Tim Stein's guest appearances

Tim Stein

Truth and Double Daring

Everyday Spirituality

Sex, Love, and Addiction

A Brave New Man

Candice Christiansen

Larry Hedges

Carrie Smith

Christine Hassler

Kerri Hummingbird

Stefanos Sifandos

Helen Fisher

Diana Butler Bass

Tom Ryan

Harville Hendrix

Maddy Moon

Stan Tatkin

Karl Staib

Mel Robbins

Don Hilton

OwlTail

Tim Stein is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, engaged in helping couples find the love they are meant to have. Tim is the co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling in Santa Rosa, and works with sex addicts and their partners providing individual, group, and couples therapy. Tim is a bright and rising star in the field of sex addiction, and speaks about the expected betrayed partner responses, along with the honesty that must be present in order for true healing and recovery to occur.    TAKEAWAYS: [3:19] Tim co-founded Willow Tree Counseling in Santa Rosa, and this gives an opportunity to people on the central coast of California a place to go during this time of trauma and recovery.  [5:32] Tim understood addict recovery, and got to understand the trauma betrayed partners really went through after working with a colleague. This folded into the partners sensitivity movement, which also goes along with the idea of Prodependence.  [7:38] When a partner is betrayed, there are certain “predictable unpredictable” behaviors and responses. This individual has just had their bottom fall out beneath them, and also may have felt denied of their intuition and devalued for quite some time.  [11:04] Even before a cheating partner is caught, chances are their energy is less than completely loving and connected with their partner. They may start to be even more forgetful, cold or distant, and may be resentful towards their partner to try and justify their bad behavior.  [16:10] Partners can pick up on this energy can have autoimmune or libido issues before the cheating is out in the open. They can pick up on the possible shame and guilt the addict feels, and these cues can cause real physical and emotional symptoms.  [19:02] It’s not a comfortable thing to admit struggle and vulnerability, and even tougher when the addict is in recovery. However, it is part of the important process of building back true trust with their partner and loved ones.  [23:05] Most of the relationships that Tim sees fail occur when the addict isn’t able to do the rigorous work of total honesty and disclosure to make their partner feel safe and understood.    RESOURCES:  Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW  Sex Addiction 101   Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men   Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Rob@sexandrelationshiphealing.com  Seeking Integrity  Tim Stein MFT   Willow Tree Santa Rosa   Out of the Dog House    QUOTES:  “It’s hard to love someone and hurt them at the same time.”  “Every lie is going to be seen as an example about how you are probably lying about everything.”  “It’s not a comfortable thing to admit struggle and vulnerability.”  

Tim Stein is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, engaged in helping couples find the love they are meant to have. Tim is the co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling in Santa Rosa, and works with sex addicts and their partners providing individual, group, and couples therapy. Tim is a bright and rising star in the field of sex addiction, and speaks about the expected betrayed partner responses, along with the honesty that must be present in order for true healing and recovery to occur.  TAKEAWAYS: [3:19] Tim co-founded Willow Tree Counseling in Santa Rosa, and this gives an opportunity to people on the central coast of California a place to go during this time of trauma and recovery.  [5:32] Tim understood addict recovery, and got to understand the trauma betrayed partners really went through after working with a colleague. This folded into the partners sensitivity movement, which also goes along with the idea of Prodependence.  [7:38] When a partner is betrayed, there are certain “predictable unpredictable” behaviors and responses. This individual has just had their bottom fall out beneath them, and also may have felt denied of their intuition and devalued for quite some time.  [11:04] Even before a cheating partner is caught, chances are their energy is less than completely loving and connected with their partner. They may start to be even more forgetful, cold or distant, and may be resentful towards their partner to try and justify their bad behavior.  [16:10] Partners can pick up on this energy can have autoimmune or libido issues before the cheating is out in the open. They can pick up on the possible shame and guilt the addict feels, and these cues can cause real physical and emotional symptoms.  [19:02] It’s not a comfortable thing to admit struggle and vulnerability, and even tougher when the addict is in recovery. However, it is part of the important process of building back true trust with their partner and loved ones.  [23:05] Most of the relationships that Tim sees fail occur when the addict isn’t able to do the rigorous work of total honesty and disclosure to make their partner feel safe and understood.  RESOURCES:  <a href="https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex and Relationship Healing</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/robweissmsw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@RobWeissMSW</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Addiction-101-Basic-Healing/dp/0757318436" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Sex Addiction 101 </a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BAEK96A/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men </a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Prodependence-Moving-Codependency-Robert-Weiss/dp/075732035X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency</a> <a href="mailto:Rob@sexandrelationshiphealing.com">Rob@sexandrelationshiphealing.com</a> <a href="https://seekingintegrity.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Seeking Integrity</a> <a href="https://willowtreesantarosa.com/sex-addiction-therapist-contact-us/clinicians" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Tim Stein MFT </a> <a href="https://willowtreesantarosa.com/sex-addiction-therapist-contact-us/clinicians" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Willow Tree Santa Rosa </a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Out-Doghouse-Step-Step-Relationship-Saving/dp/0757319211" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Out of the Dog House </a> QUOTES: <ul> <li>“It’s hard to love someone and hurt them at the same time.” </li> <li>“Every lie is going to be seen as an example about how you are probably lying about everything.” </li> <li>“It’s not a comfortable thing to admit struggle and vulnerability.” </li> </ul>

Betrayal Trauma with Tim Stein

Do you know how trauma is affecting your life? Trauma is often misunderstood as exclusively being a life-threatening event that keeps someone in fear of danger for the rest of their lives. While this IS a type of trauma, there are many covert types of trauma that often go unrecognized and untreated in people’s lives. Relational trauma from our childhood can drastically affect how we attach to people as adults, and it can lead to addictions without us realizing why. In this episode we explore the different types of trauma and discuss how we can begin treating them if they are present in our lives. Our interview with Tim Stein teaches us: 1) What trauma is, 2) How we can recognize its effect on our lives, and 3) What steps we can take to begin healing that trauma and learning to have deeper intimacy in our lives. Tim Stein specializes in sobriety and recovery from sex addiction, betrayed partner healing, and trauma resolution. He facilitates retreats and workshops for addicts, their betrayed partners, and trauma survivors. Tim is a consistent presenter at national conferences. Tim seeks to educate and empower individuals to make the changes necessary for their lives to be well balanced and fulfilling. Tim is a co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling, an outpatient treatment program for sex addicts and betrayed partners. Tim’s book Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction is available on Amazon.

Do you know how trauma is affecting your life? Trauma is often misunderstood as exclusively being a life-threatening event that keeps someone in fear of danger for the rest of their lives. While this IS a type of trauma, there are many covert types of trauma that often go unrecognized and untreated in people’s lives. Relational trauma from our childhood can drastically affect how we attach to people as adults, and it can lead to addictions without us realizing why. In this episode we explore the different types of trauma and discuss how we can begin treating them if they are present in our lives. Our interview with Tim Stein teaches us: 1) What trauma is, 2) How we can recognize its effect on our lives, and 3) What steps we can take to begin healing that trauma and learning to have deeper intimacy in our lives. Tim Stein specializes in sobriety and recovery from sex addiction, betrayed partner healing, and trauma resolution. He facilitates retreats and workshops for addicts, their betrayed partners, and trauma survivors. Tim is a consistent presenter at national conferences. Tim seeks to educate and empower individuals to make the changes necessary for their lives to be well balanced and fulfilling. Tim is a co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling, an outpatient treatment program for sex addicts and betrayed partners. Tim’s book Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction is available on Amazon.

16 | Tim Stein – Trauma and Relationships

This podcast on sex addiction is an intriguing look at the phenomenon and the psychotherapeutic treatment process used in dealing with it. Tim Stein shows the evolution of the disease, normally due to 1) the ease of online introductions and readily available material resulting in extremely compulsive exploration; and/or 2) an early childhood trauma. Tim talks about finding balance with a healthy sexuality through “rewiring” the brain using behavioral shifts and understanding each client’s patterns in usage. He also discusses the effect on relationships and working with the spouse or partner of the addict. It is well worth your time and highly informative, whether this is an issue for you or not.

This podcast on sex addiction is an intriguing look at the phenomenon and the psychotherapeutic treatment process used in dealing with it. Tim Stein shows the evolution of the disease, normally due to 1) the ease of online introductions and readily available material resulting in extremely compulsive exploration; and/or 2) an early childhood trauma. Tim talks about finding balance with a healthy sexuality through “rewiring” the brain using behavioral shifts and understanding each client’s patterns in usage. He also discusses the effect on relationships and working with the spouse or partner of the addict. It is well worth your time and highly informative, whether this is an issue for you or not.

Interview with Tim Stein

In this episode, I talk with Tim Stein about his new company, which is called "Verse 4."  We discuss his unusual path to ministry and the work he is doing helping congregations with their buildings, as they transition to a new way of doing ministry.

In this episode, I talk with Tim Stein about his new company, which is called "Verse 4."  We discuss his unusual path to ministry and the work he is doing helping congregations with their buildings, as they transition to a new way of doing ministry.