When someone pulls away, it can be difficult to navigate. Often times we feel like we did something wrong to mess the relationship up. It can cause a lot of anxiety if we're not sure where the other person stands or why they're distancing themselves...when everything seemed to be going well. In this episode, I talk about what to do when they pull away from you - and how to handle it like a pro. You'll feel better in no time baby. 

When someone pulls away, it can be difficult to navigate. Often times we feel like we did something wrong to mess the relationship up. It can cause a lot of anxiety if we're not sure where the other person stands or why they're distancing themselves...when everything seemed to be going well. In this episode, I talk about what to do when they pull away from you - and how to handle it like a pro. You'll feel better in no time baby.

Here's what to do when they pull away

Why my ex and I broke up - the full detailed story. I wasn't sure if I would ever speak on this relationship and the breakup that changed me forever. In this episode, I am finally sharing my experience and more details about the breakup that inspired the Date Yourself Instead podcast. If this resonated with you in any way, I would love to hear your story as well. Always feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss.

Why my ex and I broke up - the full detailed story. I wasn't sure if I would ever speak on this relationship and the breakup that changed me forever. In this episode, I am finally sharing my experience and more details about the breakup that inspired the Date Yourself Instead podcast. If this resonated with you in any way, I would love to hear your story as well. Always feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss.

Why we broke up - the breakup that changed me forever

Cause you deserve the best :-) I love you.

Cause you deserve the best :-) I love you.

How to raise your standards HIGH AF

Ahhhh. SOLO TRAVEL. One of the most highly requested topics I get asked to cover is my experience doing shit alone. And yeah, it can be intimidating, scary and crazy to go off on adventures completely solo. In this episode, I talk about a few experiences I've had solo traveling, the lessons I've learned, my honest thoughts on it, and a wild story time about my study abroad journey in Australia. I'll definitely be recording a part two. Xoxo.

The POWER of solo traveling 

It's a detached girl summer.  Psssst if you loved this episode, DM me on instagram @lyss and stay updated by following the podcast on Spotify.

It's a detached girl summer. Psssst if you loved this episode, DM me on instagram @lyss and stay updated by following the podcast on Spotify.

How to master detachment

It's official - I am HERE to answer all of your questions on this very juicy episode of Date Yourself Instead. In this episode, I discuss the art of being unbothered and how to live your truth, how to go no contact and my thoughts on blocking someone if you're broken up, my honest thoughts on cheating, and more.

How to be unbothered, go no contact, deal with cheating, & more

Self explanatory. If you see some major issues early on, my best advice is to get out while you still can. The red flags you see in the beginning are the reasons you'll most likely leave the relationship later - or they'll be the reason you're unhappy in a relationship. Yes, people can grow and change, however, I've noticed that my gut was always telling me to run prior to diving deeper into a situation with someone...yet I just ignored it. Let's talk about it. 

Self explanatory. If you see some major issues early on, my best advice is to get out while you still can. The red flags you see in the beginning are the reasons you'll most likely leave the relationship later - or they'll be the reason you're unhappy in a relationship. Yes, people can grow and change, however, I've noticed that my gut was always telling me to run prior to diving deeper into a situation with someone...yet I just ignored it. Let's talk about it.

The red flags you see now are the reasons you'll leave later

Dating yourself instead. What does dating yourself really mean? I'm in London right now, and I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone. Here's a full breakdown of how I've recently started to date myself, take myself out and dive into a brand new timeline to change my life and open my heart up to the idea of meeting new people. When you go through a breakup, it can be difficult to put yourself out there and learn how to be alone, so this episode covers everything you need to know. 

Dating yourself instead. What does dating yourself really mean? I'm in London right now, and I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone. Here's a full breakdown of how I've recently started to date myself, take myself out and dive into a brand new timeline to change my life and open my heart up to the idea of meeting new people. When you go through a breakup, it can be difficult to put yourself out there and learn how to be alone, so this episode covers everything you need to know.

How to really DATE YOURSELF INSTEAD

Trusting the process of your life can be a scary thing to do when it feels like everything is falling apart. It's also harder when you're trying to manifest things and you just feel blocked, stagnant and not your best self. Here is my best advice when it comes to trusting your journey, and how to manifest and attract the best things into your life faster. If you loved this episode, would mean the world if you rated on Spotify and sent me a dm on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead. Love you. 

Trusting the process of your life can be a scary thing to do when it feels like everything is falling apart. It's also harder when you're trying to manifest things and you just feel blocked, stagnant and not your best self. Here is my best advice when it comes to trusting your journey, and how to manifest and attract the best things into your life faster. If you loved this episode, would mean the world if you rated on Spotify and sent me a dm on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.

How to trust the process of your life & manifest faster 

If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distraction away from who we are, our goals, and what truly makes us happy. This episode is really just a reminder to work on yourself and your goals, and find the passion that drives you, instead of focusing on someone that isn't showing up for you. Remember, if you loved this episode feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead, and be sure to rate it on Spotify.

If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distraction away from who we are, our goals, and what truly makes us happy. This episode is really just a reminder to work on yourself and your goals, and find the passion that drives you, instead of focusing on someone that isn't showing up for you. Remember, if you loved this episode feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead, and be sure to rate it on Spotify.

Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore 

You’ve made it to Date Yourself Instead, a podcast intended to inspire you to become the best version of yourself. In 2021, social media personality Lyss started a self-love series on TikTok which amassed over 100+ million views on her videos and counting. In this podcast, she gets candid about her relationship experiences, and touches on other topics including business, beauty, wellness, and so much more. Welcome to the #dateyourselfinstead movement. Episodes every Monday.

You asked for it, and here we are. The worst dates I've ever been on in New York City. Dating can be a whirlwind, and an absolute mess - especially with easy access to dating apps. In my late 20's, I would go on dates for fun that often were either really fun or a total disaster. In this episode, I talk about some of the worst experiences I've had. If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to follow and dm me @lyss and stay updated with more content on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.

The worst dates I’ve been on in New York City 

It's easy to get attached to someone we've just met...because they're nice. Because they're attractive and treat us right. But how soon is too soon to get attached? Often times I'd become so fixated on one person early on, only to realize it was all smoke and mirrors. This person was not at all who I thought they were. So here's an episode talking about that experience, and how to avoid getting attached too fast. If you loved this episode, dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead and share it with a friend. Xoxo.

How to avoid getting attached too quickly

The first half of this episode talks about self worth, valuing yourself and to avoid jumping into a new relationship before you've processed a breakup. The second half of this episode talks about love bombing and a story time of a guy I dated super briefly that was fucking obsessed with me for a hot minute and then put me in a really uncomfortable situation, and THEN vanished off the face of the earth. If you liked or could relate to this episode, follow me and dm me on instagram @lyss and stay updated on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Xoxo.

I was LOVE BOMBED - a dating story time

I definitely have had my moments in relationships where I felt like I smothered my partner with desperate energy. I was needy and insecure because I didn't love or value myself enough to know who I truly was. I didn't know my worth, so I would project my insecurities often onto my boyfriends in hopes that would make them want to be with me more, but instead it often backfired and became messy. I also mention this amazing book, The Mastery of Love, in the beginning of this episode which has helped me through my healing process and has helped the relationship I have with myself. If you are loving the podcast, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.

Stop being desperate & needy in love 

In this episode, I dive into a storytime about a guy I was taking on dates around New York City. I was putting in an unreasonable amount of effort…and for what? When someone isn’t your boyfriend, you shouldn’t be the only one making concrete plans.

Stop giving SO much to someone you’re not even dating 

Being alone can be a scary experience at first, especially after a breakup. In this episode, I dive into my advice about being by myself and what I’ve learned from being my own company.

How to feel GOOD being alone

Psyliocybin. Magic mushrooms. Tulum. This experience changed my life and my perception of everything in the world. I was going through one of the worst depressions, and I met a Spirit Guide in Mexico who altered the course of my life permanently. She guided me through a magic mushroom trip that would ultimately lead me to creating the podcast, and free me from a great deal of trauma I had carried with me over the course of my life. In this episode I dive into the lessons this experience taught me and I hope this experience can help some of you.

I did magic mushrooms in mexico - here's what I took from it

What happens when you're the problem? Forgiving yourself when you've made a mistake can be challenging. We all go through periods of time in our live where we're bound to make mistakes, but those mistakes can turn into valuable learning lessons. In this episode, I give various examples of how we can f*ck up and how it can be helpful to just own up to those mistakes and be honest with who you are. Don't beat yourself up too much, you're still human.  PS - if you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.

What happens when you're the problem? Forgiving yourself when you've made a mistake can be challenging. We all go through periods of time in our live where we're bound to make mistakes, but those mistakes can turn into valuable learning lessons. In this episode, I give various examples of how we can f*ck up and how it can be helpful to just own up to those mistakes and be honest with who you are. Don't beat yourself up too much, you're still human. PS - if you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.

Forgiving yourself when you've f*cked up

Not everyone is going to like you or accept you - that's just how life is. The most important thing is that YOU like you. In this episode, I talk about my personal experiences with how people treated me poorly for no apparent reason at all - and what those experiences taught me. If you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead. 

Not everyone is going to like you or accept you - that's just how life is. The most important thing is that YOU like you. In this episode, I talk about my personal experiences with how people treated me poorly for no apparent reason at all - and what those experiences taught me. If you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.

Not everyone is going to like you

Being with the wrong person can feel heavy on your heart and on your mind. It could feel like you're constantly trying to change for someone else or try to compromise your needs for someone else. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be in the wrong relationship, or in a relationship that needs some work. I also dive into what it feels like to be in a good and healthy relationship with a partner. I hope it can help guide you and make you feel less alone if you're currently in this type of situation. Always feel free to DM me as well on instagram @dateyourselfinstead or @lyss if you enjoyed this episode.  Sign up for the exclusive hoodie waitlist HERE: https://www.dateyourselfinstead.co Shop the Peter Thomas Roth moisturizer HERE: Potent-C Brightening Vitamin C Moisturizer

Being with the wrong person can feel heavy on your heart and on your mind. It could feel like you're constantly trying to change for someone else or try to compromise your needs for someone else. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be in the wrong relationship, or in a relationship that needs some work. I also dive into what it feels like to be in a good and healthy relationship with a partner. I hope it can help guide you and make you feel less alone if you're currently in this type of situation. Always feel free to DM me as well on instagram @dateyourselfinstead or @lyss if you enjoyed this episode. Sign up for the exclusive hoodie waitlist HERE: <a href="https://www.dateyourselfinstead.co" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.dateyourselfinstead.co</a> Shop the Peter Thomas Roth moisturizer HERE:<a href="https://www.peterthomasroth.com/potent-c-brightening-vitamin-c-moisturizer-1801041.html" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank"> Potent-C Brightening Vitamin C Moisturizer</a>

How to know if you're with the wrong person vs. right person

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