You’ve probably heard of love languages, or maybe you haven’t. But when minister Gary Chapman noted that spouses often communicated love past one another, he realized that we express love in different ways. So, he proposed that there are five love languages—and his book of the same name became a bestseller and perennial favorite. Today, we’ll talk about those languages and what they mean when it comes to our favorite topic: sex. Sponsor Get 20% off the new CBD skincare and bath &amp; body line (derived from USA-grown hemp and independently lab tested to be THC free). Use coupon code FCW20 at checkout! Click here for the new CBD Line Click here to visit the main webite From the Bible  Gifts: Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12   Quality Time: My beloved is mine and I am his;     he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks     and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved,     and be like a gazelle or like a young stag     on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 2:17  Physical Touch: His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3   Acts of Service: I would lead you     and bring you to my mother’s house—     she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink,     the nectar of my pomegranates. Song of Songs 8:2   Words of Affirmation:   HE How beautiful you are, my darling!     Oh, how beautiful!     Your eyes are doves.   SHE How handsome you are, my beloved!     Oh, how charming!     And our bed is verdant.  (Many other passages in Song of Solomon demonstrate Words of Affirmation!) Resources   The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages® Identify Your Spouse's Love Language - Love Languages Quiz (calmhealthysexy.com) Speak Your Husband's Love Language- and Strengthen Your Marriage (calmhealthysexy.com) Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language is Important • Bonny's Oysterbed7 "Do You Enjoy Getting Flowers?" What Your Answers Tell Me About Marriage - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Help Your Husband Speak Love in Your Language | The Forgiven Wife Loving My Husband | The Forgiven Wife Episode 67: Romance and Your Bedroom Fuzu Massage Candle | MarriedDance Astroglide Strawberry-Flavored Water-Based Personal Lubricant | MarriedDance Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Bedazzled, Bothered, and Bewildered - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (on vajazzling) Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.  Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

You’ve probably heard of love languages, or maybe you haven’t. But when minister Gary Chapman noted that spouses often communicated love past one another, he realized that we express love in different ways. So, he proposed that there are five love languages—and his book of the same name became a bestseller and perennial favorite. Today, we’ll talk about those languages and what they mean when it comes to our favorite topic: sex. Sponsor Get 20% off the new CBD skincare and bath &amp; body line (derived from USA-grown hemp and independently lab tested to be THC free). Use coupon code FCW20 at checkout! <a href="https://bathbombswithcbd.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Click here for the new CBD Line</a> <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Click here to visit the main webite</a> From the Bible Gifts: Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:12 Quality Time: My beloved is mine and I am his;     he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks     and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved,     and be like a gazelle or like a young stag     on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 2:17 Physical Touch: His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Acts of Service: I would lead you     and bring you to my mother’s house—     she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink,     the nectar of my pomegranates. Song of Songs 8:2 Words of Affirmation: HE How beautiful you are, my darling!     Oh, how beautiful!     Your eyes are doves. SHE How handsome you are, my beloved!     Oh, how charming!     And our bed is verdant. (Many other passages in Song of Solomon demonstrate Words of Affirmation!) Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/3rMypcg" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman</a></li> <li><a href="https://5lovelanguages.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages®</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/spouses-love-language-quiz/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Identify Your Spouse's Love Language - Love Languages Quiz (calmhealthysexy.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/speak-your-husbands-love-language/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Speak Your Husband's Love Language- and Strengthen Your Marriage (calmhealthysexy.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://oysterbed7.com/why-knowing-your-low-drive-wifes-love-language-is-important/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language is Important • Bonny's Oysterbed7</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/09/05/do-you-enjoy-getting-flowers-what-your-answers-tell-me-about-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">"Do You Enjoy Getting Flowers?" What Your Answers Tell Me About Marriage - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/help-husband-speak-love-language/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Help Your Husband Speak Love in Your Language | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/loving-my-husband/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Loving My Husband | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-67-romance-and-your-bedroom/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 67: Romance and Your Bedroom</a></li> <li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/shop/miscellaneous/massage/massage-candles/fuzu-massage-candle/?aff=51" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Fuzu Massage Candle | MarriedDance</a></li> <li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/shop/lube/lubricants/astroglide-strawberry-lubricant/?aff=51" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Astroglide Strawberry-Flavored Water-Based Personal Lubricant | MarriedDance</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-10-tending-your-garden/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 10: Tending Your Garden</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/01/19/bedazzled-bothered-and-bewildered/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Bedazzled, Bothered, and Bewildered - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (on vajazzling)</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-120-our-holiday-gift-guide/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples</a></li> </ul> Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a>. and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmas) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Love Languages & Sexual Intimacy

The term “emotional labor” has come to mean the emotional cost of outwardly acting with composure when inwardly we are feeling something different. Rose Hackman, an expert on emotional labor describes is at the editing work of emotions that someone would do in order to have an effects on the emotions of someone else. Today, we want to talk about emotional labor and how it can negatively affect sexual interest.   Sponsor   MarriedDance - Christian sex toy store - Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping   Join the podcast team for a Meet &amp; Greet! Saturday, July 22, 1:00–3:00 pm 1035 Acorn Drive, Nashville TN 37210     From the Bible   Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6:2–5   If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18   Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. Ephesians 4:9   A wife of noble character who can find?     She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her     and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm,     all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax     and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships,     bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night;     she provides food for her family     and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it;     out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously;     her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable,     and her lamp does not go out at night. Proverbs 31:10–18    Resources  What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships? (brides.com) (mentioned by J) 5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say – CalmHealthySexy How to Manage Your Family’s Schedule (to Reduce Stress!) – CalmHealthySexy The Working Mother’s Guilt Guide Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS Voices Women are earning more, but they’re still doing more housework and caregiving : NPR Does Choreplay Work? – Knowing Her Sexually Why a Husband Helping Around the House Makes a Wife More Open to Sex – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Episode 5: Sex Scheduling Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 Calm. Healthy. Happy. – 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and C – CalmHealthySexy ($5 book)  This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.  Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

The term “emotional labor” has come to mean the emotional cost of outwardly acting with composure when inwardly we are feeling something different. Rose Hackman, an expert on emotional labor describes is at the editing work of emotions that someone would do in order to have an effects on the emotions of someone else. Today, we want to talk about emotional labor and how it can negatively affect sexual interest. Sponsor <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MarriedDance - Christian sex toy store - Nudity-Free, Discreet Shipping</a> Join the podcast team for a Meet &amp; Greet! Saturday, July 22, 1:00–3:00 pm 1035 Acorn Drive, Nashville TN 37210  From the Bible Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6:2–5 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. Ephesians 4:9 A wife of noble character who can find?     She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her     and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm,     all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax     and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships,     bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night;     she provides food for her family     and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it;     out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously;     her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable,     and her lamp does not go out at night. Proverbs 31:10–18 Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://www.brides.com/emotional-labor-in-relationships-5218838" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships? (brides.com)</a> (mentioned by J)</li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/5-words-women-need-to-learn-to-say/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say – CalmHealthySexy</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/manage-your-familys-schedule-2/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Manage Your Family’s Schedule (to Reduce Stress!) – CalmHealthySexy</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Working-Mothers-Guilt-Guide-Whatever/dp/0140166246" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Working Mother’s Guilt Guide</a></li> <li><a href="https://khsministry.com/2021/03/18/balance-motherhood-and-sexual-intimacy/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://youtu.be/cljITUAen_Q" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS Voices</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.npr.org/2023/04/13/1168961388/pew-earnings-gender-wage-gap-housework-chores-child-care" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Women are earning more, but they’re still doing more housework and caregiving : NPR</a></li> <li><a href="https://khsministry.com/2020/06/04/episode-6-does-choreplay-work/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Does Choreplay Work? – Knowing Her Sexually</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2023/04/25/helping-around-the-house/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why a Husband Helping Around the House Makes a Wife More Open to Sex – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-5-sex-scheduling/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 5: Sex Scheduling</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-148-sex-scheduling-101/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101</a></li> <li><a href="https://shop.calmhealthysexy.com/collections/happy-marriage/products/healthy-life-happy-marriage-17-healthy-ideas-for-your-life-and-marriage" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Calm. Healthy. Happy. – 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and C – CalmHealthySexy</a> ($5 book)</li> </ul> This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a>. and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmas) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Emotional Labor and How it Affects Sexual Interest

We’re recording before the American Independence Day, but this episode will air on July 4th—a time when fireworks displays can be found all over the country. But what about the explosive power of lovemaking? How can you create fireworks in the bedroom? Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Get the subscription box HERE, and shop more widely at Share the Soap HERE. From the Bible The mandrakes send out their fragrance,  and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old,  that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 Resources   Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm How to Have Vacation Sex - Even When You're Not on Vacation (calmhealthysexy.com) Marriage Cruise - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous - ONLY A FEW SPOTS LEFT! 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Want a transcript of this episode? With the help of AI, we're trying out a new feature. Click HERE to get a PDF with a (rough) transcription of Episode 157: Creating Fireworks in the Bedroom.  Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

We’re recording before the American Independence Day, but this episode will air on July 4th—a time when fireworks displays can be found all over the country. But what about the explosive power of lovemaking? How can you create fireworks in the bedroom? Sponsor From <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Share the Soap</a>, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Get the subscription box <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/products/celebrate-quarterly-subscription-box?selling_plan=1611956402&amp;variant=43045426069682" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a>, and shop more widely at Share the Soap <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a>. From the Bible The mandrakes send out their fragrance,  and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old,  that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-153-practical-tips-for-reaching-orgasm/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/vacation-sex-even-youre-not-vacation/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Have Vacation Sex - Even When You're Not on Vacation (calmhealthysexy.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Marriage Cruise - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> - ONLY A FEW SPOTS LEFT!</li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/03/17/5-times-of-day-to-make-love/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> </ul> Want a transcript of this episode? With the help of AI, we're trying out a new feature. <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Fireworks-Transcript.pdf" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Click HERE to get a PDF with a (rough) transcription of Episode 157: Creating Fireworks in the Bedroom</a>. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a>. and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmas) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Creating Fireworks in the Bedroom

About this episode  Today we're talking about the penis. What exactly is it? How does your husband feel about it? How do you feel about it? And how can you get comfortable and have fun with it?  Sponsor  Click here to learn more  From the Bible   So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27    Resources     Diane Kelly: What we didn't know about penis anatomy | TED Talk Oral Sex Webinar - Sex Chat for Christian Wives - ONLY $10! Penis Size: From the Wife's Point of View - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: "Is My Penis Big Enough?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: "Will My Larger Penis Hurt My Bride?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: Doesn't She Really Want a Bigger Penis? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Does size matter? Men's and women's views on penis size across the lifespan. (apa.org) - study mentioned Get to Know His Penis - The Forgiven Wife How to Give a Hand Job - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Enjoying Your Husband's Semen - The Forgiven Wife Erection - The Cleveland Clinic 

About this episode Today we're talking about the penis. What exactly is it? How does your husband feel about it? How do you feel about it? And how can you get comfortable and have fun with it? Sponsor <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Click here to learn more</a> From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/diane_kelly_what_we_didn_t_know_about_penis_anatomy?language=en" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Diane Kelly: What we didn't know about penis anatomy | TED Talk</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/oral-sex-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Oral Sex Webinar - Sex Chat for Christian Wives - ONLY $10!</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/10/29/penis-size-from-the-wifes-point-of-view/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Penis Size: From the Wife's Point of View - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/08/28/qa-with-j-is-my-penis-big-enough/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: "Is My Penis Big Enough?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/07/qa-with-j-will-my-larger-penis-hurt-my-bride/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: "Will My Larger Penis Hurt My Bride?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/04/05/qa-bigger-penis/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: Doesn't She Really Want a Bigger Penis? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F1524-9220.7.3.129" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Does size matter? Men's and women's views on penis size across the lifespan. (apa.org) - study mentioned</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/get-know-penis/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Get to Know His Penis - The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/02/28/how-to-give-a-hand-job/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Give a Hand Job - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/enjoying-your-husbands-semen/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Enjoying Your Husband's Semen - The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/10036-erection#:~:text=When%20the%20blood%20vessels%20of,of%20valves%2C%20creating%20an%20erection." rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Erection - The Cleveland Clinic</a></li> </ul>

What's Up with the Penis?

Today's episode focuses on a group of women who often struggle to enjoy sex or prioritize sex in their marriages – busy moms. This group includes women across a wide range of ages and life stages 0151from those caring for infants and toddlers at home to those juggling all of the activities, demands, and worries involved in raising teenagers. We talk about some of the things that get in the way of busy moms enjoying sex in their marriages and share some ideas for creating a more enjoyable sex life. Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Visit Share the Soap. From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity;     she can laugh at the days to come. Her children arise and call her blessed;     her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things,     but you surpass them all.” Proberbs 31:25, 28-29 Resources   Manage Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Words You Need to Learn to Say - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.  4 Reasons to Add a Regular "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Q&amp;A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Yes, Kid, Your Mommy and Daddy Have Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife 3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Moms still doing more housework in COVID 19 pandemic | Ball State University (bsu.edu) A Guy's Guide To Emotional Labor - AskMen (article recommended by Chris) Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay - ONLY $10!   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

Today's episode focuses on a group of women who often struggle to enjoy sex or prioritize sex in their marriages – busy moms. This group includes women across a wide range of ages and life stages 0151from those caring for infants and toddlers at home to those juggling all of the activities, demands, and worries involved in raising teenagers. We talk about some of the things that get in the way of busy moms enjoying sex in their marriages and share some ideas for creating a more enjoyable sex life. Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/products/celebrate-quarterly-subscription-box?selling_plan=1611956402&amp;variant=43045426069682" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">new quarterly subscription box</a>! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Visit <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Share the Soap</a>. From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity;     she can laugh at the days to come. Her children arise and call her blessed;     her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things,     but you surpass them all.” Proberbs 31:25, 28-29 Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/manage-your-familys-schedule-2/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Manage Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/5-words-women-need-to-learn-to-say/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">5 Words You Need to Learn to Say - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/6-simple-ways-slow-down-this-summer/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/4-reasons-to-add-a-regular-parents-night-to-your-familys-schedule/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 4 Reasons to Add a Regular "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/10/05/qa-with-j-babys-here-but-sex-not-so-much/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/05/20/yes-kid-your-mommy-and-daddy-have-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Yes, Kid, Your Mommy and Daddy Have Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/03/12/making-love-when-you-have-teens-in-the-home/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/08/27/qa-with-j-avoiding-sex-because-the-kids-can-hear/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-95-depression-and-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex?</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/after-baby-comes-along/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/what-will-the-kids-think/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://oysterbed7.com/3-ways-for-young-moms-to-feel-more-sensual/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual • Bonny's Oysterbed7</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.bsu.edu/news/press-center/archives/2020/5/moms-still-doing-more-housework-in-covid-19-pandemic" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Moms still doing more housework in COVID 19 pandemic | Ball State University (bsu.edu)</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/a-guy-s-guide-to-emotional-labor.html" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Guy's Guide To Emotional Labor - AskMen (article recommended by Chris)</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/getting-in-the-mood-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay - ONLY $10!</a></li> </ul> Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a>. and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmas) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Sex for Busy Moms

Today, we're discussing pornography and erotica, and you can probably guess where our collective opinions land. But we want to explore this topic just a little further to solidify where your values land. Sponsor Strong Wives - Coaching &amp; Sexual Clarity Course Email Bonny: bonny@strongwives.com From the Bible So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (NLT) I will conduct the affairs of my house     with a blameless heart. I will not look with approval     on anything that is vile. Psalm 101:2b–3a Drink water from your own cistern,     running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets,     your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone,     never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed,     and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:15–18 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Matthew 5:27–30 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Job 31:1 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 Resources   Defining Pornography • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 3: 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again A Shaded View of Romance | The Forgiven Wife Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? | The Forgiven Wife As Bad as Porn? | The Forgiven Wife Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous An Open Letter on Porn (gottman.com) Why Do Women Pose for Porn? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer 5 Reasons to Stop Using Porn...Now - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous It's True: Porn Can Kill Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous You're Not Freaking Out, You're Responding to Death • Strong Wives The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays Q&amp;A with J: "My Husband Is Addicted to Porn" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery Strong Wives - Bonny's website Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? | The Forgiven Wife Q&amp;A with J: "What Should We Call Persistent Porn Use?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Why Does He Watch Porn? Understanding Root Causes • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Critiques of Questionable &amp; Misleading Studies; Debunking Propaganda Pieces (yourbrainonporn.com) Check out our webinars. Some are priced at $5, some at $10 — ALL an amazing deal!   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.  Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmas) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

Today, we're discussing pornography and erotica, and you can probably guess where our collective opinions land. But we want to explore this topic just a little further to solidify where your values land. Sponsor <a href="https://strongwives.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives - Coaching &amp; Sexual Clarity Course</a> Email Bonny: <a href="mailto:bonny@strongwives.com">bonny@strongwives.com</a> From the Bible So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (NLT) I will conduct the affairs of my house     with a blameless heart. I will not look with approval     on anything that is vile. Psalm 101:2b–3a Drink water from your own cistern,     running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets,     your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone,     never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed,     and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:15–18 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Matthew 5:27–30 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Job 31:1 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://oysterbed7.com/defining-pornography/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Defining Pornography • Bonny's Oysterbed7</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-3-50-shades-of-here-we-go-again/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 3: 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/shaded-view-romance/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Shaded View of Romance | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/romance-novels-okay-christian-women/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/as-bad-as-porn/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">As Bad as Porn? | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/05/02/common-myths-of-romance-novels/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-open-letter-on-porn/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">An Open Letter on Porn (gottman.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2011/11/21/why-pose-for-porn/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Do Women Pose for Porn? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/3oEj8Jf" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2014/09/08/5-reasons-to-stop-using-porn-now/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Reasons to Stop Using Porn...Now - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/04/18/its-true-porn-can-kill-your-sex-life/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">It's True: Porn Can Kill Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://strongwives.com/youre-not-freaking-out-youre-experiencing-the-devastation-of-sexual-betrayal-trauma/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">You're Not Freaking Out, You're Responding to Death • Strong Wives</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/3WDXIIR" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/02/23/qa-with-j-my-husband-is-addicted-to-porn/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: "My Husband Is Addicted to Porn" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-40-healing-after-porn-discovery/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery</a></li> <li><a href="https://strongwives.com" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives - Bonny's website</a></li> <li><a href="https://hopeforwives.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/porn-addiction/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/03/09/qa-with-j-what-should-we-call-persistent-porn-use/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: "What Should We Call Persistent Porn Use?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://oysterbed7.com/why-does-he-watch-porn-understanding-root-cause/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Does He Watch Porn? Understanding Root Causes • Bonny's Oysterbed7</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/relevant-research-and-articles-about-the-studies/critiques-of-questionable-debunking-propaganda-pieces/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Critiques of Questionable &amp; Misleading Studies; Debunking Propaganda Pieces (yourbrainonporn.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/webinars/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Check out our webinars. Some are priced at $5, some at $10 — ALL an amazing deal!</a></li> </ul> Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a>. and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmas) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Why We're Against Porn and Erotica

About this episode  One of the most frequent questions we hear is how can we more easily achieve the ultimate moment with our husbands in the bedroom. So today, we are talking about practical tips to reach orgasm.    Sponsors Venus Pearls This episode is also sponsored by Married Dance, an online Christian sex toy store  From the Bible   Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2   Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1b    Resources     Orgasm Webinar - ONLY $10! Peace and Fireworks | The Forgiven Wife Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Q&amp;A with J: Does He Know How Your Orgasm Works? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous 6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband | Honeycomb &amp; Spice Q&amp;A with J: "How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (see O series list at the bottom) Does Your Husband Prioritize Your Orgasm? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife  This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

About this episode One of the most frequent questions we hear is how can we more easily achieve the ultimate moment with our husbands in the bedroom. So today, we are talking about practical tips to reach orgasm. Sponsors <a href="https://b-ltx.com/venus-pearls/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Venus Pearls</a> This episode is also sponsored by <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Dance, an online Christian sex toy store</a> From the Bible Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1b Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/orgasm-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Orgasm Webinar - ONLY $10!</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/peace-and-fireworks/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Peace and Fireworks | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/42JQoNY" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/01/12/qa-with-j-does-he-know-how-your-orgasm-works/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: Does He Know How Your Orgasm Works? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2023/05/15/rebuilding-intimacy-in-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/07/24/forget-what-you-look-like-while-making-love/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://honeycombspice.com/6-steps-to-learn-to-orgasm-with-your-husband/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband | Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/03/29/orgasm-with-penetration/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: "How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?" - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://oysterbed7.com/a-key-to-understanding-orgasm-deep-spots/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (see O series list at the bottom)</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2019/03/07/does-your-husband-prioritize-your-orgasm/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Does Your Husband Prioritize Your Orgasm? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/03/05/these-3-actions-could-bring-you-to-orgasm/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/scent/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> </ul> This post may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you.

Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm

While some Christian leaders and churches address the topic of sex well, too many either mishandle it or ignore it altogether. We here at the virtual kitchen table have heard the stories, good and bad. And we’re bringing our collective wisdom today to share what we wish more churches knew about sex and how to encourage church leaders to talk more biblically, authentically, and respectfully about it. Sponsor SHARE THE SOAP: Its purpose is to provide you with the essentials you need in a way that lavishes your skin, fills your senses and lifts your mood so that you are free to share the gifts and talents you've been blessed with. Visit Share the Soap HERE. From the Bible Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. James 3:1 (A heavy verse for all of us who dare to instruct others publicly. May God give us wisdom.) Resources   Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (with a sermon on sex from Kevin A. Thompson) A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Authentic Intimacy - Resources for Leaders One Way Churches Could Really Help Marriages - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Invite J to Speak! - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Sexual Clarity for Christian Women Course w/Bonny • Strong Wives Intimacy Mentoring w/Chris Taylor - Honeycomb &amp; Spice Why Abuse in the Church Makes Me Crazy - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Samson Society Episode 22:: Sexual Harassment #ustoo Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth  Note: All women who shared quotes and scenarios with Bonny gave her permission to share them on this podcast.  Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

While some Christian leaders and churches address the topic of sex well, too many either mishandle it or ignore it altogether. We here at the virtual kitchen table have heard the stories, good and bad. And we’re bringing our collective wisdom today to share what we wish more churches knew about sex and how to encourage church leaders to talk more biblically, authentically, and respectfully about it. Sponsor SHARE THE SOAP: Its purpose is to provide you with the essentials you need in a way that lavishes your skin, fills your senses and lifts your mood so that you are free to share the gifts and talents you've been blessed with. <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Visit Share the Soap HERE</a>. From the Bible Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. James 3:1 (A heavy verse for all of us who dare to instruct others publicly. May God give us wisdom.) Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-50-happily-with-kevin-a-thompson/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2014/09/18/will-your-pastor-preach-on-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (with a sermon on sex from Kevin A. Thompson)</li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2014/09/22/a-message-to-your-pastor-and-mine/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-118-sex-is-for-you-too/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.authenticintimacy.com/leaders" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Authentic Intimacy - Resources for Leaders</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2022/08/01/one-way-churches-could-help-marriages/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">One Way Churches Could Really Help Marriages - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com)</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/want-j-to-speak-at-your-event/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Invite J to Speak! - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://strongwives.com/sexual-clarity-for-christian-women/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Sexual Clarity for Christian Women Course w/Bonny • Strong Wives</a></li> <li><a href="https://honeycombspice.com/intimacy-mentoring/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Intimacy Mentoring w/Chris Taylor - Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/12/why-abuse-in-the-church-makes-me-crazy/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Abuse in the Church Makes Me Crazy - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://samsonsociety.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Samson Society</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-22-sexual-harassment-ustoo/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 22:: Sexual Harassment #ustoo</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-64-healing-from-sexual-abuse-with-mary-demuth/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth</a></li> </ul> Note: All women who shared quotes and scenarios with Bonny gave her permission to share them on this podcast. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a> and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmus) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

What We'd Tell Your Pastor (About Sex)

In this episode, we tackle listener questions, including where Christian wives can find sex tips and techniques, fantasizing during lovemaking, when it's okay to refuse sex, and how to grab hold of an elusive orgasm.  Sponsor J. Parker is hosting an online conference for higher desire wives! It's coming up on April 29, 2023 and features six speakers addressing our common-yet-challenging situation. You can attend live, part-live and part-recorded, or all recorded on your own time. But REGISTER TODAY to get the $49 pre-event price! Learn More about Desire Con 2023 From the Bible  Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4 (NASB)   Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NKJV) - but see the definition and examples for deprivation HERE  Resources   75 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Sex Life - Honeycomb &amp; Spice How To Tips - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle Foreplay – Webinar Getting in the Mood Webinar Oral Sex Webinar 280+ Illustrated Sex Positions | Christian Friendly Sex Positions Packing the Suitcase Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Dragonfly Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Games &amp; Sex Dice for Couples - Married Dance Online Store 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous How to Get Rid of a Fantasy You Don’t Want | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness &amp; Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - Knowing Her Sexually Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation - Christian-friendly Sex Positions 6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband - Honeycomb &amp; Spice Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Orgasm Webinar   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.  Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

In this episode, we tackle listener questions, including where Christian wives can find sex tips and techniques, fantasizing during lovemaking, when it's okay to refuse sex, and how to grab hold of an elusive orgasm.  Sponsor J. Parker is hosting an online conference for higher desire wives! It's coming up on April 29, 2023 and features six speakers addressing our common-yet-challenging situation. You can attend live, part-live and part-recorded, or all recorded on your own time. But REGISTER TODAY to get the $49 pre-event price! <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/desire-con/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Learn More about Desire Con 2023</a> From the Bible Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4 (NASB) Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NKJV) - but see the definition and examples for deprivation <a href="https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/deprivation" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a> Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://honeycombspice.com/75-ideas-for-spicing-up-your-sex-life/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">75 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Sex Life - Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/category/how-to-tips/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How To Tips - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/books/hot-holy-and-humorous-sex-in-marriage-by-gods-design/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/2019-2020-webinar-bundle/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">2019-2020 Webinar Bundle</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/foreplay-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Foreplay – Webinar</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/getting-in-the-mood-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Getting in the Mood Webinar</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/oral-sex-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Oral Sex Webinar</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">280+ Illustrated Sex Positions | Christian Friendly Sex Positions</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/packing-the-suitcase/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Packing the Suitcase Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/dragonfly/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dragonfly Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions</a></li> <li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/product-category/games-for-lovers/?aff=51" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Games &amp; Sex Dice for Couples - Married Dance Online Store</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2021/11/01/3-benefits-to-bedroom-game/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2022/06/27/how-to-fantasize-about-your-spouse/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/fantasy-you-dont-want/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Get Rid of a Fantasy You Don’t Want | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2019/07/29/mindfulness-meditation-during-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Mindfulness &amp; Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://khsministry.com/2021/02/18/what-is-emotional-safety-and-what-does-it-have-to-do-with-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - Knowing Her Sexually</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-132-the-orgasm-iceberg/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/how-to-increase-clitoral-stimulation-during-sex/#positions" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation - Christian-friendly Sex Positions</a></li> <li><a href="https://honeycombspice.com/6-steps-to-learn-to-orgasm-with-your-husband/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband - Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/07/24/forget-what-you-look-like-while-making-love/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/40jS0ft" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/orgasm-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Orgasm Webinar</a></li> </ul> Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a> and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmus) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Q&A - Sex Tips, Fantasy, Refusing Sex & Elusive Orgasm

We’re back at the virtual kitchen table, and today we’re talking about our bodies. That is, women’s bodies—what real women look like, how we view our bodies, and how we can care for and embrace those bodies that we bring into the marital bedroom. SPONSOR Share the Soap - natural skin care, aromatherapy, and more! Also, the Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous cruise. FROM THE BIBLE For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you     when I was made in the secret place,     when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Psalm 139:13-15 RESOURCES   11 Ways to Love Your Body - CalmHealthySexy Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - CalmHealthySexy 5 Ways to Feel Confident and Look Great - CalmHealthySexy A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life 5 Reasons to Embrace the Body You Have - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Feel Beautiful Series Archives - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You’re more beautiful than you think Toxic Influence: A Dove Film | Dove Self-Esteem Project  Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.  Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:  Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb &amp; Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous (J. Parker)

We’re back at the virtual kitchen table, and today we’re talking about our bodies. That is, women’s bodies—what real women look like, how we view our bodies, and how we can care for and embrace those bodies that we bring into the marital bedroom. SPONSOR <a href="https://sharethesoap.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Share the Soap - natural skin care, aromatherapy, and more!</a> Also, the <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous cruise</a>. FROM THE BIBLE For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you     when I was made in the secret place,     when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Psalm 139:13-15 RESOURCES <ul> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/11-ways-to-love-your-body/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">11 Ways to Love Your Body - CalmHealthySexy</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/real-beauty-and-confidence-for-real-women/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - CalmHealthySexy</a></li> <li><a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/beauty-and-confidence-for-real-women-guest-post-and-amazon-gift-card-giveaway/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Ways to Feel Confident and Look Great - CalmHealthySexy</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/wifes-breasts-history/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-10-tending-your-garden/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 10: Tending Your Garden</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-149-your-body-your-health-and-your-sex-life/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2022/09/14/5-reasons-embrace-your-body/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Reasons to Embrace the Body You Have - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/category/feel-beautiful/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Feel Beautiful Series Archives - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-91-how-to-feel-more-sensual/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=litXW91UauE" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You’re more beautiful than you think</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sF3iRZtkyAQ" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Toxic Influence: A Dove Film | Dove Self-Esteem Project</a></li> </ul> Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="https://strongwives.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Strong Wives</a> (Bonny Burns) <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> (Chris Taylor) <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Calm.Healthy.Sexy.</a> and <a href="https://healthylifetoolbox.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Healthy Life Toolbox</a> (Gaye Christmus) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> (J. Parker)

Perfectly Imperfect - Real Women, Real Bodies

Four Christian wives encourage other wives to enjoy God’s gift of sex in all of its awesomeness by presenting a biblical view, practical tips, and engaging discussion about godly sexual intimacy.

Being virgins when we got married, this makes me think back over some of the nefarious sources my husband and I used while we tried to figure out sex during the early years of our marriage. I wish this had been around for us!

Wish I would have found this earlier!

Phenomenal!

Sex Chat for Christian Wives

  About the Episode It may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers.    Let's start with the basics. What is an orgasm? Why is orgasm important? That is, what's the big deal? Should a wife expect or want to achieve orgasm every time she and her husband make love? A lot of women struggle to reach orgasm. What advice can we give them? This last question is kind of like a lightning round. I'm gonna throw out some things we get asked about regarding orgasm, and let's see how many of them we can quickly cover: multiples, simultaneous orgasm, female ejaculation, clitoral vs vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasm.   Sponsors      Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off.   Click to Learn More about EverPillow     Honeycomb &amp; Spice Community   From the Bible  What does God have to say about orgasms? As we say in the episode, He gave women a clitoris--and its only purpose is pleasure!  Resources  Peace and Fireworks – The Forgiven Wife  Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous The F-Word I Don’t Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife   These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm Birth Control and Libido – Bonny’s OysterBed7  DHEA Can Help Vaginal Dryness – Bonny’s OysterBed7 Episode 9: Listener Questions (includes question about multiple orgasms)  Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  A Different Kind of Sexual Wetness: Candid Discussion about Female Ejaculation Intimacy in Marriage Bonny Logsdon Burns on Amazon Author Central (follow her to get a heads-up when her Unlock Your Orgasm resource releases) Intimacy in Marriage – The Orgasm Page Better Sex in Your Marriage

<a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/better-sex-in-your-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> </a> About the Episode It may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers. <a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/better-sex-in-your-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> </a> <ol> <li>Let's start with the basics. What is an orgasm?</li> <li>Why is orgasm important? That is, what's the big deal?</li> <li>Should a wife expect or want to achieve orgasm every time she and her husband make love?</li> <li>A lot of women struggle to reach orgasm. What advice can we give them?</li> <li>This last question is kind of like a lightning round. I'm gonna throw out some things we get asked about regarding orgasm, and let's see how many of them we can quickly cover: multiples, simultaneous orgasm, female ejaculation, clitoral vs vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasm.</li> </ol> Sponsors Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. <a href="https://infinitemoon.com/ref/49/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Click to Learn More about EverPillow</a> <a href="https://honeycombspice.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Honeycomb &amp; Spice Community</a>   From the Bible What does God have to say about orgasms? As we say in the episode, He gave women a clitoris--and its only purpose is pleasure! Resources <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/peace-and-fireworks/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Peace and Fireworks – The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/07/forget-what-you-look-like-while-making-love/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/the-f-word-i-dont-like/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The F-Word I Don’t Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife</a><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/07/forget-what-you-look-like-while-making-love/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> </a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/03/these-3-actions-could-bring-you-to-orgasm/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/birth-control-and-libido/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Birth Control and Libido – Bonny’s OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/dhea-help-vaginal-dryness/dhea-can-help/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> DHEA Can Help Vaginal Dryness – Bonny’s OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-9-listener-questions/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 9: Listener Questions</a> (includes question about multiple orgasms) <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/12/female-ejaculation-is-it-real/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/2015/10/30/a-different-kind-of-sexual-wetness-candid-discussion-about-female-ejaculation/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> A Different Kind of Sexual Wetness: Candid Discussion about Female Ejaculation</a> <a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Intimacy in Marriage</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Bonny-Logsdon-Burns/e/B01LWP2JU5" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Bonny Logsdon Burns on Amazon Author Central</a> (follow her to get a heads-up when her Unlock Your Orgasm resource releases) <a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/resources/the-orgasm-page/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Intimacy in Marriage – The Orgasm Page</a> <a href="https://intimacyinmarriage.com/better-sex-in-your-marriage/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Better Sex in Your Marriage</a>

Orgasm

Thanks for your support! Click here for GoFundMe. We know that oral sex can be a difficult subject in plenty of marriages. Is it okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage? What about germs? What if a couple disagrees, with one spouse wanting to give or receive while the other spouse doesn't want anything to do with it? In this episode, we’re going to tackle these questions.  Let’s start with whether it’s okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage. Ladies, what do you think? What kinds of health concerns might come into play with oral sex? If a husband and wife don’t agree about oral sex in their marriage bed, how can they work through their disagreement?  More links and resources at our website: forchristianwives.com

Thanks for your support! <a href="https://www.gofundme.com/forchristianwives" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Click here for GoFundMe</a>. We know that oral sex can be a difficult subject in plenty of marriages. Is it okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage? What about germs? What if a couple disagrees, with one spouse wanting to give or receive while the other spouse doesn't want anything to do with it? In this episode, we’re going to tackle these questions. <ol> <li>Let’s start with whether it’s okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage. Ladies, what do you think?</li> <li>What kinds of health concerns might come into play with oral sex?</li> <li>If a husband and wife don’t agree about oral sex in their marriage bed, how can they work through their disagreement?</li> </ol> More links and resources at our website: <a href="http://forchristianwives.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">forchristianwives.com</a>

42-Oral Sex

Today, we’ll try to provide a tutorial on what we wives need to know about our husband’s body to have quality sexual intimacy in marriage.  Let’s first break down the actual makeup of male genitalia. What are the various parts down there, and what’s their purpose? How would you characterize the relationship most men have with their penises? Why is that part so important to them? We've talked about body image for women, but do men have those concerns as well? In what way? What about giving your husband pleasure? What are some of the best spots and methods for arousing and pleasuring him in the marriage bed? How can Scripture guide us in accepting, appreciating, and loving our husband’s body? 

Today, we’ll try to provide a tutorial on what we wives need to know about our husband’s body to have quality sexual intimacy in marriage. <ul> <li>Let’s first break down the actual makeup of male genitalia. What are the various parts down there, and what’s their purpose?</li> <li>How would you characterize the relationship most men have with their penises? Why is that part so important to them?</li> <li>We've talked about body image for women, but do men have those concerns as well? In what way?</li> <li>What about giving your husband pleasure? What are some of the best spots and methods for arousing and pleasuring him in the marriage bed?</li> <li>How can Scripture guide us in accepting, appreciating, and loving our husband’s body?</li> </ul>

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We'd like to thank today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon  Disclaimer:  We were provided with a free product. If you choose to purchase this product, Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast will receive a small commission from Infinitemoon.  All opinions are honestly given and not coerced.    Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow.   About this episode   I'm thinking of a number! Can you guess what it is? I’m thinking of the number 2 because, it takes two baby! And, it’s Sex Chat for Christian Wives' 2nd anniversary!  Today, we're going to revisit some great information and share some new about:    How can you find your sexiness by managing body image issues, stress, and lack of time? What is Female Sexual Response and how do we use it to understand our sex drive for the benefit of the bedroom? How can you find fun with your husband in and out of the bedroom?      From the Bible   What does God have to say about our sex lives? Here are some of the verses we shared in today's episode:    It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth. – Genesis 1:27-28 and When the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom, she took the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6. Moral of the story: Sexual intimacy was encouraged by God and had nothing to do with "the fall." Song of Songs The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5    Resources    Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s? – The Forgiven Wife The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone – The Forgiven Wife 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Are Stress &amp; Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Q&amp;A with J: Why Did God Make Sex So Hard Sometimes? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker  Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous    Please visit today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon    Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. Don't forget to use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off your order.

We'd like to thank today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Disclaimer:  We were provided with a free product. If you choose to purchase this product, Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast will receive a small commission from Infinitemoon.  All opinions are honestly given and not coerced. <a href="https://www.infinitemoon.com/ref/49" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. About this episode I'm thinking of a number! Can you guess what it is? I’m thinking of the number 2 because, it takes two baby! And, it’s Sex Chat for Christian Wives' 2nd anniversary! Today, we're going to revisit some great information and share some new about: <ol> <li>How can you find your sexiness by managing body image issues, stress, and lack of time?</li> <li>What is Female Sexual Response and how do we use it to understand our sex drive for the benefit of the bedroom?</li> <li>How can you find fun with your husband in and out of the bedroom?</li> </ol> From the Bible What does God have to say about our sex lives? Here are some of the verses we shared in today's episode: <ul> <li>It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5</li> <li>Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11</li> <li>So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth. – Genesis 1:27-28 and When the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom, she took the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6. Moral of the story: Sexual intimacy was encouraged by God and had nothing to do with "the fall."</li> <li>Song of Songs</li> <li>The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5</li> </ul> Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/love-like-a-woman-should-your-sexual-response-be-like-your-husbands/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s? – The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/the-macaroni-and-cheese-lesson-stepping-your-toes-outside-your-comfort-zone/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone – The Forgiven Wife</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/03/5-times-of-day-to-make-love/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/09/are-stress-fatigue-killing-your-sex-life/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Are Stress &amp; Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/04/high-drive-wives-crockpots/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/04/qa-with-j-why-did-god-make-sex-so-hard-sometimes/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Q&amp;A with J: Why Did God Make Sex So Hard Sometimes? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2DVQyaN" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/06/why-sex-should-be-hot-holy-and-humorous/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> </ul> Please visit today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon <a href="https://infinitemoon.com/ref/49" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. Don't forget to use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off your order.

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About the Episode Around 20% of marriages are sexless. That is, the couple has sexual activity ten or fewer times per year. About ten years ago, a New York Times study indicated that 15% of couples haven’t had sex in at least six months. Sexlessness in a marriage can be a source of deep pain—and if often reflects pain as well. Today we’re going to talk about sexless marriages and what you can do about it if you’re in one. Sponsor  Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about sexless marriages?  "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5  Song of Songs  "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2  "You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love." Galatians 5:13  "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4  "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24  "'Haven’t you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6  How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! - Song of Songs 7:6  Resources Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon BurnsIntimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Why Knowing Your Low Drive Spouse's Love Language Is Important - Bonny's OysterBed7 Move Mismatched Sex Drives Toward Better - Bonny's OysterBed7 Ways to Align Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's Oysterbed7 @Messy Marriage  Helping Mismatched Sex Drives Become More Matched - Bonny's OysterBed7 Why Sex? - Bonny's OysterBed7 How to Arouse Sexual Desire Through Emotional Connection - Bonny's OysterBed7 Eliminate These to Help Grow Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's OysterBed7 Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy  Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn’t Mean He Stopped Wanting - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: “What If Neither of Us Desires Sex?” - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: I’m in a Sexless Marriage - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: “My Sexless Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Faith in God” - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Is the Church Failing Sexless Marriages? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 1 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Q&amp;A with J: How Do I Write a Post that Helps Sexless Marriages?Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous A Prayer for Sexless Marriages - Hot, Holy &amp; HumorousQ&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 3 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 4 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife Leaving a Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife  Living in a Nearly Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife  Is a Sexless Marriage a Loveless Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife  Upcoming Webinar    Click Here to Learn More

About the Episode Around 20% of marriages are sexless. That is, the couple has sexual activity ten or fewer times per year. About ten years ago, a New York Times study indicated that 15% of couples haven’t had sex in at least six months. Sexlessness in a marriage can be a source of deep pain—and if often reflects pain as well. Today we’re going to talk about sexless marriages and what you can do about it if you’re in one. Sponsor <a href="https://positioncards.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Click Here to Learn More</a> From the Bible What does God have to say about sexless marriages? "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Song of Songs "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2 "You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love." Galatians 5:13 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24 "'Haven’t you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! - Song of Songs 7:6 Resources <a href="https://amzn.to/34eeq57" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2MZwtGg" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker</a> <a href="https://wp.me/p5EBxV-1lR" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Knowing Your Low Drive Spouse's Love Language Is Important - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://wp.me/p5EBxV-Z0" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Move Mismatched Sex Drives Toward Better - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://messymarriage.com/ways-to-align-mismatched-sex-drives-in-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Ways to Align Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's Oysterbed7 @Messy Marriage</a> <a href="https://wp.me/p5EBxV-1kg" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Helping Mismatched Sex Drives Become More Matched - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/why-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why Sex? - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://wp.me/p5EBxV-13J" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to Arouse Sexual Desire Through Emotional Connection - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://wp.me/p5EBxV-1mI" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Eliminate These to Help Grow Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://calmhealthysexy.com/great-sex-life-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/04/just-because-he-stopped-asking-doesnt-mean-he-stopped-wanting-2/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn’t Mean He Stopped Wanting - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/is-refusing-sex-in-marriage-a-sin/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/qa-with-j-neither-desires-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “What If Neither of Us Desires Sex?” - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/06/qa-with-j-im-in-a-sexless-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: I’m in a Sexless Marriage - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/10/qa-with-j-my-sexless-marriage-is-making-me-lose-my-faith-in-god/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “My Sexless Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Faith in God” - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/10/is-the-church-failing-sexless-marriages/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Is the Church Failing Sexless Marriages? - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/10/qa-with-j-what-can-i-do-about-my-sexless-marriage-part-1/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 1 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/10/qa-with-j-how-do-i-write-a-post-that-helps-sexless-marriages/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Q&amp;A with J: How Do I Write a Post that Helps Sexless Marriages?</a><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/11/qa-with-j-what-can-i-do-about-my-sexless-marriage-part-2/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/10/a-prayer-for-sexless-marriages/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Prayer for Sexless Marriages - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/11/qa-with-j-what-can-i-do-about-my-sexless-marriage-part-3/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 3 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/11/qa-with-j-what-can-i-do-about-my-sexless-marriage-part-4/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Q&amp;A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 4 - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2019/10/how-rejected-spouse-feels/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2019/10/how-disinterested-spouse-feels/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/a-moment-of-hard-truth/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/leaving-a-sexless-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Leaving a Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/living-in-a-nearly-sexless-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Living in a Nearly Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/sexless-marriage-loveless-marriage/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Is a Sexless Marriage a Loveless Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife</a> Upcoming Webinar <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/understanding-her-sex-drive-webinar/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Click Here to Learn More</a>

Sexless Marriages

About this episode . . . Today we’re talking about marital aids, often known as sex toys. Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys? When we think of sex toys, the vibrator is what usually comes to mind. Most of our conversations focuses on vibrators, but there are also things like nipple clamps, penis rings, dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and more. The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys.  Why do so many couples use sex toys in the marriage bed. What do they think it adds? There are good reasons to use sex toys, and there are good reasons to avoid them. So how can a Christian couple decide whether sex toys are acceptable for them to use? What are the questions we should be asking ourselves? If we decide to use them, is there anything we should be on the lookout for to be sure we are still using them in a way that is consistent with God’s plan for our sexual intimacy?  From the Bible . . . What does God have to say about sex toys? The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. A Christian couple should approach this issue prayerfully, in consideration of Biblical principles and with the goal of intimacy. Resources . . . Why I Don’t Use Sex Toys - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous How Do I Eliminate Marital Aids and Orgasm Naturally? - Bonny’s OysterBed7  What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story - Bonny’s OysterBed7 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife  Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use? - Intimacy in Marriage  Can Christians Use Sex Toys? - To Love, Honor &amp; Vacuum

About this episode . . . Today we’re talking about marital aids, often known as sex toys. Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys? When we think of sex toys, the vibrator is what usually comes to mind. Most of our conversations focuses on vibrators, but there are also things like nipple clamps, penis rings, dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and more. The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. <ol> <li>Why do so many couples use sex toys in the marriage bed. What do they think it adds?</li> <li>There are good reasons to use sex toys, and there are good reasons to avoid them. So how can a Christian couple decide whether sex toys are acceptable for them to use? What are the questions we should be asking ourselves?</li> <li>If we decide to use them, is there anything we should be on the lookout for to be sure we are still using them in a way that is consistent with God’s plan for our sexual intimacy?</li> </ol> From the Bible . . . What does God have to say about sex toys? The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. A Christian couple should approach this issue prayerfully, in consideration of Biblical principles and with the goal of intimacy. Resources . . . <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/04/why-i-dont-use-sex-toys-2/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Why I Don’t Use Sex Toys</a> - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous <a href="http://www.oysterbed7.com/how-do-i-orgasm-naturally/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How Do I Eliminate Marital Aids and Orgasm Naturally?</a> - Bonny’s OysterBed7 <a href="http://www.oysterbed7.com/what-if-the-batteries-died-a-sex-toy-story/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story</a> - Bonny’s OysterBed7 <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/3-ways-vibrator-can-help/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy</a> - The Forgiven Wife <a href="http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2010/04/13/batteries-not-included-sex-toy-use/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use?</a> - Intimacy in Marriage <a href="http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2011/11/wifey-wednesday-can-christians-use-sex-toys/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Can Christians Use Sex Toys?</a> - To Love, Honor &amp; Vacuum

Sex Toys

The women talk about why initiation matters and share some ideas to help you get things going!

The women talk about why initiation matters and share some ideas to help you get things going!

19-Initiating Sex

J, Gaye, Chris, and Bonny talk about what marriage blogger husbands had to say about what they wish women understood about their sexuality.

J, Gaye, Chris, and Bonny talk about what marriage blogger husbands had to say about what they wish women understood about their sexuality.

16-Guy Talk: Men's Sexuality

Episode 69: Shower Power About this episode  Today we’re talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You’ll see what we mean once we get started.   Sponsor      Click Here to Learn More       From the Bible   What does God have to say about sex and showers (or bathing)?   Song of Songs 4:15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.   Song of Songs 5:12-16 His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem.   Resources    Suave Conditioner (affiliate link) Foreplay Webinar Replay Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar (for husbands) Married Dance shower-friendly products (affiliate link)  Behind Closed Doors: 5 Marriage Stories, J. Parker  Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous 5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous  Feet and Sex (Pedicures can build arousal) - Bonny's OysterBed7 Episode 18: Listener Questions (includes a question about interest in feet) 

Episode 69: Shower Power About this episode Today we’re talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You’ll see what we mean once we get started. Sponsor <a href="https://www.christianfriendlysexpositions.com/product/sex-position-cards/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Click Here to Learn More</a> From the Bible What does God have to say about sex and showers (or bathing)? Song of Songs 4:15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon. Song of Songs 5:12-16 His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem. Resources <ul> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2MfGpeD" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Suave Conditioner (affiliate link)</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/foreplay-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Foreplay Webinar Replay</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/understanding-her-sex-drive-webinar/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar (for husbands)</a></li> <li><a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51&amp;s=shower&amp;post_type=product" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Married Dance shower-friendly products (affiliate link)</a></li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2MgqE79" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Behind Closed Doors: 5 Marriage Stories</a><a href="https://amzn.to/2MgqE79" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">, J. Parker</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2014/06/showering-and-bathing-together-why-you-should-try-it/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/06/5-tips-for-shower-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/08/why-she-needs-him-to-shower/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/feet-and-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Feet and Sex (Pedicures can build arousal) - Bonny's OysterBed7</a></li> <li><a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-18-listener-questions/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 18: Listener Questions (includes a question about interest in feet)</a></li> </ul>

Shower Power

What do we wish we'd known when we first got married? In this episode, the four wives chat about what they wish they'd understood earlier in their marriages and what they would like to advise wives now.  Sex is emotional, not just physical. Assume love. Pursue happiness for yourself. Speak up. Breastfeeding dampens sex drive. Get along with your mother-in-law. Your husband is a child of God just as you are.  Find more on our show notes, available at  our website.

What do we wish we'd known when we first got married? In this episode, the four wives chat about what they wish they'd understood earlier in their marriages and what they would like to advise wives now. <ul> <li>Sex is emotional, not just physical.</li> <li>Assume love.</li> <li>Pursue happiness for yourself.</li> <li>Speak up.</li> <li>Breastfeeding dampens sex drive.</li> <li>Get along with your mother-in-law.</li> <li>Your husband is a child of God just as you are.</li> </ul> Find more on our show notes, available at <a href="http://forchristianwives.com/episode-32-advice-for-our-newlywed-selves/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> our website.</a>

32-Advice for Our Newlywed Selves

Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response About this episode Today we’re talking about women’s sexuality and sexual response.  Why do we have so many misconceptions about women's sexual response? What do we know about women’s sexuality that might some women might not realize is normal? How can we help ourselves (and our husbands) better understand our sexual response?  From the Bible What does God have to say about women's sexuality? 1 Timothy 5:14: "So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander." 2 Samuel 12:24: "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him." Song of Songs 5, especially verse 5: "I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt." Song of Songs 7, especially verse 10: "I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me." Resources The Forgiven Wife, Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality The Forgiven Wife, Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexuality Be Like Your Husband's? The Generous Husband, Orgasmic Massage To see an image representing the massive real estate of the internal clitoris, follow this link to wikipedia.     Visit our website.

Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response About this episode Today we’re talking about women’s sexuality and sexual response. <ol> <li>Why do we have so many misconceptions about women's sexual response?</li> <li>What do we know about women’s sexuality that might some women might not realize is normal?</li> <li>How can we help ourselves (and our husbands) better understand our sexual response?</li> </ol> From the Bible What does God have to say about women's sexuality? 1 Timothy 5:14: "So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander." 2 Samuel 12:24: "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him." <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=song+of+solomon+5&amp;version=NIV" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Song of Songs 5</a>, especially verse 5: "I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt." <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=song+of+solomon+7&amp;version=NIV" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Song of Songs 7</a>, especially verse 10: "I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me." Resources The Forgiven Wife, <a href="http://forgivenwife.com/learn-embrace-sexuality/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality</a> The Forgiven Wife, <a href="http://forgivenwife.com/love-like-a-woman-should-your-sexual-response-be-like-your-husbands/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexuality Be Like Your Husband's?</a> The Generous Husband, <a href="https://www.the-generous-husband.com/orgasmic-massage/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Orgasmic Massage</a> To see an image representing the massive real estate of the internal clitoris, follow this <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bulb_of_vestibule" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">link</a> to wikipedia. <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-6-womens-sexual-response/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Visit our website.</a>

Women's Sexual Response

About this episode Out in theaters right now is Fifty Shades Darker, the second film based on Fifty Shades series. These novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we’re going to address that topic head-on. 1. Why do you think so many wives have been drawn to erotic romance stories? What about this genre appeals to them? 2. I've had wives tell me that reading these novels awakened their sexual desire. What’s wrong with that? Isn't that ultimately good for the sexual intimacy in their marriage? 3. Some say that these erotic stories are no different from porn, and others say they’re no different from romance novels. What do you think about either or both of those charges? How are they the same or different? 4. Let’s get practical: What is okay and what’s not okay in the world of BDSM? 5. What are your own greatest concerns about the Fifty Shades phenomenon? From the Bible Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." 1 Corinthians 10:23: "'Everything is permissible,' but not everything is helpful.  'Everything is permissible,' but not everything builds up." (HSCB) Resources The Forgiven Wife: A Shaded View of Romance The Forgiven Wife: Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? The Forgiven Wife: As Bad As Porn? Authentic Intimacy: The Good News about Fifty Shades of Grey OysterBed7: 50 Shades of Uncertainty? OysterBed7: Libido Boundaries? Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Why I Haven’t Talked about 50 Shades Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Q&amp;A with J: How about Bondage in the Bedroom?

About this episode Out in theaters right now is Fifty Shades Darker, the second film based on Fifty Shades series. These novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we’re going to address that topic head-on. 1. Why do you think so many wives have been drawn to erotic romance stories? What about this genre appeals to them? 2. I've had wives tell me that reading these novels awakened their sexual desire. What’s wrong with that? Isn't that ultimately good for the sexual intimacy in their marriage? 3. Some say that these erotic stories are no different from porn, and others say they’re no different from romance novels. What do you think about either or both of those charges? How are they the same or different? 4. Let’s get practical: What is okay and what’s not okay in the world of BDSM? 5. What are your own greatest concerns about the Fifty Shades phenomenon? From the Bible Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." 1 Corinthians 10:23: "'Everything is permissible,' but not everything is helpful.  'Everything is permissible,' but not everything builds up." (HSCB) Resources <a href="http://forgivenwife.com/shaded-view-romance/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Forgiven Wife: A Shaded View of Romance</a> <a href="http://forgivenwife.com/romance-novels-okay-christian-women/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Forgiven Wife: Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women?</a> <a href="http://forgivenwife.com/as-bad-as-porn/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Forgiven Wife: As Bad As Porn?</a> <a href="https://www.authenticintimacy.com/shades" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Authentic Intimacy: The Good News about Fifty Shades of Grey</a> <a href="http://www.oysterbed7.com/50-shades-of-uncertainty/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">OysterBed7: 50 Shades of Uncertainty?</a> <a href="http://www.oysterbed7.com/libido-boundaries/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">OysterBed7: Libido Boundaries?</a> <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/07/why-i-havent-talked-about-50-shades/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Why I Haven’t Talked about 50 Shades</a> <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2013/09/has-the-mainstream-embraced-bdsm-should-you/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You?</a> <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/08/qa-with-j-how-about-bondage-in-the-bedroom/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot Holy &amp; Humorous: Q&amp;A with J: How about Bondage in the Bedroom?</a>

50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again

We’re addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom.  What defines “sexy talk”? What does that look like? As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay? How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up? Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk?  Sponsor  Click Here to Learn More about Lorals This episode was also sponsored in part by the Honeycomb &amp; Spice Community. Click Here to Check Out Honeycomb &amp; Spice From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy &amp; HumorousSay What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed715 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine’s Day – OysterBed7 Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7 How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink Bitmoji  Webinars: https://forchristianwives.com/2019-webinar-series/

We’re addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom. <ul> <li>What defines “sexy talk”? What does that look like?</li> <li>As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay?</li> <li>How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up?</li> <li>Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk?</li> </ul> Sponsor <a href="https://mylorals.com/?utm_source=social&amp;utm_medium=promotion&amp;utm_campaign=christianwives" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Click Here to Learn More about Lorals</a> This episode was also sponsored in part by the Honeycomb &amp; Spice Community. <a href="https://honeycombspice.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Click Here to Check Out Honeycomb &amp; Spice</a> From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2011/03/talking-flirty-vs-talking-dirty/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a><a href="https://forgivenwife.com/say-what-sexy-talk-in-the-bedroom/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Say What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/flirt-with-your-husband-12-sfw-text-messages/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed7</a><a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/15-flirty-corny-steamy-sfw-texts-for-valentines-day/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">15 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine’s Day – OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/say-magic-word/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2016/09/30/how-to-use-apples-new-imessage-invisible-ink-bubbles-handwriting-fireballs-music-and-more.html" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink</a> <a href="https://www.bitmoji.com/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Bitmoji</a> Webinars: <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/2019-webinar-series/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://forchristianwives.com/2019-webinar-series/</a>

Sexy Talk

Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say.

Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say.

12-Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex

When a woman sees her body's flaws, it can be confusing when her husband tells her that she's beautiful. She wonders how he can see past her flaws. Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands discuss a husband's perception of his wife's body. Then Gaye, Bonny, J, and Chris will weigh in.

When a woman sees her body's flaws, it can be confusing when her husband tells her that she's beautiful. She wonders how he can see past her flaws. Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands discuss a husband's perception of his wife's body. Then Gaye, Bonny, J, and Chris will weigh in.

14-Guy Talk: A Wife's Beauty

About this episode Merriam-Webster defines foreplay as "erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse." But what is erotic stimulation? And why is it important for the sexual intimacy in a marriage?  How do men and women tend to think about foreplay differently? What does that word mean to husbands? What does it mean to wives? What actually constitutes foreplay? Why is foreplay important for a married couple? How can wives talk about their foreplay desires with their husbands? Is foreplay in the Bible?  From the Bible What does God have to say about foreplay? Song of Songs – the whole book! "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love" (Proverbs 5:18-19). Resources Rube Goldberg machine Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous The F-Word I Don’t Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s? – The Forgiven Wife Ultimate Intimacy app Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker   Visit our post for this episode.

About this episode Merriam-Webster defines foreplay as "erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse." But what is erotic stimulation? And why is it important for the sexual intimacy in a marriage? <ol> <li>How do men and women tend to think about foreplay differently? What does that word mean to husbands? What does it mean to wives?</li> <li>What actually constitutes foreplay?</li> <li>Why is foreplay important for a married couple?</li> <li>How can wives talk about their foreplay desires with their husbands?</li> <li>Is foreplay in the Bible?</li> </ol> From the Bible What does God have to say about foreplay? <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Song+of+Songs+1&amp;version=NIV" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Song of Songs</a> – the whole book! "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love" (Proverbs 5:18-19). Resources <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rube_Goldberg_machine" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Rube Goldberg machine</a> <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2014/11/freshen-up-your-foreplay/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="http://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/newsflash-hubbies-she-loves-foreplay/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/the-f-word-i-dont-like/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The F-Word I Don’t Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/love-like-a-woman-should-your-sexual-response-be-like-your-husbands/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s? – The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://www.ultimateintimacy.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Ultimate Intimacy app</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Hot-Holy-Humorous-Marriage-Design/dp/1424552400/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker</a> <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-45-foreplay/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Visit our post for this episode.</a>

Foreplay

About This Episode Today's listener questions are:  My husband is really interested in me swallowing during oral sex. I don't get it. I honestly don't want to work up to it; it's already taken a lot of effort just to give bjs and oral sex to him. But he keeps asking. I'm not sure what to do - keep saying no, or work through my gag reflex and dislike of the smell and try it? To be honest, it kind of grosses me out even thinking of swallowing. I've tried using the gag reflex sprays too and it doesn't help much. I just need some advice. I’ve read in some books and blogs God’s biblical design and purpose is that sex is a) for reproduction b) for pleasure c) creating intimacy - these three purposes are independent of each other — reproduction is possible without pleasure/intimacy or pleasure can be possible without procreation. -the maximum goal of the Lord is intimacy, for happiness of the couple and because marriage represents intimacy between church and Jesus So.. Do you think it’s possible to have real intimacy without pleasure in sex? Like saying “if sex is not really pleasurable then intimacy is not really close” or “the greatest the pleasure the stronger the intimacy” or “a marriage can’t have actual intimacy without good sex” or “no sex, no intimacy”, etc. I know is a kind of strong question but I am struggling with this thought because I’ve read the three independent purposes of sex at some blogs/books, but I feel some explanations are missing, specially for we wives striving with orgasm or painful intercourse or trouble with arousal, so “pleasurable” is hardly a way to define sex life.  Sponsor  Learn About Married Dance Here (affiliate link) From the Bible In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1 Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Sex's Primary Job is not Lust Management - Bonny's OysterBed7 International Pelvic Pain Society National Vulvodynia Association Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife  Oral Sex: Spit, or Swallow? - The Forgiven Wife  Enjoying Your Husband’s Semen - The Forgiven Wife Dealing with a Gag Reflex - The Forgiven Wife  Goodhead Fundamentals Kit from Married Dance (affiliate link)  Marital Aid Pilot Program from Married Dance (affiliate link)  When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife  Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible - Messy Marriage  Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife Episode 65: Female Sexual Health  Q&amp;A with J: Should You Just Swallow Already? Is Giving a “Blow Job” Enjoyable for the Wife? Upcoming Webinar Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019

About This Episode Today's listener questions are: <ol> <li>My husband is really interested in me swallowing during oral sex. I don't get it. I honestly don't want to work up to it; it's already taken a lot of effort just to give bjs and oral sex to him. But he keeps asking. I'm not sure what to do - keep saying no, or work through my gag reflex and dislike of the smell and try it? To be honest, it kind of grosses me out even thinking of swallowing. I've tried using the gag reflex sprays too and it doesn't help much. I just need some advice.</li> <li>I’ve read in some books and blogs God’s biblical design and purpose is that sex is a) for reproduction b) for pleasure c) creating intimacy - these three purposes are independent of each other — reproduction is possible without pleasure/intimacy or pleasure can be possible without procreation. -the maximum goal of the Lord is intimacy, for happiness of the couple and because marriage represents intimacy between church and Jesus So.. Do you think it’s possible to have real intimacy without pleasure in sex? Like saying “if sex is not really pleasurable then intimacy is not really close” or “the greatest the pleasure the stronger the intimacy” or “a marriage can’t have actual intimacy without good sex” or “no sex, no intimacy”, etc. I know is a kind of strong question but I am struggling with this thought because I’ve read the three independent purposes of sex at some blogs/books, but I feel some explanations are missing, specially for we wives striving with orgasm or painful intercourse or trouble with arousal, so “pleasurable” is hardly a way to define sex life.</li> </ol> Sponsor <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=4" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Learn About Married Dance Here (affiliate link)</a> From the Bible In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1 Resources <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/what-are-the-real-purposes-of-sex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://www.oysterbed7.com/sexs-primary-job-is-not-lust-management/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Sex's Primary Job is not Lust Management - Bonny's OysterBed7</a> <a href="https://www.pelvicpain.org/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">International Pelvic Pain Society</a> <a href="https://www.nva.org/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">National Vulvodynia Association</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/02/finding-a-good-gynecologist/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy &amp; Humorous</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/do-i-have-to/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/oral-sex-spit-or-swallow/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Oral Sex: Spit, or Swallow? - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/enjoying-your-husbands-semen/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Enjoying Your Husband’s Semen - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/dealing-with-a-gag-reflex/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dealing with a Gag Reflex - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://marrieddance.com/shop/oral-pleasure/edible-lubes-creams/goodhead-fundamentals-kit/?aff=51" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank"> Goodhead Fundamentals Kit from Married Dance (affiliate link)</a> <a href="https://marrieddance.com/?aff=51&amp;s=pilot+program&amp;post_type=product" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank"> Marital Aid Pilot Program from Married Dance (affiliate link)</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/when-it-hurts-maintaining-sexual-intimacy-while-dealing-with-pain/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://messymarriage.com/maintaining-intimacy-when-sex-isnt-possible/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible - Messy Marriage</a> <a href="https://forgivenwife.com/dealing-with-vulvovaginal-atrophy-without-hormones/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife</a> <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/episode-65-female-sexual-health/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 65: Female Sexual Health</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2017/07/qa-with-j-should-you-just-swallow-already/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> Q&amp;A with J: Should You Just Swallow Already?</a> <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2018/11/is-blow-job-pleasurable-for-wife/" rel="noreferrer noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Is Giving a “Blow Job” Enjoyable for the Wife?</a> Upcoming Webinar <a href="https://forchristianwives.com/product/understanding-her-sex-drive-webinar/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019</a>

Listener Questions

What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? The four wives talk about two lies in this episode:  Sex is for my husband, not for me. My sexuality should look like my husband's. 

What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? The four wives talk about two lies in this episode: <ul> <li>Sex is for my husband, not for me.</li> <li>My sexuality should look like my husband's.</li> </ul>

UPDATED 29-Lies Women Believe, Part 1

Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions:  What are some reasons that a mismatched season can arise in a marriage? What do couples need to know about mismatched sex drives so that they work hard toward finding mutual agreement? If you are in a mismatched season, does your spouse know of your needs? Here are some ways to help you talk about this with your spouse. What are some specific things a couple can do to try to overcome the conflict of having mismatched sex drives? 

Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions: <ul> <li>What are some reasons that a mismatched season can arise in a marriage?</li> <li>What do couples need to know about mismatched sex drives so that they work hard toward finding mutual agreement?</li> <li>If you are in a mismatched season, does your spouse know of your needs? Here are some ways to help you talk about this with your spouse.</li> <li>What are some specific things a couple can do to try to overcome the conflict of having mismatched sex drives?</li> </ul>

13-Mismatched Sex Drives

This episode features your questions about love languages, male-centered sexual expectations, sexual fantasies, and oral sex.

This episode features your questions about love languages, male-centered sexual expectations, sexual fantasies, and oral sex.

26-listener questions

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