Miki Speer's guest appearances

Miki Speer

Headfirst Radio

It's Hard

That Gratitude Guy Podcast with David George Brooke - "That Gratitude Guy"

Lindsey Simcik

Jane Duncan Rogers

Scott Wetzel

Michael Anthony

Stephanie James

Lauren Cook

Sarah Nelson

Kyle Mitchell

Mark Davis

Taylor King

Kelsey Erickson

Susan McConnell

Brook Sheehan

Tom Paladino

Suzanne Taylor

OwlTail

Miki Speer is a grief musician, author, and talkshow host who lost her mom to cancer at 13. She is dedicated to creating content that helps people lean into their own wounds, as well as learn how to help others in our community better. She discusses her own journey on how to go from a loss of a loved one to a place of healing.

"Coping with Grief" with Special Guest Miki Speer

At age 13, Miki Speer lost her mother to cancer. Miki pushed this trauma down, claiming “I’m fine” out of fear of standing out when all she wanted to do was fit in. This unprocessed grief lasted a decade until finally, in college, she started experiencing its impact. She began crying at the drop of a hat and her relationships with friends, school, and sports faced negative repercussions. Miki went to a doctor, simply thinking she had a tear duct problem! Instead, she learned her “mystery crying” was years of pent up grief and trauma that hadn't had anywhere to go. She went to counseling and began working through her grief, which inspired the brand she has created today. Through her music, books, and shows, Miki Speer’s mission is to create impactful content that helps people process their grief and teach others how to help grievers.In this episode, Miki explains what you can do to help yourself + others with their loss, explains the phases of grief, discusses “loss-privilege”, resilience, comparison, and more. Grief looks so different for everyone and it is important to remember these three things:Don’t bring it up in public. While sympathy is greatly appreciated, no-one wants to be the one to stand out. This is especially true for kids, as they work so hard to fit in and be normal.Remind the grieving person that their loss matters. Their life is going to change, even when the world spins on as normal. Let them know that it is okay to take a step back and process things and it is okay to be sad. Remember that grief is vulnerable. Opening up is hard; it is emotional, raw, and not something people will be comfortable talking about with everyone. Don’t expect someone to open up right away--just be a safe spot and be there in other aspects of their life. We all have unprocessed grief, whether that is a family death, the loss of significant experiences due to COVID-19, or a friend moving away. It is important to take pressure off of yourself because any loss deserves respect, time, and sympathy. Avoid comparison and don't dismiss grief just because it isn't as extreme as something else. Let yourself heal, no matter how large or small its impact was. Grief is hard. We aren’t taught how to be resilient, it is something you train and strengthen as you go through life. Being a support for yourself and others through tough times is key... Miki is a force in teaching us how! We also talk about…Types of losses: cancer, suicide, non-death relatedThe grief pitPrivilege Comparison TrustResilienceVulnerabilityHow to process griefMiki’s Resources:Website: www.mikispeer.comIt's Hard Resources:https://www.itshardpodcast.comFollow It's Hard on Instagram if you don't already! I share updates on the episodes, chats about mental health and other parts of my life--go check out https://www.instagram.com/itshardpodcast/Rate, Review and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-hard/id1487375933NEW WEBSITE: https://www.itshardpodcast.comNow find us on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@itshardpodcastJoin me in It's Hard. You'll love it as much as I do. https://it-s-hard.mn.co/feed?autojoin=1It's Hard is edited by Sather Audio https://www.instagram.com/satheraudio/Hearts 4 Henry: https://www.instagram.com/hearts_4_henry/https://www.etsy.com/shop/Hearts4Henry?ref=l2-about-shopname

At age 13, Miki Speer lost her mother to cancer. Miki pushed this trauma down, claiming “I’m fine” out of fear of standing out when all she wanted to do was fit in. This unprocessed grief lasted a decade until finally, in college, she started experiencing its impact. She began crying at the drop of a hat and her relationships with friends, school, and sports faced negative repercussions. Miki went to a doctor, simply thinking she had a tear duct problem! Instead, she learned her “mystery crying” was years of pent up grief and trauma that hadn't had anywhere to go. She went to counseling and began working through her grief, which inspired the brand she has created today. Through her music, books, and shows, Miki Speer’s mission is to create impactful content that helps people process their grief and teach others how to help grievers.In this episode, Miki explains what you can do to help yourself + others with their loss, explains the phases of grief, discusses “loss-privilege”, resilience, comparison, and more. Grief looks so different for everyone and it is important to remember these three things:<ol><li>Don’t bring it up in public. While sympathy is greatly appreciated, no-one wants to be the one to stand out. This is especially true for kids, as they work so hard to fit in and be normal.</li><li>Remind the grieving person that their loss matters. Their life is going to change, even when the world spins on as normal. Let them know that it is okay to take a step back and process things and it is okay to be sad. </li><li>Remember that grief is vulnerable. Opening up is hard; it is emotional, raw, and not something people will be comfortable talking about with everyone. Don’t expect someone to open up right away--just be a safe spot and be there in other aspects of their life. </li></ol>We all have unprocessed grief, whether that is a family death, the loss of significant experiences due to COVID-19, or a friend moving away. It is important to take pressure off of yourself because any loss deserves respect, time, and sympathy. Avoid comparison and don't dismiss grief just because it isn't as extreme as something else. Let yourself heal, no matter how large or small its impact was. Grief is hard. We aren’t taught how to be resilient, it is something you train and strengthen as you go through life. Being a support for yourself and others through tough times is key... Miki is a force in teaching us how! We also talk about…<ul><li>Types of losses: cancer, suicide, non-death related</li><li>The grief pit</li><li>Privilege </li><li>Comparison </li><li>Trust</li><li>Resilience</li><li>Vulnerability</li><li>How to process grief</li></ul>Miki’s Resources:<ul><li>Website: <a href="http://www.mikispeer.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.mikispeer.com</a></li></ul>It's Hard Resources:<ul><li><a href="https://www.itshardpodcast.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.itshardpodcast.com</a></li><li>Follow It's Hard on Instagram if you don't already! I share updates on the episodes, chats about mental health and other parts of my life--go check out<a href="https://www.instagram.com/itshardpodcast/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.instagram.com/itshardpodcast/</a></li><li>Rate, Review and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts!<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-hard/id1487375933" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-hard/id1487375933</a></li><li>NEW WEBSITE:<a href="https://www.itshardpodcast.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.itshardpodcast.com</a></li><li>Now find us on TikTok! <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@itshardpodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.tiktok.com/@itshardpodcast</a></li><li>Join me in It's Hard. You'll love it as much as I do. <a href="https://it-s-hard.mn.co/feed?autojoin=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://it-s-hard.mn.co/feed?autojoin=1</a></li></ul>It's Hard is edited by Sather Audio <a href="https://www.instagram.com/satheraudio/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/satheraudio/</a>Hearts 4 Henry: <a href="https://dashboard.simplecast.com/accounts/532314f6-e00f-4f4f-90e6-78e5eaa9fbdd/shows/d4cb266e-f848-401f-823c-4392f3321fbd/episodes/573d2d77-f100-4114-9870-4513dd0b36ff/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/hearts_4_henry/</a><a href="https://dashboard.simplecast.com/accounts/532314f6-e00f-4f4f-90e6-78e5eaa9fbdd/shows/d4cb266e-f848-401f-823c-4392f3321fbd/episodes/573d2d77-f100-4114-9870-4513dd0b36ff/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.etsy.com/shop/Hearts4Henry?ref=l2-about-shopname</a>

Enduring, Processing, and Overcoming Grief with Miki Speer