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Ann Jackler

Divorce Dialogues

Denise Seidelman

Allison Williams

Chris Voss

Kristin Neff

Carl Pickhardt

Deborah Tannen

Jill Murray

Nancy Colier

Kyle Wright

Stacy Francis

David Hoffman

Karyl McBride

Philip Segal

Terry Gaspard

Michelle Smith

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As humans, we are wired to connect. So, if you are beginning to question your partner’s support, you are likely to feel a ‘primal panic’ that sets up a fight-or-flight response. Taking steps to repair the relationship early on can heal that disconnect, but many couples wait too long and find themselves trapped in a heightened conflict dynamic. How do you know when the bonds are too fractured to be fixed? What should you consider in making the difficult decision to divorce?

As humans, we are wired to connect. So, if you are beginning to question your partner’s support, you are likely to feel a ‘primal panic’ that sets up a fight-or-flight response. Taking steps to repair the relationship early on can heal that disconnect, but many couples wait too long and find themselves trapped in a heightened conflict dynamic. How do you know when the bonds are too fractured to be fixed? What should you consider in making the difficult decision to divorce?

Ep. 001: MAKING THE DECISION TO DIVORCE - Ann Jackler

As humans, we are wired to connect. So, if you are beginning to question your partner’s support, you are likely to feel a ‘primal panic’ that sets up a fight-or-flight response. Taking steps to repair the relationship early on can heal that disconnect, but many couples wait too long and find themselves trapped in a heightened conflict dynamic. How do you know when the bonds are too fractured to be fixed? What should you consider in making the difficult decision to divorce?Ann Jackler is a psychotherapist specializing in individual and couples treatment. Her expertise is focused on issues related to premarital, marital, separation and divorce therapy, and she has led several separation and divorce psychotherapy support groups through the years. Ann has a master’s degree in social work and post-master’s training from the Ackerman Institute as well as the Family Institute of Westchester. She serves as an adjunct lecturer at the NYU School of Social Work and the Fordham School of Social Service. Ann has 30-plus years of experience in private practice, and her office is located in Scarsdale, New York.Today, Ann sits down with Katherine to discuss the factors couples should consider in making the decision to divorce. She offers insight on the foundational issues that lead to disconnect in a relationship and explains why she invites couples to slow down before choosing divorce. Ann walks us through the components of a successful marriage and describes how a therapist can help you repair the fractured bonds or navigate the loss if you do make the decision to divorce. Listen in to understand the significance of exploring your relationship story and learn how the collaborative divorce option incorporates mental health professionals who provide support during this vulnerable time.Topics CoveredWhat leads couples to make the decision to divorceHow a breakdown in communication leads to conflictAnn’s insight on the disconnect between couples1.	Are you there for me?2.	Do my feelings matter to you?3.	Do you make me feel safe?Why Ann invites couples to slow down before choosing divorceHow our ‘primal panic’ sets up a fight-or-flight responseThe protective measures of blame, contempt, defensiveness and withdrawalThe components of a successful marriage•	Ability to negotiate differences•	Foundation of friendship, humorThe significance of seeking counseling as soon as the bonds begin to fractureHow the decision to divorce heightens a couple’s conflict dynamicExamining your own participation in the breakdown of a relationshipHow mental health professionals can support you in the divorce process•	Work through renegotiation of roles, new family structure•	Help grieve separation and lossConnect with Ann JacklerCall (914) 725-7985Connect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.comCall (914) 738-7765

As humans, we are wired to connect. So, if you are beginning to question your partner’s support, you are likely to feel a ‘primal panic’ that sets up a fight-or-flight response. Taking steps to repair the relationship early on can heal that disconnect, but many couples wait too long and find themselves trapped in a heightened conflict dynamic. How do you know when the bonds are too fractured to be fixed? What should you consider in making the difficult decision to divorce? Ann Jackler is a psychotherapist specializing in individual and couples treatment. Her expertise is focused on issues related to premarital, marital, separation and divorce therapy, and she has led several separation and divorce psychotherapy support groups through the years. Ann has a master’s degree in social work and post-master’s training from the Ackerman Institute as well as the Family Institute of Westchester. She serves as an adjunct lecturer at the NYU School of Social Work and the Fordham School of Social Service. Ann has 30-plus years of experience in private practice, and her office is located in Scarsdale, New York. Today, Ann sits down with Katherine to discuss the factors couples should consider in making the decision to divorce. She offers insight on the foundational issues that lead to disconnect in a relationship and explains why she invites couples to slow down before choosing divorce. Ann walks us through the components of a successful marriage and describes how a therapist can help you repair the fractured bonds or navigate the loss if you do make the decision to divorce. Listen in to understand the significance of exploring your relationship story and learn how the collaborative divorce option incorporates mental health professionals who provide support during this vulnerable time. Topics Covered What leads couples to make the decision to divorce How a breakdown in communication leads to conflict Ann’s insight on the disconnect between couples 1.	Are you there for me? 2.	Do my feelings matter to you? 3.	Do you make me feel safe? Why Ann invites couples to slow down before choosing divorce How our ‘primal panic’ sets up a fight-or-flight response The protective measures of blame, contempt, defensiveness and withdrawal The components of a successful marriage •	Ability to negotiate differences •	Foundation of friendship, humor The significance of seeking counseling as soon as the bonds begin to fracture How the decision to divorce heightens a couple’s conflict dynamic Examining your own participation in the breakdown of a relationship How mental health professionals can support you in the divorce process •	Work through renegotiation of roles, new family structure •	Help grieve separation and loss Connect with Ann Jackler Call (914) 725-7985 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: <a href="http://understandinginconflict.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://understandinginconflict.org/</a> Miller Law Group: <a href="https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/</a> Katherine on LinkedIn: <a href="http://linkedin.com/in/kemiller1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">linkedin.com/in/kemiller1</a> The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246</a> Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

Making the Decision to Divorce with Ann Jackler, MSW, LCSW