop up that we talked about it then and a growth mindset one factor that it believes is  “failure is part of the process”. Failure in your relationship is part of the process.  Having times when it breaks down and it’s not what you imagined it would be is part of the process, you know having times in business where you go out and you give your best effort and didn’t work out, part of the process, you know having times in your health where you worked really hard and you don’t get the result you really want or you hurt yourself, ouch…failure… part of the process.  And so what’s interesting is part of the process allow you to stay centered, to stay strong, and stay grounded when it happened and go… part of the process.  But you can’t just go part of the process and keep doing the same thing and keep having the same failure over and over again, that’s a definition of insanity.  Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result meaning if every time you go about doing it you always fail you need a new strategy.  And so this is interesting because failure is part of the process but not failing at the same thing over and over again.  I remember I met a lady a long time ago, and she told me “Listen, sometimes when you run into a brick wall in life there’s usually three signals that life tries to send you before you actually have everything fall apart, the first that life send you is whisper, a little hint, a little soft intuition feeling that says hey you might need to update your strategy” and most people go… “ ahhh whatever “ and keep going. ' And eventually life takes a brick, and it just throws it at you and it says, “Hey! Update your strategy”  and you’re like "Awww, it kinda hurt I bet if I just keep going I bet it’ll work”  and some people keep letting it happen long enough that it burns everything down in your life.  What does that look like, your marriage falls apart, your business goes bankrupt, you go to the doctor and he says “Hey, you have so many days, weeks, or months to live.”  That’s life going “Hey! Attention! You need to update your strategy.” That’s the extreme example.  I always tell people, listen to the whispers of destiny because they’re really really useful if you hear them.  And the key with this that you want to remember in listening for the whispers of destiny you wanna teach yourself to listen to your intuition. Our friend Gabby Bernstein she’s been a guest in JRCtv she talks about listening to your inner guide and how to de-clutter your mind and emotions and the spiritual side of yourself to become more in tune with your intuition it’s a beautiful book she’d written on that process.  So, with that in mind what you wanna do is you wanna be really in tune with your gut so that you hear the whispers when life throws them in your way and you can allow them to guide you through the process of when you need to update your strategy and when you need to stay persistent, the key here is though throughout the process whether it’s staying consistent and persistent or it’s updating the strategy, either way, there’s one truth to be told and one truth to be told is you need a growth mindset if you’re gonna claim that victory in the end. So I highly recommend that go grab a copy of Carol Dweck’s, Mindset and I highly recommend to download the worksheet today the reason I point down is hopefully it’s on the blog here.  <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-fail-your-way-to-success/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Download today’s worksheet</a> and you wanna answer a handful of questions on there to help you figure out if you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset as well we give you a link to a website to Carol Dweck created on how to shift your mindset from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset if you happened to be caught up in the fixed mindset. Have fun with this, go apply it, share it with other people you know we have a philosophy of learn what it takes, live it and apply it yourself, and give it, pay it forward so make sure to pay this forward to friends and family who you believe that could benefit.  Have fun with this and I look forward to next week for another episode of JRCtv. Bye.

How to Fail Your Way to Success

Grab the worksheet that goes along with this week's episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/create-a-deeper-more-meaningful-relationship/   Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV.   Yes we are still in beautiful Vail, Colorado as you can see the beautiful, epic scenery behind us.  Today we’re talking about something that can literally be a making point or breaking point of any relationship you’re in.    We’re gonna focus on intimate relationships because it’s important but you can use this concept for a business relationship, friendship, or you know just an acquaintance, or you can use it for even getting to know your kids or family better and someway shape or form and what we’re talking about is the ability to be deeply and profoundly curious about the person that you’re in a relationship with.  What does that mean?     Well, what it means is you wanna get to know what is their blueprint, meaning their thoughts, their beliefs, their values, the organizing principle and pillars by which they live their life.  Here’s what’s wild, most of us are not really that aware consciously of our own belief system, our own organizing foundational principles, and pillars.  How do I know that? Because if I were to say what’s most important do you have in life?    You might say?  “Okay, okay now you might come to that, what else is most important to you in life? Now if you are to take the one or two, here’s my question, when did you consciously decide that and what point in your life did you sit down and say, okay here’s all my options and everything I could value.     I could value love, I could value spirituality, I could value God, I could value giving, I could value being successful, I could value being a good person, I could value making a difference, being strong, being powerful, I could value all kind of stuff, I’m going to choose this one.  When did you do that last?    Now for some of you, you might have done it but for most of you, I’m gonna say you never consciously made the decision.  You’re living by default.  Meaning you’re community, your friends, your family, where you grew up, who you hang up with, where you worked, a mentor, someone you look up to, told you something and you were “Oh yeah, that’s right”  and now you’re just living by default instead of by choice.   So right now what I want you  to do is first, download today’s worksheet we’re giving you a handful of questions on the majors of life something we talked about in our book ‘Live It! Achieve Success by Living with Purpose’, in chapter two and three we talked about the majors of life , health, emotions, relationships, spirituality, business, finances, your time management,  relationships, community, the major elements of life and in this worksheet today that we’re gonna give you on the blog jairekrobbins.com/blog,check out this blog, download the worksheet when you get it  it’s gonna have a couple of questions in each section not all of them but a couple to help you get a head start and it’s gonna help you to find what you really believe and what you really value in each of this major categories on life.    Now I want you to start by first answering the questions yourself and then I want you to go to someone you care about, your significant other, your spouse, your kids, your family, your friends, your co-workers maybe even your business partner or associates possibly a client, someone you wanna get to know better and I want you to have them answer the questions as well.    Then after they answer and after you answer the questions separately share them with each other I want you to become curious about what they believe that’s number step 1.  So step 1 is defining yourself.  Step 2 share with each other and then here’s step 3, I want to have you dig deep into why they believe that and I want you to help define when did they start believing that.    This will help you create a tighter bond with each other and so the very first step is to say, what do you value in health? And then they tell you and then you say why do you value that and let them explain and say, what moment of your life, what events, what situations? What significant emotional experiences caused you to believe that?    And what will happen is you’ll start to get to know this person at a whole different level of depth because you’ll start to understand why they’ve chosen to believe certain core elements of their life certain core foundational beliefs of who they are you’ll start to learn why they’ve chosen that and what happened in their life that caused them to believe that or caused them to choose that.    This is really important, it’ll create depth and connection in a whole new level for you both.  Now the reason it can make or break a relationship that’s how to make a relationship better, how can this break a relationship? Really simple if you don’t know why someone believes things they believe and you don’t know what caused them to believe that and you don’t know how they came to that conclusion and how long they’ve thought it?    Could you imagine when butt heads on a concept and you have no empathy, or caring or understanding of how they came to that conclusion and you think just their wrong and they think you’re wrong this is where relationships, you butt head and things get hairy and falls apart.     So instead take time to do this in advance, get to know them cause here’s what’s wild. We fall in love and get excited we think and assume that they believe what we believe and they value what we value and we’re just the same, it’s not true. As much as we wanna believe it, its drugs in your head, oxytocin is kicking in, dopamine is kicking in, you’re all excited and you start to assume stuff. Don’t assume, ask! Get to know them and get to know them with depth not just surface not just say, why do you believe that?    Okay good, but why do you believe that and what caused you what experiences happened in your life, health, emotions,  business, family, what moments occurred that caused you to form that belief , that experience … now you have more depth connection and empathy with that person.     So have fun with today’s worksheet, download it, follow the steps:  first, figure out yourself, second have them do it, third share with each other fourth, ask them why or how did you come on that belief then dig deep and figure out what moment caused them to believe that and have fun getting to know each other at a whole different level.    Have fun with this and I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCTv.

Grab the worksheet that goes along with this week's episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/create-a-deeper-more-meaningful-relationship/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/create-a-deeper-more-meaningful-relationship/</a> Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Yes we are still in beautiful Vail, Colorado as you can see the beautiful, epic scenery behind us.  Today we’re talking about something that can literally be a making point or breaking point of any relationship you’re in.  We’re gonna focus on intimate relationships because it’s important but you can use this concept for a business relationship, friendship, or you know just an acquaintance, or you can use it for even getting to know your kids or family better and someway shape or form and what we’re talking about is the ability to be deeply and profoundly curious about the person that you’re in a relationship with.  What does that mean?  Well, what it means is you wanna get to know what is their blueprint, meaning their thoughts, their beliefs, their values, the organizing principle and pillars by which they live their life.  Here’s what’s wild, most of us are not really that aware consciously of our own belief system, our own organizing foundational principles, and pillars.  How do I know that? Because if I were to say what’s most important do you have in life?  You might say?  “Okay, okay now you might come to that, what else is most important to you in life? Now if you are to take the one or two, here’s my question, when did you consciously decide that and what point in your life did you sit down and say, okay here’s all my options and everything I could value.  I could value love, I could value spirituality, I could value God, I could value giving, I could value being successful, I could value being a good person, I could value making a difference, being strong, being powerful, I could value all kind of stuff, I’m going to choose this one.  When did you do that last? Now for some of you, you might have done it but for most of you, I’m gonna say you never consciously made the decision.  You’re living by default.  Meaning you’re community, your friends, your family, where you grew up, who you hang up with, where you worked, a mentor, someone you look up to, told you something and you were “Oh yeah, that’s right”  and now you’re just living by default instead of by choice. So right now what I want you  to do is first, <a href="/learnitliveitgiveit/episode/Grab%20the%20worksheet%20that%20goes%20along%20with%20this%20week" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">download today’s worksheet</a> we’re giving you a handful of questions on the majors of life something we talked about in our book ‘Live It! Achieve Success by Living with Purpose’, in chapter two and three we talked about the majors of life , health, emotions, relationships, spirituality, business, finances, your time management,  relationships, community, the major elements of life and in this worksheet today that we’re gonna give you on the blog <a href="http://jairekrobbins.com/blog,check" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">jairekrobbins.com/blog,check</a> out this blog, download the worksheet when you get it  it’s gonna have a couple of questions in each section not all of them but a couple to help you get a head start and it’s gonna help you to find what you really believe and what you really value in each of this major categories on life.  Now I want you to start by first answering the questions yourself and then I want you to go to someone you care about, your significant other, your spouse, your kids, your family, your friends, your co-workers maybe even your business partner or associates possibly a client, someone you wanna get to know better and I want you to have them answer the questions as well.  Then after they answer and after you answer the questions separately share them with each other I want you to become curious about what they believe that’s number step 1.  So step 1 is defining yourself.  Step 2 share with each other and then here’s step 3, I want to have you dig deep into why they believe that and I want you to help define when did they start believing that. This will help you create a tighter bond with each other and so the very first step is to say, what do you value in health? And then they tell you and then you say why do you value that and let them explain and say, what moment of your life, what events, what situations? What significant emotional experiences caused you to believe that?  And what will happen is you’ll start to get to know this person at a whole different level of depth because you’ll start to understand why they’ve chosen to believe certain core elements of their life certain core foundational beliefs of who they are you’ll start to learn why they’ve chosen that and what happened in their life that caused them to believe that or caused them to choose that.  This is really important, it’ll create depth and connection in a whole new level for you both.  Now the reason it can make or break a relationship that’s how to make a relationship better, how can this break a relationship? Really simple if you don’t know why someone believes things they believe and you don’t know what caused them to believe that and you don’t know how they came to that conclusion and how long they’ve thought it?  Could you imagine when butt heads on a concept and you have no empathy, or caring or understanding of how they came to that conclusion and you think just their wrong and they think you’re wrong this is where relationships, you butt head and things get hairy and falls apart.  So instead take time to do this in advance, get to know them cause here’s what’s wild. We fall in love and get excited we think and assume that they believe what we believe and they value what we value and we’re just the same, it’s not true. As much as we wanna believe it, its drugs in your head, oxytocin is kicking in, dopamine is kicking in, you’re all excited and you start to assume stuff. Don’t assume, ask! Get to know them and get to know them with depth not just surface not just say, why do you believe that? Okay good, but why do you believe that and what caused you what experiences happened in your life, health, emotions,  business, family, what moments occurred that caused you to form that belief , that experience … now you have more depth connection and empathy with that person.  So<a href="/learnitliveitgiveit/episode/Grab%20the%20worksheet%20that%20goes%20along%20with%20this%20week" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> have fun with today’s worksheet, download it, follow the steps</a>:  first, figure out yourself, second have them do it, third share with each other fourth, ask them why or how did you come on that belief then dig deep and figure out what moment caused them to believe that and have fun getting to know each other at a whole different level.  Have fun with this and I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCTv.

Create a Deeper More Meaningful Relationship

Download the worksheet that goes with today's episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-stop-fear-in-its-tracks/   Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV.    As you can see we’re in beautiful Vail, Colorado check out that scenery back there pretty fantastic.  Today we’re talking about something that I learned when I was really little trying to learn how to snowboard.  I have an amazing father who believes the best way to break though fear is to feel the fear and do it anyways.    And so when I was little kid I’ll tell you a quick story to set this off.  When I was little kid I remember going up to the top of the mountain with my dad cause his philosophy was the best way to teach your child how to turn on a snowboard is to take them to the steepest part of the mountain because you have to turn otherwise you roll down the hill.    Let’s just say I rolled down the hill a few times because I was afraid of turning and when that fear ended up my body at that moment of my life I was not good at what I’m about to teach you.  At that moment of my life I cried, I gave up, and dad and I ended up at some pretty bad shouting matches at top of the mountain about; “I’m gonna go down the hill.” “No, I’m not.”   So, it’s an interesting memories here on the slopes but it also taught me something that later in life. Now I’ve learn to be used as an incredible asset. It’s something I wanna share with you.  The concept when fear takes over in your body we can measure this nowadays and the best way to measure if you are in a fearful place is based on your breathing pattern.    I’ll tell you number one breath pattern that tells you that are in fearful state, You’re not breathing.  If you catch yourself holding your breath and thinking about everything that might go right or wrong in the next 10 minutes in your freaking about it, you’re in a fearful state.  You’re body’s going in a fight or flight.   Really rapidly breathing, you’re like (panting) if you’re freaking out like that you’re having a panic attack and it feels like that on your breath obviously that’s putting you into a fearful state or an erratic state which is not gonna help you focus or feel strong or confident in that moment. You know there a few other patterns but those two are the main ones, if you’re holding your breath or if your breath pattern is out of control.      Now, when that happens, you’re body’s going to fight or flight or a light level of shock and as that’s happening there are few things that are going on into your physical body.  Your muscles tighten; your body starts to break down fuel faster so you have energy, that you can propel yourself to either fight like heck or run like heck, it’s fight or flight.    For men, we lose our peripheral vision, meaning we start to have tunnel vision and everything out here disappears so that we can laser focus on what we either you attack or run from.  Now the other thing that happens is our eyes really focus, they get really it’s not that it, but they start to focus really strongly so we can clearly see where we need to go or where we need to run from.    And so it is wild on this concept is we lose our ability to use our executive functioning part of our brain which is the logical, decision-making part of our brain.  So, here’s what I’m gonna tell you to do, whenever you get in to a fearful state, I wish someone would have taught me this crying and sitting on my butt on top of the mountain back in the days, but I gotta tell you now so you can save yourself from the pain, the frustration, and those moments I’ve been through.   Whenever you feel yourself getting in to fearful state your breath patterns becomes erratic and then you start holding your breath and get really intense, all of a sudden you seem to not being able to think clearly and you’re kinda lost, your scattered in those moments is a signal that the very first thing you need to do is STOP.   STOP! Take a step back and literally assess the situation and by assessing the situation what you wanna do is you wanna train your brain to ask three questions:   Is this a normal problem? Is this an abnormal problem? Is this literally a life-threatening problem right now.   Now the reason why you wanna ask those three questions is because why on the world would you freak out on a normal problem? If it’s normal. If it’s meant to happen there’s no reason to freak out there’s no reason to have fear, there’s no reason to be upset. You know when I was a little kid I would have known this, I was like “hey falling down when trying to learn how to snow board is a normal problem.” Why would I freak out?   You know, if it’s abnormal meaning you’ve been snowboarding for 15 years and you still can’t figure out how to turn, that is an abnormal problem.  And if you’re trying to use that technique while back country snowboarding that is a life threatening problem. So I don’t have a life-threatening problem we were a normal blues greens and black runs so that was not life threatening.    Number two, was it abnormal? No it was perfectly normal so there’s absolutely zero reason to freak out in that case if it’s a normal problem the next step is to reset your nervous system because when you’re in fight or flight you cannot logically think well enough to actually get through the challenge.    So what do you have to do? Number one, you have to take 3 deep breaths that reset your nervous system, your central nervous system here, how you do that is really simple, do this with me… you’re gonna take a deep breath (inhale) and at the very top when you feel completely full you’re gonna do a little more (inhale) and then you’re gonna hold it for 3 seconds.     So ready.. breathe in (inhale) one more (inhale) hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3)and then all at once out into your mouth. And if you notice if you let it out you wanna drop your shoulders, drop your head and let out all the air at once. So let’s try it 3 in a row, real quick…   Ready, breath in (counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one   One more time, (inhale counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one   One more time, (inhale counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one   Now it happens when you that if you’ve noticed a friend of mine who studied the breath work for three years taught me that he said it literally reset like pressing that reset button on an electronic device it resets your nervous system and allows you to get out of fight or flight and back to actual logical thinking that’s what we wanna get back to.    Now that you’re in actual logical thought process you then wanna say “Okay, let me put together the next three moves in order to make progress, just as simple as that.” So number one, step back and asses.. is this life normal, abnormal of life threatening?  If it’s normal no problem three deep breaths reset your nervous system and then say “Okay, what are the next three steps that have to happen now?” and then once you’ve figure out with the three things all you need to do immediately take action on number one and that simple little philosophy right there will help you take fear and instead of letting it push you and pull you around and leave you frozen in your tracks freaking out or crying like a little wuss on top of the mountain like I was that time of my life. Instead, you can reset, re-calibrate organize your steps, lock on, take action and kick some butt.  Have fun with this, use it and please pay it forward to other people who you know get stuck in a fearful state coz this is a real freedom you can give them and yourself by using this process.  Also make sure to download today’s worksheet because it has the little formula typed up and a couple of questions that will help you identify normal, abnormal or life-threatening as well as what are the next three steps?    You’re gonna have your form as a way to apply and get through it.  It also serves as a good back up option in case your brain gets hijacked when you’re in fight or flight and you can’t logically think through it, use the form… just follow the steps and boom it’ll get you right through it every time.    Download today’s worksheet, have fun with it and I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

Download the worksheet that goes with today's episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=5029&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-stop-fear-in-its-tracks/</a> Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV.  As you can see we’re in beautiful Vail, Colorado check out that scenery back there pretty fantastic.  Today we’re talking about something that I learned when I was really little trying to learn how to snowboard.  I have an amazing father who believes the best way to break though fear is to feel the fear and do it anyways.  And so when I was little kid I’ll tell you a quick story to set this off.  When I was little kid I remember going up to the top of the mountain with my dad cause his philosophy was the best way to teach your child how to turn on a snowboard is to take them to the steepest part of the mountain because you have to turn otherwise you roll down the hill.  Let’s just say I rolled down the hill a few times because I was afraid of turning and when that fear ended up my body at that moment of my life I was not good at what I’m about to teach you.  At that moment of my life I cried, I gave up, and dad and I ended up at some pretty bad shouting matches at top of the mountain about; “I’m gonna go down the hill.” “No, I’m not.” So, it’s an interesting memories here on the slopes but it also taught me something that later in life. Now I’ve learn to be used as an incredible asset. It’s something I wanna share with you.  The concept when fear takes over in your body we can measure this nowadays and the best way to measure if you are in a fearful place is based on your breathing pattern.  I’ll tell you number one breath pattern that tells you that are in fearful state, <ol><li>You’re not breathing.  If you catch yourself holding your breath and thinking about everything that might go right or wrong in the next 10 minutes in your freaking about it, you’re in a fearful state.  You’re body’s going in a fight or flight.</li> </ol> <ol><li>Really rapidly breathing, you’re like (panting) if you’re freaking out like that you’re having a panic attack and it feels like that on your breath obviously that’s putting you into a fearful state or an erratic state which is not gonna help you focus or feel strong or confident in that moment. You know there a few other patterns but those two are the main ones, if you’re holding your breath or if your breath pattern is out of control. </li> </ol> Now, when that happens, you’re body’s going to fight or flight or a light level of shock and as that’s happening there are few things that are going on into your physical body.  Your muscles tighten; your body starts to break down fuel faster so you have energy, that you can propel yourself to either fight like heck or run like heck, it’s fight or flight.  For men, we lose our peripheral vision, meaning we start to have tunnel vision and everything out here disappears so that we can laser focus on what we either you attack or run from.  Now the other thing that happens is our eyes really focus, they get really it’s not that it, but they start to focus really strongly so we can clearly see where we need to go or where we need to run from.  And so it is wild on this concept is we lose our ability to use our executive functioning part of our brain which is the logical, decision-making part of our brain.  So, here’s what I’m gonna tell you to do, whenever you get in to a fearful state, I wish someone would have taught me this crying and sitting on my butt on top of the mountain back in the days, but I gotta tell you now so you can save yourself from the pain, the frustration, and those moments I’ve been through. Whenever you feel yourself getting in to fearful state your breath patterns becomes erratic and then you start holding your breath and get really intense, all of a sudden you seem to not being able to think clearly and you’re kinda lost, your scattered in those moments is a signal that the very first thing you need to do is STOP. STOP! Take a step back and literally assess the situation and by assessing the situation what you wanna do is you wanna train your brain to ask three questions: Is this a normal problem? Is this an abnormal problem? Is this literally a life-threatening problem right now. Now the reason why you wanna ask those three questions is because why on the world would you freak out on a normal problem? If it’s normal. If it’s meant to happen there’s no reason to freak out there’s no reason to have fear, there’s no reason to be upset. You know when I was a little kid I would have known this, I was like “hey falling down when trying to learn how to snow board is a normal problem.” Why would I freak out? You know, if it’s abnormal meaning you’ve been snowboarding for 15 years and you still can’t figure out how to turn, that is an abnormal problem.  And if you’re trying to use that technique while back country snowboarding that is a life threatening problem. So I don’t have a life-threatening problem we were a normal blues greens and black runs so that was not life threatening.  Number two, was it abnormal? No it was perfectly normal so there’s absolutely zero reason to freak out in that case if it’s a normal problem the next step is to reset your nervous system because when you’re in fight or flight you cannot logically think well enough to actually get through the challenge.  So what do you have to do? Number one, you have to take 3 deep breaths that reset your nervous system, your central nervous system here, how you do that is really simple, do this with me… you’re gonna take a deep breath (inhale) and at the very top when you feel completely full you’re gonna do a little more (inhale) and then you’re gonna hold it for 3 seconds.  So ready.. breathe in (inhale) one more (inhale) hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3)and then all at once out into your mouth. And if you notice if you let it out you wanna drop your shoulders, drop your head and let out all the air at once. So let’s try it 3 in a row, real quick… Ready, breath in (counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one One more time, (inhale counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one One more time, (inhale counting with fingers 1,2,3) a little bit more hold it (counting with fingers 1,2,3) all the way out… that’s one Now it happens when you that if you’ve noticed a friend of mine who studied the breath work for three years taught me that he said it literally reset like pressing that reset button on an electronic device it resets your nervous system and allows you to get out of fight or flight and back to actual logical thinking that’s what we wanna get back to.  Now that you’re in actual logical thought process you then wanna say “Okay, let me put together the next three moves in order to make progress, just as simple as that.” So number one, step back and asses.. is this life normal, abnormal of life threatening?  If it’s normal no problem three deep breaths reset your nervous system and then say “Okay, what are the next three steps that have to happen now?” and then once you’ve figure out with the three things all you need to do immediately take action on number one and that simple little philosophy right there will help you take fear and instead of letting it push you and pull you around and leave you frozen in your tracks freaking out or crying like a little wuss on top of the mountain like I was that time of my life. Instead, you can reset, re-calibrate organize your steps, lock on, take action and kick some butt.  Have fun with this, use it and please pay it forward to other people who you know get stuck in a fearful state coz this is a real freedom you can give them and yourself by using this process.  Also make sure to download today’s worksheet because it has the little formula typed up and a couple of questions that will help you identify normal, abnormal or life-threatening as well as what are the next three steps?  You’re gonna have your form as a way to apply and get through it.  It also serves as a good back up option in case your brain gets hijacked when you’re in fight or flight and you can’t logically think through it, use the form… just follow the steps and boom it’ll get you right through it every time.  Download today’s worksheet, have fun with it and I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

How to Stop Fear in its Tracks

Download the worksheet that goes with today's episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-apologize-like-you-mean-it/   Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV.   Today we are talking about those moments where you messed up and you know you did and you have to apologize.  We’re talking about how to apologize in a way it’ll actually be received really, well specifically in a relationship. One of the number one most important don’t ever do's is to say "I’m sorry your feelings are hurt" because in that moment if you did something and you need to apologize, when you say "I’m sorry your feelings are hurt", what you’re basically telling the other person is you’re not taking responsibility for whatever just happened, that hurt their feelings versus if you say, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings”.   In that moment instead of, "I’m sorry you’re hurt", it’s "I’m sorry I did something to hurt your feelings". In that moment you’re taking responsibility because the number 1 step for an apology is, you have to take responsibility for whatever just happened to help them in that moment understand that you are owning the fact that their feelings are hurt.   Now whenever I share this with people a lot of times they tell me something like, “but wait a minute, What if I didn’t do it? What if I didn’t hurt their feelings, what if they’re just being sensitive? What if it wasn’t my fault?”  Well here is the big question, would you rather both be happy or would you rather be right? Because this is a big factor that a lot of people mess up on, and they would say, “I would rather be right and factual”.   It’s like “well great, then you deal with someone being unhappy in your life, you deal with the pain, the frustrations, the anger, the upset that’s going to come from this and how many days, weeks, and months it’s going to last again and again and again if you don’t handle it now, versus if you want to handle it right now at this moment. You can literally cap it, let it go away and it’ll never repeat, it’ll never return, it’ll never poke it’s little head out three months from now and say “remember that one time when you did that?”.   It’ll be gone it’ll be released from their nervous system.  So if you want the ability to release it so it never comes back ... Number one is: You have to own it  – Step number one: "I’m sorry I hurt your feelings.”   Number two:  In that moment, you then have to dig deep and figure out what specifically hurt their feelings, you got to ask... “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings but I’d love to know what happened, what did I do? And if they go “Oh, that ,you know what you did!” in that moment go “ No please, I think I missed it, otherwise I would know what to say, but I’m sorry I hurt your feelings but I’m not sure what did it.  I just to own the fact that I know I did it but what specifically did I do?” and help pinpoint the exact moment, the exact time, the exact word, the exact feeling, the exact look you gave him the exact thing you did or didn’t do that hurt their feelings.   And in that moment, again, just won it...don’t rebut, don’t try to say “but I didn’t mean that”  don’t argue it, don’t justify it, don’t do anything except for own it.  And say, "Sorry, wow, okay, I didn’t know that was it, I’m sorry I hurt your feelings when I said that or I did that specifically...will you forgive me?"  And in that moment, if they go “Yeah fine , whatever, you’re forgiven, okay, just leave me alone.” in that moment say “No, I genuinely I would like to own this and I only hope that you would take a moment to actually release and forgive me and if you’re willing that,I’d appreciate it.”   And if it’s genuine, and you care, and it’s real in that moment you might allow them to finally release that little piece of anger, or frustration or hurt that hit them, and hopefully, if they can let it out and release it ...it’s gone! And you won’t ever have to do it again, but those are a couple of steps that might help when forgiving.   Now the other factor here is, remember you got to take ownership, you got to get specific and then you have to ask for forgiveness and make sure that it’s real and genuine.  The final moment is after they said yes after they release it say “Hey can we wrap up real quick?  For just one thing, I’d love to personally be able to share with you five things I love and appreciate about you, and if you’d be open too, I’d love to know maybe five things you love and appreciate about me.",  and end with five things that you love and appreciate about them and them sharing with you as well.   And what happens is, in the moment you own the fact that their feelings are hurt , you find out what specifically that caused it and own that as well, you ask for forgiveness, and then you reconnect and rekindle the love and connection, and intimacy if it’s your intimate partner back into that relationship.   Even if it’s a business partner, you figure out that you own the fact that you hurt their feelings, you upset them, you ask what specifically did it, you ask for forgiveness for that specifically and then reconnect and say “You know what, the five things I love about you, as my business partner, I love and appreciate this, this, this, this and this.”  and you rekindle that relationship and rebuild the bond.   So hopefully this is helpful.  Download today’s worksheet and there are little tips there for you, have some fun with this, go heal some relationship, go get rid of some anger, go help other people release that so that you can finally have the peace and freedom in their life  that they deserve.   Have fun with this and I hope to see you next week for another episode of JRCTV.  Until then, have an amazing week.

Download the worksheet that goes with today's episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=5015&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-apologize-like-you-mean-it/</a> Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we are talking about those moments where you messed up and you know you did and you have to apologize.  We’re talking about how to apologize in a way it’ll actually be received really, well specifically in a relationship. One of the number one most important don’t ever do's is to say "I’m sorry your feelings are hurt" because in that moment if you did something and you need to apologize, when you say "I’m sorry your feelings are hurt", what you’re basically telling the other person is you’re not taking responsibility for whatever just happened, that hurt their feelings versus if you say, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings”. In that moment instead of, "I’m sorry you’re hurt", it’s "I’m sorry I did something to hurt your feelings". In that moment you’re taking responsibility because the number 1 step for an apology is, you have to take responsibility for whatever just happened to help them in that moment understand that you are owning the fact that their feelings are hurt. Now whenever I share this with people a lot of times they tell me something like, “but wait a minute, What if I didn’t do it? What if I didn’t hurt their feelings, what if they’re just being sensitive? What if it wasn’t my fault?”  Well here is the big question, would you rather both be happy or would you rather be right? Because this is a big factor that a lot of people mess up on, and they would say, “I would rather be right and factual”. It’s like “well great, then you deal with someone being unhappy in your life, you deal with the pain, the frustrations, the anger, the upset that’s going to come from this and how many days, weeks, and months it’s going to last again and again and again if you don’t handle it now, versus if you want to handle it right now at this moment. You can literally cap it, let it go away and it’ll never repeat, it’ll never return, it’ll never poke it’s little head out three months from now and say “remember that one time when you did that?”. It’ll be gone it’ll be released from their nervous system.  So if you want the ability to release it so it never comes back ... Number one is: You have to own it  – Step number one: "I’m sorry I hurt your feelings.” Number two:  In that moment, you then have to dig deep and figure out what specifically hurt their feelings, you got to ask... “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings but I’d love to know what happened, what did I do? And if they go “Oh, that ,you know what you did!” in that moment go “ No please, I think I missed it, otherwise I would know what to say, but I’m sorry I hurt your feelings but I’m not sure what did it.  I just to own the fact that I know I did it but what specifically did I do?” and help pinpoint the exact moment, the exact time, the exact word, the exact feeling, the exact look you gave him the exact thing you did or didn’t do that hurt their feelings. And in that moment, again, just won it...don’t rebut, don’t try to say “but I didn’t mean that”  don’t argue it, don’t justify it, don’t do anything except for own it.  And say, "Sorry, wow, okay, I didn’t know that was it, I’m sorry I hurt your feelings when I said that or I did that specifically...will you forgive me?"  And in that moment, if they go “Yeah fine , whatever, you’re forgiven, okay, just leave me alone.” in that moment say “No, I genuinely I would like to own this and I only hope that you would take a moment to actually release and forgive me and if you’re willing that,I’d appreciate it.” And if it’s genuine, and you care, and it’s real in that moment you might allow them to finally release that little piece of anger, or frustration or hurt that hit them, and hopefully, if they can let it out and release it ...it’s gone! And you won’t ever have to do it again, but those are a couple of steps that might help when forgiving. Now the other factor here is, remember you got to take ownership, you got to get specific and then you have to ask for forgiveness and make sure that it’s real and genuine.  The final moment is after they said yes after they release it say “Hey can we wrap up real quick?  For just one thing, I’d love to personally be able to share with you five things I love and appreciate about you, and if you’d be open too, I’d love to know maybe five things you love and appreciate about me.",  and end with five things that you love and appreciate about them and them sharing with you as well. And what happens is, in the moment you own the fact that their feelings are hurt , you find out what specifically that caused it and own that as well, you ask for forgiveness, and then you reconnect and rekindle the love and connection, and intimacy if it’s your intimate partner back into that relationship. Even if it’s a business partner, you figure out that you own the fact that you hurt their feelings, you upset them, you ask what specifically did it, you ask for forgiveness for that specifically and then reconnect and say “You know what, the five things I love about you, as my business partner, I love and appreciate this, this, this, this and this.”  and you rekindle that relationship and rebuild the bond. So hopefully this is helpful.  Download today’s worksheet and there are little tips there for you, have some fun with this, go heal some relationship, go get rid of some anger, go help other people release that so that you can finally have the peace and freedom in their life  that they deserve. Have fun with this and I hope to see you next week for another episode of JRCTV.  Until then, have an amazing week.

How to Apologize Like You Mean It

Download the worksheet that goes with this week's episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-let-go-of-the-past/   Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCtv.   Today we are talking about the physical, mental, emotional jail that you can lock yourself in by holding a grudge, by holding on to anger, by holding on to anything that you dislike about a person.   Something they did in the past, something you thought they might have done a meaning you’ve associated that causing you to be upset, angry, frustrated, jealous, any of these negative emotions and what it’s causing is literally you right there in there to be in pain.   And what’s wild about this I’ve heard it said being angry at someone or holding a grudge against someone is the equivalent of drinking poison and hoping for them to die in the process.  It’s crazy and insane.   What’s wild about it is the whole concept of when you choose to let it go when you choose to release, to forgive, to finally et go of that anger, frustration, jealousy, upset, whatever it is that you’ve been holding on to.   The person that’s freed from the entire experience is you.  It’s not them, it’s not the person you were angry with or upset about.  And believe it or not, holding on to the anger, holding on to the frustration, the tension the jealousy, whatever it is that you’re holding on to they don’t feel any of that.   They don’t have the mess up the biochemistry of their body they don’t have their core to soul levels rise they don’t have their heart rate pick up speed, they don’t have their brain to kick in their fly or fight, they don’t have to deal with how you’re choosing to respond to your family, your co-workers, your partners, your friends your community your clients.   They’re the one not dealing with all the repercussion of this you are.   So I ask you, I beg of you…please make a decision by downloading today’s worksheet writing this up make a decision to first, identify the specific moment of thought of feeling or the specific person the situation, identify what it is that really, truly you’ve been holding on too so tight and ask yourself, why have I really hold on to this?   What are your reasons for choosing to hold on so tightly to this rope is burning to your hands causing all the pain in you?  Ask yourself what would happen if I chose to let go of this and free yourself.   From the rope that’s burning your hand from the thought that’s burning your mind, the emotions burning your heart. And ask yourself what freedom will this give you on the other side.   The freedom of not having to think about it ever again, the freedom of not having to feel it ever again, the freedom of not having to bring that emotional, mental, chemical cocktail in your body each day that is poisoning you inside out.   And finally, ask yourself why are you determined to let this go today.  Not another day, not another moment, not another hour you will not allow this any longer to play a role in tearing you down and make a commitment today and act to move forward.   So download today’s worksheet make sure to go through it make that decision and please send us a note and let us know that you’ve done it so we can hold you accountable to freedom within yourself from that which has jailed you , and poisoned you and hurt you for so long but not another day not another not another moment.   So please make a decision today to finally cut it off once and for all and choose freedom, choose love, choose joy, choose happiness, choose clarity of mind and choose to really have the  life that you desire on the surface not allowing other people to dictate how you’re feel each day based on soothing that happened a long time or short time ago.   So please download today’s worksheet take action, free yourself once and for all and I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCtv.   Until then have an amazing week.

Download the worksheet that goes with this week's episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=4995&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-let-go-of-the-past/</a> Hey there welcome back to another episode of JRCtv. Today we are talking about the physical, mental, emotional jail that you can lock yourself in by holding a grudge, by holding on to anger, by holding on to anything that you dislike about a person. Something they did in the past, something you thought they might have done a meaning you’ve associated that causing you to be upset, angry, frustrated, jealous, any of these negative emotions and what it’s causing is literally you right there in there to be in pain. And what’s wild about this I’ve heard it said being angry at someone or holding a grudge against someone is the equivalent of drinking poison and hoping for them to die in the process.  It’s crazy and insane. What’s wild about it is the whole concept of when you choose to let it go when you choose to release, to forgive, to finally et go of that anger, frustration, jealousy, upset, whatever it is that you’ve been holding on to. The person that’s freed from the entire experience is you.  It’s not them, it’s not the person you were angry with or upset about.  And believe it or not, holding on to the anger, holding on to the frustration, the tension the jealousy, whatever it is that you’re holding on to they don’t feel any of that. They don’t have the mess up the biochemistry of their body they don’t have their core to soul levels rise they don’t have their heart rate pick up speed, they don’t have their brain to kick in their fly or fight, they don’t have to deal with how you’re choosing to respond to your family, your co-workers, your partners, your friends your community your clients. They’re the one not dealing with all the repercussion of this you are. So I ask you, I beg of you…please make a decision by downloading today’s worksheet writing this up make a decision to first, identify the specific moment of thought of feeling or the specific person the situation, identify what it is that really, truly you’ve been holding on too so tight and ask yourself, why have I really hold on to this? What are your reasons for choosing to hold on so tightly to this rope is burning to your hands causing all the pain in you?  Ask yourself what would happen if I chose to let go of this and free yourself.   From the rope that’s burning your hand from the thought that’s burning your mind, the emotions burning your heart. And ask yourself what freedom will this give you on the other side. The freedom of not having to think about it ever again, the freedom of not having to feel it ever again, the freedom of not having to bring that emotional, mental, chemical cocktail in your body each day that is poisoning you inside out. And finally, ask yourself why are you determined to let this go today.  Not another day, not another moment, not another hour you will not allow this any longer to play a role in tearing you down and make a commitment today and act to move forward. So download today’s worksheet make sure to go through it make that decision and please send us a note and let us know that you’ve done it so we can hold you accountable to freedom within yourself from that which has jailed you , and poisoned you and hurt you for so long but not another day not another not another moment. So please make a decision today to finally cut it off once and for all and choose freedom, choose love, choose joy, choose happiness, choose clarity of mind and choose to really have the  life that you desire on the surface not allowing other people to dictate how you’re feel each day based on soothing that happened a long time or short time ago. So please download today’s worksheet take action, free yourself once and for all and I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCtv. Until then have an amazing week.

How to Let Go of the Past

Download the worksheet from today's episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/why-oxytocin-is-important/   Hey there! Welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re talking about the number one most important factor that can literally keep us alive as a small baby; that can reconnect us in the moments that we feel disconnected or slightly not together with the spouse.   It’s something that can calm us after travel or anytime that are let’s say cortisol or nerves or stress is high, can immediately bring that stress down and connect us back to the deepest, most connected part of ourselves.   What we’re talking about today is oxytocin or human touch. There’s something called failure to thrive syndrome, which is if you have a small baby and it is not connected to, it is not held within so long literally, it can actually die as an infant which is ridiculous and crazy. But it’s so true.   Not only is failure to thrive syndrome in a very small baby but it’s something that many times has been said when we travel, it spikes cortisol levels, which spikes chemical stress inside of our body, makes us tense, kicks us back into the fire flight mode as a human brain is concerned, which means we either attack the ones we love or we run away from a conversation moment.   And what’s wild and interesting in that is instead of fighting, instead of freaking out and running away from the distraction and craziness, what’s very interesting and what you can do immediately in that moment is after a long travel time, the first thing that you’re going to want to do is embrace another person.   Human touch, connect with them, hug them. Because in that moment, what starts to happen is literally you release massive amounts of oxytocin in your mind, your body, in your blood. And what it does is immediately lowers the cortisol levels and brings your stress down to allow you to reconnect with the logical part of your brain instead of getting caught up in the crazy fire flight moment.   So number 1, as babies we need that touch. Number 2, when we’re travelling a lot or when in high stress situations, you want lots of touch and connection to bring down those stress levels. And number 3, in a relationship – this is probably one of the most important ones that I found – is if in a moment you figure out that your partner, your spouse, your lover has a hidden moment where they’re tense, they’re caught off guard, their mind is going everywhere in all directions all at once, and you want to help ground them, to bring them back to this very moment and become present. One thing you can do is just reach out and touch them. And all of a sudden in that moment, you’re human touch, if you as a man reaching to a woman, will become the loudest thing in her world.   Meaning, we’re biologically made that when you reach out and touch another person, specifically a woman, what it will cause is her entire nervous system, her entire world, thoughts, emotions, feelings – everything going on – to immediately come to that one thing that’s touching her. The rest of the world will become silent, for just a moment about 30 seconds, for her to connect, figure out what is it that’s touching her, is it safe or not, and give it all her attention all at once in that very moment for about 30 seconds.   So gentleman, if you have something very important you want to share with the person you love, one thing you might want to do is first reach out and touch their hand, connect with them physically, and then share what it is that you’d like to share with them. Because in that sharing, they’ll now be able to hear it because everything else in their world will become silent so they can truly connect with what it is you want to share them with.   So 3 areas oxytocin is critical: number 1, failure to thrive in infant, holding your small ones. If you find the baby is stressed or tensed or crying, holding them, cuddling them, snuggling them allows that oxytocin to release, which allows them to reconnect and reground and feel comforted and loved and rebalance their stress.   Number 2, we talked about travel or high stressed situations, that’s including work, travel, adventure, anything we’re stressed and cortisol level spike up in that moment, connecting with another person, embracing them to allow their oxytocin to then come back into your system, to resettle you and connect you.   And finally, we talked about relationships, if you have something very important you want to share with your lover, first hold them. And in holding them and connecting with them, then share it so it becomes the loudest thing in that world in the moment.   I hope you use these tools and these thoughts in your life, in your business, in your health, in your relationships and really do some magic with them. If you want, grab a copy of this week’s download. We go over these 3 areas you can use it. We also give you a couple of other tips on a different hormone transmitter that can also show you how to get the maximum performance out of your mind, body and emotions.   So grab the download, have some fun with it, go use this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV.     Till then, have an amazing week. Bye.

Download the worksheet from today's episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=4979&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/why-oxytocin-is-important/</a> Hey there! Welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re talking about the number one most important factor that can literally keep us alive as a small baby; that can reconnect us in the moments that we feel disconnected or slightly not together with the spouse. It’s something that can calm us after travel or anytime that are let’s say cortisol or nerves or stress is high, can immediately bring that stress down and connect us back to the deepest, most connected part of ourselves. What we’re talking about today is oxytocin or human touch. There’s something called failure to thrive syndrome, which is if you have a small baby and it is not connected to, it is not held within so long literally, it can actually die as an infant which is ridiculous and crazy. But it’s so true. Not only is failure to thrive syndrome in a very small baby but it’s something that many times has been said when we travel, it spikes cortisol levels, which spikes chemical stress inside of our body, makes us tense, kicks us back into the fire flight mode as a human brain is concerned, which means we either attack the ones we love or we run away from a conversation moment. And what’s wild and interesting in that is instead of fighting, instead of freaking out and running away from the distraction and craziness, what’s very interesting and what you can do immediately in that moment is after a long travel time, the first thing that you’re going to want to do is embrace another person. Human touch, connect with them, hug them. Because in that moment, what starts to happen is literally you release massive amounts of oxytocin in your mind, your body, in your blood. And what it does is immediately lowers the cortisol levels and brings your stress down to allow you to reconnect with the logical part of your brain instead of getting caught up in the crazy fire flight moment. So number 1, as babies we need that touch. Number 2, when we’re travelling a lot or when in high stress situations, you want lots of touch and connection to bring down those stress levels. And number 3, in a relationship – this is probably one of the most important ones that I found – is if in a moment you figure out that your partner, your spouse, your lover has a hidden moment where they’re tense, they’re caught off guard, their mind is going everywhere in all directions all at once, and you want to help ground them, to bring them back to this very moment and become present. One thing you can do is just reach out and touch them. And all of a sudden in that moment, you’re human touch, if you as a man reaching to a woman, will become the loudest thing in her world. Meaning, we’re biologically made that when you reach out and touch another person, specifically a woman, what it will cause is her entire nervous system, her entire world, thoughts, emotions, feelings – everything going on – to immediately come to that one thing that’s touching her. The rest of the world will become silent, for just a moment about 30 seconds, for her to connect, figure out what is it that’s touching her, is it safe or not, and give it all her attention all at once in that very moment for about 30 seconds. So gentleman, if you have something very important you want to share with the person you love, one thing you might want to do is first reach out and touch their hand, connect with them physically, and then share what it is that you’d like to share with them. Because in that sharing, they’ll now be able to hear it because everything else in their world will become silent so they can truly connect with what it is you want to share them with. So 3 areas oxytocin is critical: number 1, failure to thrive in infant, holding your small ones. If you find the baby is stressed or tensed or crying, holding them, cuddling them, snuggling them allows that oxytocin to release, which allows them to reconnect and reground and feel comforted and loved and rebalance their stress. Number 2, we talked about travel or high stressed situations, that’s including work, travel, adventure, anything we’re stressed and cortisol level spike up in that moment, connecting with another person, embracing them to allow their oxytocin to then come back into your system, to resettle you and connect you. And finally, we talked about relationships, if you have something very important you want to share with your lover, first hold them. And in holding them and connecting with them, then share it so it becomes the loudest thing in that world in the moment. I hope you use these tools and these thoughts in your life, in your business, in your health, in your relationships and really do some magic with them. If you want, grab a copy of this week’s download. We go over these 3 areas you can use it. We also give you a couple of other tips on a different hormone transmitter that can also show you how to get the maximum performance out of your mind, body and emotions. <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/why-oxytocin-is-important/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">So grab the download</a>, have some fun with it, go use this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV. Till then, have an amazing week. Bye.

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Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re focused on how to strengthen and improve your willpower.    So what is willpower?   Willpower is the ability to look right into the eyes of temptation. Something that’s challenging you, that pulls you on track and says “Hey, choose me, choose me”. Well that’s temptation – a physical temptation, an emotional temptation, a dietary temptation, a relationship temptation or dating or I don’t know what you want to call it – but something you know that is not good for you, is not good for others, it does not serve the greater good of humanity. You stare that thing right in the eye and say “You know what, I’m going to choose a better option today. I’m going to choose something that is good for me. I’m going to choose something that is good for others and does serve humanity overall”. A class 1 experience is how we like to refer to them at Performance Coach University. But with that thought, you choose a class 1 experience.    Now how do you improve your willpower? It’s interesting! According to researchers, the number one area of your mind and body you need to take care of if you want to enhance your willpower is your prefrontal cortex. What’s that? That gray matter in front of your brain. Now how do you improve this area? It’s pretty simple! Sleep, nutrition, exercise and there’s something else they refer to as decision fatigue.    In that thought process of these three categories, let’s start with sleep real quick. You know as well as I do, we did an interview with a gentleman named John Stevenson who’s a good friend of ours. He wrote a book called Sleep Smarter, and in this book he describes why sleep is so important. How some of the greatest athletes and peak performers on Earth: Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps, Serena Williams – they all sleep anywhere between 8-12 hours a night. Why?? Because they want their mind, their motion, and physical body to perform at its absolute best.   Now whenever I talk to clients who are entrepreneurs, successful business owners, executives in different companies, inevitably they tell me “Well yeah, if I was competing in the Olympics or at that level, of course I would sleep that much to rebuild my body”. I say “Listen, there’s a mindset piece that’s out of place here. You don’t believe that you going to work every day is the equivalent of your Olympics. If you don’t believe that there’s a gold, silver or bronze rating every single day on your performance of how you show up, you have to adjust your mindset”.   Because the truth is, whenever you go to work every day, that’s your Olympics. You get to decide if you’re going to win, get a gold and come in first; or if you’re going to settle for second, third or for the memory you were there that day. Like all those other people we don’t remember who came and ran, those wonderful human beings. The challenge is life or words, those who really really, really push themselves and excel at the highest level. So are you going to show up in that way?    So for the first thing called sleep, the minimum levels you need to perform at your best is at least 7 ½ to 8 hours a night. So grab a copy of our worksheet and you can kind of rate yourself on how you’re doing in these following categories. We’ll give you a worksheet with all the scales on it. So for sleep – a negative 10 meaning you’re getting less than 5 hours of sleep at night, that’s horrific for you. There’s research and study that show that after 3 nights in a row of getting less than 6.5 hours of sleep per night, is the equivalent of not sleeping at all for 2 days, which is the equivalent of being drunk cognitively in your brain. So you don’t want that. So that’d be a negative 10.    Zero would be in between 5-7 hours of sleep per night. It’s enough to survive but not enough to really thrive. And maybe a 5-10 rating between the next so many chunks of time in 15 minute segments, 10 would be between 8-10 hours. Ideally though you’d probably be 7 ½ which would be like 9 – really, really well. So that’s what we’re aiming for here, this is how we scale you to know where we need to get better at this.    Now from there, if you’re getting your 7 ½ to 8 hours of sleep every single night for those entrepreneurs or executives out there, the next part is nutrition. Here’s what’s wild: you can read 20 different books on nutrition and get 20 different opinions, plus the newest fad of quick abs or super slim diet or the maximum whatever diet that just came out. What’s wild is we know there are some staples. The staples are that you need to make sure you’re not eating processed foods, you’re not eating high sugar foods, you’re only eating green vegetables and some type of protein that goes with them.   Now I like fish so I stick with either clean salmon or white fish, with no mercury or other toxins, and always line cut fresh. With vegetables, when you stick them together, this provides for great performance mentally and physically. They have lots of great fats for your brain, and are also very healthy. But again, make your own decision in this area; just make sure you’re choosing the right options and we all know the difference. If you’re reaching for snacks and candy bars from the machine at work when you go to grab a snack in between meetings, that’s horrific for you. Make better choices, come up with a plan and organize your system to make sure you always have proper fuel – high quality, high performance fuel for yourself throughout the day.    The next piece we want to do here is exercise. What does this need to be? Well, you need a minimum of 10,000 steps a day according to doctors and that’s for the average person. Now I don’t know about you, but I grew up in a household where trying to be average was a horrific statement and goal. Therefore, you need to step up above and beyond. 10,000 is a minimum you should be hitting every day. So one thing we like to use is this little Fitbit band that tracks our steps. So far today I’m at 10,770 steps for the morning. Now what’s interesting is we use this to track and measure our performance.   So you need at least 10,000 steps a day, 7 days a week. The other factor that you want to focus on and consider here is you want to also track your heart rate. This is so important because some people might get their 10,000 steps in, but you never actually exercise your heart, which is kind of what keeps your whole body going and breathing. So if you want to keep your heart in great shape and lower your risk from heart attack, from coronary disease and these things, you need at least 30-40 minutes of aerobic exercise; I would say a minimum of 5 days a week.   So for a minimum of 5 days a week, go out there and get in your 30-40 minutes of aerobic exercise. That means the heart rate is elevated to an aerobic pace suitable for your age and body. How do you get that? Just google aerobic heart rate and it’s usually 180, minus your age, which gives you the number you’re aiming for. If you have one of these little jab ons or app ins or Fitbits or whatever you want to call them, the neat part is they have apps that tell you what your heart rate is. And they tell you how many minutes of the day you were able to stay in that fat burning zone, aerobic zone and max heart rate. It’s a really great way to measure it. So that’s the other thing.    There are times of the day you can use these habits that’ll help keep you at your best even when you’re in a weak moment. So when’s a weak moment? They say if you don’t get enough sleep, what happens is because the sugar cannot get up to your brain, you didn’t have enough time for your whole body to regenerate, so you start to reach for more sugary foods later in the evening. So think back to a night when you didn’t sleep very well, and the next day, what was the likelihood you reached for some type of snack at late afternoon or in the evening when you were getting tired? A little ice cream bar, a little candy bar, a little something for when you wanted some sugar? Usually that’s a sign you’re not sleeping well enough.   And the other piece you want to do here is you want to pre-plan routines for the later times when you’re highly stressed at work or in life. What does that mean? You want to build a routine, with a natural cue that will go off. So if we look at routines, the best way to do them is in the book Habits by Charles Duhigg.   In this book, he talks about building a routine or a habit, a good habit. It needs a trigger or a cue, so you can use the time of day as your trigger. 7 at night, 8 at night – that’s your trigger, your cue to say “Oh, what’s the routine?” I stand up, I go to the kitchen, and I prepare myself some healthy, genuinely, filling and nutritious meals. Whether that’s a nutritious snack, a handful of unsalted nuts, or whether it’s a protein shake, something that’s very, very healthy for you, some supplements such as those orange juices you can drink like the little vitamin C packs or some green and veggie juice.   We like amazing grass lemon grass flavor, it’s very good for you. Veggies mashed up in a powder, you put on water and drink it. Something that you have pre-set up at the time you always do it, so that you’re naturally getting the reward, which is the third step to a habit: cue, routine, reward. Cue – a certain time of day, 7 at night when you always reach for the junk food. Routine – stand up, go to the kitchen and get that vegetable juice or green drink. Reward – you satiate your stomach and brain with something healthy and nutritious before your body has a chance to reach for the not-so-great thing that’s going to take you out of the game tomorrow and bring you down in that cycle.   So that’s the other piece; you want to build a habit around the times that you’re weak. Some people are weak in the morning, some people are weak at midday, some people are weak at night. Figure out when your weakest point is on the worksheet today, figure out when your weakest point is and come up with 3 different routines you can do that’ll be healthy, nutritious and will literally vitalize your mind and body instead of something that’ll tear you down and take you out of the game, causing you to feel worse tomorrow.    Have fun with this. Download the worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your sleep, there’s a couple of sleep tips in that worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your nutrition, there’s a handful of nutrition tips in the worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your exercise. Again, we put a couple of tips in that worksheet. And finally, figure out how to build a powerful habit to offset the weak points.    Have fun with this and we look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re focused on how to strengthen and improve your willpower.  So what is willpower? Willpower is the ability to look right into the eyes of temptation. Something that’s challenging you, that pulls you on track and says “Hey, choose me, choose me”. Well that’s temptation – a physical temptation, an emotional temptation, a dietary temptation, a relationship temptation or dating or I don’t know what you want to call it – but something you know that is not good for you, is not good for others, it does not serve the greater good of humanity. You stare that thing right in the eye and say “You know what, I’m going to choose a better option today. I’m going to choose something that is good for me. I’m going to choose something that is good for others and does serve humanity overall”. A class 1 experience is how we like to refer to them at Performance Coach University. But with that thought, you choose a class 1 experience.  Now how do you improve your willpower? It’s interesting! According to researchers, the number one area of your mind and body you need to take care of if you want to enhance your willpower is your prefrontal cortex. What’s that? That gray matter in front of your brain. Now how do you improve this area? It’s pretty simple! Sleep, nutrition, exercise and there’s something else they refer to as decision fatigue.  In that thought process of these three categories, let’s start with sleep real quick. You know as well as I do, we did an interview with a gentleman named John Stevenson who’s a good friend of ours. He wrote a book called Sleep Smarter, and in this book he describes why sleep is so important. How some of the greatest athletes and peak performers on Earth: Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps, Serena Williams – they all sleep anywhere between 8-12 hours a night. Why?? Because they want their mind, their motion, and physical body to perform at its absolute best. Now whenever I talk to clients who are entrepreneurs, successful business owners, executives in different companies, inevitably they tell me “Well yeah, if I was competing in the Olympics or at that level, of course I would sleep that much to rebuild my body”. I say “Listen, there’s a mindset piece that’s out of place here. You don’t believe that you going to work every day is the equivalent of your Olympics. If you don’t believe that there’s a gold, silver or bronze rating every single day on your performance of how you show up, you have to adjust your mindset”. Because the truth is, whenever you go to work every day, that’s your Olympics. You get to decide if you’re going to win, get a gold and come in first; or if you’re going to settle for second, third or for the memory you were there that day. Like all those other people we don’t remember who came and ran, those wonderful human beings. The challenge is life or words, those who really really, really push themselves and excel at the highest level. So are you going to show up in that way?  So for the first thing called sleep, the minimum levels you need to perform at your best is at least 7 ½ to 8 hours a night. So grab a copy of our worksheet and you can kind of rate yourself on how you’re doing in these following categories. We’ll give you a worksheet with all the scales on it. So for sleep – a negative 10 meaning you’re getting less than 5 hours of sleep at night, that’s horrific for you. There’s research and study that show that after 3 nights in a row of getting less than 6.5 hours of sleep per night, is the equivalent of not sleeping at all for 2 days, which is the equivalent of being drunk cognitively in your brain. So you don’t want that. So that’d be a negative 10.  Zero would be in between 5-7 hours of sleep per night. It’s enough to survive but not enough to really thrive. And maybe a 5-10 rating between the next so many chunks of time in 15 minute segments, 10 would be between 8-10 hours. Ideally though you’d probably be 7 ½ which would be like 9 – really, really well. So that’s what we’re aiming for here, this is how we scale you to know where we need to get better at this.  Now from there, if you’re getting your 7 ½ to 8 hours of sleep every single night for those entrepreneurs or executives out there, the next part is nutrition. Here’s what’s wild: you can read 20 different books on nutrition and get 20 different opinions, plus the newest fad of quick abs or super slim diet or the maximum whatever diet that just came out. What’s wild is we know there are some staples. The staples are that you need to make sure you’re not eating processed foods, you’re not eating high sugar foods, you’re only eating green vegetables and some type of protein that goes with them. Now I like fish so I stick with either clean salmon or white fish, with no mercury or other toxins, and always line cut fresh. With vegetables, when you stick them together, this provides for great performance mentally and physically. They have lots of great fats for your brain, and are also very healthy. But again, make your own decision in this area; just make sure you’re choosing the right options and we all know the difference. If you’re reaching for snacks and candy bars from the machine at work when you go to grab a snack in between meetings, that’s horrific for you. Make better choices, come up with a plan and organize your system to make sure you always have proper fuel – high quality, high performance fuel for yourself throughout the day.  The next piece we want to do here is exercise. What does this need to be? Well, you need a minimum of 10,000 steps a day according to doctors and that’s for the average person. Now I don’t know about you, but I grew up in a household where trying to be average was a horrific statement and goal. Therefore, you need to step up above and beyond. 10,000 is a minimum you should be hitting every day. So one thing we like to use is this little Fitbit band that tracks our steps. So far today I’m at 10,770 steps for the morning. Now what’s interesting is we use this to track and measure our performance. So you need at least 10,000 steps a day, 7 days a week. The other factor that you want to focus on and consider here is you want to also track your heart rate. This is so important because some people might get their 10,000 steps in, but you never actually exercise your heart, which is kind of what keeps your whole body going and breathing. So if you want to keep your heart in great shape and lower your risk from heart attack, from coronary disease and these things, you need at least 30-40 minutes of aerobic exercise; I would say a minimum of 5 days a week. So for a minimum of 5 days a week, go out there and get in your 30-40 minutes of aerobic exercise. That means the heart rate is elevated to an aerobic pace suitable for your age and body. How do you get that? Just google aerobic heart rate and it’s usually 180, minus your age, which gives you the number you’re aiming for. If you have one of these little jab ons or app ins or Fitbits or whatever you want to call them, the neat part is they have apps that tell you what your heart rate is. And they tell you how many minutes of the day you were able to stay in that fat burning zone, aerobic zone and max heart rate. It’s a really great way to measure it. So that’s the other thing.  There are times of the day you can use these habits that’ll help keep you at your best even when you’re in a weak moment. So when’s a weak moment? They say if you don’t get enough sleep, what happens is because the sugar cannot get up to your brain, you didn’t have enough time for your whole body to regenerate, so you start to reach for more sugary foods later in the evening. So think back to a night when you didn’t sleep very well, and the next day, what was the likelihood you reached for some type of snack at late afternoon or in the evening when you were getting tired? A little ice cream bar, a little candy bar, a little something for when you wanted some sugar? Usually that’s a sign you’re not sleeping well enough. And the other piece you want to do here is you want to pre-plan routines for the later times when you’re highly stressed at work or in life. What does that mean? You want to build a routine, with a natural cue that will go off. So if we look at routines, the best way to do them is in the book Habits by Charles Duhigg. In this book, he talks about building a routine or a habit, a good habit. It needs a trigger or a cue, so you can use the time of day as your trigger. 7 at night, 8 at night – that’s your trigger, your cue to say “Oh, what’s the routine?” I stand up, I go to the kitchen, and I prepare myself some healthy, genuinely, filling and nutritious meals. Whether that’s a nutritious snack, a handful of unsalted nuts, or whether it’s a protein shake, something that’s very, very healthy for you, some supplements such as those orange juices you can drink like the little vitamin C packs or some green and veggie juice. We like amazing grass lemon grass flavor, it’s very good for you. Veggies mashed up in a powder, you put on water and drink it. Something that you have pre-set up at the time you always do it, so that you’re naturally getting the reward, which is the third step to a habit: cue, routine, reward. Cue – a certain time of day, 7 at night when you always reach for the junk food. Routine – stand up, go to the kitchen and get that vegetable juice or green drink. Reward – you satiate your stomach and brain with something healthy and nutritious before your body has a chance to reach for the not-so-great thing that’s going to take you out of the game tomorrow and bring you down in that cycle. So that’s the other piece; you want to build a habit around the times that you’re weak. Some people are weak in the morning, some people are weak at midday, some people are weak at night. Figure out when your weakest point is on the worksheet today, figure out when your weakest point is and come up with 3 different routines you can do that’ll be healthy, nutritious and will literally vitalize your mind and body instead of something that’ll tear you down and take you out of the game, causing you to feel worse tomorrow.  Have fun with this. Download the worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your sleep, there’s a couple of sleep tips in that worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your nutrition, there’s a handful of nutrition tips in the worksheet. Figure out how to maximize your exercise. Again, we put a couple of tips in that worksheet. And finally, figure out how to build a powerful habit to offset the weak points.  Have fun with this and we look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

How To Have Better Willpower

My Wife Was Shocked.   “What do you mean ‘Not everyone wants to be happy?” Amanda asked as she looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. It was clear my wife was completely shocked by the idea that not everyone wants to be happy.   The truth is, happiness or the idea of being happy, doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. It’s also not valued the same for everyone.   Some people value peace more than happiness. For others it’s feeling productive that means most to them. Thus, they strive for different things in life, value experiences differently… Happiness isn’t one size fits all.   Likewise, health isn’t one size fits all either.   Today we are digging deeper into what happiness, health, and fulfillment mean to you.   It’s completely different for each and every person. Don’t believe me? Download today’s worksheet and do it with a partner. You’ll learn a lot about each other and yourself.   This clarity will help you get better aligned with your outcomes, strategy, and improve your overall experience of life.   Tune in below to learn more about two excellent tech toys I’m hooked on right now for better mental clarity AND how to catch myself from falling into a stressed state, so I can stay more relaxed or focused when I need to be in a peak performance state.       Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re focused on how to help you become more happy, healthy and more fulfilled.   So when we’re thinking about happiness, healthiness, and more fulfillment in our lives, what does that even mean to you? I’d love it if you grab a copy of today’s worksheet off the blog, and fill in those first couple of paragraphs that say, how do you define happiness in your life? Now I know for me, happiness is the ability to just really truly know in my heart and soul that I’m blessed, that I have an opportunity to serve in some way, and that really truly I’m giving my all each day. When I know those things are true for me, I’m happy. Because I’m living fully, I’m loving deeply, I’m giving my all.   Now health – how do I know when I’m healthy and that’s the next question for you. How do you know you’re healthy? What is health to you? Health is the ability to maximize my mind, my body, my emotions – to maximize every ounce of possibility that I’m capable of each day. So when I think of health, I think of physical health, emotional health and spiritual health. I look at all those categories in my life and I look for ways to maximize them. So in those next couple of paragraphs, list not only what is health to you, but how will you use that philosophy to guide your daily actions. And what are your goals coming up in 2017 so you can make the most out of it?   Finally fulfillment, what does fulfillment mean to you? Fulfillment to me is knowing that I made a positive difference for at least one person’s life today. As long as I’ve done that, I feel fulfilled. I feel joy and pure fulfillment in my life. I know I’m at peace because if I were to go out today and know I made a difference, I did what I was meant to do. So what does fulfillment mean to you? Answer that on the worksheet.   And what we really want to focus on, besides answering these questions and helping you figure out what is happiness to you, is what is your strategy or philosophy of how you will go about applying that each day and really maximizing your own personal happiness, and what are your goals in this area? How do you want to expand and improve? My belief is everything in life is either growing or dying. So if you’re like, “Hey I’m happy. I’m good”. And if you’re not working on improving that happiness, finding more happiness, creating more fulfillment and joy and happiness and health in your life, then you’re letting it slide. Little by little, it’s falling apart.   I remember a long time ago, I was learning how to stack lumber up in Canada and an axe guy told me to go and cut this tree. He was pointing at this tree over on the little side there. So I went over and I wound up and took a huge swing; I hit it and the axe went straight through and almost hit me. They were all laughing their faces off. I said “Why the heck would you tell me to do that for?” And they said “Oh not as tough to cut down as you thought, huh?” They were teasing me but what was interesting was the tree on the outside looked strong and really, really like it was going to take a lot of energy to break through with an axe. But on the inside, over time, it had rotted away. So it was hollow on the inside.   And a lot of people, when it comes to happiness, health and fulfillment - on the outside, they look good. They act strong. They seem happy. But on the inside, they’re slowly rotting away like that tree, only to be left with an external shell that survives the next 40 years of their life. I’ve heard it said that most people die in their 30s, but are buried in their 80s. Don’t be one of those people. Figure out a way to always improve that happiness in your life. Always improve your fulfillment. Always improve your health. And if you’re always working on maximizing these and growing them, you’ll always find a way to find more of them in your life, if you’re focused on them and working towards them daily.   Two tools that could help:

My Wife Was Shocked. “What do you mean ‘Not everyone wants to be happy?” Amanda asked as she looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. It was clear my wife was completely shocked by the idea that not everyone wants to be happy. The truth is, happiness or the idea of being happy, doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. It’s also not valued the same for everyone. Some people value peace more than happiness. For others it’s feeling productive that means most to them. Thus, they strive for different things in life, value experiences differently… Happiness isn’t one size fits all. Likewise, health isn’t one size fits all either. Today we are digging deeper into what happiness, health, and fulfillment mean to you. It’s completely different for each and every person. Don’t believe me? Download today’s worksheet and do it with a partner. You’ll learn a lot about each other and yourself. This clarity will help you get better aligned with your outcomes, strategy, and improve your overall experience of life. Tune in below to learn more about two excellent tech toys I’m hooked on right now for better mental clarity AND how to catch myself from falling into a stressed state, so I can stay more relaxed or focused when I need to be in a peak performance state. Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re focused on how to help you become more happy, healthy and more fulfilled. So when we’re thinking about happiness, healthiness, and more fulfillment in our lives, what does that even mean to you? I’d love it if you grab a copy of today’s worksheet off the blog, and fill in those first couple of paragraphs that say, how do you define happiness in your life? Now I know for me, happiness is the ability to just really truly know in my heart and soul that I’m blessed, that I have an opportunity to serve in some way, and that really truly I’m giving my all each day. When I know those things are true for me, I’m happy. Because I’m living fully, I’m loving deeply, I’m giving my all. Now health – how do I know when I’m healthy and that’s the next question for you. How do you know you’re healthy? What is health to you? Health is the ability to maximize my mind, my body, my emotions – to maximize every ounce of possibility that I’m capable of each day. So when I think of health, I think of physical health, emotional health and spiritual health. I look at all those categories in my life and I look for ways to maximize them. So in those next couple of paragraphs, list not only what is health to you, but how will you use that philosophy to guide your daily actions. And what are your goals coming up in 2017 so you can make the most out of it? Finally fulfillment, what does fulfillment mean to you? Fulfillment to me is knowing that I made a positive difference for at least one person’s life today. As long as I’ve done that, I feel fulfilled. I feel joy and pure fulfillment in my life. I know I’m at peace because if I were to go out today and know I made a difference, I did what I was meant to do. So what does fulfillment mean to you? Answer that on the worksheet. And what we really want to focus on, besides answering these questions and helping you figure out what is happiness to you, is what is your strategy or philosophy of how you will go about applying that each day and really maximizing your own personal happiness, and what are your goals in this area? How do you want to expand and improve? My belief is everything in life is either growing or dying. So if you’re like, “Hey I’m happy. I’m good”. And if you’re not working on improving that happiness, finding more happiness, creating more fulfillment and joy and happiness and health in your life, then you’re letting it slide. Little by little, it’s falling apart. I remember a long time ago, I was learning how to stack lumber up in Canada and an axe guy told me to go and cut this tree. He was pointing at this tree over on the little side there. So I went over and I wound up and took a huge swing; I hit it and the axe went straight through and almost hit me. They were all laughing their faces off. I said “Why the heck would you tell me to do that for?” And they said “Oh not as tough to cut down as you thought, huh?” They were teasing me but what was interesting was the tree on the outside looked strong and really, really like it was going to take a lot of energy to break through with an axe. But on the inside, over time, it had rotted away. So it was hollow on the inside. And a lot of people, when it comes to happiness, health and fulfillment - on the outside, they look good. They act strong. They seem happy. But on the inside, they’re slowly rotting away like that tree, only to be left with an external shell that survives the next 40 years of their life. I’ve heard it said that most people die in their 30s, but are buried in their 80s. Don’t be one of those people. Figure out a way to always improve that happiness in your life. Always improve your fulfillment. Always improve your health. And if you’re always working on maximizing these and growing them, you’ll always find a way to find more of them in your life, if you’re focused on them and working towards them daily. Two tools that could help:

How to Deepen Your Happiness, Health and Fulfillment

What sounds better than creating a business and life you love?Check out the full episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/two-words-game-changer/   Today we are doing a little throwback to a timeless interview that thousands of you have watched and loved!   If you have an idea you've wanted to turn into a business and need more clarity and direction as to how to get it off the ground, tune into today's JRCtv throwback with the one and only Marie Forleo!   Marie Forleo's b-school is a game-changer and is open for enrollment now through March 2nd. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE.   Marie is a trusted friend who puts her heart and soul into helping people turn their side hustle or passion project into a wildly successful business.   Tune in below and grab a notepad - so many golden nuggets coming your way!!     To your success, Jairek

What sounds better than creating a business and life you love? Check out the full episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/?p=4963&amp;preview=true" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/two-words-game-changer/</a> Today we are doing a little throwback to a timeless interview that thousands of you have watched and loved! If you have an idea you've wanted to turn into a business and need more clarity and direction as to how to get it off the ground, tune into today's JRCtv throwback with the one and only Marie Forleo! Marie Forleo's b-school is a game-changer and is open for enrollment now through March 2nd. <a href="https://jairekrobbins.infusionsoft.com/app/email/broadcast/~Link-33345~" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE.</a> Marie is a trusted friend who puts her heart and soul into helping people turn their side hustle or passion project into a wildly successful business. Tune in below and grab a notepad - so many golden nuggets coming your way!!   To your success, Jairek

Two Words - Game Changer

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-predict-your-future/Hey there! Welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re talking about how to predict the future. So if you’re wondering what I’m talking about, I want to help you predict where you’re going to land up in the next 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, maybe even 20 years of your life and business. Now how are we going to do that? It’s pretty easy. Well maybe… Let’s rewind a little. It is kind of tricky because we never know what life is going to throw our way. What curve ball or what situation is going to unfold. That we don’t know. But what we do know is what we are in control of which is: our habits, our patterns, our behaviors, our moods. We know what these things are and we can start to track our current patterns and we can see our current results we’re getting and we can start to magnify. So what’s today’s simple lesson is really easy. What I want you to do is download today’s worksheet off of the blog. And when you download it it’s going to say hey, in your health, what are the 3 most consistent good or bad – let’s say both – 3 good habits you do, 3 bad habits you do in your health. And what are these 3 good habits going to lead to 6 months from now, a year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, 20 years from now. What kind of results are going to compound in your health by doing these good habits every single day for the next 20 years. On the reverse side, what kind of negative results are going to show up by having those bad habits stick around for 6 months, 12 months, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years from now. I want you to be really honest with yourself so we can start to predict what your future looks like if you continue the current habits – good and bad. And we’re going to do this for every category in life. What are the good emotional habits you have? What are the bad emotional habits you have? What are the good financial habits you have? What are the bad financial habits you have? What are the good relationship habits you have? What are the bad relationship habits you have? And I want you to map these out for the next, again, 6 months, 12 months, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years of your life. And I want you to have a very clear vision of exactly what these things are going to add up to. If by chance you’re struggling with trying to figure it out, go to jairekrobbins.com, sign up for the 30-minute free coaching session. We’ll have one of our coaches help you with your vision and find out what it leads to. It’s a wild and simple activity but when you do it, it becomes very clear that eating that extra froyo each day – it’s not that bad if you only do it once right now – but if you allow that to continue for 20 years, that is not going to add up to the shape you want to be in or the health you want to be in 20 years from now. And most people justify it by saying, “Oh I’m not going to do it every day for 20 years. I’m not going to do it for 20 whole years”. We come up with all these things to tell ourselves but the truth is we end up doing it. So I want to make sure you have a very clear vision on exactly what the good and bad habits in your life are going to add up to. So you can make a true decision on what you need to start doing and what you need to stop doing and what you need to continue doing to be the absolute happiest, healthiest and most fulfilled version of yourself now and way out in the future. So download today’s worksheet, enjoy the process, have some fun with it, and share it with a friend. If you have a family member, a spouse, a significant other, a friend, or even someone at the office – a co-worker or an employee – that you believe needs to have more clarity on their good and bad habits and what it’s going to add up to. Please print out a copy and share it with them or send them a link to this video so they could check it out. Have some fun with this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-predict-your-future/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-predict-your-future/</a>Hey there! Welcome back to another episode of JRCTV. Today we’re talking about how to predict the future. So if you’re wondering what I’m talking about, I want to help you predict where you’re going to land up in the next 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, maybe even 20 years of your life and business. Now how are we going to do that? It’s pretty easy. Well maybe… Let’s rewind a little. It is kind of tricky because we never know what life is going to throw our way. What curve ball or what situation is going to unfold. That we don’t know. But what we do know is what we are in control of which is: our habits, our patterns, our behaviors, our moods. We know what these things are and we can start to track our current patterns and we can see our current results we’re getting and we can start to magnify. So what’s today’s simple lesson is really easy. What I want you to do is download today’s worksheet off of the blog. And when you download it it’s going to say hey, in your health, what are the 3 most consistent good or bad – let’s say both – 3 good habits you do, 3 bad habits you do in your health. And what are these 3 good habits going to lead to 6 months from now, a year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, 20 years from now. What kind of results are going to compound in your health by doing these good habits every single day for the next 20 years. On the reverse side, what kind of negative results are going to show up by having those bad habits stick around for 6 months, 12 months, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years from now. I want you to be really honest with yourself so we can start to predict what your future looks like if you continue the current habits – good and bad. And we’re going to do this for every category in life. What are the good emotional habits you have? What are the bad emotional habits you have? What are the good financial habits you have? What are the bad financial habits you have? What are the good relationship habits you have? What are the bad relationship habits you have? And I want you to map these out for the next, again, 6 months, 12 months, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years of your life. And I want you to have a very clear vision of exactly what these things are going to add up to. If by chance you’re struggling with trying to figure it out, go to <a href="http://jairekrobbins.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">jairekrobbins.com</a>, sign up for the <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/performance-coaching/claim-your-free-coaching/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">30-minute free coaching session</a>. We’ll have one of our coaches help you with your vision and find out what it leads to. It’s a wild and simple activity but when you do it, it becomes very clear that eating that extra froyo each day – it’s not that bad if you only do it once right now – but if you allow that to continue for 20 years, that is not going to add up to the shape you want to be in or the health you want to be in 20 years from now. And most people justify it by saying, “Oh I’m not going to do it every day for 20 years. I’m not going to do it for 20 whole years”. We come up with all these things to tell ourselves but the truth is we end up doing it. So I want to make sure you have a very clear vision on exactly what the good and bad habits in your life are going to add up to. So you can make a true decision on what you need to start doing and what you need to stop doing and what you need to continue doing to be the absolute happiest, healthiest and most fulfilled version of yourself now and way out in the future. So download today’s worksheet, enjoy the process, have some fun with it, and share it with a friend. If you have a family member, a spouse, a significant other, a friend, or even someone at the office – a co-worker or an employee – that you believe needs to have more clarity on their good and bad habits and what it’s going to add up to. Please print out a copy and share it with them or send them a link to this video so they could check it out. Have some fun with this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCTV.

How to Predict Your Future

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here: http://www.jairekrobbins.com/3fundamentalsofperformance/    Today we’re going to be talking about 3 of the most important fundamentals that are necessary to increase your personal and professional performance.   So what are these fundamentals?   What’s the foundation you need as a human being to really excel and perform at your absolute best? Before I tell you, let me just give you a little bit of a test. Let’s say that you are a soldier and you get captured by the enemy. What are the things that they take away from you piece by piece to break you down as a human being – to break your willpower, to break your resilience, to keep you from being your absolute best? What do they take away?   First, many times they do something like sleep torture. So they take away your sleep. Your ability to have consistent, deep, quality sleep or even any sleep at all. Many times I’ve heard they put you in rooms, and I know this sounds crazy and I don’t know where I’ve read this. They put you in rooms and they play loud music at you, 24 hours a day that keeps you from having the ability to get sleep and replenish your mind and body. This breaks down yourself psychologically.   Not only that, what else do they take away? A lot of times they’ll take away food. They take away your ability to give your body the nutrients it needs to be at its peak. And so they feed you a little soup with a pea in it. Or they feed you a little piece of bread once a day. And it literally starts to deteriorate your body because you don’t have the fuel physically to keep running on.   The final thing they take away? They lock you in a little cell and they keep you from having the ability to move. And so what’s interesting is when you do this to a human being, it breaks them down. It breaks them mentally, emotionally and physically down to a point that they can no longer function at any level, if not peak capacity.   So what’s really wild is when you look at the foundational element it takes to get to a human being – you! – to perform at absolute best, what do you think are the 3 major components are to get you at your best?   Number one, we need to make sure you have high quality sleep. So in today’s download, we got a handful of tips from a good friend of ours, Shawn Stevenson, who wrote a book called “Sleep Smarter”. In the book, he describes 21 different ways you can amplify and intensify and increase the quality of your sleep.   So we gave you a couple of tips. I’d love to know how you currently rate yourself in the area of sleep and I’d love to also give you a handful of tips that can help you increase your sleep over the next days, weeks, months of your life and get better quality sleep every night.   The next piece is nutrition. How would you rate yourself currently in your nutrition, what you feed yourself?   Now most of the executives and entrepreneurs that I work with usually have a story that goes something like this: “Well I know what I should be eating every day, but you know. I mean it’s life, you’ve got to have fun. You’ve got to let lose, right? I mean, what am I supposed to do when I go out with a client and they asked me to have drinks? What do I do if it’s my niece’s birthday party last night and it’s my brother’s birthday tomorrow and it’s grandma’s birthday party on Thursday? Not only that, my uncle’s turning 50 on Sunday! So you know, I’ve got to have a piece of cake”.   And you hear all these stories about all the things they should be doing, but then in reality what they’re actually doing doesn’t match. So you rate yourself. How well do you fuel your body with food, with nutrition every single day? Do you put only the highest quality, best fuel on your mind and body physically? I mean not only what your feed yourself in the mouth but what you read, what you listen to, what you learn.   Are you putting the highest quality fuel, kind of a level 10 or 50-50 – some days you do, some days you don’t? Or are you kind of a 0-1 where you’re just putting junk in, expecting some high performance result when in actuality you’re really just breaking yourself down from the inside out?   So nutrition, sleep… the final is movement. How much are you moving every day? This is overly simple. But I’ll tell at a point in my life when I thought I was really active – I wake up, I do a 30-minute walk on the beach with a jog, I go lift weights at the gym, I do an hour of yoga in the afternoon, and I sat down and I use one of these little fitness trackers to see how much I was actually moving.   And I thought well I have to be way above average because I’m moving so much, I’m so active. I mean I work out, I do yoga, I lift weights – I have tons of steps. And I remember a saying that the average person should be doing 10,000 steps a day to stay super healthy. And I remember wearing it for the first time, coming home, looking at it, and thinking it must not be calibrated right because it said I only walked 4,000 steps that day.   I remember thinking, “wait a minute, holy smokes! I’m not even giving an average kind of result”. And I expect myself to perform above average. I want above average, extraordinary, outstanding results and I’m only showing up average in my steps. That’s weird. So I did it for a week and I found out it was true.   And all of a sudden I started to figure out what could I do each day to get to just a thousand more steps, 2500 more steps, one more mile in each day? And by doing it, it caused me to find ways to increase my performance and it paid dividends in results, phenomenal results! So question, how much are you actually moving?   Now here’s a bigger question and that’s in the download today, which is how are you currently tracking day-to-day all 3 of these categories?   Because what I find is when I work with top executives of different companies and say how well do you sleep, they’d say “Oh pretty well”. I’d say how do you know that? And you get the weird, “oh I guess I wake up most days feeling good and I normally sleep about this many hours”. I’d say what system, what device, how are you actually tracking the quality of your sleep not just the time? Are you using one of those Apple products to kind of watch how you move at night? Are you using a Fitbit or a sleep tracker in some way to see how deep your sleep is, the quality?   What about your nutrition, can you track not only what you’re eating but how nutritious it is for your body? Are you eating right for your blood type and those kinds of things? Are you putting the right fuel for your body, for the machine you have? You put a different type of fuel in the Lamborghini than you do a Toyota Corolla. But what kind of fuel and how do you know the difference? How are you measuring the quality of what you’re fueling your body with?   Not only that, movement! How are you tracking your movement? When you go to the gym, do you just write it down? Do you have a journal? Again, do you use a tracker?   So we have some suggestions for you if you want to increase your performance. This is the very first base level kind of rating we give any of our clients that come to work with us for one-on-one coaching. We help them figure out what are they actually doing. And then we help them create a plan and figure out how do they want to improve it, where do they want to go from here? And how they’re going to set up systems and accountability to make sure they’re actually following through. So it’s not something you intellectually know you should be doing, but something you’re actually applying and doing every single day.   So download today’s worksheet. Get a rating. Get a scale of how you feel you’re actually doing. Grab some of the tools we use. Try them out and see how you’re actually performing. If you want some help to increase your performance, give us a call. We’ll do a complimentary 30-minute session with you with myself or one of our coaches. And we’ll help you put together a plan on how you can increase your personal and professional performance.   So I hope you enjoy this episode. Pass it on if you think you know someone who needs it. Hit the share button and spread the love! And I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCtv. Enjoy!! To Your Success, Jairek

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here: <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/3fundamentalsofperformance/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/3fundamentalsofperformance/</a> Today we’re going to be talking about 3 of the most important fundamentals that are necessary to increase your personal and professional performance. So what are these fundamentals? What’s the foundation you need as a human being to really excel and perform at your absolute best? Before I tell you, let me just give you a little bit of a test. Let’s say that you are a soldier and you get captured by the enemy. What are the things that they take away from you piece by piece to break you down as a human being – to break your willpower, to break your resilience, to keep you from being your absolute best? What do they take away? First, many times they do something like sleep torture. So they take away your sleep. Your ability to have consistent, deep, quality sleep or even any sleep at all. Many times I’ve heard they put you in rooms, and I know this sounds crazy and I don’t know where I’ve read this. They put you in rooms and they play loud music at you, 24 hours a day that keeps you from having the ability to get sleep and replenish your mind and body. This breaks down yourself psychologically. Not only that, what else do they take away? A lot of times they’ll take away food. They take away your ability to give your body the nutrients it needs to be at its peak. And so they feed you a little soup with a pea in it. Or they feed you a little piece of bread once a day. And it literally starts to deteriorate your body because you don’t have the fuel physically to keep running on. The final thing they take away? They lock you in a little cell and they keep you from having the ability to move. And so what’s interesting is when you do this to a human being, it breaks them down. It breaks them mentally, emotionally and physically down to a point that they can no longer function at any level, if not peak capacity. So what’s really wild is when you look at the foundational element it takes to get to a human being – you! – to perform at absolute best, what do you think are the 3 major components are to get you at your best? Number one, we need to make sure you have high quality sleep. So in today’s download, we got a handful of tips from a good friend of ours, Shawn Stevenson, who wrote a book called “Sleep Smarter”. In the book, he describes 21 different ways you can amplify and intensify and increase the quality of your sleep. So we gave you a couple of tips. I’d love to know how you currently rate yourself in the area of sleep and I’d love to also give you a handful of tips that can help you increase your sleep over the next days, weeks, months of your life and get better quality sleep every night. The next piece is nutrition. How would you rate yourself currently in your nutrition, what you feed yourself? Now most of the executives and entrepreneurs that I work with usually have a story that goes something like this: “Well I know what I should be eating every day, but you know. I mean it’s life, you’ve got to have fun. You’ve got to let lose, right? I mean, what am I supposed to do when I go out with a client and they asked me to have drinks? What do I do if it’s my niece’s birthday party last night and it’s my brother’s birthday tomorrow and it’s grandma’s birthday party on Thursday? Not only that, my uncle’s turning 50 on Sunday! So you know, I’ve got to have a piece of cake”. And you hear all these stories about all the things they should be doing, but then in reality what they’re actually doing doesn’t match. So you rate yourself. How well do you fuel your body with food, with nutrition every single day? Do you put only the highest quality, best fuel on your mind and body physically? I mean not only what your feed yourself in the mouth but what you read, what you listen to, what you learn. Are you putting the highest quality fuel, kind of a level 10 or 50-50 – some days you do, some days you don’t? Or are you kind of a 0-1 where you’re just putting junk in, expecting some high performance result when in actuality you’re really just breaking yourself down from the inside out? So nutrition, sleep… the final is movement. How much are you moving every day? This is overly simple. But I’ll tell at a point in my life when I thought I was really active – I wake up, I do a 30-minute walk on the beach with a jog, I go lift weights at the gym, I do an hour of yoga in the afternoon, and I sat down and I use one of these little fitness trackers to see how much I was actually moving. And I thought well I have to be way above average because I’m moving so much, I’m so active. I mean I work out, I do yoga, I lift weights – I have tons of steps. And I remember a saying that the average person should be doing 10,000 steps a day to stay super healthy. And I remember wearing it for the first time, coming home, looking at it, and thinking it must not be calibrated right because it said I only walked 4,000 steps that day. I remember thinking, “wait a minute, holy smokes! I’m not even giving an average kind of result”. And I expect myself to perform above average. I want above average, extraordinary, outstanding results and I’m only showing up average in my steps. That’s weird. So I did it for a week and I found out it was true. And all of a sudden I started to figure out what could I do each day to get to just a thousand more steps, 2500 more steps, one more mile in each day? And by doing it, it caused me to find ways to increase my performance and it paid dividends in results, phenomenal results! So question, how much are you actually moving? Now here’s a bigger question and that’s in the download today, which is how are you currently tracking day-to-day all 3 of these categories? Because what I find is when I work with top executives of different companies and say how well do you sleep, they’d say “Oh pretty well”. I’d say how do you know that? And you get the weird, “oh I guess I wake up most days feeling good and I normally sleep about this many hours”. I’d say what system, what device, how are you actually tracking the quality of your sleep not just the time? Are you using one of those Apple products to kind of watch how you move at night? Are you using a Fitbit or a sleep tracker in some way to see how deep your sleep is, the quality? What about your nutrition, can you track not only what you’re eating but how nutritious it is for your body? Are you eating right for your blood type and those kinds of things? Are you putting the right fuel for your body, for the machine you have? You put a different type of fuel in the Lamborghini than you do a Toyota Corolla. But what kind of fuel and how do you know the difference? How are you measuring the quality of what you’re fueling your body with? Not only that, movement! How are you tracking your movement? When you go to the gym, do you just write it down? Do you have a journal? Again, do you use a tracker? So we have some suggestions for you if you want to increase your performance. This is the very first base level kind of rating we give any of our clients that come to work with us for one-on-one coaching. We help them figure out what are they actually doing. And then we help them create a plan and figure out how do they want to improve it, where do they want to go from here? And how they’re going to set up systems and accountability to make sure they’re actually following through. So it’s not something you intellectually know you should be doing, but something you’re actually applying and doing every single day. So download today’s worksheet. Get a rating. Get a scale of how you feel you’re actually doing. Grab some of the tools we use. Try them out and see how you’re actually performing. If you want some help to increase your performance, give us a call. We’ll do a complimentary 30-minute session with you with myself or one of our coaches. And we’ll help you put together a plan on how you can increase your personal and professional performance. So I hope you enjoy this episode. Pass it on if you think you know someone who needs it. Hit the share button and spread the love! And I’ll see you next week for another episode of JRCtv. Enjoy!! To Your Success, Jairek

3 Fundamentals to Increase Personal Performance

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here:  http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-eliminate-negative-stress/   Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCtv.   I’m so excited this week to help focus on a couple simple strategies you could do to literally de-stress your entire life, how to get all the negative stress out almost immediately.   So what are the simple ways you can go about literally getting rid of all the distress in your life? Well, let’s start off by sharing 2 types of stress that can occur in your life:   First is Eustress. Eustress is the positive stress, the good stress that shows up when you’re going after something you really want. So the pressure you put on yourself that says I want this goal, I’m going to create a little bit of tension, a little bit of pressure, a little bit of stress to get myself to go after those goals and make it happen. That’s the good stress. We don’t want to get rid of that. That’s useful that propels us, like emotional rocket fuel, to go after our goals, our dreams, our desires, the results we really desire and deserve.   On the other hand, there’s something called Distress. Distress is the type of stress that’s prolonged and starts to deteriorate, tear down, and if not become toxic and poison in our internal nervous system. It starts to put certain hormones and chemicals into our brain and body that start to deteriorate us if left there for a prolonged period of time. So too much cortisol over too much time, too much adrenaline, too much you burn out your adrenals. So all these negative side effects could happen if you stay in that state for too long.   So in today’s world, the question becomes how much stress do we normally have? Well, depends on where you are in life – if you have children, and a spouse, and taking care of yourself, taking care of your health, working hard, earning a paycheck, paying the bills, travelling, trying to make everyone happy in your life, trying to be happy yourself, trying to figure out what life is about – I’ll stop but you might feel a little tension already. Or what’s the purpose of your life? What are you really here for? It’s like aaahhhh - I don’t know! Those are the types of things that cause stress. Just about everything nowadays. Not including how many people liked your last post. Just kidding!   But what happens is all these things is causing prolonged stress again and again and again and again and again and again on your mind and bodies. And many of us don’t have simple core techniques or habits we do every single day to literally get rid of or drain our life of these stress that shows up.   So what are my favorite ways to get rid of any stress that can show up in your life?   Meditation. It’s been show study after study after study that when you can get yourself to sit down, clear your mind at will, become very present of the moment you’re in, and allow that space – it literally drains the stress out of your body almost instantaneously. For all the business executives, entrepreneurs we work with, many of them when I recommend meditation always go “Oh yeah great, what’s next? Give me the next thing. I’m not good at that one. I’m not good at sitting down and thinking of nothing. There’s always something in my mind” is what they say. So we say there’s a couple of devices that we use with our clients that’s really helpful.    Number one is something called Headspace. It’s an app you can download. It’s free for the first 10 modules. And it teaches you the basics of meditation. Now I have a client who runs an incubator fund over in London who is not a spiritual or meditation kind of person. And he got hooked on this. I’ll never forget but he called me back and he was like “wow, I never knew what it would feel like to just have peace and quiet in my mind and different moments throughout the day at will or by choice”. He said this is amazing, people need to know about this. And I said “they do!” Most of them know about it but they just don’t practice, they don’t do it regularly. Or they do it when they are stressed out instead of building the muscle when they’re not so that they can use it when they need it. And that’s the key to this. The goal is that every single day you build the muscle so that when you need it, you can deploy the ability to center, ground and calm your entire mind and body at will with just a couple of breaths.    One other tool we use is something called Choose Muse. In today’s download, we’ll throw a link in there you can use to get a discount on it. It’s something we use and it allows you to track the actual brain activity, the patterns of your mind, and shows you how well you’re meditating. Because when I first started out I thought I was killing it when I was using Headspace. Then I put on this little headband that showed a mini-EEG and all of a sudden I realized I was all over the place! I was thinking all kinds of stuff at the process. So I learned there’s a way to actually get myself auditory feedback of how well I’m actually performing during the meditation and little by little by little increase my ability to keep my mind completely quiet during the entire process. Very useful tool!    I’m going to go as far as say “Hey, what about just listening to your favorite music?” Thinking about something you really love or enjoy. So I would say hey, take time to sit down, put on your favorite music – music that reminds you of maybe the first time you met your spouse or significant other, maybe a time when you had a major victory or accomplishment in your life, something you achieved that you’re so proud of, maybe an incredible vacation you went on a place that literally just allowed you to feel so alive and centered. Now whatever it was that gave you permission to really just relax, become present and enjoy your life, play the music that reminds you of that and literally close your eyes, not if you’re driving but if you were still somewhere safe, close your eyes and vividly imagine the moments that that song reminds you of. The moment when you met him, the moment lying on that beach so peaceful and calm, the moment you took that fun trip or had a great victory. We call these an emotional flood. And by flooding your mind with the music and the visual images and the memories of all these amazing things, it literally counteracts stress.    One of the things you can do? Keep a gratitude journal. Take moments to sit down and write out 5 things you are grateful for each and every day. Scientific research shows when you’re able to do this, it trains your mind to scan the world around you to look for what’s good about it which causes us to feel less stressed, to feel more calm and centered and happy. So in that there’s one other piece of research that came from Stanford that says not only can you identify 5 things, but identify 5 specific attributes in each one of those pieces. So I might say I’m very grateful for my wife, and that’s one element. Now what am I grateful to her for? I’m grateful for her cooking. I’m grateful for her loving. I’m grateful for her snuggles in the morning. I’m grateful for how happy and how funny she is every single day. And taking those moments, all of sudden, deepens the experience of gratitude in your spirit which lessens the stress, calms you up, makes you happy.    So those are 3 of the 5 tips on how to de-stress. We’re going to put 2 more for you just as a bonus in today’s download. And I’ll also give you example questions you can use on how to best use each one of these tools or suggestions.   So download today’s worksheet. Get in there, have some fun. De-stress, get these stuff out of your life so you can stay calm, happy, healthy, strong, fulfilled in your journey towards rapid results and massive results hopefully in your life and business. Also, if you know someone who tends to be more stressed out than others, make sure to share this with them or tag them in the comments or tell them “hey, go watch the video now!”   Have fun with the worksheet. Make sure you take some action. And let us know how it’s helping you. If you happen to be in a stressed out state and you use some of the tools today and it got great results, please email us a testimonial or post it online with #performancecoachuniversity and let us know how it’s helped you in your life and business.   Have fun with this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCtv.

Download the worksheet that goes along with this episode here:  <a href="http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-eliminate-negative-stress/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.jairekrobbins.com/how-to-eliminate-negative-stress/</a> Hey there, welcome back to another episode of JRCtv. I’m so excited this week to help focus on a couple simple strategies you could do to literally de-stress your entire life, how to get all the negative stress out almost immediately. So what are the simple ways you can go about literally getting rid of all the distress in your life? Well, let’s start off by sharing 2 types of stress that can occur in your life: <ol><li>First is Eustress. Eustress is the positive stress, the good stress that shows up when you’re going after something you really want. So the pressure you put on yourself that says I want this goal, I’m going to create a little bit of tension, a little bit of pressure, a little bit of stress to get myself to go after those goals and make it happen. That’s the good stress. We don’t want to get rid of that. That’s useful that propels us, like emotional rocket fuel, to go after our goals, our dreams, our desires, the results we really desire and deserve.</li> </ol> <ol><li>On the other hand, there’s something called Distress. Distress is the type of stress that’s prolonged and starts to deteriorate, tear down, and if not become toxic and poison in our internal nervous system. It starts to put certain hormones and chemicals into our brain and body that start to deteriorate us if left there for a prolonged period of time. So too much cortisol over too much time, too much adrenaline, too much you burn out your adrenals. So all these negative side effects could happen if you stay in that state for too long.</li> </ol> So in today’s world, the question becomes how much stress do we normally have? Well, depends on where you are in life – if you have children, and a spouse, and taking care of yourself, taking care of your health, working hard, earning a paycheck, paying the bills, travelling, trying to make everyone happy in your life, trying to be happy yourself, trying to figure out what life is about – I’ll stop but you might feel a little tension already. Or what’s the purpose of your life? What are you really here for? It’s like aaahhhh - I don’t know! Those are the types of things that cause stress. Just about everything nowadays. Not including how many people liked your last post. Just kidding! But what happens is all these things is causing prolonged stress again and again and again and again and again and again on your mind and bodies. And many of us don’t have simple core techniques or habits we do every single day to literally get rid of or drain our life of these stress that shows up. So what are my favorite ways to get rid of any stress that can show up in your life? <ul><li>Meditation. It’s been show study after study after study that when you can get yourself to sit down, clear your mind at will, become very present of the moment you’re in, and allow that space – it literally drains the stress out of your body almost instantaneously. For all the business executives, entrepreneurs we work with, many of them when I recommend meditation always go “Oh yeah great, what’s next? Give me the next thing. I’m not good at that one. I’m not good at sitting down and thinking of nothing. There’s always something in my mind” is what they say. So we say there’s a couple of devices that we use with our clients that’s really helpful.</li> </ul> <ul><li>Number one is something called Headspace. It’s an app you can download. It’s free for the first 10 modules. And it teaches you the basics of meditation. Now I have a client who runs an incubator fund over in London who is not a spiritual or meditation kind of person. And he got hooked on this. I’ll never forget but he called me back and he was like “wow, I never knew what it would feel like to just have peace and quiet in my mind and different moments throughout the day at will or by choice”. He said this is amazing, people need to know about this. And I said “they do!” Most of them know about it but they just don’t practice, they don’t do it regularly. Or they do it when they are stressed out instead of building the muscle when they’re not so that they can use it when they need it. And that’s the key to this. The goal is that every single day you build the muscle so that when you need it, you can deploy the ability to center, ground and calm your entire mind and body at will with just a couple of breaths.</li> </ul> <ul><li>One other tool we use is something called Choose Muse. In today’s download, we’ll throw a link in there you can use to get a discount on it. It’s something we use and it allows you to track the actual brain activity, the patterns of your mind, and shows you how well you’re meditating. Because when I first started out I thought I was killing it when I was using Headspace. Then I put on this little headband that showed a mini-EEG and all of a sudden I realized I was all over the place! I was thinking all kinds of stuff at the process. So I learned there’s a way to actually get myself auditory feedback of how well I’m actually performing during the meditation and little by little by little increase my ability to keep my mind completely quiet during the entire process. Very useful tool!</li> </ul> <ul><li>I’m going to go as far as say “Hey, what about just listening to your favorite music?” Thinking about something you really love or enjoy. So I would say hey, take time to sit down, put on your favorite music – music that reminds you of maybe the first time you met your spouse or significant other, maybe a time when you had a major victory or accomplishment in your life, something you achieved that you’re so proud of, maybe an incredible vacation you went on a place that literally just allowed you to feel so alive and centered. Now whatever it was that gave you permission to really just relax, become present and enjoy your life, play the music that reminds you of that and literally close your eyes, not if you’re driving but if you were still somewhere safe, close your eyes and vividly imagine the moments that that song reminds you of. The moment when you met him, the moment lying on that beach so peaceful and calm, the moment you took that fun trip or had a great victory. We call these an emotional flood. And by flooding your mind with the music and the visual images and the memories of all these amazing things, it literally counteracts stress.</li> </ul> <ul><li>One of the things you can do? Keep a gratitude journal. Take moments to sit down and write out 5 things you are grateful for each and every day. Scientific research shows when you’re able to do this, it trains your mind to scan the world around you to look for what’s good about it which causes us to feel less stressed, to feel more calm and centered and happy. So in that there’s one other piece of research that came from Stanford that says not only can you identify 5 things, but identify 5 specific attributes in each one of those pieces. So I might say I’m very grateful for my wife, and that’s one element. Now what am I grateful to her for? I’m grateful for her cooking. I’m grateful for her loving. I’m grateful for her snuggles in the morning. I’m grateful for how happy and how funny she is every single day. And taking those moments, all of sudden, deepens the experience of gratitude in your spirit which lessens the stress, calms you up, makes you happy.</li> </ul> So those are 3 of the 5 tips on how to de-stress. We’re going to put 2 more for you just as a bonus in today’s download. And I’ll also give you example questions you can use on how to best use each one of these tools or suggestions. So download today’s worksheet. Get in there, have some fun. De-stress, get these stuff out of your life so you can stay calm, happy, healthy, strong, fulfilled in your journey towards rapid results and massive results hopefully in your life and business. Also, if you know someone who tends to be more stressed out than others, make sure to share this with them or tag them in the comments or tell them “hey, go watch the video now!” Have fun with the worksheet. Make sure you take some action. And let us know how it’s helping you. If you happen to be in a stressed out state and you use some of the tools today and it got great results, please email us a testimonial or post it online with #performancecoachuniversity and let us know how it’s helped you in your life and business. Have fun with this. I look forward to seeing you next week for another episode of JRCtv.

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