Brian Brunkow's guest appearances

Brian Brunkow

Play Therapy Community

The Winning Youth Coaching Podcast: Youth Sports | Coaching | Parenting | Family Resources

Divorce Talk With Nicola Beer

Relationship & Marriage Advice Podcast

Rob Bell

Rob Jones

Temple Grandin

Randy Jackson

Jon Gordon

Shannon Evans

John Wooden

Sam Walker

John O’Sullivan

Vickie Brett

Amanda Selogie

Pat Williams

Alan Stein

Emily Cohen

Phil Carson

OwlTail

Brian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, sports parenting coach, and author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce &amp; effective &amp; “sane” sports parenting.  With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping divorced parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of divorce &amp; effective sports parenting.”  When time and money is used as a weapon in divorce, the “ABC’s” (Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables) encourage parents to stay focused on helping kids develop life skills thru positive youth sports experiencesBrian may be reached at Brian@ZeroOffseason.com for personal coaching on divorce &amp; effective sports parenting.  Nicola Beer is an International Relationship &amp; Divorce Coach, Best-selling Author that supports individuals to minimize the stress and pain of divorce. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com to get your copy of free e-books "Protect Children Through Divorce" and "10 Steps to Creating a New Life After Divorce"

Brian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, sports parenting coach, and author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce &amp; effective &amp; “sane” sports parenting. With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping divorced parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of divorce &amp; effective sports parenting.” When time and money is used as a weapon in divorce, the “ABC’s” (Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables) encourage parents to stay focused on helping kids develop life skills thru positive youth sports experiences Brian may be reached at Brian@ZeroOffseason.com for personal coaching on divorce &amp; effective sports parenting. Nicola Beer is an International Relationship &amp; Divorce Coach, Best-selling Author that supports individuals to minimize the stress and pain of divorce. For more free resources visit <a href="http://www.purepeacecoaching.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.purepeacecoaching.com</a> to get your copy of free e-books "Protect Children Through Divorce" and "10 Steps to Creating a New Life After Divorce"

Expert Interview with Divorce & Sports Parenting Coach - Brian Brunkow

Parenting in the Rain, Episode 25 Divorce and Sports Are you a parent worried about your child through your divorce? Here’s a link to my s Free Parent Class http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/parentingthroughdivorce  In This Episode:   Brian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, Glazier Head Coach Academy speaker, and the author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce &amp; sports parenting.   With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping coaches and parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of Divorce &amp; Effective Sports Parenting.”   When time and money is so commonly used as a weapon in divorce situations, the “ABC’s” : Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables.  They help encourage the adults to stay focused on helping kids develop life skills thru positive youth sports lessons. Brian has a substantial background in coaching.   It’s important to keep the kids on the field and involved in sports to give them the life skills that can come through sports.  Sports can reduce the high school dropout rate with adolescents. When parents are passive aggressive with time and money, the child is the one that misses out and is ultimately hurt. Brian tells us about the Baldwin vs. Basinger story, how high conflict divorce can result in the child missing out on valuable time over custody battles. He shares some statistics about divorce.   He also shares insight of how divorce can impact kids.  T here are some program success studies that illustrate the importance of working together as parents for the children’s sake.  Brian is the author of a book, “Zero Offseason”. Good behavior will not change the behavior of the other parent.  But, it will give you a piece of mind. He tells us about the “ABC’s” : Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables He talks to us about aligning goals.  He tells us a story of divorced soccer parents and how their situation affected the child. Simple rules, but complex...“The kids gotta play, let the coaches coach, and the parents need to support.” Being the support system as a parent is so important. Sports help kids with socialization skills, as well as conflict management skills that will help keep them out of trouble in life.  Youth sports teach kids discipline, mental toughness and grit. Communication between parents is very important.  Using stories is a great way help parents work things out, so that the child doesn’t lose years of opportunity for sports growth. He talks to us about “Bleacher” Parents and references Jennifer Capriati and her experience through the divorce in her family.  As a tennis player, she was an incredible athlete and top performer in the world.  By the time she was 17 though, she retired from tennis.  She didn’t have the support system at home.  Some parents equate their ability as a parent with the child’s performance in the sport. The parents need to be smart about how they approach the calendar.  A throughout calendar can prevent some conflicts from occurring.   “ Best Interests” standard is all about the child, not the parents or the coaches. Brian recommends having a Co-Parenting Mission Statement to have on the refrigerator at both homes. You can get a copy of it at www.jackieflynnconsulting.com/divorceandsports   The child may think, “Mom and Dad don’t get along, but they both have my back.” Impact – Safety is considered a “non-negotiable.  Parents must communicate.  For example, parents need to work together and communicate if their child gets a concussion.  This is HUGELY important. It’s important for parents to remember that they can’t control bad behavior of the other parent, so it is best to focus energy on what you can control. Process-based goals keep things focused on the child. On field &amp; off field, parents need to support their child. Brian recommends playing “Rock, Paper, Scissors” game with little kids as a way to teach them how to control the controllables.  This is where you want your energy to be because this is where you can have an impact.  It helps teach kids the importance of teaching them to focus on what’s in front of them.  Brian is working on a program, a legal workshop for employees “aligning goals”, “best interests”, and “controlling the controllables”.  

Parenting in the Rain, Episode 25 Divorce and Sports Are you a parent worried about your child through your divorce? Here’s a link to my s Free Parent Class <a href="http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/parentingthroughdivorce" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/parentingthroughdivorce</a> In This Episode:   Brian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, Glazier Head Coach Academy speaker, and the author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce &amp; sports parenting.   With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping coaches and parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of Divorce &amp; Effective Sports Parenting.”   When time and money is so commonly used as a weapon in divorce situations, the “ABC’s” : Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables.  They help encourage the adults to stay focused on helping kids develop life skills thru positive youth sports lessons. Brian has a substantial background in coaching.   It’s important to keep the kids on the field and involved in sports to give them the life skills that can come through sports.  Sports can reduce the high school dropout rate with adolescents. When parents are passive aggressive with time and money, the child is the one that misses out and is ultimately hurt. Brian tells us about the Baldwin vs. Basinger story, how high conflict divorce can result in the child missing out on valuable time over custody battles. He shares some statistics about divorce.   He also shares insight of how divorce can impact kids.  T here are some program success studies that illustrate the importance of working together as parents for the children’s sake.  Brian is the author of a book, “Zero Offseason”. Good behavior will not change the behavior of the other parent.  But, it will give you a piece of mind. He tells us about the “ABC’s” : Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard &amp; Controlling Controllables He talks to us about aligning goals.  He tells us a story of divorced soccer parents and how their situation affected the child. Simple rules, but complex...“The kids gotta play, let the coaches coach, and the parents need to support.” Being the support system as a parent is so important. Sports help kids with socialization skills, as well as conflict management skills that will help keep them out of trouble in life.  Youth sports teach kids discipline, mental toughness and grit. Communication between parents is very important.  Using stories is a great way help parents work things out, so that the child doesn’t lose years of opportunity for sports growth. He talks to us about “Bleacher” Parents and references Jennifer Capriati and her experience through the divorce in her family.  As a tennis player, she was an incredible athlete and top performer in the world.  By the time she was 17 though, she retired from tennis.  She didn’t have the support system at home.  Some parents equate their ability as a parent with the child’s performance in the sport. The parents need to be smart about how they approach the calendar.  A throughout calendar can prevent some conflicts from occurring.   “ Best Interests” standard is all about the child, not the parents or the coaches. Brian recommends having a Co-Parenting Mission Statement to have on the refrigerator at both homes. You can get a copy of it at <a href="http://www.jackieflynnconsulting.com/divorceandsports" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.jackieflynnconsulting.com/divorceandsports</a>   The child may think, “Mom and Dad don’t get along, but they both have my back.” Impact – Safety is considered a “non-negotiable.  Parents must communicate.  For example, parents need to work together and communicate if their child gets a concussion.  This is HUGELY important. It’s important for parents to remember that they can’t control bad behavior of the other parent, so it is best to focus energy on what you can control. Process-based goals keep things focused on the child. On field &amp; off field, parents need to support their child. Brian recommends playing “Rock, Paper, Scissors” game with little kids as a way to teach them how to control the controllables.  This is where you want your energy to be because this is where you can have an impact.  It helps teach kids the importance of teaching them to focus on what’s in front of them.  Brian is working on a program, a legal workshop for employees “aligning goals”, “best interests”, and “controlling the controllables”.

25: Divorce and Sports with Brian Brunkow

What does it take to be a winning youth coach? Listen in as Brian Brunkow shares stories and discusses his journey to becoming a successful youth sports coach.Brian is the founder of ZeroOffseason.com, where he trains wide receivers and blogs about youth sports, concussions, recruiting, and many more topics.  Brian is a divorce attorney and financial planner.  His background in divorce law has given him a unique perspective on the importance of dealing with divorced parents when coaching young athletes.  Brian began coaching his Junior year of High School, and has been coaching football ever since.  He recently was added to the speaker bureau at Glazier Clinics and will be speaking at their Head Coach Academy this spring on "Recruiting Regulations Every High School Head Coach Must Know."Website: zerooffseason.comBlog: zerooffseason.blogspot.comTwitter: @ZeroOffseasonListen Now:Listen in ITunes: Itunes linkListen in Stitcher: Stitcher link Coaching/Leadership Quote	'We run a forward-looking operation' - Chip Kelly after tough lossMy ‘Cringe’ Moment	Ego - Early on Brian ran a no-huddle offense just to get penalties on the defense - but in retrospect - what was he really accomplishing?	Priorities - Was he focused on winning, or developing ALL of the kids?	Leadership - It's easy to get caught up in the moment and fail to communicate with your assistant coaches - prioritize over-communicating with your assistantsMy ‘Ah-Ha’ Moment	Importance of communicating at the level they can understand - and keep the explanation short (under 10 seconds)Teaching Children &amp; Keeping it Fun	Cross-train kids on different positions within a sport - they learn the game much better	Explain the 'Why' - so they can truly learn the game	From post-game to Monday practice - have kids think of:	1 thing they did well	1 thing they want to improve on	1 lesson they learnedHuge Idea #13 areas to have the kids focus:	1 - set process oriented goals (setting mini-goals within the game)	2 - get present (teach the kid the big red delete button)	3 - control the controllablesMental Peak PerformanceHuge Idea #2	Play present - The delete button, and 'put on the thought-brakes'	Visualization - 2 things:	1 - Visualize the worst-case scenario - and realize that failure will not define you	2 - Post-game - Parents/coaches - Don't discuss suggested improvements for at least 24 hours after a gameCoaching Resources	Bookmark your state's interscholastic site - free resources on safety, concussions, etc.	'Peak Performance Sports' newsletter by Dr. Patrick Cohn - lots of mental tips	Ted Talks - Great talks, one on 'grit' is great	Your libraryConcussion Safety	Best resource - go to Center for Disease Control website	The 2nd concussion is the most dangerous one!	Things to look for:	Sluggish behavior	Slurring words	Change in behaviorUSA Football offers a great program: 'Heads-up Football'Discipline	Don't use conditioning as a punishment	3 Types of mistakes:	1 - Mental errors - Find a consequence that hits home with the athlete	2 - Behavior errors - 3 strikes then you're sitting out the rest of practice	3 - Safety errors - get parents involvedRewards/Teambuilding	Focus rewards on process more than outcomes	To inspire conditioning - when offense scores, offense gets to do 7 push-ups; when defense stops offense, defense gets to do 7 push-upsInspiring Story	Kid whose parents were going through tough divorce - Brian really poured into this kid and tried to make a difference in this young man's lifeThe One that Got Away	In a game where they were heavily outmatched physically - Brian and his coaches spent halftime trying to figure out technical adjustments - he wished he had spent the time just teaching life lessonsBest Stolen/Borrowed Idea	Chip Kelly - after tough loss,

What does it take to be a winning youth coach? Listen in as Brian Brunkow shares stories and discusses his journey to becoming a successful youth sports coach. Brian is the founder of <a href="http://ZeroOffseason.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ZeroOffseason.com</a>, where he trains wide receivers and blogs about youth sports, concussions, recruiting, and many more topics.  Brian is a divorce attorney and financial planner.  His background in divorce law has given him a unique perspective on the importance of dealing with divorced parents when coaching young athletes.  Brian began coaching his Junior year of High School, and has been coaching football ever since.  He recently was added to the speaker bureau at Glazier Clinics and will be speaking at their Head Coach Academy this spring on "Recruiting Regulations Every High School Head Coach Must Know." Website: <a href="http://zerooffseason.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">zerooffseason.com</a> Blog: <a href="http://zerooffseason.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">zerooffseason.blogspot.com</a> Twitter: @ZeroOffseason Listen Now: Listen in ITunes: Itunes link Listen in Stitcher: Stitcher link   Coaching/Leadership Quote 	'We run a forward-looking operation' - Chip Kelly after tough loss My ‘Cringe’ Moment 	Ego - Early on Brian ran a no-huddle offense just to get penalties on the defense - but in retrospect - what was he really accomplishing? 	Priorities - Was he focused on winning, or developing ALL of the kids? 	Leadership - It's easy to get caught up in the moment and fail to communicate with your assistant coaches - prioritize over-communicating with your assistants My ‘Ah-Ha’ Moment 	Importance of communicating at the level they can understand - and keep the explanation short (under 10 seconds) Teaching Children &amp; Keeping it Fun 	Cross-train kids on different positions within a sport - they learn the game much better 	Explain the 'Why' - so they can truly learn the game 	From post-game to Monday practice - have kids think of: 	1 thing they did well 	1 thing they want to improve on 	1 lesson they learned Huge Idea #1 3 areas to have the kids focus: 	1 - set process oriented goals (setting mini-goals within the game) 	2 - get present (teach the kid the big red delete button) 	3 - control the controllables Mental Peak Performance Huge Idea #2 	Play present - The delete button, and 'put on the thought-brakes' 	Visualization - 2 things: 	1 - Visualize the worst-case scenario - and realize that failure will not define you 	2 - Post-game - Parents/coaches - Don't discuss suggested improvements for at least 24 hours after a game Coaching Resources 	Bookmark your state's interscholastic site - free resources on safety, concussions, etc. 	'Peak Performance Sports' newsletter by Dr. Patrick Cohn - lots of mental tips 	Ted Talks - Great talks, one on 'grit' is great 	Your library Concussion Safety 	Best resource - go to Center for Disease Control website 	The 2nd concussion is the most dangerous one! 	Things to look for: 	Sluggish behavior 	Slurring words 	Change in behavior USA Football offers a great program: 'Heads-up Football' Discipline 	Don't use conditioning as a punishment 	3 Types of mistakes: 	1 - Mental errors - Find a consequence that hits home with the athlete 	2 - Behavior errors - 3 strikes then you're sitting out the rest of practice 	3 - Safety errors - get parents involved Rewards/Teambuilding 	Focus rewards on process more than outcomes 	To inspire conditioning - when offense scores, offense gets to do 7 push-ups; when defense stops offense, defense gets to do 7 push-ups Inspiring Story 	Kid whose parents were going through tough divorce - Brian really poured into this kid and tried to make a difference in this young man's life The One that Got Away 	In a game where they were heavily outmatched physically - Brian and his coaches spent halftime trying to figure out technical adjustments - he wished he had spent the time just teaching life lessons Best Stolen/Borrowed Idea 	Chip Kelly - after tough loss,

WYC 035 Brian Brunkow from ZeroOffseason.com talks Football, Concussions, and Coaching kids with Divorced Parents