Tonja Hartman's guest appearances

Tonja Hartman

Too Posh Podcast

Julia Roberts

Michael Bell

Johnny Wimbrey

Krav Maga

Bruce McArthur

Ashley Cook

Carlos Frias

Phil Show

Michelle Jewsbury

Elizabeth Rose

Alyssa Edwards

Jen Pilotte

Emily Austin

Marcella Raneri

Tommy McClenahan

OwlTail

Tonja Hartman shares the incredibly brave story about her son Cody's addiction, imprisonment, bipolar disease and how she deals with it one moment at a time. Tonja has 2 sons and 1 daughter. We learn all about how hard it has been to deal with her sons struggles as a Mom, how it affects her other children and her marriage.  Mom's are only as happy as their unhappiest child. We learn about Tonja's grandfather who was a southern Mafia guy that ran moonshine. Her grandmother had to escape Alabama to get away from him.Tonja talks about the generational curses in families and how her grandfather, her uncle and her brother all have some of the same tendencies - 2 personalities, charming but also mean and violent. These are the first born tendencies in their family. Her brother did horrible things, was in the drug scene, got arrested etc. Tonja said that when her first born son came along they noticed that things were not right with his personality when he became a teenager. She knew that there was something spiritually not right and put him in counseling to help. Her family and others were trying to talk her out of doing so, insisting he is just a normal teen. She was married to her 3rd husband at the time. As her firstborn he struggled with confidence even though he was very naturally talented and bright, charming and needy and lying and staying up real late at the same time. They moved to Decatur, Texas and that made him very angry and he moved in with his Dad. His Dad did not believe that he had a mental illness and there was always disagreement with his treatment. Tonja continued taking him to psychiatric care to test him. Bipolar is very hard to diagnose. She talks about his escalating behavioral problems in his Senior Year of High School and drugs were involved. He was self medicating on top of what the psychiatrist was prescribing. He got arrested right before his Senior Prom for drugs. His manic behavior and drug use got a lot worse and together as a family they tried to help him and balancing tough love. Tonja herself has been in counseling and therapy to educate herself.Her son was sent to prison for possession with intent to sell which is a federal charge. She is advocating that people that age for that conviction should not be sent to hard core prisons but need different facilities. She says the mania can rip though a family like a rip tide and it is very difficult to deal with. Tonja says that he is very manipulative during that time but at the same time is very sweet and what a hard balance that is for a Mom.The struggle is where is the healthy part of being an advocate and where to apply tough love and in the meantime having family members undermining you.She says that her son has been incarcerated several times. She says prison guards will target and bully you and that they are very crooked and should be in prison themselves. We are teaching drug addicts to be criminal, then put them back in society and they are set up to fail. Tonja shares her emotional day when she went to see her son for the first time in Ferguson prison. She went into the chapel and broke down balling her eyes out. It is so hard to see your child that way. He eventually was released from prison. While she was going through the breakdown of her 3rd marriage she found out that her son was arrested yet again. He had gotten a girl pregnant who was a drug addict herself. Her son is 30 years old and has a 5 year old son that Tonja does not get to see. Every time her son gets out of prison he violates parole and goes back.She says the family is divided but that the family needs to be united and get educated for a real chance to help her son. Cody is extremely manipulative and the family makes Tonja out to be the bad guy even though she is the most educated and supportive and it hurts her like hell because it hurts their relationship. She says that when he was in prison for 5 years he was remorseful for the first time. After he got out of prison the last time he lived with his cousin and ultimately it all went downhill again and he is back in prison again at this moment. He got arrested for shoplifting and violation of parole again. Bernie asks Tonja how all this impacts her daughter Ari and her marriage.  Tonja becomes very emotional and you can feel her raw pain as she describes the heartbreaking effects all this has on all of them. She has found out that Cody had been doing heroin and meth and she says that he has made her out to be a monster and as hard as that has been for her she has had to separate herself because she cannot allow this in her daughter's or her life because he gets so mean and abusive. She tells us of the last time she saw him when she told him that she will never stop loving him, praying for him, believing in him that he can do this but that she tried everything in her power and cannot go on like this anymore. She says that it was good bye for her but that she is here when he gets it right. She is trusting her son to God. Tonja talks about her other son Brandon and how she has worried about him for having had to deal with all of this. She is trying to give all her attention to him and her daughter Ari and give them all of her and stay healthy and at the same time still believing that Cody can figure it out. We should always help the person in need but we need to be mindful that we don't go so far that we do the work they need to do. https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartman https://www.instagram.com/empoword2bParty with Miss Polly Segment: Is it every women's secret fantasy to make love in a romantic location?Question of the Day Segment:Is bad timing ever a reason not to break up with someone?

Tonja Hartman shares the incredibly brave story about her son Cody's addiction, imprisonment, bipolar disease and how she deals with it one moment at a time. Tonja has 2 sons and 1 daughter. We learn all about how hard it has been to deal with her sons struggles as a Mom, how it affects her other children and her marriage. Mom's are only as happy as their unhappiest child. We learn about Tonja's grandfather who was a southern Mafia guy that ran moonshine. Her grandmother had to escape Alabama to get away from him. Tonja talks about the generational curses in families and how her grandfather, her uncle and her brother all have some of the same tendencies - 2 personalities, charming but also mean and violent. These are the first born tendencies in their family. Her brother did horrible things, was in the drug scene, got arrested etc. Tonja said that when her first born son came along they noticed that things were not right with his personality when he became a teenager. She knew that there was something spiritually not right and put him in counseling to help. Her family and others were trying to talk her out of doing so, insisting he is just a normal teen. She was married to her 3rd husband at the time. As her firstborn he struggled with confidence even though he was very naturally talented and bright, charming and needy and lying and staying up real late at the same time. They moved to Decatur, Texas and that made him very angry and he moved in with his Dad. His Dad did not believe that he had a mental illness and there was always disagreement with his treatment. Tonja continued taking him to psychiatric care to test him. Bipolar is very hard to diagnose. She talks about his escalating behavioral problems in his Senior Year of High School and drugs were involved. He was self medicating on top of what the psychiatrist was prescribing. He got arrested right before his Senior Prom for drugs. His manic behavior and drug use got a lot worse and together as a family they tried to help him and balancing tough love. Tonja herself has been in counseling and therapy to educate herself. Her son was sent to prison for possession with intent to sell which is a federal charge. She is advocating that people that age for that conviction should not be sent to hard core prisons but need different facilities. She says the mania can rip though a family like a rip tide and it is very difficult to deal with. Tonja says that he is very manipulative during that time but at the same time is very sweet and what a hard balance that is for a Mom.The struggle is where is the healthy part of being an advocate and where to apply tough love and in the meantime having family members undermining you. She says that her son has been incarcerated several times. She says prison guards will target and bully you and that they are very crooked and should be in prison themselves. We are teaching drug addicts to be criminal, then put them back in society and they are set up to fail. Tonja shares her emotional day when she went to see her son for the first time in Ferguson prison. She went into the chapel and broke down balling her eyes out. It is so hard to see your child that way. He eventually was released from prison. While she was going through the breakdown of her 3rd marriage she found out that her son was arrested yet again. He had gotten a girl pregnant who was a drug addict herself. Her son is 30 years old and has a 5 year old son that Tonja does not get to see. Every time her son gets out of prison he violates parole and goes back. She says the family is divided but that the family needs to be united and get educated for a real chance to help her son. Cody is extremely manipulative and the family makes Tonja out to be the bad guy even though she is the most educated and supportive and it hurts her like hell because it hurts their relationship. She says that when he was in prison for 5 years he was remorseful for the first time. After he got out of prison the last time he lived with his cousin and ultimately it all went downhill again and he is back in prison again at this moment. He got arrested for shoplifting and violation of parole again. Bernie asks Tonja how all this impacts her daughter Ari and her marriage. Tonja becomes very emotional and you can feel her raw pain as she describes the heartbreaking effects all this has on all of them. She has found out that Cody had been doing heroin and meth and she says that he has made her out to be a monster and as hard as that has been for her she has had to separate herself because she cannot allow this in her daughter's or her life because he gets so mean and abusive. She tells us of the last time she saw him when she told him that she will never stop loving him, praying for him, believing in him that he can do this but that she tried everything in her power and cannot go on like this anymore. She says that it was good bye for her but that she is here when he gets it right. She is trusting her son to God. Tonja talks about her other son Brandon and how she has worried about him for having had to deal with all of this. She is trying to give all her attention to him and her daughter Ari and give them all of her and stay healthy and at the same time still believing that Cody can figure it out. We should always help the person in need but we need to be mindful that we don't go so far that we do the work they need to do. <a href="https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartman" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartman</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/empoword2b" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/empoword2b</a> Party with Miss Polly Segment: Is it every women's secret fantasy to make love in a romantic location? Question of the Day Segment: Is bad timing ever a reason not to break up with someone?

#188: Tonja Hartman - "Dear Cody, Addiction breaks bonds and hearts and all the rules!"

We welcome singer and actress, mother of 3,  Miss Tonja Hartman who is an extra ordinary leader who has a passion for raising up people to make a difference in the entertainment industry to train up people to know God's word. Primarily teens and young adults because there is so much confusion out there on their direction in life. She tells us her life story and bravely talks about that she was sexually abused as a young girl by a male babysitter and by a family member and date raped by someone when she was a Senior in high school. She talks about how abusers make you think and feel that you are terrible and that you caused it and they make you believe the lie. We learn about her very specific encounter that changed her and she realized she had to live in God's word. Tonja talks about the sexual advances in the professional world and that she lost a job because she wouldn't buy into the advances from a boss. Tonja teaches us what the aftermath looks life after such devastating experiences. We are especially intrigued by Tonja's lesson about what God says about generational curses.She teaches us how she tries to not hold on too tight to her beautiful teenage daughter Ari and that we should not shelter our children too much where we don't allow them to experience pain.Tonja wants the little girl in her, the driven person to soar and shine how God created her to be and she loves the movie "Wonder woman". God has given her the drive to keepgoing even through the toughest times and she wants to make a difference and help others soar. Tonja gives us a great lesson on that the "me too" movement has gone too far and that people have forgotten common sense. We learn about sex trafficking being a huge issue in the entertainment industry. Tonja talks about some of the issues in some churches and how they fall short in helping struggling people particularly women going through a crisis. Tonja's passion is for people outside of the church. She tells us about a shocking story where a pastor supported her 1st husband who had a porn addiction, wasn't responsible as a husband and father and wasted all their money gambling, while she worked 50 to 60 hour weeks. The pastor actually asked her to submit herself to her husband even if that meant watching porn with him. We learn about her divorce, she went through a new church and how she ended up marrying a womanizer who was verbally and emotionally abusive, making her believe she was crazy. Her Mom hired a private investigator and they found a whole sack of porn that they brought to the pastor of this new church who got mad at her for even bringing it up. She had to go through a second divorce. Her and her boys had to go to counseling, they were so scarred from this experience. She says it has been a hell of a road but standing up to what is right and not being silent has been healing. Her family doesn't really want her to tell her story, because we make the victims of abuse believe they shouldn't stand up for it and the people that get protected in the end are the abusers. She is a believer in iron sharpens iron. We learn how she met her 3rd husband who she is in the middle of divorcing at this time. She tells us about losing her precious Mom to brain cancer, moving to California, getting pregnant with her daughter.While in California in less than a year she found out that her husband was having an affair which knocked the wind out of her. She didn't see it coming at all. It is a gripping story you don't want to miss. Tonja is a big believer in telling the truth at all times and that she told her cheating husband he had to admit to their teenage daughter that he was having an affair. Gabrielle and Marcella are 100% on Tonja's side, however Bernie full heartedly disagrees and this starts a fun, passionate discussion between our guest and cast. Don't miss this battle of opinions.https://www.instagram.com/tonjarenetexastola/https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartmanParty with Miss Polly segment: The role of shame about our sexuality Question of the Day segmentYou went on a first date and everything is great except your date licks every single finger. Dealbreaker?

We welcome singer and actress, mother of 3, Miss Tonja Hartman who is an extra ordinary leader who has a passion for raising up people to make a difference in the entertainment industry to train up people to know God's word. Primarily teens and young adults because there is so much confusion out there on their direction in life. She tells us her life story and bravely talks about that she was sexually abused as a young girl by a male babysitter and by a family member and date raped by someone when she was a Senior in high school. She talks about how abusers make you think and feel that you are terrible and that you caused it and they make you believe the lie. We learn about her very specific encounter that changed her and she realized she had to live in God's word. Tonja talks about the sexual advances in the professional world and that she lost a job because she wouldn't buy into the advances from a boss. Tonja teaches us what the aftermath looks life after such devastating experiences. We are especially intrigued by Tonja's lesson about what God says about generational curses. She teaches us how she tries to not hold on too tight to her beautiful teenage daughter Ari and that we should not shelter our children too much where we don't allow them to experience pain. Tonja wants the little girl in her, the driven person to soar and shine how God created her to be and she loves the movie "Wonder woman". God has given her the drive to keep going even through the toughest times and she wants to make a difference and help others soar. Tonja gives us a great lesson on that the "me too" movement has gone too far and that people have forgotten common sense. We learn about sex trafficking being a huge issue in the entertainment industry. Tonja talks about some of the issues in some churches and how they fall short in helping struggling people particularly women going through a crisis. Tonja's passion is for people outside of the church. She tells us about a shocking story where a pastor supported her 1st husband who had a porn addiction, wasn't responsible as a husband and father and wasted all their money gambling, while she worked 50 to 60 hour weeks. The pastor actually asked her to submit herself to her husband even if that meant watching porn with him. We learn about her divorce, she went through a new church and how she ended up marrying a womanizer who was verbally and emotionally abusive, making her believe she was crazy. Her Mom hired a private investigator and they found a whole sack of porn that they brought to the pastor of this new church who got mad at her for even bringing it up. She had to go through a second divorce. Her and her boys had to go to counseling, they were so scarred from this experience. She says it has been a hell of a road but standing up to what is right and not being silent has been healing. Her family doesn't really want her to tell her story, because we make the victims of abuse believe they shouldn't stand up for it and the people that get protected in the end are the abusers. She is a believer in iron sharpens iron. We learn how she met her 3rd husband who she is in the middle of divorcing at this time. She tells us about losing her precious Mom to brain cancer, moving to California, getting pregnant with her daughter. While in California in less than a year she found out that her husband was having an affair which knocked the wind out of her. She didn't see it coming at all. It is a gripping story you don't want to miss. Tonja is a big believer in telling the truth at all times and that she told her cheating husband he had to admit to their teenage daughter that he was having an affair. Gabrielle and Marcella are 100% on Tonja's side, however Bernie full heartedly disagrees and this starts a fun, passionate discussion between our guest and cast. Don't miss this battle of opinions. <a href="https://www.instagram.com/tonjarenetexastola/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/tonjarenetexastola/</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartman" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartman</a> Party with Miss Polly segment: The role of shame about our sexuality Question of the Day segment You went on a first date and everything is great except your date licks every single finger. Dealbreaker?

#187: Tonja Hartman - "God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling"