My colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!!In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational healing and the answers under these questions will bring us deep into the skills at the heart of deeper relational intimacy, greater health, and fulfillment.Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com!If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.comThis podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider. 

My colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!!In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational healing and the answers under these questions will bring us deep into the skills at the heart of deeper relational intimacy, greater health, and fulfillment.Share your questions with us at: <a href="https://whydoesmypartner.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">whydoesmypartner.com</a>!If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at <a href="http://whydoesmypartner.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">WhyDoesMyPartner.com</a>This podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Introducing the "Why Does(n't) My Partner ...?" Podcast

Hello Friends!  I've archived this show and have started a new podcast that I wanted to make sure you knew about. I'd love for you to check out the Connectfulness Practice podcast, now available on your favorite podcast platform.   After you listen to a few episodes, I’d be grateful if you could leave an honest rating and review in iTunes of how the podcast supports your journey.  Join the Connectfulness® Community for deeper discussions. And follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.  GRATITUDES: Christy Haussler and my behind the scenes podcasting team. Sarah and Chris Faris and Kidneystone Studio for our delicious soundtrack music. And our new cover-art design by Blue Rabbit Studios with photo by  Craig Strahorn.

Hello Friends!  I've archived this show and have started a new podcast that I wanted to make sure you knew about. I'd love for you to check out the <a href="https://connectfulness.com/podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Connectfulness Practice podcast</a>, now available on your favorite podcast platform.  After you listen to a few episodes, I’d be grateful if you could leave an <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/connectfulness-practice/id1452443796" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">honest rating and review in iTunes</a> of how the podcast supports your journey.  Join the <a href="connectfulness.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Connectfulness® Community</a> for deeper discussions. And follow us on <a href="https://twitter.com/connectfulness" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/connectfulness" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/connectfulness" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. GRATITUDES: <a href="http://www.teampodcast.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Christy Haussler</a> and my behind the scenes podcasting team. <a href="https://www.facebook.com/nelumbohealing" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sarah</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/chris.faris.334" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Faris</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kidneystoneStudio" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Kidneystone Studio</a> for our delicious soundtrack music. And our new cover-art design by <a href="http://bluerabbitstudios.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Blue Rabbit Studios</a> with photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/-UmCb7gAAUI?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Craig Strahorn</a>.

CHECK OUT THE NEW PODCAST!

Annie Schuessler

This is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Annie and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU.   Topics Discussed In This Episode:    Owning the work you’re best at Revisioning your business Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating Mindset issues is that come up when you push the boundaries of your business The Signature Heart And Soul Business Retreat: A retreat for entrepreneurs who are expanding and stepping into bigger leadership: https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat Letting go of what’s no longer working in your business The process of rebranding during a pivot (both Annie and Rebecca’s experiences) Rebecca’s pivot to Connectfulness (https://connectfulness.com/) Annie’s pivot to Rebel Therapist (https://rebeltherapist.me/)      Resources Discussed: Join us for two FREE virtual retreats that offer a small taste of the kind of transformative work that will happen over the four days of our Signature Retreat:    Change Your Relationship With Imposter Syndrome on 12/14/2018  https://connectfulness.com/events/imposter-syndrome   What's Your Most Powerful Leadership Style? on 2/20/2019 https://connectfulness.com/events/leadership-style     Listen above or on your favorite podcast platform.

This is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Annie and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU. Topics Discussed In This Episode: <ul> <li>Owning the work you’re best at</li> <li>Revisioning your business</li> <li>Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating</li> <li>Mindset issues is that come up when you push the boundaries of your business</li> <li><a href="https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Signature Heart And Soul Business Retreat</a>: A retreat for entrepreneurs who are expanding and stepping into bigger leadership: <a href="https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat</a></li> <li>Letting go of what’s no longer working in your business</li> <li>The process of rebranding during a pivot (both Annie and Rebecca’s experiences)</li> <li>Rebecca’s pivot to Connectfulness (<a href="https://connectfulness.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/</a>)</li> <li>Annie’s pivot to Rebel Therapist (<a href="https://rebeltherapist.me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://rebeltherapist.me/</a>)</li> </ul> Resources Discussed: Join us for two FREE virtual retreats that offer a small taste of the kind of transformative work that will happen over the four days of our <a href="https://connectfulness.com/signature-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Signature Retreat</a>:  Change Your Relationship With Imposter Syndrome on 12/14/2018  <a href="https://connectfulness.com/events/imposter-syndrome" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/events/imposter-syndrome</a> What's Your Most Powerful Leadership Style? on 2/20/2019 <a href="https://connectfulness.com/events/leadership-style" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/events/leadership-style</a> Listen above or on your favorite podcast platform.

FINALE: Getting Closer to What You’re Meant To Do With Annie Schuessler

There is something for all of us to take away and learn from this conversation. Every single one of us gets to pause and learn who we are in relationships with ourselves and who we are and how we show up in relationships with others and we also have to pause and learn our partners and loved ones.    April Snow is an Associate Marriage &amp; Family Therapist in downtown San Francisco. She believes thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) a matter of knowing yourself and making adjustments to care for your unique temperament. If you’ve been listening for some time, you may recall April joined us to open our Highly Sensitive Series back on episode 57. She’s returned to dive even deeper and answer listener questions and curiosities around the Highly Sensitive Trait.    We’re talking about the ways the highly sensitive trait and trauma, especially in a dysregulated state, can overlay. We dive deeply into discussion around the development of one’s inner voice. We ask big questions like: “where do you shine?” and “what parts of yourself do you sacrifice in service of others?”   Resources: expansiveheart.com Sensitivetherapist.com HSP Adult Self-Test  The full HSP series on the #POBScast Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our Wild Woman Discussion Groups; we meet online through September 2018.    Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to connectfulness.com   Join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com.   To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.   If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

There is something for all of us to take away and learn from this conversation. Every single one of us gets to pause and learn who we are in relationships with ourselves and who we are and how we show up in relationships with others and we also have to pause and learn our partners and loved ones.  April Snow is an Associate Marriage &amp; Family Therapist in downtown San Francisco. She believes thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) a matter of knowing yourself and making adjustments to care for your unique temperament. If you’ve been listening for some time, you may recall April joined us to open our Highly Sensitive Series back on <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/episode/57" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">episode 57</a>. She’s returned to dive even deeper and answer listener questions and curiosities around the Highly Sensitive Trait.  We’re talking about the ways the highly sensitive trait and trauma, especially in a dysregulated state, can overlay. We dive deeply into discussion around the development of one’s inner voice. We ask big questions like: “where do you shine?” and “what parts of yourself do you sacrifice in service of others?” Resources: <a href="http://www.expansiveheart.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">expansiveheart.com</a> <a href="https://www.sensitivetherapist.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sensitivetherapist.com</a> <a href="http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HSP Adult Self-Test</a> <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/the-highly-sensitive-series-query" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The full HSP series on the #POBScast</a> Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/wildwoman" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Wild Woman Discussion Groups</a>; we meet online through September 2018.  Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to <a href="http://connectfulness.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">connectfulness.com</a> Join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> For more information and resources, visit the website at <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on <a href="https://twitter.com/pobscast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/practiceofbeingseen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PracticeBeingSeen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Lessons & Layers of Sensitivity with April Snow  HSP Series part 4

Arielle Brown

Many people feel that they can’t be themselves in relationship, either because of society’s pressure on them to be and act a certain way, or the pressure they feel from a significant other who demands them to be something other than their true self. In this episode we’re talking about Releasing Shame &amp; Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown so that our intimate relationships can allow for more alignment between our inner self and our outer reality.   Arielle is a Relationship Coach and Intimacy Educator based in the San Francisco Bay area. She helps visionaries craft intimate relationships with conscious design so they can truly bring their voice and their impact into the world. She says the key is connecting and communicating our desires in ways that release shame and self-doubt and transmit our gifts.   Gender conditioning is one of the obstacles all of us face. We can’t share our gifts when we live with the fear of losing love and having to fit ourselves into “boxes of appropriateness.” Often women believe they need shape themselves into something they’re not. Arielle asks the question, “Who am I and how do I release the fear of how other people perceive me?” She says that doing this kind of work is the only way we can change the current culture around relationships and intimacy.   Arielle shares her personal journey; filled with negative body image, sexual obsessions, an unhealthy relationship with food and emotionally abusive and toxic relationships with men. Her personal transformation journey has been filled with learning true intimacy and sexual healing practices. Her healing work centers on helping people figure out where they are carrying underlying beliefs that undermine the power we seek to embrace and cultivate; which leads to liberating what society teaches you to shut down and conform.   Our conversation also covers simple and practical ways to play with relationship in ways that allow for full expression of self. We discuss how to find balance between controlling desires and the art of being in command of them. Arielle shares her approach to communicate openly and shift dynamics around sexual intimacy.    Connecting deeper and exploring intimacy requires self-love and compassion--- we all need more of that.   Resources:   www.ariellebrown.com APPETITE is Arielle’s 6-Week Virtual Course for Women Reclaiming the Purity of their Desire, beginning on August 15th, 2018!  Find Arielle on Facebook!

Many people feel that they can’t be themselves in relationship, either because of society’s pressure on them to be and act a certain way, or the pressure they feel from a significant other who demands them to be something other than their true self. In this episode we’re talking about Releasing Shame &amp; Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown so that our intimate relationships can allow for more alignment between our inner self and our outer reality. Arielle is a Relationship Coach and Intimacy Educator based in the San Francisco Bay area. She helps visionaries craft intimate relationships with conscious design so they can truly bring their voice and their impact into the world. She says the key is connecting and communicating our desires in ways that release shame and self-doubt and transmit our gifts. Gender conditioning is one of the obstacles all of us face. We can’t share our gifts when we live with the fear of losing love and having to fit ourselves into “boxes of appropriateness.” Often women believe they need shape themselves into something they’re not. Arielle asks the question, “Who am I and how do I release the fear of how other people perceive me?” She says that doing this kind of work is the only way we can change the current culture around relationships and intimacy. Arielle shares her personal journey; filled with negative body image, sexual obsessions, an unhealthy relationship with food and emotionally abusive and toxic relationships with men. Her personal transformation journey has been filled with learning true intimacy and sexual healing practices. Her healing work centers on helping people figure out where they are carrying underlying beliefs that undermine the power we seek to embrace and cultivate; which leads to liberating what society teaches you to shut down and conform. Our conversation also covers simple and practical ways to play with relationship in ways that allow for full expression of self. We discuss how to find balance between controlling desires and the art of being in command of them. Arielle shares her approach to communicate openly and shift dynamics around sexual intimacy.  Connecting deeper and exploring intimacy requires self-love and compassion--- we all need more of that. Resources: <a href="http://www.ariellebrown.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.ariellebrown.com</a> <a href="http://www.ariellebrown.com/appetite/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">APPETITE</a> is Arielle’s 6-Week Virtual Course for Women Reclaiming the Purity of their Desire, beginning on August 15th, 2018!  Find <a href="http://facebook.com/theariellebrownexperience" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Arielle on Facebook</a>!

Releasing Shame & Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown

John Edwards

In this episode, we're focusing on the experiences of immigrants and people of a color in therapy.   My guest, John Edwards, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist in Oakland, CA, with over 28 years in practice. John’s an immigrant from the Caribbean and a gay black man, these personal experiences help him relate to clients who feel marginalized or unheard in society. He knows that there isn’t just ONE way for relationships to work and that everyone has a different story, no matter where they began.    Couples and families of color have to face issues of racism, sexism, and complicated relationship issues in ways unknown to white people. John sees this in his practice and highlights why the majority of therapists don’t understand or relate to the experience of an immigrant or a racial minority.    John shares how deep-seated wounds from childhood can play into relationship issues and how we perceive even the most innocuous words and actions. In his work as a Gottman Method therapist, he has learned skills needed to actually listen and hear what his clients say, and these same skills that are useful especially in couples’ work are what our world needs today.    And do stay tuned for Rebecca’s news about the future direction of the POBScast at the end of the show. 

In this episode, we're focusing on the experiences of immigrants and people of a color in therapy. My guest, John Edwards, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist in Oakland, CA, with over 28 years in practice. John’s an immigrant from the Caribbean and a gay black man, these personal experiences help him relate to clients who feel marginalized or unheard in society. He knows that there isn’t just ONE way for relationships to work and that everyone has a different story, no matter where they began.  Couples and families of color have to face issues of racism, sexism, and complicated relationship issues in ways unknown to white people. John sees this in his practice and highlights why the majority of therapists don’t understand or relate to the experience of an immigrant or a racial minority.  John shares how deep-seated wounds from childhood can play into relationship issues and how we perceive even the most innocuous words and actions. In his work as a Gottman Method therapist, he has learned skills needed to actually listen and hear what his clients say, and these same skills that are useful especially in couples’ work are what our world needs today.  And do stay tuned for Rebecca’s news about the future direction of the POBScast at the end of the show.

Relational Healing and Racism with John Edwards

Tamara Powell

Have you ever thought of relationships as sacred and spiritual spaces? Join us for a conversation that takes a deep dive into concepts you’ve never considered before and open your eyes to new ways to think of yourself and your relationships to others.    My guest, Tamara Powell, LMHC, is a colleague, and past guest of the show. Her favorite topic sacred psychology -the intersection between traditional psychology with a focus on the holistic self, including the spirituality of a person- honors the divine nature in all of us and the connection to a higher power. In her Pensacola, Florida practice Tamara works with clients about anxiety, identity exploration, relationships, LGBTQ issues, sexual issues, and spiritual abuse and trauma. She describes herself as “rebel and a visionary with the heart and soul of a gypsy.”   Relationships can be mirrors, revealing and polishing our growth edges. Tamara explains these spaces as “heavenly sandpaper,” or the spaces in life that rub us and cause us to grow and explore. Life is full of reflection points that grow our self-esteem as we learn how to more realistically see the world. And yet, sometimes we feel like misfits, or “a trapezoid in a world full of circles.” Tamara believes that suffering results when people don’t fit in.    Tamara shares the concept of “radical autonomy” and what it entails. How do we connect with another person while remaining intact? There are numerous ways to apply this thinking to any human relationship. Relevant in today’s society is the question, “can I celebrate another’s culture while taking pride in my own?” Radical autonomy comes into play and is useful when we learn NOT to be triggered by things like social media posts. It’s what it means to fully embrace another person’s everything. We discuss what truth really is, how to honor your perception and the other person’s as well, and how to identify the “gremlins” in a relationship.    Resources: Tamara’s practice:  www.aryatherapy.com 

Have you ever thought of relationships as sacred and spiritual spaces? Join us for a conversation that takes a deep dive into concepts you’ve never considered before and open your eyes to new ways to think of yourself and your relationships to others.  My guest, Tamara Powell, LMHC, is a colleague, and past guest of the show. Her favorite topic sacred psychology -the intersection between traditional psychology with a focus on the holistic self, including the spirituality of a person- honors the divine nature in all of us and the connection to a higher power. In her Pensacola, Florida practice Tamara works with clients about anxiety, identity exploration, relationships, LGBTQ issues, sexual issues, and spiritual abuse and trauma. She describes herself as “rebel and a visionary with the heart and soul of a gypsy.” Relationships can be mirrors, revealing and polishing our growth edges. Tamara explains these spaces as “heavenly sandpaper,” or the spaces in life that rub us and cause us to grow and explore. Life is full of reflection points that grow our self-esteem as we learn how to more realistically see the world. And yet, sometimes we feel like misfits, or “a trapezoid in a world full of circles.” Tamara believes that suffering results when people don’t fit in.  Tamara shares the concept of “radical autonomy” and what it entails. How do we connect with another person while remaining intact? There are numerous ways to apply this thinking to any human relationship. Relevant in today’s society is the question, “can I celebrate another’s culture while taking pride in my own?” Radical autonomy comes into play and is useful when we learn NOT to be triggered by things like social media posts. It’s what it means to fully embrace another person’s everything. We discuss what truth really is, how to honor your perception and the other person’s as well, and how to identify the “gremlins” in a relationship.  Resources: Tamara’s practice:  <a href="http://www.aryatherapy.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.aryatherapy.com </a>

 Sacred Spiritual Relationships with Tamara Powell

Sarah Gilbert

What kind of support exists for people who question their gender identity and the people who love them? Fortunately, there are therapists who specialize in offering support and safe spaces for the discussions and self-discovery in the face of the intense societal pressure trans folk experience. Today’s show tackles these issues and more. Sarah Gilbert, LCSW, is the owner of Transitions Therapy, LLC, a private practice in Manchester, Connecticut. Her mission is to help people author their unique identities. She specializes in working with teens and adults who identify as transgender, as well as those who love them. A part of her practice also involves giving support and education to the family members of transgender people. Sarah believes that when people live in their true identities, they come alive and inspire others to do the same. Sarah shares the metaphor of gender as water that surrounds fish as representative of the subtle gender reminders that surround people even before birth. We are socialized in the binary limits of gender identity, however, an increasing portion of our population are finding ways to live out their gender roles as other than strictly male or female. Sarah would like to see shifts in people opening up to this conversation and the wide range of gender identities, with many choices to empower people in the individual gender identity process.  One important aspect of this conversation is to realize that gender identity and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing, even though they are related. There are deep layers of self-discovery and uncertainty in the identity process; there can also be intense grief, knowing that life is not going in the easy direction that someone expected and that others around them are affected and disrupted.  A takeaway from this conversation: there is no ONE plan for transitioning that fits everybody. There is no set formula, but this journey is an individual one. As with each of us, the trans person wants to belong. They don’t want to be misgendered, misunderstood, or invalidated. What they need from others is respect, compassion, and awareness from friends and family as they figure out who they are and how they fit in the world. This is what each person deserves, regardless of how they factor into society’s norms.    Resources:  www.transitionstherapyllc.com Find Sarah on Facebook: Transitions Therapy LLC Learn more about Sarah’s upcoming events including The SPOT a FREE support group for spouses and partners of trans folk and her Introductory Training to Transgender Affirmative Care at: http://transitionstherapyllc.com/events/ The Radical Copyeditor's Style Guide For Writing About Transgender People: https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/  Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our Wild Woman Discussion Groups. We meet online the last Thursday of the month through September 2018.  Learn more about working with Rebecca's 1-on-1 integration coaching at: practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to connectfulness.com Join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

What kind of support exists for people who question their gender identity and the people who love them? Fortunately, there are therapists who specialize in offering support and safe spaces for the discussions and self-discovery in the face of the intense societal pressure trans folk experience. Today’s show tackles these issues and more. Sarah Gilbert, LCSW, is the owner of Transitions Therapy, LLC, a private practice in Manchester, Connecticut. Her mission is to help people author their unique identities. She specializes in working with teens and adults who identify as transgender, as well as those who love them. A part of her practice also involves giving support and education to the family members of transgender people. Sarah believes that when people live in their true identities, they come alive and inspire others to do the same. Sarah shares the metaphor of gender as water that surrounds fish as representative of the subtle gender reminders that surround people even before birth. We are socialized in the binary limits of gender identity, however, an increasing portion of our population are finding ways to live out their gender roles as other than strictly male or female. Sarah would like to see shifts in people opening up to this conversation and the wide range of gender identities, with many choices to empower people in the individual gender identity process.  One important aspect of this conversation is to realize that gender identity and sexual orientation are NOT the same thing, even though they are related. There are deep layers of self-discovery and uncertainty in the identity process; there can also be intense grief, knowing that life is not going in the easy direction that someone expected and that others around them are affected and disrupted.  A takeaway from this conversation: there is no ONE plan for transitioning that fits everybody. There is no set formula, but this journey is an individual one. As with each of us, the trans person wants to belong. They don’t want to be misgendered, misunderstood, or invalidated. What they need from others is respect, compassion, and awareness from friends and family as they figure out who they are and how they fit in the world. This is what each person deserves, regardless of how they factor into society’s norms.  Resources: <a href="http://www.transitionstherapyllc.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.transitionstherapyllc.com</a> Find Sarah on Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/transitionstherapy/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Transitions Therapy LLC</a> Learn more about Sarah’s upcoming events including The SPOT a FREE support group for spouses and partners of trans folk and her Introductory Training to Transgender Affirmative Care at: <a href="http://transitionstherapyllc.com/events/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://transitionstherapyllc.com/events/</a> The Radical Copyeditor's Style Guide For Writing About Transgender People: <a href="https://pobs.squarespace.com/episode/77" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/</a> Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/wildwoman" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Wild Woman Discussion Groups</a>. We meet online the last Thursday of the month through September 2018.  Learn more about working with Rebecca's 1-on-1 integration coaching at: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching</a> Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to <a href="http://connectfulness.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">connectfulness.com</a> Join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> For more information and resources, visit the website at <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on <a href="https://twitter.com/pobscast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/practiceofbeingseen/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PracticeBeingSeen/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Supporting Transgender People And The People Who Love Them with Sarah Gilbert

Laura Reagan

Chances are that you or someone you love dearly has been affected by childhood trauma. The statistics are appalling as to the prevalence of childhood trauma, and unfortunately, we don’t seem to be changing the trend. Today we’re talking about childhood trauma and trauma informed care.    My guest, Laura Reagan is an expert on how childhood trauma affects our lives. She’s also the host of the Therapy Chat podcast (a highly recommended fave of mine). Laura is a clinical social worker in Maryland specializing in trauma, attachment, LGBTQ issues, mindfulness, and self-compassion.    The CDC’s Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) is a great place to begin broadening our understanding of childhood trauma - it uncovered a link between childhood trauma and higher risk of health and social problems later in life. The overwhelming experiences that impact children can include physical assault, assault by one parent on another, alcoholic or imprisoned parent, death of a parent, feeling unwanted, and sexual abuse. Statistics suggest that nearly two-thirds of adults have experienced at least one. Physical and mental health effects can lead to anxiety, depression, suicide, substance abuse, relationship problems, and physical ailments. These physical effects can contribute to a shorter life span by up to 20 years. The study also shows that early intervention will lead to better outcomes. Laura shares about the types of interventions that work best and how traumatic memories are held in the body and how later-in-life relationships are affected.   On the therapy side are several key issues, including the aspects of boundaries and knowing what you need. It is common for childhood trauma survivors to use dissociation as an escape and a coping mechanism; it’s important for a therapist to get to the “why” of the triggers and teach mindfulness.  Our “unresolved stuff” affects relationships, and what children need most is the guidance to express their feelings and cope with them in order to develop healthy relationships. Laura explains the concept of “parentified” children and the challenges in working through that trauma. She says that the transformation effect is “like going from a black and white picture to technicolor with a full, rich range of opportunities and deeply connected relationships.” In our conversation, we also address the concepts of isolation vs. connection, the tie-in to the current immigrant crisis involving children, and overall dehumanizing behaviors that are common in today’s society.   Resources:   www.therapychatpodcast.com  more about ACES

Chances are that you or someone you love dearly has been affected by childhood trauma. The statistics are appalling as to the prevalence of childhood trauma, and unfortunately, we don’t seem to be changing the trend. Today we’re talking about childhood trauma and trauma informed care.  My guest, Laura Reagan is an expert on how childhood trauma affects our lives. She’s also the host of the Therapy Chat podcast (a highly recommended fave of mine). Laura is a clinical social worker in Maryland specializing in trauma, attachment, LGBTQ issues, mindfulness, and self-compassion.  The CDC’s Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (<a href="http://www.cdc.gov/ace/index.htm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ACE Study</a>) is a great place to begin broadening our understanding of childhood trauma - it uncovered a link between childhood trauma and higher risk of health and social problems later in life. The overwhelming experiences that impact children can include physical assault, assault by one parent on another, alcoholic or imprisoned parent, death of a parent, feeling unwanted, and sexual abuse. Statistics suggest that nearly two-thirds of adults have experienced at least one. Physical and mental health effects can lead to anxiety, depression, suicide, substance abuse, relationship problems, and physical ailments. These physical effects can contribute to a shorter life span by up to 20 years. The study also shows that early intervention will lead to better outcomes. Laura shares about the types of interventions that work best and how traumatic memories are held in the body and how later-in-life relationships are affected. On the therapy side are several key issues, including the aspects of boundaries and knowing what you need. It is common for childhood trauma survivors to use dissociation as an escape and a coping mechanism; it’s important for a therapist to get to the “why” of the triggers and teach mindfulness.  Our “unresolved stuff” affects relationships, and what children need most is the guidance to express their feelings and cope with them in order to develop healthy relationships. Laura explains the concept of “parentified” children and the challenges in working through that trauma. She says that the transformation effect is “like going from a black and white picture to technicolor with a full, rich range of opportunities and deeply connected relationships.” In our conversation, we also address the concepts of isolation vs. connection, the tie-in to the current immigrant crisis involving children, and overall dehumanizing behaviors that are common in today’s society. Resources: <a href="http://www.therapychatpodcast.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapychatpodcast.com</a> <a href="https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">more about ACES</a>

The Ripple Effect of Childhood Trauma with Laura Reagan

Brandy Brooks

We all have ideals, opinions, and expectations of our governing leaders---and sadly, often those ideals are not met because we elect “politicians.” Today’s show is about change---real change that can happen when the voice of the people is truly heard by community leaders and when the needs of every segment of the community are addressed and improved. This conversation is a breath of fresh air.  Brandy Brooks genuinely has the heart and the determination to make these changes into reality--for the good of ALL the people.   Brandy Brooks is an organizer and educator who has spent nearly 15 years working on social, environmental and economic justice. Her areas of focus include community organizing and empowerment, community-­based design, land use planning, food justice, and food sovereignty. She currently works as the Leadership Development Organizer for Progressive Maryland. Brandy has served on multiple nonprofit boards and planning committees locally and nationally. She continues to speak at local and national events on community design, community-­based food systems, and cooperative development. Brandy’s civic and professional leadership have been recognized through numerous awards and fellowships.   We are taught that we are powerless to change the systems that govern us, but Brandy strives to help people reclaim their power and break down false narratives that are used to divide, dehumanize, and control us. Her hope is to provide a “people-powered democracy” where the needs, hopes, and dreams of all are valued. In her words, “I want us to live into our boldest visions for a renewed, healed, and liberated world where we can all live in peace, love, and dignity.”   Brandy recently ran as a candidate for Montgomery County Council-At-Large in Maryland. Even though society tells her as a woman of color that she has a certain “place,” she says her life has a calling and she has a destiny to fulfill. Her goal is to “do politics” differently in a way that engages people in organizing them to tell their stories and experiences and build the vision they want in the world. Brandy’s theme is “relational politics,” based on how we build trust, protect each other, understand benefits and drawbacks, and make choices. When things in our society are broken, it ultimately comes down to fundamentally broken relationships. Unfortunately, some groups want to maintain power over others and keep groups of people “disconnected by design.”   You’ll be inspired by Brandy’s account of the moment when she realized she could not remain in the shadows any longer. She is open and transparent about her battle to maintain mental health in the face of depression. Brandy is an advocate for others who face mental health stigma and have been shamed and blamed. People need support in whatever their needs are, and they need to choose a space of freedom. Brandy’s other passions include improving “out-of-whack” relationships with farming, food, education, and community healing. Brandy dreams of building “a world that matches our values – a world where justice and love and dignity and care for one another are the bedrock for how we govern ourselves.”   Resources:   http://brandy4montgomery.com   Find Brandy on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram: @brandy4moco

We all have ideals, opinions, and expectations of our governing leaders---and sadly, often those ideals are not met because we elect “politicians.” Today’s show is about change---real change that can happen when the voice of the people is truly heard by community leaders and when the needs of every segment of the community are addressed and improved. This conversation is a breath of fresh air.  Brandy Brooks genuinely has the heart and the determination to make these changes into reality--for the good of ALL the people. Brandy Brooks is an organizer and educator who has spent nearly 15 years working on social, environmental and economic justice. Her areas of focus include community organizing and empowerment, community-­based design, land use planning, food justice, and food sovereignty. She currently works as the Leadership Development Organizer for Progressive Maryland. Brandy has served on multiple nonprofit boards and planning committees locally and nationally. She continues to speak at local and national events on community design, community-­based food systems, and cooperative development. Brandy’s civic and professional leadership have been recognized through numerous awards and fellowships. We are taught that we are powerless to change the systems that govern us, but Brandy strives to help people reclaim their power and break down false narratives that are used to divide, dehumanize, and control us. Her hope is to provide a “people-powered democracy” where the needs, hopes, and dreams of all are valued. In her words, “I want us to live into our boldest visions for a renewed, healed, and liberated world where we can all live in peace, love, and dignity.” Brandy recently ran as a candidate for Montgomery County Council-At-Large in Maryland. Even though society tells her as a woman of color that she has a certain “place,” she says her life has a calling and she has a destiny to fulfill. Her goal is to “do politics” differently in a way that engages people in organizing them to tell their stories and experiences and build the vision they want in the world. Brandy’s theme is “relational politics,” based on how we build trust, protect each other, understand benefits and drawbacks, and make choices. When things in our society are broken, it ultimately comes down to fundamentally broken relationships. Unfortunately, some groups want to maintain power over others and keep groups of people “disconnected by design.” You’ll be inspired by Brandy’s account of the moment when she realized she could not remain in the shadows any longer. She is open and transparent about her battle to maintain mental health in the face of depression. Brandy is an advocate for others who face mental health stigma and have been shamed and blamed. People need support in whatever their needs are, and they need to choose a space of freedom. Brandy’s other passions include improving “out-of-whack” relationships with farming, food, education, and community healing. Brandy dreams of building “a world that matches our values – a world where justice and love and dignity and care for one another are the bedrock for how we govern ourselves.” Resources: <a href="http://brandy4montgomery.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://brandy4montgomery.com</a> Find Brandy on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram: @brandy4moco

Relational Politics with Brandy Brooks

A collection of weekly Connectfulness® Conversations with therapists and and change-makers. we examine how to create deeply restorative ripples of change within ourselves and with the world around us. Connectfulness® begins with the Practice Of Being Seen. Hosted by Rebecca Wong, relationship therapist, mentor and consultant to therapists and change-making professionals .

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Practice of Being Seen

Terry Real

If someone told you that authentic relationships can cure just about everything, would you believe him? Listen to nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher Terry Real talk about “how to live a relational life” and there’s a great chance you’ll be on board with that idea.   If relationships are so fundamental to who we are, why are so many couples in trouble these days? Marriage wasn’t built for long walks on the beach and sex into your 70s. Marriage was built for companion and stability. So often, the reality doesn’t meet expectations.   Terry defines a “new intimacy” and tells us how this is synonymous with freeing men and women from the bonds and expectations of patriarchy. He invites us to think about relationships “ecologically” and understand how to act out of “enlightened self-interest” because we’re all so connected.   Therapeutic neutrality is a myth, says Terry and he believes you can’t teach people to be relational unless you’re relational with them. He teaches therapists to judiciously self-disclose and loves hearing his own clients say “I trusted you because I knew you’d been through it.”   All of this relational work has a spiritual component. Terry describes the movement from “first consciousness” and the knee-jerk, conditioned emotional reactions into the cultivation of “second consciousness,” which is marked by thoughtful, freedom-based responses. He helps people move from being “adaptive children” to becoming functional adults.   Other important topics covered in this conversation include the importance of:   taking the right kind of timeout (link below) breaking free from ancestral pathologies understanding that technology can play in making us tune into ourselves and others the 3 key phases of healing a relationship: loving confrontation, trauma and family of origin work, and skill building Your feelings haven't left you, you've left them (we talk about tracking your feelings)    We close with a discussion of the “rules” of marriage. Ultimately, it’s about following some universal laws of relationships and moving into freedom, choice, and perspective. The new rules that Terry puts forth are about liberation while staying within bounds of a union. He believes that even deeper than personal empowerment is what he calls relational empowerment.   For more on Terry’s trainings and books, visit https://www.terryreal.com/ Get his 10 Commandments of Time Outs:  http://www.terryreal.com/10-commandments-of-time-outs/ See the full text of the DH Lawrence poem, “The Healing” that Terry recites: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/575443-i-am-not-a-mechanism-an-assembly-of-various-sections    OUR SPONSOR We’re so excited to highlight MetaFi in this week’s conversation with Terry Real. MetaFi is a self-awareness app created by therapists that is available FREE on Android and iOS. It is designed to support mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and body awareness. When you tune in and use MetaFi as tool, you can re-establish and strengthen the emotional connection between your mind and body. MetaFi helps you increase awareness of how you show up from moment to moment so you can improve your relationships, productivity, creativity, emotional intelligence, and thinking.   Get started today with your free download: https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi   And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers. Coming up August 13 - 16, 2017:  (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future at the Menla Mountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains.

If someone told you that authentic relationships can cure just about everything, would you believe him? Listen to nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher Terry Real talk about “how to live a relational life” and there’s a great chance you’ll be on board with that idea. If relationships are so fundamental to who we are, why are so many couples in trouble these days? Marriage wasn’t built for long walks on the beach and sex into your 70s. Marriage was built for companion and stability. So often, the reality doesn’t meet expectations. Terry defines a “new intimacy” and tells us how this is synonymous with freeing men and women from the bonds and expectations of patriarchy. He invites us to think about relationships “ecologically” and understand how to act out of “enlightened self-interest” because we’re all so connected. Therapeutic neutrality is a myth, says Terry and he believes you can’t teach people to be relational unless you’re relational with them. He teaches therapists to judiciously self-disclose and loves hearing his own clients say “I trusted you because I knew you’d been through it.” All of this relational work has a spiritual component. Terry describes the movement from “first consciousness” and the knee-jerk, conditioned emotional reactions into the cultivation of “second consciousness,” which is marked by thoughtful, freedom-based responses. He helps people move from being “adaptive children” to becoming functional adults. Other important topics covered in this conversation include the importance of: <ul> <li>taking the right kind of timeout (link below)</li> <li>breaking free from ancestral pathologies</li> <li>understanding that technology can play in making us tune into ourselves and others</li> <li>the 3 key phases of healing a relationship: loving confrontation, trauma and family of origin work, and skill building</li> <li>Your feelings haven't left you, you've left them (we talk about tracking your feelings)</li> </ul> We close with a discussion of the “rules” of marriage. Ultimately, it’s about following some universal laws of relationships and moving into freedom, choice, and perspective. The new rules that Terry puts forth are about liberation while staying within bounds of a union. He believes that even deeper than personal empowerment is what he calls relational empowerment. For more on Terry’s trainings and books, visit <a href="https://www.terryreal.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.terryreal.com/</a> Get his 10 Commandments of Time Outs: <a href="http://www.terryreal.com/10-commandments-of-time-outs/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> http://www.terryreal.com/10-commandments-of-time-outs/</a> See the full text of the DH Lawrence poem, “The Healing” that Terry recites: <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/575443-i-am-not-a-mechanism-an-assembly-of-various-sections" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/575443-i-am-not-a-mechanism-an-assembly-of-various-sections</a> OUR SPONSOR We’re so excited to highlight MetaFi in this week’s conversation with Terry Real. MetaFi is a self-awareness app created by therapists that is available FREE on Android and iOS. It is designed to support mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and body awareness. When you tune in and use MetaFi as tool, you can re-establish and strengthen the emotional connection between your mind and body. MetaFi helps you increase awareness of how you show up from moment to moment so you can improve your relationships, productivity, creativity, emotional intelligence, and thinking. Get started today with your free download: <a href="https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi</a> <h3>And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers. Coming up August 13 - 16, 2017: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future</a> at the Menla Mountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains.</h3>

Terry Real: Smash the Patriarchy, Re-envison your Relationship

Approximately 20% of the world’s population carries the Highly Sensitive personality trait.  That’s basically 1 in 5 people you’ll encounter on a given day.  You might be highly sensitive yourself.  But there’s quite a bit of stigma that comes along with the word “sensitive” and the term “Highly Sensitive Person” (HSP) is often misunderstood. Given that most therapists and healers are also HSPs and about 50% of their clientele are as well, it’s imperative that we demystify the gifts and challenges that Highly Sensitive People experience internally and put forth into the world.   As an HSP myself, I’m thrilled to be talking with April Snow, AMFT, a therapist who focuses on HSPs in her practice and runs an incredible online community for highly sensitive therapists.  The topic of high sensitivity is so big that it’s a real challenge to say it all in the span of a single episode. But, April and I really touch on a lot, from defining what the HSP trait really is and the gifts and challenges that come with it, the importance of processing time and radical self-acceptance, the challenges of parenting HSP children, to the differences between introverted and extroverted HSPs as well as the differences between extroverted HSPs and non-HSP extroverts.  We also dip a toe into the importance of letting the joy in and what that means to an HSP, the isolation and loneliness HSPs are prone to, and the hero/heroine’s journey that all HSPs need to step fully into themselves.  And, we discuss how embracing your highly sensitive nature completely alters the way you work and market yourself, allowing effort, hustle and selling yourself to fall away as your YOU-ness surfaces and resonates effortlessly.   I want to delve deeper into the topic of HSPs, but I would love to hear your questions about life and work as a HSP, and working with other HSPs.  You can submit your questions here: practiceofbeingseen.com/the-highly-sensitive-series-query   Quoted in the Episode: There’s this misperception that sensitivity is weakness.  But, actually, there’s a lot of strength there. Doesn’t it take bravery and strength to feel all those emotions? And to feel them so deeply, to go to those places within yourself?  That’s brave.  - April Snow   You see a lot of highly sensitive therapists questioning their ability to do the work long-term, which breaks my heart because it can be overwhelming without taking into account your temperament, carving time in for yourself during the day and making sure you get a good lunch, not overscheduling yourself and getting the right supports where they need to be.  Those are all really important so that you can allow these gifts to come forward.  - April Snow   I’m starting to see a pattern in these conversations where we get to a point where we identify yet another form of othering.  Another way that we’re separate or we’re different.  And then there’s this quest, this desire to belong and to reintegrate things, but integrate them from a place of holding ourselves in our differences and not dimming the light on those things.  Those things are what make us who we are.  - Rebecca Wong   What could we unlearn that is actually causing us to feel these things that are detrimental to our being?  - Rebecca Wong   Resources Referenced in this Episode: April’s Facebook group for Highly Sensitive Therapists Pioneer researcher of HSP personality trait, Elaine Aron, PhD.  April’s upcoming retreat for Highly Sensitive Therapists: HSTretreat.com   Where to find April Snow]: For support for HSP therapists: SensitiveTherapist.com For April’s private practice: ExpansiveHeart.com Sensitive Therapist Facebook Page Expansive Heart Facebook Page Twitter Instagram   If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can learn more about her services here: https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/   To join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Approximately 20% of the world’s population carries the Highly Sensitive personality trait.  That’s basically 1 in 5 people you’ll encounter on a given day.  You might be highly sensitive yourself.  But there’s quite a bit of stigma that comes along with the word “sensitive” and the term “Highly Sensitive Person” (HSP) is often misunderstood. Given that most therapists and healers are also HSPs and about 50% of their clientele are as well, it’s imperative that we demystify the gifts and challenges that Highly Sensitive People experience internally and put forth into the world. As an HSP myself, I’m thrilled to be talking with April Snow, AMFT, a therapist who focuses on HSPs in her practice and runs an incredible online community for highly sensitive therapists.  The topic of high sensitivity is so big that it’s a real challenge to say it all in the span of a single episode. But, April and I really touch on a lot, from defining what the HSP trait really is and the gifts and challenges that come with it, the importance of processing time and radical self-acceptance, the challenges of parenting HSP children, to the differences between introverted and extroverted HSPs as well as the differences between extroverted HSPs and non-HSP extroverts.  We also dip a toe into the importance of letting the joy in and what that means to an HSP, the isolation and loneliness HSPs are prone to, and the hero/heroine’s journey that all HSPs need to step fully into themselves.  And, we discuss how embracing your highly sensitive nature completely alters the way you work and market yourself, allowing effort, hustle and selling yourself to fall away as your YOU-ness surfaces and resonates effortlessly. I want to delve deeper into the topic of HSPs, but I would love to hear your questions about life and work as a HSP, and working with other HSPs.  <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/the-highly-sensitive-series-query" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">You can submit your questions here: practiceofbeingseen.com/the-highly-sensitive-series-query</a> Quoted in the Episode: There’s this misperception that sensitivity is weakness.  But, actually, there’s a lot of strength there. Doesn’t it take bravery and strength to feel all those emotions? And to feel them so deeply, to go to those places within yourself?  That’s brave.  - April Snow You see a lot of highly sensitive therapists questioning their ability to do the work long-term, which breaks my heart because it can be overwhelming without taking into account your temperament, carving time in for yourself during the day and making sure you get a good lunch, not overscheduling yourself and getting the right supports where they need to be.  Those are all really important so that you can allow these gifts to come forward.  - April Snow I’m starting to see a pattern in these conversations where we get to a point where we identify yet another form of othering.  Another way that we’re separate or we’re different.  And then there’s this quest, this desire to belong and to reintegrate things, but integrate them from a place of holding ourselves in our differences and not dimming the light on those things.  Those things are what make us who we are.  - Rebecca Wong What could we unlearn that is actually causing us to feel these things that are detrimental to our being?  - Rebecca Wong Resources Referenced in this Episode: April’s Facebook group for <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/Support.for.HSTs/?fref=mentions" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Highly Sensitive Therapists</a> Pioneer researcher of HSP personality trait, <a href="http://hsperson.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Elaine Aron, PhD</a>.  April’s upcoming retreat for Highly Sensitive Therapists: <a href="http://hstretreat.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HSTretreat.com</a> Where to find April Snow]: For support for HSP therapists: <a href="https://www.sensitivetherapist.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SensitiveTherapist.com</a> For April’s private practice: <a href="https://www.expansiveheart.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ExpansiveHeart.com</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Support.for.HSTs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sensitive Therapist Facebook Page</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ExpansiveHeartTherapy/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Expansive Heart Facebook Page</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/Expansive_Heart" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/expansiveheart/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can learn more about her services here: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/</a> To join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> For more information and resources, visit the website at <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on <a href="https://twitter.com/pobscast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/practiceofbeingseen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PracticeBeingSeen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at <a href="mailto:practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com">practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com</a>

Highly Sensitive Series, Part 1 with April Snow

In this conversation between Rebecca and Marisa, we explore some of the structures and theories that support our vision of the Practice of Being Seen. Listen in and discover what Interpersonal Neurobiology founder Dan Siegel’s Triangle of Well-Being and the Story Triangle have in common. You’ll learn what it means to sense, birth, and hold an idea. And, we introduce you to what it means to be a Storyteller, Story Keeper, and Story Healer. For more, please visit: practiceofbeingseen.com

In this conversation between Rebecca and Marisa, we explore some of the structures and theories that support our vision of the Practice of Being Seen. Listen in and discover what Interpersonal Neurobiology founder Dan Siegel’s Triangle of Well-Being and the Story Triangle have in common. You’ll learn what it means to sense, birth, and hold an idea. And, we introduce you to what it means to be a Storyteller, Story Keeper, and Story Healer. For more, please visit: <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>

Stories Shape Relationships, Relationships Shape Stories

Allison Puryear

Allison Puryear is an “LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development.” We discuss the origin story of Alison’s company, Abundance Practice Building, and what it’s like to create a business that’s one of the loves of your life. Ultimately, it’s about building a business that is structured around the way you want to live. Have you heard of the “spider web effect”? Allison describes how it plays out for her: she helps someone start or build a practice they love and that gives them the time, energy, and finances to take better care of themselves. In turn, they can do their best clinical work which helps clients and then ripples to all the people in their clients’ lives. This conversation is about dualities and balance and permission to explore and live out many aspects of your identity. Transformation relies on riding the flow between two poles and allowing yourself to be both when it’s appropriate. We talk growth edges and the moments when you panic because you’re not growing. Allison hosts a popular Facebook community for therapists and we discuss what it means to hold space for a diverse community when you have people at different stages of entrepreneurial evolution. Comparison and the desire to follow others’ exact path to growth are always a challenge. We also get into Allison’s experience when a troll who infiltrated her community and how it was ultimately an opportunity to build trust and experience growth. Allison takes us to her current growth edge: allowing more fun. What might happen if you actually gave yourself permission to ask yourself what’s fun based on who you are now and what you need now? Allison describes how she made list of everything she ever found fun in her adult life and another list of what she has found restorative. She also talks about Brene Brown’s “easy buttons” - like having a beer at the end of the day in order to release tension. What’s the difference between fun and restorative and just “easy”? You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, get weekly private practice tips, and join the Abundance Practice-Building Group to gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed: https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/ And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers that is coming up August 13 - 16, 2017. (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future will be held at the Menla Mountain Retreat  New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains: https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat

Allison Puryear is an “LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development.” We discuss the origin story of Alison’s company, Abundance Practice Building, and what it’s like to create a business that’s one of the loves of your life. Ultimately, it’s about building a business that is structured around the way you want to live. Have you heard of the “spider web effect”? Allison describes how it plays out for her: she helps someone start or build a practice they love and that gives them the time, energy, and finances to take better care of themselves. In turn, they can do their best clinical work which helps clients and then ripples to all the people in their clients’ lives. This conversation is about dualities and balance and permission to explore and live out many aspects of your identity. Transformation relies on riding the flow between two poles and allowing yourself to be both when it’s appropriate. We talk growth edges and the moments when you panic because you’re not growing. Allison hosts a popular Facebook community for therapists and we discuss what it means to hold space for a diverse community when you have people at different stages of entrepreneurial evolution. Comparison and the desire to follow others’ exact path to growth are always a challenge. We also get into Allison’s experience when a troll who infiltrated her community and how it was ultimately an opportunity to build trust and experience growth. Allison takes us to her current growth edge: allowing more fun. What might happen if you actually gave yourself permission to ask yourself what’s fun based on who you are now and what you need now? Allison describes how she made list of everything she ever found fun in her adult life and another list of what she has found restorative. She also talks about Brene Brown’s “easy buttons” - like having a beer at the end of the day in order to release tension. What’s the difference between fun and restorative and just “easy”? You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, get weekly private practice tips, and join the Abundance Practice-Building Group to gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed: <a href="https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/</a> And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers that is coming up August 13 - 16, 2017. (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future will be held at the Menla Mountain Retreat  New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat</a>

Allison Puryear: Less Control, More Fun: A Conversation about Entrepreneurship

Fraud feelings and overwhelm. Squelched desires and jealousy.  How do you differentiate between fears designed to keep you safe and fears beckoning you to toward your potential?     The friction of change during growth periods in our lives is never very comfortable, but for all our fears, we rarely meet our utter demise on the other side.  So, why is it so hard to break through it?  And what can we learn about ourselves from it?   Episode 38 of the #POBScast puts Imposter Syndrome under the lens.  I’m chatting with Melody Wilding, an entrepreneur, coach, writer, and licensed social worker who helps high achieving individuals navigate the emotional facets that come along with successful careers.     In this episode, Melody and I discuss:    The conundrum that imposter syndrome presents and navigating the feelings that imposter syndrome stirs up in us The paradox of the therapist’s “blank slate” Why therapists are well poised for entrepreneurship and what is standing in the way The archetype of the wounded healer and the profundity of “me too” validation The power of storytelling in writing and speaking that don’t always require self-disclosure Finding our growth edge and how our imposter syndrome presents us with a necessary choice Resculpting ourselves through accomplishment and reflection The need to make space for practice and why our natural strengths only take us so far How to move through the stuff that creates the fear and why you need a “shitty first draft” Why every step forward always comes back to self-awareness and the messy, murky feelings that show us where to go if we’ll only sit with them How Gottman’s concept of relationship bids can translate as a metaphor for moving forward in our careers.      Referenced in the Episode: Melody’s TEDx Talk, “Trying to Change?  How Self-Doubt Can Actually Help”   You can find Melody Wilding online at MelodyWilding.com, where you can learn more about confidence, overwhelm and more.  Be sure to check out her upcoming HARO program relaunch as well. Follow her on Twitter,  Instagram, and Facebook.   If you are a therapist and are ready for a chance to move beyond your imposter syndrome, I want to invite you to consider joining me for the Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program.  Early Bird registration is now open.

Fraud feelings and overwhelm. Squelched desires and jealousy.  How do you differentiate between fears designed to keep you safe and fears beckoning you to toward your potential?   The friction of change during growth periods in our lives is never very comfortable, but for all our fears, we rarely meet our utter demise on the other side.  So, why is it so hard to break through it?  And what can we learn about ourselves from it? Episode 38 of the #POBScast puts Imposter Syndrome under the lens.  I’m chatting with Melody Wilding, an entrepreneur, coach, writer, and licensed social worker who helps high achieving individuals navigate the emotional facets that come along with successful careers.   In this episode, Melody and I discuss: <ul> <li>The conundrum that imposter syndrome presents and navigating the feelings that imposter syndrome stirs up in us</li> <li>The paradox of the therapist’s “blank slate”</li> <li>Why therapists are well poised for entrepreneurship and what is standing in the way</li> <li>The archetype of the wounded healer and the profundity of “me too” validation</li> <li>The power of storytelling in writing and speaking that don’t always require self-disclosure</li> <li>Finding our growth edge and how our imposter syndrome presents us with a necessary choice</li> <li>Resculpting ourselves through accomplishment and reflection</li> <li>The need to make space for practice and why our natural strengths only take us so far</li> <li>How to move through the stuff that creates the fear and why you need a “shitty first draft”</li> <li>Why every step forward always comes back to self-awareness and the messy, murky feelings that show us where to go if we’ll only sit with them</li> <li>How Gottman’s concept of relationship bids can translate as a metaphor for moving forward in our careers.</li> </ul> Referenced in the Episode: Melody’s TEDx Talk, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4OTf35doZPM" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">“Trying to Change?  How Self-Doubt Can Actually Help”</a> You can find Melody Wilding online at <a href="http://melodywilding.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MelodyWilding.com</a>, where you can learn more about confidence, overwhelm and more.  Be sure to check out her <a href="http://melodywilding.com/zerotoharo/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">upcoming HARO program</a> relaunch as well. Follow her on <a href="https://twitter.com/MelodyWilding" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>,  <a href="https://www.instagram.com/melodywilding/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/melodywildinglmsw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook.</a> If you are a therapist and are ready for a chance to move beyond your imposter syndrome, I want to invite you to consider joining me for the <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/mentorship-program" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program.  Early Bird registration is now open.</a>

Melody Wilding: Reframing Imposter Syndrome

This episode is equal parts stream-of-consciousness musing and a call-to-action.  Throughout, I am redefining the meaning and intention of the Practice of Being Seen in both micro and macro levels: as a podcast, in branding, as a way of knowing ourselves, as a means of serving others.  I want to know what you want from the #POBScast as well. I believe that everything stems from how we see ourselves.  In daring to look at my own shadows, I invite you to do the same.  As we do this hard work together, we shine a light on who we really are and uncover new depths within us to be the change we wish to see in the world--the change that our clients seek in their work with us. Join me on “The Becca Train” as I discuss:    What social work revealed to me that my photographic work couldn’t. What I’ve learned therapists really need in order to explore their own depths and shadows and why exploring our own depths and shadows is exactly what our clients (and the world) need us to do. The concept of the  “Practice of Being Seen” as both the art of formulating a brand and the means by which we create safe relationships--both of which invite a deeper exploration of our needs and truths and our understanding of each other. How my grandmother taught me what safety really means and how to bravely move forward when we get stuck, while also highlighting the magic in how safety is created.   How the things we feel “othered by” disrupt our understanding of each other and the questions to ask to begin to make more conscious connections.  And, dear listener, it is your turn to co-conspire with me.  How will you contribute to our ongoing conversation this year?  Who would you like me to converse with on the show?  What do you want more of? Throughout the season, I’ll share my messy process with you and allow your stories and contributions to shape how I see the world too.  Welcome to Season 2 of the Practice of Being Seen Podcast.  Let’s dive in. Keep the conversation going! Join the #POBScast Community.   And lastly, the Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program for Therapists is coming soon - I can not even begin to tell you how excited I am to share this growing body of work with those seeking a deeply integrated journey - know when it launches by signing up here!

This episode is equal parts stream-of-consciousness musing and a call-to-action.  Throughout, I am redefining the meaning and intention of the Practice of Being Seen in both micro and macro levels: as a podcast, in branding, as a way of knowing ourselves, as a means of serving others.  I want to know what you want from the <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/feedback" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#POBScast</a> as well. I believe that everything stems from how we see ourselves.  In daring to look at my own shadows, I invite you to do the same.  As we do this hard work together, we shine a light on who we really are and uncover new depths within us to be the change we wish to see in the world--the change that our clients seek in their work with us. Join me on “The Becca Train” as I discuss: <ul> <li>What social work revealed to me that my photographic work couldn’t.</li> <li>What I’ve learned therapists really need in order to explore their own depths and shadows and why exploring our own depths and shadows is exactly what our clients (and the world) need us to do.</li> <li>The concept of the  “Practice of Being Seen” as both the art of formulating a brand and the means by which we create safe relationships--both of which invite a deeper exploration of our needs and truths and our understanding of each other.</li> <li>How my grandmother taught me what safety really means and how to bravely move forward when we get stuck, while also highlighting the magic in how safety is created.  </li> <li>How the things we feel “othered by” disrupt our understanding of each other and the questions to ask to begin to make more conscious connections.</li> </ul> And, dear listener, it is <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/feedback" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">your turn to co-conspire</a> with me.  How will you contribute to our ongoing conversation this year?  Who would you like me to converse with on the show?  What do you want more of? Throughout the season, I’ll share my messy process with you and allow your stories and contributions to shape how I see the world too.  Welcome to Season 2 of the Practice of Being Seen Podcast.  Let’s dive in. Keep the conversation going! <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join the #POBScast Community</a>. And lastly, the Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program for Therapists is coming soon - I can not even begin to tell you how excited I am to share this growing body of work with those seeking a deeply integrated journey - <a href="https://connectfulness.simplero.com/page/79245" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">know when it launches by signing up here</a>!

The Next Brave Step: Daring to See Yourself

Elsie Escobar

As we close out the 1st season of the #POBScast we're reflecting on this journey of being seen. It's a journey full of obstacles and pivots and revisions. And along the way, finding your voice and communicating your vision. And one of the most beautiful aspects of this podcast journey is being able to uncover new ways to communicate with and understand one another. No one knows the power of this beautiful podcast phenomenon better than Elsie Escobar. Elsie is one of the early pioneers of podcasting. In fact, she is about to be inducted into the Podcast Hall of Fame—so cool! Besides hosting two podcasts of her own, Elsie works hard to ensure fellow podcasts are heard on their road to self-discovery. Elsie’s own path is remarkable; you are going to be so inspired after hearing it! Pause for a moment, lean into the silence, and be inspired.   (And we sort of can't help but love that on this first episode of Rebecca’s solo POBScast hosting journey, in conversation with Elsie, it's Rebecca who's audio is crackly, as if to help articulate her mission of finding her voice…) Also in this episode:  People are starting to see the hidden powers of podcasting.  How Elsie pivoted into podcasting, and away from acting. Yoga as a release from the negative influences of the acting industry. Podcasting is a means of self-discovery and self-development. Embracing silence and embracing presence while growing as a teacher or leader. Our communication powers can extend from teaching into parenthood and other facets of life. Continuing to have a grounded and impactful conversation with someone. Giving a voice to Women of Color. Transitions can be stressful, make room for rest. Partnerships in dialogue can bring a new power to a podcast.  There are so many ways to connect with Elsie! To find them all, head over to: http://elsieescobar.com/  And do join our #POBScast community at Facebook.com/groups/POBScast    This episode marks the end of season 1, Rebecca will be back with season 2 beginning September 20, 2017. 

As we close out the 1st season of the #POBScast we're reflecting on this journey of being seen. It's a journey full of obstacles and pivots and revisions. And along the way, finding your voice and communicating your vision. And one of the most beautiful aspects of this podcast journey is being able to uncover new ways to communicate with and understand one another. No one knows the power of this beautiful podcast phenomenon better than Elsie Escobar. Elsie is one of the early pioneers of podcasting. In fact, she is about to be inducted into the Podcast Hall of Fame—so cool! Besides hosting two podcasts of her own, Elsie works hard to ensure fellow podcasts are heard on their road to self-discovery. Elsie’s own path is remarkable; you are going to be so inspired after hearing it! Pause for a moment, lean into the silence, and be inspired.   (And we sort of can't help but love that on this first episode of Rebecca’s solo POBScast hosting journey, in conversation with Elsie, it's Rebecca who's audio is crackly, as if to help articulate her mission of finding her voice…) Also in this episode: <ul> <li>People are starting to see the hidden powers of podcasting. </li> <li>How Elsie pivoted into podcasting, and away from acting.</li> <li>Yoga as a release from the negative influences of the acting industry.</li> <li>Podcasting is a means of self-discovery and self-development.</li> <li>Embracing silence and embracing presence while growing as a teacher or leader.</li> <li>Our communication powers can extend from teaching into parenthood and other facets of life.</li> <li>Continuing to have a grounded and impactful conversation with someone.</li> <li>Giving a voice to Women of Color.</li> <li>Transitions can be stressful, make room for rest.</li> <li>Partnerships in dialogue can bring a new power to a podcast. There are so many ways to connect with Elsie! To find them all, head over to: <a href="http://elsieescobar.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://elsieescobar.com/</a></li> </ul> And do join our #POBScast community at <a href="http://Facebook.com/groups/POBScast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook.com/groups/POBScast</a> This episode marks the end of season 1, Rebecca will be back with season 2 beginning September 20, 2017.

Elsie Escobar: Finding Your Voice

Molly Merson

Earlier in this season on the Practice of Being Seen, Molly Merson, MFT, and I initiated a discussion around the “American collective unconscious”.  It’s such a complex, layered subject. And though we covered quite a bit of ground in in that hour of conversation, there still is so much more to explore. And so many questions to open up to possibility.   Through this exploration of our collective unprocessed traumas and the deep healing we need, we’re really talking about witnessing in a collective experience in which we are all implicated.  How do we make space for more witnessing?  We also discuss responsibility and resilience, post-traumatic growth, and the Parkland shooting victims and activists.  We ask about the American Dream:  Who is dreaming it and who is it for?  We ask about the possibility of equality:  Can it ever be so?  When the urgency of fighting back and holding others accountable is so palpable and necessary, where is the space for hope, for dancing, for aliveness?   Ultimately, we are asking:  What is true?  What do we know for sure?   Quoted in the Episode:   “Whatever you touch, you change. And whatever you change, changes you.” -Octavia Butler, “Parable Of The Sower”   “We have to call upon our ancestors in some way to do some of this remembering.” Molly Merson    “It's not a reliance on an outside force or some kind of benevolent parent who knows the way. It's like something much more participatory and urgent.” Molly Merson   “We have to get into trouble because the truth is we're in trouble already.” Molly Merson   “I keep thinking about this bigger collective unconsciousness that is our country. We need a witness. We need many witnesses.”  Rebecca Wong   “I don't know about you, but I'm having fantasies and projections that we dismantle this whole thing and rebuild.” Rebecca Wong   Resources Referenced in this Episode:  Parable of the Sower: Octavia Butler  Jessica Benjamin  The Catcher in the Rye  Viktor Frankl  Leonard Cohen Molly’s blog post,  “The Necessary Precariousness of Hope” Molly’s blog post,  “Resilience as ‘Hope with Teeth’ via Pussy Riot and ‘The Chi’”       Where to find Molly: mollymerson.com Twitter  LinkedIn Youtube Facebook   If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can find out more about her services here: https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/  Support the #POBScast by joining our WILD WOMAN ONLINE DISCUSSION GROUP, learn more at: http://smpl.ro/wildwomen  Join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community  You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook @POBScast  If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Earlier in this season on the Practice of Being Seen, Molly Merson, MFT, and I initiated a discussion around the “American collective unconscious”.  It’s such a complex, layered subject. And though we covered quite a bit of ground in in that hour of conversation, there still is so much more to explore. And so many questions to open up to possibility. Through this exploration of our collective unprocessed traumas and the deep healing we need, we’re really talking about witnessing in a collective experience in which we are all implicated.  How do we make space for more witnessing?  We also discuss responsibility and resilience, post-traumatic growth, and the Parkland shooting victims and activists.  We ask about the American Dream:  Who is dreaming it and who is it for?  We ask about the possibility of equality:  Can it ever be so?  When the urgency of fighting back and holding others accountable is so palpable and necessary, where is the space for hope, for dancing, for aliveness?   Ultimately, we are asking:  What is true?  What do we know for sure? Quoted in the Episode: “Whatever you touch, you change. And whatever you change, changes you.” -Octavia Butler, “Parable Of The Sower” “We have to call upon our ancestors in some way to do some of this remembering.” Molly Merson  “It's not a reliance on an outside force or some kind of benevolent parent who knows the way. It's like something much more participatory and urgent.” Molly Merson “We have to get into trouble because the truth is we're in trouble already.” Molly Merson “I keep thinking about this bigger collective unconsciousness that is our country. We need a witness. We need many witnesses.”  Rebecca Wong “I don't know about you, but I'm having fantasies and projections that we dismantle this whole thing and rebuild.” Rebecca Wong Resources Referenced in this Episode: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Parable-Sower-Earthseed-Octavia-Butler/dp/0446675504/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1522630967&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=parable+of+the+sower" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Parable of the Sower: Octavia Butler</a> <a href="http://www.movingbeyondviolence.org/jessica-benjamin/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jessica Benjamin</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Catcher-Rye-J-D-Salinger/dp/0316769487" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Catcher in the Rye</a> <a href="http://www.viktorfrankl.org/e/chronology.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Viktor Frankl</a> <a href="http://www.leonardcohen.com/home" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Leonard Cohen</a> Molly’s blog post, <a href="http://www.mollymerson.com/blog/2018/3/29/the-necessary-precariousness-of-hope" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “The Necessary Precariousness of Hope”</a> Molly’s blog post, <a href="http://www.mollymerson.com/blog/resilience-hope-with-teeth-pussy-riot-chi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> “Resilience as ‘Hope with Teeth’ via Pussy Riot and ‘The Chi’”</a> Where to find Molly: <a href="http://www.mollymerson.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">mollymerson.com</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/MollyMersonMFT" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a> <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/mollymersonmft" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPam8F-KD_43rXqF3EjqXDg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Youtube</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MollyMersonLMFT/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can find out more about her services here: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/</a> Support the #POBScast by joining our WILD WOMAN ONLINE DISCUSSION GROUP, learn more at: <a href="http://smpl.ro/wildwomen" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://smpl.ro/wildwomen</a> Join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook @POBScast If you have questions or inquiries, email us at <a href="mailto:practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com">practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com</a>

COLLECTIVE POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH with Molly Merson

Kim John Payne

Kim John Payne of Simplicity Parenting and writer of the international #1 bestseller of the same name joins us to talk about how “we can be at our best when our kids are at their worst.”   We talk about how kids “ping” us. They use their trusted parents, their safest place to figure out where they are emotionally. It’s important to try to understand when our kids have lost their bearings because, as Kim says, “I’ve never met a disobedient kid, but I have met a lot of disorientated ones.” Kim encourages us to be inquisitive rather than accusative: “I wonder why you’re so lost” moves us out of the “fight or flight” brain, the amygdala, into wondering and into the “let’s play” and “let’s cooperate” part of the brain.   We talk about what it’s like to watch ourselves at our best and at our worst and acknowledge how hard it can be to see ourselves so clearly. And we dive into a huge stress for for parents: feeling unseen. Eventually, feeling unseen and unappreciated builds up a toxic charge. The antidote: stop trying to make every day “the best.” Instead of the super sized family life where every kid is scheduled to capacity and parents become unpaid Uber drivers, there’s an alternative: hit the pause button.   Kids in the Western world are suffering the same levels of stress as children in war torn areas of the developing world. We live in an undeclared war on childhood and family life. The pace of modern life has outstripped the human body and brain’s ability to keep up. We can’t opt out - we’re opted in by being born at this time. What we can do is be the gatekeepers and make choices that offer alternatives to the new normal.   How many activities, toys, books, and most importantly, screens are in your kids’ lives? Why did Steve Jobs limit his kids’ screen time? Because he and his wife wanted their kids to be innovative and creative, and that’s not possible when you’re immersed in someone else’s innovation and creativity.   The connections they need: nature, friends, family, to the self. All of these things take time, and screens are time bandits. Average 12 year old have 9.25 hours of screens a day. The only place we can control screen time is at home. Some people respond with screens are the “real world” and that keeping kids from screens will set them up for a future addiction and set them too far behind their peers. The message Kim gave his daughters, now teens, was “a screen is a tool.” We talk about the dopamine hits that come from screens and how to “reset the brain” to help kids find pleasure and connection in the offscreen world.   Kim is here to help us avoid burying our children’s soul under a toxic landfill of pop culture. He wants to protect and “cool” family life much like we want to protect our earth and end global warming.   For more about Kim and the Simplicity Parenting Community, please visit http://www.simplicityparenting.com/   Thanks to this week’s sponsor:  Plum Deluxe.   Love trying new teas?  Treat yourself to a Plum Deluxe tea of the month subscription for only $10/month. You'll receive a hand blended, all-organic, loose leaf tea thoughtfully chosen for the season.  Tea club members also enjoy special benefits like gift swaps, free shipping on all purchases, and access to a very loving tea community.  A tea subscription also makes a fantastic gift for clients, colleagues, and those you love. Our current favorite is Reading Nook Blend!  Begin your tea adventure!  And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers that is coming up August 13 - 16, 2017.   (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future will be held at the Menla Mountain Retreat  New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains. Take advantage of early bird rates through April 30: practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat

Kim John Payne of Simplicity Parenting and writer of the international #1 bestseller of the same name joins us to talk about how “we can be at our best when our kids are at their worst.” We talk about how kids “ping” us. They use their trusted parents, their safest place to figure out where they are emotionally. It’s important to try to understand when our kids have lost their bearings because, as Kim says, “I’ve never met a disobedient kid, but I have met a lot of disorientated ones.” Kim encourages us to be inquisitive rather than accusative: “I wonder why you’re so lost” moves us out of the “fight or flight” brain, the amygdala, into wondering and into the “let’s play” and “let’s cooperate” part of the brain. We talk about what it’s like to watch ourselves at our best and at our worst and acknowledge how hard it can be to see ourselves so clearly. And we dive into a huge stress for for parents: feeling unseen. Eventually, feeling unseen and unappreciated builds up a toxic charge. The antidote: stop trying to make every day “the best.” Instead of the super sized family life where every kid is scheduled to capacity and parents become unpaid Uber drivers, there’s an alternative: hit the pause button. Kids in the Western world are suffering the same levels of stress as children in war torn areas of the developing world. We live in an undeclared war on childhood and family life. The pace of modern life has outstripped the human body and brain’s ability to keep up. We can’t opt out - we’re opted in by being born at this time. What we can do is be the gatekeepers and make choices that offer alternatives to the new normal. How many activities, toys, books, and most importantly, screens are in your kids’ lives? Why did Steve Jobs limit his kids’ screen time? Because he and his wife wanted their kids to be innovative and creative, and that’s not possible when you’re immersed in someone else’s innovation and creativity. The connections they need: nature, friends, family, to the self. All of these things take time, and screens are time bandits. Average 12 year old have 9.25 hours of screens a day. The only place we can control screen time is at home. Some people respond with screens are the “real world” and that keeping kids from screens will set them up for a future addiction and set them too far behind their peers. The message Kim gave his daughters, now teens, was “a screen is a tool.” We talk about the dopamine hits that come from screens and how to “reset the brain” to help kids find pleasure and connection in the offscreen world. Kim is here to help us avoid burying our children’s soul under a toxic landfill of pop culture. He wants to protect and “cool” family life much like we want to protect our earth and end global warming. For more about Kim and the Simplicity Parenting Community, please visit <a href="http://www.simplicityparenting.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.simplicityparenting.com/</a> Thanks to this week’s sponsor: <a href="http://plumdeluxe.com/tea?utm_source=beingseen&amp;utm_campaign=podcast&amp;utm_medium=podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Plum Deluxe</a>. Love trying new teas?  Treat yourself to a Plum Deluxe tea of the month subscription for only $10/month. You'll receive a hand blended, all-organic, loose leaf tea thoughtfully chosen for the season.  Tea club members also enjoy special benefits like gift swaps, free shipping on all purchases, and access to a very loving tea community.  A tea subscription also makes a fantastic gift for clients, colleagues, and those you love. Our current favorite is Reading Nook Blend! <a href="http://plumdeluxe.com/tea?utm_source=beingseen&amp;utm_campaign=podcast&amp;utm_medium=podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Begin your tea adventure!</a> And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers that is coming up August 13 - 16, 2017. (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future will be held at the Menla Mountain Retreat  New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains. Take advantage of early bird rates through April 30: <a href="http://plumdeluxe.com/tea?utm_source=beingseen&amp;utm_campaign=podcast&amp;utm_medium=podcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat</a>

Kim John Payne: Helping Parents Feel Seen

Laura Carr

What would happen if you integrated themes from humanistic, existential, and attachment theory with the flavor of Zen Buddhism?  You might have something like this week’s guest Laura Carr’s therapeutic method: Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy.     As much as our culture loves a quick fix 12-step program, there are no quick pathways to behavior change.  In fact, behavior is typically the last thing to change.  But there are many opportunities along the way to dial into what we feel, allow ourselves to be seen, and make space for our responses.  And Laura Carr knows this as well as anyone.  By developing Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy, she has seen the profound transformations that can take shape when we are willing to pay attention to our pain and our guilt.   In this conversation, Laura and I discuss:    What Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy is and how Laura uses it in her work with couples. Why our typical view of compassion is inaccurate and what compassion really means. The differences between guilt and shame, and when they are helpful or unhelpful. What happens when we blame or are blamed while being disconnected from our bodies. The importance of being willing to sit with our own pain and discomfort and what that offers us. Taking 100% responsibility for our behavior and our relationships, and why there’s no such thing as 60/40, 70/30, 50/50. How we can determine whether our values and our habits are ones that were inscribed for us or whether they are ones that we believe in. Why the validation of being seen isn’t enough to transform us. Why seeking truth is problematic, the difference between being with the content and being with the emotion, and why going on “autopilot” makes pain seem easier to manage. How to know whether sitting with our emotions is creating more suffering or is a path to freedom. How slowing down and grounding creates spaciousness when we feel resistance. Why, for all our inner work and processing, behavior is the last thing to change. The difference between anger that is violent and anger that is productive, and teaching our children not to fear anger.      You can find Laura Carr online at cfmrsandiego.com      Referenced in this Episode:   Cheri Huber, Laura’s Zen teacher and author  John Bradshaw’s work on shame Terry Real’s work on grandiosity and guilt Viktor Frankl’s  Man’s Search for Meaning Harville Hendrix and IMAGO Relationship Theory &amp; Therapy Plus, get a copy of Rebecca’s handout she mentions in the show here.         Have feedback to share?  We love hearing what our listeners think about the conversations we’re having here on the #POBScast.  Send us your feedback and suggestions here.

What would happen if you integrated themes from humanistic, existential, and attachment theory with the flavor of Zen Buddhism?  You might have something like this week’s guest Laura Carr’s therapeutic method: Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy.   As much as our culture loves a quick fix 12-step program, there are no quick pathways to behavior change.  In fact, behavior is typically the last thing to change.  But there are many opportunities along the way to dial into what we feel, allow ourselves to be seen, and make space for our responses.  And Laura Carr knows this as well as anyone.  By developing Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy, she has seen the profound transformations that can take shape when we are willing to pay attention to our pain and our guilt. In this conversation, Laura and I discuss: <ul> <li>What Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy is and how Laura uses it in her work with couples.</li> <li>Why our typical view of compassion is inaccurate and what compassion really means.</li> <li>The differences between guilt and shame, and when they are helpful or unhelpful.</li> <li>What happens when we blame or are blamed while being disconnected from our bodies.</li> <li>The importance of being willing to sit with our own pain and discomfort and what that offers us.</li> <li>Taking 100% responsibility for our behavior and our relationships, and why there’s no such thing as 60/40, 70/30, 50/50.</li> <li>How we can determine whether our values and our habits are ones that were inscribed for us or whether they are ones that we believe in.</li> <li>Why the validation of being seen isn’t enough to transform us.</li> <li>Why seeking truth is problematic, the difference between being with the content and being with the emotion, and why going on “autopilot” makes pain seem easier to manage.</li> <li>How to know whether sitting with our emotions is creating more suffering or is a path to freedom.</li> <li>How slowing down and grounding creates spaciousness when we feel resistance.</li> <li>Why, for all our inner work and processing, behavior is the last thing to change.</li> <li>The difference between anger that is violent and anger that is productive, and teaching our children not to fear anger.</li> </ul> You can find Laura Carr online at <a href="https://cfmrsandiego.com/laura-carr/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">cfmrsandiego.com</a> Referenced in this Episode: <a href="http://cherihuber.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Cheri Huber</a>, Laura’s Zen teacher and author <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> John Bradshaw</a>’s work on shame <a href="http://www.terryreal.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Terry Real</a>’s work on grandiosity and guilt Viktor Frankl’s <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Man’s Search for Meaning</a> <a href="http://harvilleandhelen.com/about/index.php" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Harville Hendrix</a> and IMAGO Relationship Theory &amp; Therapy Plus, get a copy of <a href="https://connectfulness.simplero.com/page/83783" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rebecca’s handout</a> she mentions in the show here. Have feedback to share?  We love hearing what our listeners think about the conversations we’re having here on the #POBScast.  <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/contact-us/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Send us your feedback and suggestions here</a>.

Laura Carr: Compassionate Conscious Relationships

Laura Long

When we first start out in private practice, when we launch that new offering--anytime we do something new--uncertainty always plays a role.  We prepare and plan as much as we can, of course, but the real clarity comes from doing.  Still, that doesn’t stop the fears, the risk of failure, the shame feelings from presenting themselves, does it?     Laura Long, LMFT wants us all to undo all of those fears by unleashing our inner badass.  Today she chats with me about how her coaching business, Your Badass Therapy Practice, came to be.  She talks about the power in making your own rules, how she strikes a balance with her home and work life, and the unanticipated gifts she’s found in doing brave things.   In this episode, we talk about:    Fraud feelings, grandiosity, and the one thing that neutralizes them both. How Laura’s inner “Bitchy Brenda” protects and inhibits her, and how she puts her in her place when it’s time to move forward. Using evidence and logic to undo fear and reframe failure. Why therapists are drawn to other therapists in friendships and community. Failure and balance in motherhood. Compartmentalizing time and attention as working mothers and the idea of “wearing many hats” as moms. Why therapist moms might have it the roughest when it comes to attention and self shaming. What happened when Laura’s blog post about about therapist moms went viral and why she felt compelled to write the piece in the first place. The unexpected relational magic that comes from doing, from planning and creating your next offering and putting it out into the world.   Referenced in this Episode: Laura’s  viral blog post about therapists and motherhood.   You can learn more about Laura Long and the work she does at YourBadassTherapyPractice.com, where you can sign up for her free 5-day Psychology Today profile course, get on the waitlist for her 60 Days to Your Badass Therapy Practice course, and catch up on all her blogs.  Connect with Laura on Facebook at www.facebook.com/yourbadasstherapypractice.  Looking for more evolution in your life and therapy practice, in both planned and unpredictable ways?  Doors for the  Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program are open, and you can still get in on the early bird pricing. Spots are limited, so don’t wait.  Learn more here.

When we first start out in private practice, when we launch that new offering--anytime we do something new--uncertainty always plays a role.  We prepare and plan as much as we can, of course, but the real clarity comes from doing.  Still, that doesn’t stop the fears, the risk of failure, the shame feelings from presenting themselves, does it?   Laura Long, LMFT wants us all to undo all of those fears by unleashing our inner badass.  Today she chats with me about how her coaching business, Your Badass Therapy Practice, came to be.  She talks about the power in making your own rules, how she strikes a balance with her home and work life, and the unanticipated gifts she’s found in doing brave things. In this episode, we talk about: <ul> <li>Fraud feelings, grandiosity, and the one thing that neutralizes them both.</li> <li>How Laura’s inner “Bitchy Brenda” protects and inhibits her, and how she puts her in her place when it’s time to move forward.</li> <li>Using evidence and logic to undo fear and reframe failure.</li> <li>Why therapists are drawn to other therapists in friendships and community.</li> <li>Failure and balance in motherhood.</li> <li>Compartmentalizing time and attention as working mothers and the idea of “wearing many hats” as moms.</li> <li>Why therapist moms might have it the roughest when it comes to attention and self shaming.</li> <li>What happened when Laura’s blog post about about therapist moms went viral and why she felt compelled to write the piece in the first place.</li> <li>The unexpected relational magic that comes from doing, from planning and creating your next offering and putting it out into the world.</li> </ul> Referenced in this Episode: Laura’s <a href="http://www.yourbadasstherapypractice.com/to-the-overwhelmed-overworked-exhausted-mom-in-private-practice/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> viral blog post</a> about therapists and motherhood. You can learn more about Laura Long and the work she does at <a href="http://www.yourbadasstherapypractice.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">YourBadassTherapyPractice.com</a>, where you can sign up for her free 5-day Psychology Today profile course, get on the waitlist for her 60 Days to Your Badass Therapy Practice course, and catch up on all her blogs.  Connect with Laura on Facebook at <a href="http://www.facebook.com/yourbadasstherapypractice" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.facebook.com/yourbadasstherapypractice</a>. Looking for more evolution in your life and therapy practice, in both planned and unpredictable ways?  Doors for the <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/mentorship-program" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program</a> are open, and you can still get in on the early bird pricing. Spots are limited, so don’t wait.  <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/mentorship-program" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learn more here</a>.

Laura Long: Releasing Your Inner Badass

We all love a good superhero movie. It’s hard not to leave the theater feeling inspired, empowered, and ready to change the world. Therapists are already changing the world, but for many trying to grow a private practice, it can seem difficult to push through the hard parts of growth. It’s easy to lose yourself in your practice, and you might start to feel the kryptonite of discouragement before long. Faster than a speeding bullet, Dr. Annie Schuessler is here to show you just where your inner power lies. She realized that Therapists really are just like superheroes, complete with their own superpowers! Through coaching, writing, and her podcast, Annie is on a mission to change the way you think about yourself. So what are these superpowers, and how can they help you grow your practice? How can understanding your true power really impact your practice? Check out the whole conversation, to find out how!   Episode Highlights:     Where did the Therapist Superpowers come from?  Ways to help you access your superpowers.  Embrace and learn to use your superpower.  Annie shares her own inner power, and how she started coaching.  Superpowers within your identity. How struggles produce strength. Annie embraces her “label” as a queer woman and shows us how labels can help us craft our identity.  It’s hard to grow, but it is also beautiful!  Tips and tricks towards building confidence with the work you are doing.  Using a journal to track your growth and string together some threads.  Understanding how an entrepreneurial spirit can influence your practice.     Links: Annie’s Website Listen to Annie’s Podcast: Therapist Clubhouse   Do you have a theory, a venture, an offering, that the world doesn’t know about yet? It’s time to tune in and create the space that will enable your project and your passion to come to life. We invite you to take a closer look at (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future | a Practice Of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers being held at the @menlamountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains this August 13th-16th. This is A CHANCE TO PAUSE, root into nature, and look within. When you see yourself clearly, you’re able to bring your vision into focus and you’re able to manifest the next big project or next big growth phase for your practice. (Re)Vision is an investment both in your business and also in yourself. It is a chance to deepen your practice, learn new skills, root into nature and spirit, and make time for some radical self-care. Your investment includes tuition, accommodations, three meals a day, a one-year membership in the POBS Membership Community for Therapists, pre-retreat consults, a free 60-minute spa treatment at Menla's Great Bliss Spa, and a full swag bag of nuturingness! And #BIGNEWS: We've managed to reduce the price! Get all the deets and the new pricing here:  practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat

We all love a good superhero movie. It’s hard not to leave the theater feeling inspired, empowered, and ready to change the world. Therapists are already changing the world, but for many trying to grow a private practice, it can seem difficult to push through the hard parts of growth. It’s easy to lose yourself in your practice, and you might start to feel the kryptonite of discouragement before long. Faster than a speeding bullet, Dr. Annie Schuessler is here to show you just where your inner power lies. She realized that Therapists really are just like superheroes, complete with their own superpowers! Through coaching, writing, and her podcast, Annie is on a mission to change the way you think about yourself. So what are these superpowers, and how can they help you grow your practice? How can understanding your true power really impact your practice? Check out the whole conversation, to find out how! Episode Highlights:  <ul> <li>Where did the Therapist Superpowers come from? </li> <li>Ways to help you access your superpowers. </li> <li>Embrace and learn to use your superpower. </li> <li>Annie shares her own inner power, and how she started coaching. </li> <li>Superpowers within your identity. How struggles produce strength.</li> <li>Annie embraces her “label” as a queer woman and shows us how labels can help us craft our identity. </li> <li>It’s hard to grow, but it is also beautiful! </li> <li>Tips and tricks towards building confidence with the work you are doing. </li> <li>Using a journal to track your growth and string together some threads. </li> <li>Understanding how an entrepreneurial spirit can influence your practice. </li> </ul> Links: <a href="http://coachingwithannie.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Annie’s Website</a> Listen to Annie’s Podcast: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/therapist-clubhouse-podcast-for-private-practice-entrepreneurs/id1229921995?mt=2&amp;at=1000laDx" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Therapist Clubhouse</a> Do you have a theory, a venture, an offering, that the world doesn’t know about yet? It’s time to tune in and create the space that will enable your project and your passion to come to life. We invite you to take a closer look at (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future | a Practice Of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers being held at the @menlamountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains this August 13th-16th. This is A CHANCE TO PAUSE, root into nature, and look within. When you see yourself clearly, you’re able to bring your vision into focus and you’re able to manifest the next big project or next big growth phase for your practice. (Re)Vision is an investment both in your business and also in yourself. It is a chance to deepen your practice, learn new skills, root into nature and spirit, and make time for some radical self-care. Your investment includes tuition, accommodations, three meals a day, a one-year membership in the POBS Membership Community for Therapists, pre-retreat consults, a free 60-minute spa treatment at Menla's Great Bliss Spa, and a full swag bag of nuturingness! And #BIGNEWS: We've managed to reduce the price! Get all the deets and the new pricing here: <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank"> practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat</a>

Annie Schuessler: Discover Your Therapist-Entrepreneur Superpowers

Carla Naumburg

Parents, caregivers, and guardians: Have you taken a moment to be present with your kids today? Do you find yourself worn out, or feeling raw and strung out? Truth is that we are all muddling through his messy soup of life together, and as parents ourselves, we wanted to bring to you a guest who can speak kindness and healing to your energy struggles.   This week, we sit down with Carla Naumburg, author, social worker, and mother, who has a practice of mindfulness that transformed her parenting. Carla describes her own triumphs and pitfalls as she muddles through motherhood. Her pursuit to live a present and mindful life for her daughters is truly inspiring.   Carla teaches us that you have no need to feel guilt over past mistakes, or fear for the ones you will make in the future. Here is a space to explore your needs as well as the needs of your kids, and heal together as a supportive community. For mindfulness tips, and more, you’ll want to listen to this week’s Practice of Being Seen Podcast.    Carla is a social worker, practitioner of mindfulness, and a supporter of parents. A move to mindfulness inspired on her parenting struggles. How to set our children up to learn about themselves from our responses. Learn the things that make “your button” less sensitive. Teaching roles within a family unit. Parenting habits set the stage for relationships in the future. How to get un-stuck from the cycles and patterns through curiosity. Tips and tools for better sleep. Carla’s lessons learned in her mindfulness journey.    Be sure to check out Carla’s books: Ready, Set, Breathe Parenting in the Present Moment Carla's Website   We also invite you to join Rebecca’s #MessyParentingCommunity as well as our new #POBScast Community

Parents, caregivers, and guardians: Have you taken a moment to be present with your kids today? Do you find yourself worn out, or feeling raw and strung out? Truth is that we are all muddling through his messy soup of life together, and as parents ourselves, we wanted to bring to you a guest who can speak kindness and healing to your energy struggles. This week, we sit down with Carla Naumburg, author, social worker, and mother, who has a practice of mindfulness that transformed her parenting. Carla describes her own triumphs and pitfalls as she muddles through motherhood. Her pursuit to live a present and mindful life for her daughters is truly inspiring. Carla teaches us that you have no need to feel guilt over past mistakes, or fear for the ones you will make in the future. Here is a space to explore your needs as well as the needs of your kids, and heal together as a supportive community. For mindfulness tips, and more, you’ll want to listen to this week’s Practice of Being Seen Podcast. <ul> <li>Carla is a social worker, practitioner of mindfulness, and a supporter of parents.</li> <li>A move to mindfulness inspired on her parenting struggles.</li> <li>How to set our children up to learn about themselves from our responses.</li> <li>Learn the things that make “your button” less sensitive.</li> <li>Teaching roles within a family unit.</li> <li>Parenting habits set the stage for relationships in the future.</li> <li>How to get un-stuck from the cycles and patterns through curiosity.</li> <li>Tips and tools for better sleep.</li> <li>Carla’s lessons learned in her mindfulness journey.</li> </ul> Be sure to check out Carla’s books: <a href="http://amzn.to/2vj3ao0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ready, Set, Breathe</a> <a href="http://amzn.to/2vjs6LR" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Parenting in the Present Moment</a> <a href="http://carlanaumburg.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Carla's Website</a> We also invite you to join Rebecca’s <a href="http://connectfulness.com/messyparenthood" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#MessyParentingCommunity</a> as well as our new <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/pobscast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#POBScast Community</a>

Carla Naumburg: Messy, Mindful & Present Parenting

John Harrison

In a field where, more often than not, women tend to be the ones more often drawn to our therapy practices, working with male clients in a therapy practice can pose unique challenges.  Men generally aren’t equipped to talk about their feelings in the same ways that women are and they can often feel like their sense of self is under attack while under the clinical microscope. Today’s guest, John Harrison, knows quite a bit about this as a certified Relational Life Therapist, a facilitator for men’s therapy groups, an Army veteran, husband and father.  And, he has found interesting ways to break down those barriers with men in his practice by inviting his own personal experiences into the room with his clients.   John says that “we can’t teach couples to be appropriately relational if we don’t relate appropriately with them.”  This, and more wisdom in Episode 43 of the #POBScast.   In this episode, John and I discuss:    Why men feel threatened by the pressure of transformation in therapy. The differences in the ways men and women are acculturated and the ways that affects how therapists need to relate to them in the clinical space. The impossible standard that modern marriage presents us with and the risk of relationship burnout. John’s “Water on the Sink” story, how it changed his marriage, and how he uses this personal story as a relational anecdote for his male clients for his clients to make changes. Using relational work versus evidence-based work, and striking a balance between using academic principles and speaking our truth as humans with our clients. Sitting with our feelings when our clients trigger us and how we can use these moments to better understand what our clients are going through. Moving past client distrust and displays of power in the clinical space. Male experiences of their own feminine energy, feminine energy as the oil that runs therapy, and how John fosters the feminine energy in men. What John has learned by running men’s therapy groups. John’s desire to simultaneously ramp up and scale down in his business and what that looks like for him. The draw of “abundance” over doing all the things and trusting the process to avoid burnout in striving toward your business goals. The importance of creating space for systems and processes that work for you.    Referenced in the episode: Esther Perel’s work on relationships, sexuality and desire. Terry Real’s book,  I Don’t Want to Talk About It and his RLT Trainings for therapists. Connect with John Harrison at LifeMadeConscious.com, where you’ll also find links to his podcast,  True Calling Project. Are you being called toward abundance in your work and your life?  The Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program is designed to make space for abundance through sustainability, integration, sitting with fears and building community.  Doors are open for a few more days before we embark on this journey on 11/27, so if you’re curious to learn more,  let’s book a chat together.

In a field where, more often than not, women tend to be the ones more often drawn to our therapy practices, working with male clients in a therapy practice can pose unique challenges.  Men generally aren’t equipped to talk about their feelings in the same ways that women are and they can often feel like their sense of self is under attack while under the clinical microscope. Today’s guest, John Harrison, knows quite a bit about this as a certified Relational Life Therapist, a facilitator for men’s therapy groups, an Army veteran, husband and father.  And, he has found interesting ways to break down those barriers with men in his practice by inviting his own personal experiences into the room with his clients.   John says that “we can’t teach couples to be appropriately relational if we don’t relate appropriately with them.”  This, and more wisdom in Episode 43 of the #POBScast. In this episode, John and I discuss: <ul> <li>Why men feel threatened by the pressure of transformation in therapy.</li> <li>The differences in the ways men and women are acculturated and the ways that affects how therapists need to relate to them in the clinical space.</li> <li>The impossible standard that modern marriage presents us with and the risk of relationship burnout.</li> <li>John’s “Water on the Sink” story, how it changed his marriage, and how he uses this personal story as a relational anecdote for his male clients for his clients to make changes.</li> <li>Using relational work versus evidence-based work, and striking a balance between using academic principles and speaking our truth as humans with our clients.</li> <li>Sitting with our feelings when our clients trigger us and how we can use these moments to better understand what our clients are going through.</li> <li>Moving past client distrust and displays of power in the clinical space.</li> <li>Male experiences of their own feminine energy, feminine energy as the oil that runs therapy, and how John fosters the feminine energy in men.</li> <li>What John has learned by running men’s therapy groups.</li> <li>John’s desire to simultaneously ramp up and scale down in his business and what that looks like for him.</li> <li>The draw of “abundance” over doing all the things and trusting the process to avoid burnout in striving toward your business goals.</li> <li>The importance of creating space for systems and processes that work for you.</li> </ul> Referenced in the episode: <a href="https://www.estherperel.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Esther Perel’s work</a> on relationships, sexuality and desire. Terry Real’s book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/0684835398" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> I Don’t Want to Talk About It</a> and <a href="http://www.terryreal.com/training/training-rlt/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">his RLT Trainings</a> for therapists. Connect with John Harrison at <a href="https://www.lifemadeconscious.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">LifeMadeConscious.com</a>, where you’ll also find links to his podcast, <a href="https://www.lifemadeconscious.com/category/truecallingproject/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> True Calling Project</a>. Are you being called toward abundance in your work and your life?  The <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/mentorship-program" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program</a> is designed to make space for abundance through sustainability, integration, sitting with fears and building community.  Doors are open for a few more days before we embark on this journey on 11/27, so if you’re curious to learn more, <a href="https://connectfulness.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?appointmentType=4553007&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=393025-when-imposter-syndrome-arrives-do-you&amp;utm_source=lists%252F44028-POBS-for-Therapists&amp;simplero_object_id=su_xuRY73KiaBUA5joYFwsWajvF" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> let’s book a chat together</a>.

John Harrison: What Men Need in Therapy

Marsha Shandur

What are the biggest mistakes people make when they tell a story? It’s not “too much detail.” Storytelling Coach Marsha Shandur gives advice about how to be a powerful storyteller - even if you’re a private person or a therapist concerned about disclosing too much.   When you meet Marsha in real life, she makes an impression. You always remember what you feel around her (it’s all about grinning and being fabulously real, we find). That phenomenon totally carries over into the POBScast experience.   There’s a truth that so many coaches share: When you get very clear on why you are doing what you are doing, everything changes. When you’re in alignment, the universe starts throwing what you need in your path. Marsha tells us about her light bulb moment…   For years she thought she was supposed to be using her storytelling coaching skills in order to help nonprofits and other change the world ideas, but then she realized her real mission: she’s going to help us all understand that no one has their SH** together. She lives her message across her online platforms, but particularly in her weekly Facebook thread: “I don’t have it all together Tuesday.” (Follow her personal FB profile to participate - it’s the best!)   The experience of selling your personal brand, especially as a coach, means that you need to put out the best version of yourself. It’s necessary to look like we’re successful because we want people to hire us, but... Marsha calls on Brene Brown’s wisdom: when you meet someone, vulnerability is the first thing you look for in them and the last thing you want to show.   Storytelling is a brilliant, low-stakes way to be vulnerable. You need distance to tell the story well. The magic of time and distance makes it ok to share difficult parts of yourself and talk about your feelings.   Successful storytellers don’t rely on facts and opinions but on feelings. What does it take to feel your feelings? Marsha walks us through an exercise that helps you connect to the sensations in the moment and describe them. We touch on the neuroscience of story and how to create the “Freaky Friday Body Swap” phenomenon.   Want more of Marsha? Say “yes, yes” and visit the super special secret page she created just for the POBScast community: http://www.yesyesmarsha.com/pobs/   OUR SPONSOR   We’re so excited to welcome the latest sponsor to the POBScast family:  MetaFi is a self-awareness app created by therapists that is available FREE on Android and iOS. It is designed to support mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and body awareness. When you tune in and use MetaFi as tool, you can re-establish and strengthen the emotional connection between your mind and body. MetaFi helps you increase awareness of how you show up from moment to moment so you can improve your relationships, productivity, creativity, emotional intelligence, and thinking.   Get started today with your free download: https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi   And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers. Coming up August 13 - 16, 2017:  (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future at the Menla Mountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains.

What are the biggest mistakes people make when they tell a story? It’s not “too much detail.” Storytelling Coach Marsha Shandur gives advice about how to be a powerful storyteller - even if you’re a private person or a therapist concerned about disclosing too much. When you meet Marsha in real life, she makes an impression. You always remember what you feel around her (it’s all about grinning and being fabulously real, we find). That phenomenon totally carries over into the POBScast experience. There’s a truth that so many coaches share: When you get very clear on why you are doing what you are doing, everything changes. When you’re in alignment, the universe starts throwing what you need in your path. Marsha tells us about her light bulb moment… For years she thought she was supposed to be using her storytelling coaching skills in order to help nonprofits and other change the world ideas, but then she realized her real mission: she’s going to help us all understand that no one has their SH** together. She lives her message across her online platforms, but particularly in her weekly Facebook thread: “I don’t have it all together Tuesday.” (Follow <a href="https://www.facebook.com/yesyesm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">her personal FB profile</a> to participate - it’s the best!) The experience of selling your personal brand, especially as a coach, means that you need to put out the best version of yourself. It’s necessary to look like we’re successful because we want people to hire us, but... Marsha calls on Brene Brown’s wisdom: when you meet someone, vulnerability is the first thing you look for in them and the last thing you want to show. Storytelling is a brilliant, low-stakes way to be vulnerable. You need distance to tell the story well. The magic of time and distance makes it ok to share difficult parts of yourself and talk about your feelings. Successful storytellers don’t rely on facts and opinions but on feelings. What does it take to feel your feelings? Marsha walks us through an exercise that helps you connect to the sensations in the moment and describe them. We touch on the neuroscience of story and how to create the “Freaky Friday Body Swap” phenomenon. Want more of Marsha? Say “yes, yes” and visit the super special secret page she created just for the POBScast community: <a href="http://www.yesyesmarsha.com/pobs/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.yesyesmarsha.com/pobs/</a> OUR SPONSOR We’re so excited to welcome the latest sponsor to the POBScast family:  MetaFi is a self-awareness app created by therapists that is available FREE on Android and iOS. It is designed to support mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and body awareness. When you tune in and use MetaFi as tool, you can re-establish and strengthen the emotional connection between your mind and body. MetaFi helps you increase awareness of how you show up from moment to moment so you can improve your relationships, productivity, creativity, emotional intelligence, and thinking. Get started today with your free download: <a href="https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.metafi.me/#meet-metafi</a> <h3>And please note that registration is open for the Practice of Being Seen Retreat for Therapist-Healers. Coming up August 13 - 16, 2017: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/revision-2017-retreat" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> (Re)Vision: Explore Your Stories, Shape Your Future</a> at the Menla Mountain Retreat in New York’s gorgeous Catskill Mountains.</h3>

Marsha Shandur: Unforgettable Storytelling

  In this conversation, relationship therapist Rebecca Wong guides us through an essential truth about relationships: Happy couples fight.     Fighting actually enables people to show one another that they matter. You can learn how to fight well and how to create a container of belonging in your partnership. In the face of disagreements, you can create a practice of commitment that enables you to tolerate occasional divisions.     Much of this conversation is about marriage and romantic relationships, but it will shed some light on all of your relationships as we discuss mirror neurons, the power of eye contact, and reading nonverbal cues. And, you’ll learn why it’s great news that 69% of the conflicts in your relationship are unresolvable.    Get Rebecca’s 5 Simply Magical Relationships Tips: https://connectfulness.com/happycouplesfight

In this conversation, relationship therapist Rebecca Wong guides us through an essential truth about relationships: Happy couples fight. Fighting actually enables people to show one another that they matter. You can learn how to fight well and how to create a container of belonging in your partnership. In the face of disagreements, you can create a practice of commitment that enables you to tolerate occasional divisions. Much of this conversation is about marriage and romantic relationships, but it will shed some light on all of your relationships as we discuss mirror neurons, the power of eye contact, and reading nonverbal cues. And, you’ll learn why it’s great news that 69% of the conflicts in your relationship are unresolvable. Get Rebecca’s 5 Simply Magical Relationships Tips: <a href="https://connectfulness.com/happycouplesfight" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/happycouplesfight</a>

Happy Couples Fight

Shane Birkel

Couples come to therapy for a myriad of reasons. But often, the real reason why they’re showing up is the thing hidden underneath their reasons.  The solution is nearly always found in holding a magnifying lens up in those moments of conflict and, as this week’s guest Shake Birkel says, “owning our shit”. Suddenly, “Why is he/she doing this to me?” shifts into an opportunity to sit with our emotions and recalibrate our connections. Shane Birkel, a therapist and fellow podcaster, is no stranger to these magnifying glass moments.  Together, we discuss the ways raising kids can shift a relationship in positive ways, the lessons we get from failure, the differences in what men want in a relationship and what women want from the same, and the palpable ripple effects of the #metoo movement in our work with couples and intimacy. Quoted in the Episode: “We don’t have the conversations that come up in couples therapy in our day-to-day lives.  We have to be very intentional about setting up space for that.”  - Shane Birkel   “Couples put so much pressure on perfection and on not trying hard enough.  And such an important part of the work of owning your own stuff is also building a healthy self-esteem that comes from within you.  That I feel confident in myself as a human being, that my partner can act like a jerk and I know that it doesn’t have to do with me. They still love and care about me and we don’t have to do this perfectly every single time.” - Shane Birkel   “Vulnerability has such different meanings for men and women.  For women, it’s a connection point.  For men, it’s often veiled in fear and the possibility of rejection. And I think as we’re opening up these conversations and saying to couples, ‘The antidote here is to become more vulnerable’, we have to understand that the very prescription has different meanings for people who are enculturated in different ways.”  - Rebecca Wong     Resources Referenced in this Episode: Terry Real’s RLT Training   Where to find Shane: ShaneBirkel.com CouplesTherapistCouch.com Facebook Page Facebook Group     If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can find out more about her services here: 1. If you're in New York and would like to schedule a relationship therapy session start here: https://connectfulness.com/therapy/ 2. If you're a therapist and are interested in mentorship with Rebecca, find out more about services offered here: https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/ 3. To learn more about Rebecca’s Private Couples Intensive Retreats, start here: https://connectfulness.com/intensive-private-retreat/   To join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Couples come to therapy for a myriad of reasons. But often, the real reason why they’re showing up is the thing hidden underneath their reasons.  The solution is nearly always found in holding a magnifying lens up in those moments of conflict and, as this week’s guest Shake Birkel says, “owning our shit”. Suddenly, “Why is he/she doing this to me?” shifts into an opportunity to sit with our emotions and recalibrate our connections. Shane Birkel, a therapist and fellow podcaster, is no stranger to these magnifying glass moments.  Together, we discuss the ways raising kids can shift a relationship in positive ways, the lessons we get from failure, the differences in what men want in a relationship and what women want from the same, and the palpable ripple effects of the #metoo movement in our work with couples and intimacy. Quoted in the Episode: “We don’t have the conversations that come up in couples therapy in our day-to-day lives.  We have to be very intentional about setting up space for that.”  - Shane Birkel “Couples put so much pressure on perfection and on not trying hard enough.  And such an important part of the work of owning your own stuff is also building a healthy self-esteem that comes from within you.  That I feel confident in myself as a human being, that my partner can act like a jerk and I know that it doesn’t have to do with me. They still love and care about me and we don’t have to do this perfectly every single time.” - Shane Birkel “Vulnerability has such different meanings for men and women.  For women, it’s a connection point.  For men, it’s often veiled in fear and the possibility of rejection. And I think as we’re opening up these conversations and saying to couples, ‘The antidote here is to become more vulnerable’, we have to understand that the very prescription has different meanings for people who are enculturated in different ways.”  - Rebecca Wong Resources Referenced in this Episode: <a href="http://www.terryreal.com/training/training-rlt/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Terry Real’s RLT Training</a> Where to find Shane: <a href="https://shanebirkel.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ShaneBirkel.com</a> <a href="https://couplestherapistcouch.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CouplesTherapistCouch.com</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/seacoastspark/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/?ref=br_rs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Group</a> If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can find out more about her services here: 1. If you're in New York and would like to schedule a relationship therapy session start here: <a href="https://connectfulness.com/therapy/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/therapy/</a> 2. If you're a therapist and are interested in mentorship with Rebecca, find out more about services offered here: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/</a> 3. To learn more about Rebecca’s Private Couples Intensive Retreats, start here: <a href="https://connectfulness.com/intensive-private-retreat/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://connectfulness.com/intensive-private-retreat/</a> To join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> For more information and resources, visit the website at <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on <a href="https://twitter.com/pobscast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/practiceofbeingseen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PracticeBeingSeen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at <a href="mailto:practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com">practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com</a>

Owning your Shit in Love: A conversation with Shane Birkel

Joanne Leffeld

How do you feel about money? Is it a subject you’re comfortable talking about? Most of us know money is necessary in today’s world, but we may not realize the sensitivity we carry around talking about this topic. And how many relationship issues are related to our views of money. Today’s show explores the psychology of our relationship with money. My guest Joanne Leffeld began her career as a Certified Financial Planner in the NY metropolitan area. Now in the Hudson Valley she’s created a unique business working with clients one-on-one and with couples. She offers a holistic approach referring to herself as a “Moolah Doula,” helping people give birth to a healthier relationship with money. Joanne talks about how we deal with feelings of unworthiness and “not enough-ness.” She offers a unique view on the “enough vs. abundance” perspective. And shows how we can change our mindset to fight against self-limiting beliefs. We have to expand our beliefs in what we can accomplish in order to change the flow of energy and put a positive spin on day-to-day lives.  We also talk about a topic that’s really close to my heart as a relationship therapist: how money (and other difficult conversations) can interrupt the flow in relationships. When there is discomfort in the partner relationship, in the couple, we are often showing up as adaptive children who have learned behaviors, because we all carry baggage from our childhood experiences.  Resources: www.joanneleffeld.com Find Joanne on Instagram: Joanne-Leffeld   Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our Wild Woman Discussion Groups. We meet online the last Thursday of the month through September 2018.  Learn more about working with Rebecca's 1-on-1 integration coaching at: practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to connectfulness.com   Join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community   For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com.   To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.   If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

How do you feel about money? Is it a subject you’re comfortable talking about? Most of us know money is necessary in today’s world, but we may not realize the sensitivity we carry around talking about this topic. And how many relationship issues are related to our views of money. Today’s show explores the psychology of our relationship with money. My guest Joanne Leffeld began her career as a Certified Financial Planner in the NY metropolitan area. Now in the Hudson Valley she’s created a unique business working with clients one-on-one and with couples. She offers a holistic approach referring to herself as a “Moolah Doula,” helping people give birth to a healthier relationship with money. Joanne talks about how we deal with feelings of unworthiness and “not enough-ness.” She offers a unique view on the “enough vs. abundance” perspective. And shows how we can change our mindset to fight against self-limiting beliefs. We have to expand our beliefs in what we can accomplish in order to change the flow of energy and put a positive spin on day-to-day lives.  We also talk about a topic that’s really close to my heart as a relationship therapist: how money (and other difficult conversations) can interrupt the flow in relationships. When there is discomfort in the partner relationship, in the couple, we are often showing up as adaptive children who have learned behaviors, because we all carry baggage from our childhood experiences.  Resources: <a href="http://www.joanneleffeld.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.joanneleffeld.com</a> Find Joanne on Instagram: Joanne-Leffeld Working With Rebecca: Dive deeper with Rebecca while helping to support production of the #POBScast when you join our <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/wildwoman" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Wild Woman Discussion Groups</a>. We meet online the last Thursday of the month through September 2018.  Learn more about working with Rebecca's 1-on-1 integration coaching at: <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/integration-coaching</a> Learn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat in NY go to <a href="http://connectfulness.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">connectfulness.com</a> Join the #POBScast Community <a href="http://practiceofbeingseen.com/community" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com/community</a> For more information and resources, visit the website at <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">practiceofbeingseen.com</a>. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on <a href="https://twitter.com/pobscast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/practiceofbeingseen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PracticeBeingSeen/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com

Your Relationship with Money with Joanne Leffeld

Julie Bjelland

20% of the world’s population is made up of people who carry a character trait called high sensitivity. That amounts to 1 in 5 people so the chances are high that either you or someone you love is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). HSP’s are often overloaded with the chaos of the world and more keenly impacted by both positive and negative experiences. Today’s show dives deep into the HSP trait and coping skills needed for HSP’s to thrive.   My guest Julie Bjelland, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in California. Julie teaches innovative online brain-training courses and has written several books, including Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person. She’s a highly sensitive person and is the mother of two HSP children. Julie’s mission is to help HSP’s suffer less and access their gifts more.    We discuss character traits that are common among HSPs, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, negative self-beliefs, and a sense of obligation to take care of others’ needs over their own. And we also explore the research which shows specific differences in the HSP’s brain, most notably increased activation of the amygdala, which controls the “fight, flight, or freeze” response to stimuli. Julie shares why she feels sensitive people have always been needed among the human species for survival, evolutionarily speaking. And I inquire about a possible connection to epigenetics and we muse about how transgenerational transmission of trauma might relate to sensitivity.    What we know for sure is that our world needs sensitive people and in order for sensitive people to thrive they need to focus on balance in life and to recognize their own gifts of intuition and compassion. Julie shares specific examples of the brain training that can help HSP’s shift their lifestyle so it supports them. Check out Julie’s website for great resources that can help.     Resources:   www.juliebjelland.com   Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person by Julie Bjelland

20% of the world’s population is made up of people who carry a character trait called high sensitivity. That amounts to 1 in 5 people so the chances are high that either you or someone you love is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). HSP’s are often overloaded with the chaos of the world and more keenly impacted by both positive and negative experiences. Today’s show dives deep into the HSP trait and coping skills needed for HSP’s to thrive. My guest Julie Bjelland, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in California. Julie teaches innovative online brain-training courses and has written several books, including Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person. She’s a highly sensitive person and is the mother of two HSP children. Julie’s mission is to help HSP’s suffer less and access their gifts more.  We discuss character traits that are common among HSPs, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, negative self-beliefs, and a sense of obligation to take care of others’ needs over their own. And we also explore the research which shows specific differences in the HSP’s brain, most notably increased activation of the amygdala, which controls the “fight, flight, or freeze” response to stimuli. Julie shares why she feels sensitive people have always been needed among the human species for survival, evolutionarily speaking. And I inquire about a possible connection to epigenetics and we muse about how transgenerational transmission of trauma might relate to sensitivity.  What we know for sure is that our world needs sensitive people and in order for sensitive people to thrive they need to focus on balance in life and to recognize their own gifts of intuition and compassion. Julie shares specific examples of the brain training that can help HSP’s shift their lifestyle so it supports them. Check out Julie’s website for great resources that can help. Resources: <a href="http://www.juliebjelland.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.juliebjelland.com</a> Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person by Julie Bjelland

The Evolution of Sensitivity with Julie Bjelland

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