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Shireen Meistrich

Divorce Dialogues

Denise Seidelman

Allison Williams

Chris Voss

Kristin Neff

Carl Pickhardt

Deborah Tannen

Jill Murray

Nancy Colier

Kyle Wright

Stacy Francis

David Hoffman

Karyl McBride

Philip Segal

Terry Gaspard

Michelle Smith

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Divorce is a difficult emotional journey, regardless of the circumstances. But in most cases, the divorcing partners are in very different places along that journey. The person leaning out has likely been thinking about ending the marriage for a long time, while the other is a bit of a ‘deer in headlights’ and needs time to catch up emotionally. What role can a divorce coach play in helping the couple navigate this common disconnect?

Divorce is a difficult emotional journey, regardless of the circumstances. But in most cases, the divorcing partners are in very different places along that journey. The person leaning out has likely been thinking about ending the marriage for a long time, while the other is a bit of a ‘deer in headlights’ and needs time to catch up emotionally. What role can a divorce coach play in helping the couple navigate this common disconnect?

Ep. 022 THE UNIQUE EMOTIONAL JOURNEY OF DIVORCE - Shireen Meistrich

Divorce is a difficult emotional journey, regardless of the circumstances. But in most cases, the divorcing partners are in very different places along that journey. The person leaning out has likely been thinking about ending the marriage for a long time, while the other is a bit of a ‘deer in headlights’ and needs time to catch up emotionally. What role can a divorce coach play in helping the couple navigate this common disconnect?Shireen Meistrich is the President of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, and she has served on the leadership team of the Collaborative Divorce Association of New Jersey since 2007. Shireen has spent the last ten years working as a collaborative divorce coach, helping families increase communication and decrease conflict through the alternative dispute-resolution process. She is skilled in managing the emotional hurdles that present as obstacles toward an effective resolution.Today, Shireen sits down with Katherine to share her ‘train station’ analogy, explaining how common it is for the initiator to be much further along in the emotional journey of divorce. She discusses the very serious nature of the decision to divorce and the reason why she recommends discernment therapy before couples make the final decision. Shireen walks us through her approach to determining the needs of her clients, describing what the transformational process can look like and how to honor the emotional journey while working toward a resolution. Listen in for insight around effectively communicating your needs and wants during the divorce process and developing a successful co-parenting relationship.Topics CoveredThe emotional disconnect between the person leaning in vs. leaning outThe family counselor’s role in helping couples make the decision to divorceThe very serious nature of the decision to divorceHow Shireen honors the history of a divorcing couple’s marriageHow discernment therapy helps a couple see if there’s any viability to the marriageHow Shireen determines the unique needs of her clientsWhat a transformational process looks like in the collaborative divorce setting•	Let go of marital conflict dynamic•	Develop healthy co-parenting relationshipThe challenge of transitioning to a healthier place during a time of heightened anxietyThe balance between mining the emotional journey and reaching a respectful resolutionHow to communicate your needs and interests effectively during the divorce processWhat a successful post-divorce co-parenting relationship looks like•	Demonstrate respect for each other•	Seamlessly follow plan (e.g.: sit together at events)Shireen’s advice around having patience and respect for your former spouseConnect with Shireen MeistrichShireen’s Website: http://njcollaborativelaw.com/shireen-b-meistrich-lcsw/Call (201) 791-1560ResourcesInternational Academy of Collaborative Professionals: https://www.collaborativepractice.com/Collaborative Divorce Association of New Jersey: http://collaborativedivorceassociationofnorthjersey.com/Connect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.comCall (914) 738-7765

Divorce is a difficult emotional journey, regardless of the circumstances. But in most cases, the divorcing partners are in very different places along that journey. The person leaning out has likely been thinking about ending the marriage for a long time, while the other is a bit of a ‘deer in headlights’ and needs time to catch up emotionally. What role can a divorce coach play in helping the couple navigate this common disconnect? Shireen Meistrich is the President of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, and she has served on the leadership team of the Collaborative Divorce Association of New Jersey since 2007. Shireen has spent the last ten years working as a collaborative divorce coach, helping families increase communication and decrease conflict through the alternative dispute-resolution process. She is skilled in managing the emotional hurdles that present as obstacles toward an effective resolution. Today, Shireen sits down with Katherine to share her ‘train station’ analogy, explaining how common it is for the initiator to be much further along in the emotional journey of divorce. She discusses the very serious nature of the decision to divorce and the reason why she recommends discernment therapy before couples make the final decision. Shireen walks us through her approach to determining the needs of her clients, describing what the transformational process can look like and how to honor the emotional journey while working toward a resolution. Listen in for insight around effectively communicating your needs and wants during the divorce process and developing a successful co-parenting relationship. Topics Covered The emotional disconnect between the person leaning in vs. leaning out The family counselor’s role in helping couples make the decision to divorce The very serious nature of the decision to divorce How Shireen honors the history of a divorcing couple’s marriage How discernment therapy helps a couple see if there’s any viability to the marriage How Shireen determines the unique needs of her clients What a transformational process looks like in the collaborative divorce setting •	Let go of marital conflict dynamic •	Develop healthy co-parenting relationship The challenge of transitioning to a healthier place during a time of heightened anxiety The balance between mining the emotional journey and reaching a respectful resolution How to communicate your needs and interests effectively during the divorce process What a successful post-divorce co-parenting relationship looks like •	Demonstrate respect for each other •	Seamlessly follow plan (e.g.: sit together at events) Shireen’s advice around having patience and respect for your former spouse Connect with Shireen Meistrich Shireen’s Website: <a href="http://njcollaborativelaw.com/shireen-b-meistrich-lcsw/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://njcollaborativelaw.com/shireen-b-meistrich-lcsw/</a> Call (201) 791-1560 Resources International Academy of Collaborative Professionals: <a href="https://www.collaborativepractice.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.collaborativepractice.com/</a> Collaborative Divorce Association of New Jersey: <a href="http://collaborativedivorceassociationofnorthjersey.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://collaborativedivorceassociationofnorthjersey.com/</a> Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: <a href="http://understandinginconflict.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://understandinginconflict.org/</a> Miller Law Group: <a href="https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/</a> Katherine on LinkedIn: <a href="http://linkedin.com/in/kemiller1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">linkedin.com/in/kemiller1</a> The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246</a> Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

The Unique Emotional Journey of Divorce with Shireen Meistrich