Safewords are an important tool for many kinksters, so this week we’re discussing what safewords are, when they’re useful, and some tips on how to use them well. Consensual Non-Consent | What is a Safeword? | Stoplight System | Custom Colors | Beige &amp; Green | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6JNOeSjHtY" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Playing Without a Safeword</a> | Genuine Distress Method | “Misusing” Safewords | “Ruining the Fun” | What Happens Next?

Just Say the Word

Selectively Social

This week we’re discussing some more new-ish additions to the sex/kink lexicon, some of which we like and some of which we find baffling. Prejac | <a href="https://letterboxd.com/film/infinity-baby/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Infinity Baby</a> | <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/prejac/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">/r/prejac</a> | Breeding, Breedable, Breeders | Situationship | Hit, Smash | Sniper Position

Sperminology

Play on Words

Billy just got back from kink camp (<a href="http://darkodyssey.com/fusion/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dark Odyssey Fusion</a>) as well as <a href="https://www.tesfest.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TES Fest</a>, and this week he tells us about what it was like to do both of those kink events back-to-back. <a href="https://gender.libsyn.com/episode-100a-justin-mcelroy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Justin McElroy on Gender Reveal</a> | Operations Team | Comparing the Two Events | Space vs. Crowds | Bad Weather | Goals | Emotions | “I’m Working!” | Scenes | <a href="https://twitter.com/BillyLore/status/1677871977191571456" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Lego Paddle</a> | Communication Skills

Intimate Brutality

In light of Elon Musk recently declaring “cis” to be a slur on Twitter (it’s not), this week Kate is interviewed by her spouse <a href="https://matthewbischoff.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">mb</a> about what it means to be cis and how her gender presentation has shifted over time. Cis Isn’t a Slur | Queer Femme Cis Woman | Getting Misgendered | <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/24457/9780415538657" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">My New Gender Workbook</a> | Boyish Presentation | Cis-Het Male Gaze | <a href="https://amzn.to/3JNKkwv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Black Leather Chucks</a> | <a href="https://www.gendercensus.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Gender Census</a> | Queer as a Gender | Permanent vs. Malleable | Childhood Clues | Pronouns | Girl Roman Roy | <a href="https://archiveofourown.org/works/48013156/chapters/121811914" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Roman Feminization Fanfic</a> | Medical Treatments &amp; Procedures | <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/GrowYourClit/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GrowYourClit</a> | Internal Family Systems | Gamer Boys | Sex &amp; Kink

Cis & Tell

This week Kate chats with pro financial dominatrix and kinky comedian <a href="https://twitter.com/lanekwederis" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Lane Kwederis</a> about findom and her one-woman show, <a href="https://www.sexjobshow.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex Job</a>! Findom Beginnings | Improv &amp; Theatre | Educating Clients | What Findom Involves | Financial Limitations | What’s Hot About It? | “Mesmerize” | Balancing Professional Identities | Fantasy vs. Reality | Shadow Side | Personal Growth | “Did I Do That For Money?”

Break the Bank

Tears for Queers

Continuing our discussion of brats, “bad” subs, and “good” subs, this week we talk about how rebellion, humor, and colorful language can be worked into D/s scenes, among other things. “Is That an Order?” | Responses to “Make Me” | Bratty Doms | Humor &amp; Laughter | Fun with Language | Finding Non-Bratty Subs | Punishment Concerns | Disrespectful Honorifics

Continuing our discussion of brats, “bad” subs, and “good” subs, this week we talk about how rebellion, humor, and colorful language can be worked into D/s scenes, among other things. “Is That an Order?” | Responses to “Make Me” | Bratty Doms | Humor &amp; Laughter | Fun with Language | Finding Non-Bratty Subs | Punishment Concerns | Disrespectful Honorifics

Brat Chat

Some submissives like to be “good,” some like to be “bad,” some like to be “bratty,” and some prefer a combination or like to mix things up. This week we discuss the motivations and manifestations of these various orientations to submission. Good vs. Bad vs. Bratty | Psychological Motivations | Emotional Masochism &amp; Humiliation | Childhood Experiences | What Do We Prefer? | “Disrespectful” Brats | Safewords &amp; Check-Ins | Conflict | Beginner Brat Tips

Some submissives like to be “good,” some like to be “bad,” some like to be “bratty,” and some prefer a combination or like to mix things up. This week we discuss the motivations and manifestations of these various orientations to submission. Good vs. Bad vs. Bratty | Psychological Motivations | Emotional Masochism &amp; Humiliation | Childhood Experiences | What Do We Prefer? | “Disrespectful” Brats | Safewords &amp; Check-Ins | Conflict | Beginner Brat Tips

Bad to the Bone

Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.

As a queer femme sub bisexual poly person, this podcast is my JAM. I look forward to driving long distances now. I ADORE the hosts, they are funny, intelligent, talk at a good pace. These podcasts are organized, informative, and straight forward with just the right amount of jokes, tangents, and stories. As someone new to kink/bdsm, it’s PERFECT. Dating someone who is non-binary/trans, Bex’s opening up on his transition has been incredibly helpful and enlightening. I love love love Kate and Bex. Thanks guys

My favorite podcast

I love this podcast and have recommended it to all my kinky friends

Best podcast with the best hosts!!!

Sex nerds and best friends Billy (<a href="http://billylore.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">billylore.com</a>) and Kate (<a href="http://katesloan.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">katesloan.com</a>) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.

The Dildorks

Episode 43: Cockoisseurs

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more...

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more...

Episode 122: Mind the Strap

Today we discuss the much-debated G-spot! Why does Bex find big muscles hot? Why do Kate's partners not even know where her G-spot is? And how do we deal when we unexpectedly squirt all over everything? Prehensile G-Spot | Is It a Thing? | Magic Button | Clit Stim | <a href="https://maisonneuve.org/article/2015/11/17/wee-dispute/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Squirting</a> &amp; Spurting | Pelvic vs. Pudendal Nerve | Emotional Bonding | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/lets-learn-about-the-a-spot/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">A-Spot</a> | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/review-njoy-eleven/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Njoy Eleven</a> | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/njoy-pure-wand-vs-jopen-comet-wand/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Pure Wand</a> | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/review-nobessence-seduction/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">NobEssence Seduction</a> | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/nobessence-fling-review/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fling</a> | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/my-love-affair-with-the-vixskin-mustang/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mustang</a> | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/review-vixen-maverick/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Maverick</a> | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/review-jopen-key-comet-wand/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Comet Wand</a> | Hard &amp; Fast | Muscles | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/jimmyjane-form-4-waterproof-rechargeable-vibrator.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jimmyjane Form 4</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/fascinator-king-size-lush-throe-velvish-black-76-inches-x-80-inches.aspx#oid=1013_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Liberator Throe</a> | <a href="http://girlyjuice.net/how-to-stimulate-your-g-spot-from-the-outside/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">External G-Spot</a> | Sexual Debuts

Episode 27: G Marks the Spot

Episode 30: What Mood, Dude?

Episode 34: Aftercare Laughtercare

Penetration and Beyond

There's more to selling sex toys than you would think! This week, retail guru Bex shares their cock-hawkin' wisdom with retail noob Kate. Find out how we deal with creepy customers, what we wish our stores carried, and why coworker crushes are fantastic. Organizing Seeds | Late For The Interview | Emotional Labor | Self-Care | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/je-joue-mimi-soft-waterproof-rechargeable-silicone-vibrator.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MiMi Soft</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/jimmyjane-form-2-waterproof-rechargeable-vibrator.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Form 2</a> | <a href="http://early2bedshop.com/sensuelle-point.html?acc=a87ff679a2f3e71d9181a67b7542122c" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sensuelle Joie</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/we-vibe-tango-waterproof-discreet-vibrator-blue.aspx#oid=1013_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tango</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/we-vibe-sync-remote-and-app-controlled-couples-vibrator-aqua.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">We-Vibe Sync</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/magic-wand-rechargeable-cordless-vibrator.aspx#oid=1013_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Magic Wand</a> | Money | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/turbo-glider-vibrator-by-calexotics-blueberry-bliss.aspx#oid=1013_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Turbo Glider</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/iroha-mini-vibrator-ume-anzu-rose-and-pink.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Iroha Mini</a> | Porous Toys | Rechargeables | Gimmicks | Creeps &amp; Boundaries | <a href="https://www.spotofdelight.com/collections/fuze-happy-valley" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fuze Dildos</a> | <a href="https://www.spotofdelight.com/products/uncut-o2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tantus Uncut</a> | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/search.aspx?find=sliquid&amp;log=false&amp;manufacturer=253#oid=1013_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sliquid</a> | Lube Spills | Seedy Gay Sex Shops | Coworker Crushes

Episode 23: Dildo-Slingers

It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures. <a href="../../blowjob-friendly-lipsticks-for-every-budget/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Blowjob-Friendly Lipsticks</a> | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/workshops/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex Ed Workshops</a> | Dysphoria | <a href="../../harness-showdown-aslan-jaguar-vs-rodeoh-briefs/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Aslan Jaguar Harness</a> | BJs As Aftercare | Dommy BJs | <a href="http://hystericalliterature.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hysterical Literature</a> | Receiving | Threesome Fantasies | Eye Contact | Blowjob Porn | Rimming | <a href="http://samanthafraser.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Samantha Fraser</a> | <a href="https://rachellark.bandcamp.com/track/you-only-live-once-the-asshole-song" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">“You Only Live Once”</a> | Surprise Rimming | Deepthroating | Heather Harmon | Criticism | Receiver Skills | Dirty Talk | <a href="https://www.peepshowtoys.com/search?x=0&amp;y=0&amp;q=Sliquid+Swirl#oid=1017_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sliquid Swirl</a> | <a href="https://www.peepshowtoys.com/products/liberator-jaz-wedge#oid=1017_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Liberator Jaz</a> | <a href="../../8-fellatio-fears-and-how-to-conquer-them/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">8 Fellatio Fears</a>

Episode 101: Open Wide!

Episode 49: The Dom Before the Storm

The Nineteen-Filthies

Cumpetence

How did we come so far (and so many times!) without talking about masturbation?! In this episode we wax poetic about whackin' off. Find out how we fumbled our way to our first orgasms, what we fantasize about mid-wank, and what Mr. Incredible has in common with a Hitachi Magic Wand. Jerking Off | Elbow Sex | God's Plan | <a href="http://sexinchrist.com/fist.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Religious Fisting</a> | How Many Fingers? | Homejerk | <a href="http://www.powells.com/book/its-a-girl-thing-how-to-stay-healthy-safe-and-in-charge-9780679943259?partnerid=44315&amp;p_bt" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Puberty Book</a> | Extra-Long Baths | There's That Hole! | Hot Dog Bun | Glass Dildo | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/2014/10/vixskin-mustang-review/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mustang</a>, <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/2016/11/review-vixen-maverick/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Maverick</a> &amp; <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/2015/09/review-tantus-uncut-1-2/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Uncut</a> | <a href="../../lets-learn-about-the-a-spot/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">A-Spot</a> | <a href="../../review-tantus-tsunami" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tantus Tsunami</a> | The Incredibles | Time Crunch | Shopping While Hungry | Being Walked In On | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/user/sloanyk/playlist/1L8otLuhUhrsYGqk0yQVea" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex Playlists</a> | <a href="../../review-eroscillator-top-deluxe/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Eroscillator</a> | Interruptions | Masturbation Vs. Partnered Sex | Non-Linear Fantasies | <a href="../../a-year-with-the-double-trouble/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Double Trouble</a> | Exhibitionism | <a href="http://www.shevibe.com/search.aspx?find=throe#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Liberator Throe</a> | Sexting | Sex Shops

Episode 16: Jerking Hard, or Hardly Jerking?

Episode 103: Nothing Butt the Truth

This week we sat down with our friend <a href="http://redhotsuz.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Suz</a>, a sex blogger, unicorn, and online-dating aficionado. She told us about her best and worst threesomes, gave some group-sex advice, and shared her Tinder secrets! Threesome Math | Dick Video | Bloody Panties | <a href="http://redhotsuz.com/2016/04/30/oasis-aqualounge/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fi(r)st Time</a> | Worst Time | Sex Movies | Power Dynamics | Best Time | Put Your Mouth On It | Boundaries | Unicorn Hunters | Football Team | <a href="http://redhotsuz.com/2017/03/30/tinder-profile-expectations/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tinder Tips</a> | Feminism | Neglected Unicorn | Group Flirting | Negotiation | <a href="https://www.patreon.com/redhotsuz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Patreon Nudes</a>

Episode 46: Unicornographic

Orgasms! We love 'em. You probably do too. Hear all about our first orgasms, what gets us off now, and how testosterone is changing Bex's orgasms, among other climactic tidbits! <a href="http://www.powells.com/partner/36737/biblio/9780802142160?p_ti" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm</a> | Firsts | <a href="http://www.redheadbedhead.com/think-if-youre-not-sure-if-youve-had-an-orgasm-you-havent-shut-up/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JoEllen Notte</a> | Partnered Sex | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/changing-love-considering-hormones-youre-non-binary/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Testosterone</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/Girly_Juice/status/909536298184175616" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Grain of Rice</a> | <a href="https://shevibe.com/tenga-smart-vibe-ring-silicone-rechargeable-vibrating-cock-ring-black.aspx#oid=1056_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tenga SVR</a> | Multiples | Build-Ups | <a href="http://early2bedshop.com/urban-tantra.html?acc=a87ff679a2f3e71d9181a67b7542122c" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Urban Tantra</a> | Edging | Denial | Blue Clit | Over the Edge | Spreadsheet | Different Types | Consistency | Hacks

Episode 54: Climaximal

Episode 63: Wet-à-Tête

Interior Dickorator

Kink is an important aspect of our friendship, even though we don't have sex with each other. Find out what kind of kink stuff we do, how it helps us, and how to handle platonic kink in your own life. Our Average | Definitions | Sexual vs. Romantic | Masturbation Coach | Platonic Sexting | Fetish vs. Kink | Skill-Building | Self-Care Domming | Daisy Ducati | Too Intense | Subspace | Noises | Benefits | Aftercare | Wiggly Eyebrows | Alley Hookup | <a href="../../youre-invited-birthdaybruises-spanking-party/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BirthdayBruises</a> | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/2CCRWUWHIQ8ZK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ep_ws_WqKJzb1JBX5TG" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Bex's Wishlist</a> | <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/how-a-four-handed-erotic-massage-helped-me-get-over-my-break-up/2/14911" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Erotic Massage</a>

Episode 51: A Little Help From My Friends

Friends with benefits: a fantastic idea, often poorly executed! This week we're discussing FWBs: how to find one, how to keep one, why they're great, and ways these copulationships can go horribly wrong. Solo Poly | Sexual vs. Romantic | Time &amp; Trust | Easy Sex | Intimacy | Same Page | <a href="../../10-commandments-successful-friendships-benefits/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">10 Commandments of Successful FWBs</a> | Comfort | <a href="../../casual-love-letter-casual-lovers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Casual Love Letter</a> | <a href="https://thedildorks.wordpress.com/portfolio/episode-30-what-mood-dude/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ruining the Mood</a> | How to Find a FWB | Negotiation | Attraction | <a href="https://linktr.ee/ocpkink" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Off the Cuffs Podcast</a> | Informed Consent | Messy Endings | DM Slides | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/5-easy-ways-give-blowjob-condom/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Condom BJs</a>

Episode 58: Cumpanions

Humor is one of the most popular traits people look for in a partner, and in this week's episode, we talk a little bit about why. Find out if we think laughing during sex kills the mood, why Starbucks will always make Bex think of failed cunnilingus, and what exactly is a dom-edian? Attraction to Humor | Humor &amp; Intelligence | <a href="http://www.bextalkssex.com/2017/01/talk-flirty-to-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Talk Flirty to Me</a> | Humor Masking Vulnerability | Improv | <a href="http://www.maximumfun.org/shows/my-brother-my-brother-and-me" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">My Brother, My Brother and Me</a> | Flavors of Funny | Laughing During Sex | <a href="../../when-sex-nerds-plan-a-threesome/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BAMF Threesome</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/Girly_Juice/status/817444641381486594" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Coach Bex</a> | Giggly Kink | Dom-edian | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FK332cDUh8U" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mark Hamill Joker</a> | Contagious Laughter

Episode 20: Funnyboners

The best philosophy podcast episodes. Asking questions about how to live a better life, what it means to be and do good, to the idea of God. This topic includes episodes that bring about important questions that everyone should be asking themselves. Add episodes you're interested into your queue below!

Best Episodes on Practical Philosophy & How To Live

The best podcast episodes on non-current politics. Covering topics such as universal basic income, democracy, poverty & justice and more. For anyone interested in learning more about politics that affect that world, not just now, but in the longer term. Add episodes you're interested into your queue below!