Kasandra Merrill's guest appearances

Kasandra Merrill

Leading Saints Podcast

Kyle Anderson

Whitney Johnson

Brett McKay

Jacob Hess

Emily Belle Freeman

Todd Olson

Mamie Kanfer Stewart

Kelly Thompson

Mark McConville

Jethro Jones

Tim Welch

Robert Glover

Joseph Smith

Greg McKeown

Steven Rogelberg

OwlTail

Jill Walker

LEAD

In this podcast, Kurt interviews two women with the unofficial leadership calling of Bishop’s Wife.Sister Jill WalkerFirst he speaks with Jill Walker, the wife of Bishop Jason Walker of Phoenix, Arizona. Bishop Walker has been serving for about seven months. They have been married for 27 years, have three children, and have lived in Phoenix for seven years.The Walker familyHighlights4:00 Introduction with Bishop Jason Walker8:50 Called as bishop and then called again when ward boundaries were changed9:45 Called shortly after a calling to the high council10:45 Expectations she had, surprised and confused by new emotions such as feeling jealous of his time away13:00 Journaled about her emotions but didn’t talk to anyone13:50 The loneliness of not being able to talk about what he has been doing14:20 Thoughts that she couldn’t burden him further with trivial family things when he had so many obvious burdens from his calling added to the sense of lonelinessPrinciples of Leadership as the Bishop’s Wife16:25 Journal 	18:25 Find ways to help–helps with loneliness 	20:00 Pray–for your husband and for comfort for yourself 	21:20 Spend time together–go with him to anything that is appropriate, but also on intentional dates, to the store, any moment possible 	23:25 Focus on the positive–look for the blessings and personal growth24:55 Started sharing whatever spiritual moments they can, which has helped their partnership26:30 She has learned to pay more attention to everyone and be more compassionateSister Kasandra MerrillNext, Kurt speaks with Kasandra Merrill, wife of Bishop Scott Merrill of Mesa, Arizona. They both grew up in Mesa and have lived in the same ward since they were married. He has been serving as bishop for over four years. Kasandra comes from a large mixed family of 12 children, including step-siblings, and she and Scott have been married 24 years and have seven children.The Merrill familyHighlights30:30 She saw his calling coming but he did not31:10 The circumstances in their family when he was called: five teenagers who then married or went on missions since his call, plus his busy job and she was in school full time33:00 The first year was the most difficult for them to understand each other and each other’s roles because they approach life differently34:00 She could sense the pain of ward members through him, but felt totally alone and unable to share her burdens with anyone35:10 She was handling and carrying some heavy difficulties with their children all alone37:00 She felt that he had the mantle of the calling to support him, while she had nothing37:45 Figured out together how to handle their loneliness together and to share their burdens38:40 Realized she has angels watching over and strengthening her, too39:00 They were both called in for his calling as bishop40:00 They may not have it all together but they are together41:15 Allowed herself to not parent alone, or to own her children’s mistakes as hers42:10 Their children all seemed to have had a positive experience with their dad as the bishop, but he let them know that if they wanted to talk to someone else they could go to the stake president44:00 Don’t dwell on the negative44:50 Living in a “glass house”46:00 Her husband has been very private as bishop; she could sense anger and heartbreak but he didn’t/couldn’t share48:05 Keeping their struggles open instead of private48:45 Son came home early from his mission and they were open about everything with the ward, eliminating possible shame50:15 Daughter attempted suicide and they were open about that too, further dissolving shame and bringing the ward together to support each other through difficult struggles52:10 The Savior taught love and compassionLinksHow I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | Interviews with Jordan Brown and Amanda FristromHow I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | An Interview with Alanna Francom

In this podcast, Kurt interviews two women with the unofficial leadership calling of Bishop’s Wife. Sister Jill Walker First he speaks with Jill Walker, the wife of Bishop Jason Walker of Phoenix, Arizona. Bishop Walker has been serving for about seven months. They have been married for 27 years, have three children, and have lived in Phoenix for seven years. The Walker family Highlights 4:00 Introduction with Bishop Jason Walker 8:50 Called as bishop and then called again when ward boundaries were changed 9:45 Called shortly after a calling to the high council 10:45 Expectations she had, surprised and confused by new emotions such as feeling jealous of his time away 13:00 Journaled about her emotions but didn’t talk to anyone 13:50 The loneliness of not being able to talk about what he has been doing 14:20 Thoughts that she couldn’t burden him further with trivial family things when he had so many obvious burdens from his calling added to the sense of loneliness Principles of Leadership as the Bishop’s Wife 16:25 Journal 	18:25 Find ways to help–helps with loneliness 	20:00 Pray–for your husband and for comfort for yourself 	21:20 Spend time together–go with him to anything that is appropriate, but also on intentional dates, to the store, any moment possible 	23:25 Focus on the positive–look for the blessings and personal growth 24:55 Started sharing whatever spiritual moments they can, which has helped their partnership 26:30 She has learned to pay more attention to everyone and be more compassionate Sister Kasandra Merrill Next, Kurt speaks with Kasandra Merrill, wife of Bishop Scott Merrill of Mesa, Arizona. They both grew up in Mesa and have lived in the same ward since they were married. He has been serving as bishop for over four years. Kasandra comes from a large mixed family of 12 children, including step-siblings, and she and Scott have been married 24 years and have seven children. The Merrill family Highlights 30:30 She saw his calling coming but he did not 31:10 The circumstances in their family when he was called: five teenagers who then married or went on missions since his call, plus his busy job and she was in school full time 33:00 The first year was the most difficult for them to understand each other and each other’s roles because they approach life differently 34:00 She could sense the pain of ward members through him, but felt totally alone and unable to share her burdens with anyone 35:10 She was handling and carrying some heavy difficulties with their children all alone 37:00 She felt that he had the mantle of the calling to support him, while she had nothing 37:45 Figured out together how to handle their loneliness together and to share their burdens 38:40 Realized she has angels watching over and strengthening her, too 39:00 They were both called in for his calling as bishop 40:00 They may not have it all together but they are together 41:15 Allowed herself to not parent alone, or to own her children’s mistakes as hers 42:10 Their children all seemed to have had a positive experience with their dad as the bishop, but he let them know that if they wanted to talk to someone else they could go to the stake president 44:00 Don’t dwell on the negative 44:50 Living in a “glass house” 46:00 Her husband has been very private as bishop; she could sense anger and heartbreak but he didn’t/couldn’t share 48:05 Keeping their struggles open instead of private 48:45 Son came home early from his mission and they were open about everything with the ward, eliminating possible shame 50:15 Daughter attempted suicide and they were open about that too, further dissolving shame and bringing the ward together to support each other through difficult struggles 52:10 The Savior taught love and compassion Links How I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | Interviews with Jordan Brown and Amanda Fristrom How I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | An Interview with Alanna Francom

How I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | Interviews with Jill Walker and Kasandra Merrill