Rafa Robert's guest appearances

Rafa Robert

Catalyst Podcast

Married People Podcast

Have More Fun with Mandy Arioto

Kara Powell

Harris III

Shannon Miles

Ben Higgins

Jon Acuff

Carey Nieuwhof

Jeff Henderson

Danielle Strickland

Tim Elmore

Mike Foster

Carlos Whittaker

Earl McClellan

Kayla Stoecklein

Craig Groeschel

Judah Smith

OwlTail

Description: In this episode Mandy talks with Rafa Robert about love, money and dragons.   Selected Links: brightpeak financial Love and Money Podcast Text "moneybetter" to 31996 for free resources Book: Happy Money www.RaiseGenerousKids.com The Paper Bag Princess Book MOPS Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine &amp; Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris &amp; pema.bandcamp.com   Show Notes: 1:00 Introduction- The Paper Bag Princess 4:50 Recognizing what matters in life 5:41 Introducing Rafa Robert 6:25 Amazon Prime and the 2 Day Cooling off period 6:52 What's the best tip for managing the small financial decisions 7:26 Fast brain vs. Slow brain 8:12 Living within your means matters most 8:25 How much should I spend on a house and car 9:30 Have a plan 10:50 What advice do you have for couple who have different spending styles 11:28 We are designed differently to help us out 12:06 We have different values and priorities 12:36 What to do to approach to topic of money in a relationship 13:25 The FUN fund 14:20 Joint account vs. separate accounts (what does the research say?) 15:44 50+ years of research says this... 16:17 Be one team (God's money and our money... not your money, my money) 17:20 What are you seeing with people with debt 18:35 What's one conversation about money that couples are not having 19:10 Understanding our spouse's "why" behind financial decisions 20:12 When the "How" feels different 21:07 How our beliefs about money as parents influence our kids 21:33 More is caught than taught 22:14 The relationship with money is much more practical 23:11 More may not make us happy 23:50 Training our kids on money 25:12 How to live off 20% of your income 25:30 Challenging the perspective of "The More I Give, The Less I Have" 25:47 How does generosity impact the financial health of families 26:30 Well Being 26:44 Can you say you feel like you have enough for your family and life 28:15 The correlation between generosity and health 28:45 Where do you start when a couple has different beliefs about money and giving 30:36 Take the small wins and focus on the positives 31:15 Same Page Small Steps vs. Doing it right With One Person On Board 32:01 What does living a remarkable life look like for you 34:35 What we remember from our childhood 35:10 What is the best advice you never got 37:13 What are you doing currently to have more fun 38:10 Being the embarrassing dad (a.k.a. being cringy) 38:55 When dads playing soccer pull hamstrings 39:50 The new scoreboard for dad soccer 40:20 Giving different advice on the sideline 41:02 What is next for you and "Love and Money" 43:15 Be and unbeatable team, and make space to live within our means so we can give and save and live.

Description: In this episode Mandy talks with Rafa Robert about love, money and dragons. Selected Links: <a href="https://www.brightpeakfinancial.com/?utm_medium=PARTN&amp;utm_source=MOPS&amp;utm_campaign=MOPS_MOM&amp;utm_content=BPF_MKTG_MOPSWEB&amp;utm_term=MOPS_MOPS_POD_WEBPAGE" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">brightpeak financial</a> <a href="https://spotlight.brightpeakfinancial.com/love-and-money-podcast/?utm_medium=PARTN&amp;utm_source=MOPS&amp;utm_campaign=MOPS_MOM&amp;utm_content=BPF_MKTG_MOPSWEB&amp;utm_term=MOPS_MOPS_POD_WEBPAGE_LMPODLINK" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Love and Money Podcast</a> Text "moneybetter" to 31996 for free resources <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Money-Science-Happier-Spending/dp/1451665075" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Book: Happy Money</a> <a href="http://www.RaiseGenerousKids.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.RaiseGenerousKids.com</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Paper-Bag-Princess-Robert-Munsch/dp/0920236251" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Paper Bag Princess Book</a> <a href="https://www.mops.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">MOPS</a> Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine &amp; Blue Skies" <a href="http://soundcloud.com/philipemorris" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">soundcloud.com/philipemorris</a> &amp; <a href="http://pema.bandcamp.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">pema.bandcamp.com</a> Show Notes: 1:00 Introduction- The Paper Bag Princess 4:50 Recognizing what matters in life 5:41 Introducing Rafa Robert 6:25 Amazon Prime and the 2 Day Cooling off period 6:52 What's the best tip for managing the small financial decisions 7:26 Fast brain vs. Slow brain 8:12 Living within your means matters most 8:25 How much should I spend on a house and car 9:30 Have a plan 10:50 What advice do you have for couple who have different spending styles 11:28 We are designed differently to help us out 12:06 We have different values and priorities 12:36 What to do to approach to topic of money in a relationship 13:25 The FUN fund 14:20 Joint account vs. separate accounts (what does the research say?) 15:44 50+ years of research says this... 16:17 Be one team (God's money and our money... not your money, my money) 17:20 What are you seeing with people with debt 18:35 What's one conversation about money that couples are not having 19:10 Understanding our spouse's "why" behind financial decisions 20:12 When the "How" feels different 21:07 How our beliefs about money as parents influence our kids 21:33 More is caught than taught 22:14 The relationship with money is much more practical 23:11 More may not make us happy 23:50 Training our kids on money 25:12 How to live off 20% of your income 25:30 Challenging the perspective of "The More I Give, The Less I Have" 25:47 How does generosity impact the financial health of families 26:30 Well Being 26:44 Can you say you feel like you have enough for your family and life 28:15 The correlation between generosity and health 28:45 Where do you start when a couple has different beliefs about money and giving 30:36 Take the small wins and focus on the positives 31:15 Same Page Small Steps vs. Doing it right With One Person On Board 32:01 What does living a remarkable life look like for you 34:35 What we remember from our childhood 35:10 What is the best advice you never got 37:13 What are you doing currently to have more fun 38:10 Being the embarrassing dad (a.k.a. being cringy) 38:55 When dads playing soccer pull hamstrings 39:50 The new scoreboard for dad soccer 40:20 Giving different advice on the sideline 41:02 What is next for you and "Love and Money" 43:15 Be and unbeatable team, and make space to live within our means so we can give and save and live.

Love and Money- An Interview With Rafa Robert

Shaunti Feldhahn

On this episode of the Catalyst Podcast Tyler Reagin hosts a roundtable conversation with Mike Foster, Shaunti Feldhahn, Jon Acuff, and Rafa Robert from Brightpeak around the conversation of money – how do we broach the conversation of financial stewardship with our churches, our spouses, and examine our own relationship with money.  

On this episode of the Catalyst Podcast Tyler Reagin hosts a roundtable conversation with Mike Foster, Shaunti Feldhahn, Jon Acuff, and Rafa Robert from Brightpeak around the conversation of money – how do we broach the conversation of financial stewardship with our churches, our spouses, and examine our own relationship with money.

Episode 494: Financial Roundtable with Brightpeak // Mike Foster, Shaunti Feldhahn, Jon Acuff, and Rafa Robert from Brightpeak

Money is a big deal in any marriage, so we knew we wanted to talk about finances. Whether you share our Chili’s 2 for $22 obsession, have discovered the joy of Movie Pass, or maybe want to save for a ticket to outer space, we feel you! Join us as we talk about this topic with our friend Rafa Robert.  Interview with Rafa Robert Rafa Robert is the Director of Love and Money at Brightpeak Financial. They focus on helping couples thrive in their relationship with money and each other. Rafa has a B.A. in Religion, Theology and Ethics as well as a Masters in Counseling Psychology. He has been married for 20 years and is a dad to two “mid-west-Rican” kids. The Tension: Money is challenging Rafa: Young couples that argue about financials on a regular basis in the first five years are 70% more likely to get divorced. We wanted to find out why this is such a tension. We’ve found that it’s bigger than a budget – there’s all this stuff going on under the surface that is more than spending and saving. Finances touch on differences in values.  There are five dimensions to our relationship with money. Understanding the motivation your spouse has when it comes to money can make all the difference.  Spiritual – What do I believe about God and resources? Cultural – Our family upbringing, even the part of the country you grew up in Emotional – Are you anxious about money, are you extroverted/introverted, etc. Behavioral – Are you good with your habits/goals? Practical - Do you know the right things to do with money?  Ted: If nothing else from this interview, being able to step back and ask what your spouses’ heart is when it comes to finances could be so impactful. Rafa: We did some studies when we created our  Love &amp; Money Assessment and we found how impactful it is to be valued and heard when it comes to money. Jesus talks more about money than just about anything in the Bible and there’s a reason for that. When you choose to understand each other’s story and speak each other’s language, that’s huge. Truth: Money can be a catalyst of connection or disconnection. Your one simple thing for this week: Ask your spouse about their first memory when it comes to money. It’s a really easy conversation to have, but you’re tapping into some truths around why the story came to mind. You’re learning about each other and gaining some awareness about their money story. That one simple thing can help you work together to be better together! Afton: The first time I remember addressing money in my family was around Christmas in 1999. We got a Gateway computer and I told my parents that Santa had to be real because there was no way we could afford that computer. I didn’t think they could ever spend that much money on something ‘frivolous’. CJ: Money really hit home when I was in middle school. My dad worked in the car industry at a dealership and the industry was struggling. They were consolidating brands and my family started praying that my dad’s dealership wouldn’t get shut down. That’s when I realized it was because we needed money.  Ted: My dad is a cotton farmer and my aunt, who served a mom role after my mom passed away, had two very different views of money. My dad’s mood was based on the weather that fed the crops – it was great when it rained. Then I had my aunt who had money, appreciated nicer things and felt that I should have them. I always felt torn when it came to money. We hope this question gets you talking about money with your spouse! Thanks for joining us for the Married People Podcast! We hope today’s episode helped you realize that marriage is a little easier than you may think. We hope you’ll subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave a review – they help us make the podcast better. Visit us on Facebook or Instagram. If you want more resources, check out  Your Best Us, our blog at MarriedPeople.org and Brightpeak Financial. Finally, we hope you’ll join us for next week’s episode!

Money is a big deal in any marriage, so we knew we wanted to talk about finances. Whether you share our <a href="https://www.chilis.com/menu/specials/dinner-for-2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chili’s 2 for $22</a> obsession, have discovered the joy of <a href="https://www.moviepass.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Movie Pass</a>, or maybe want to save for a <a href="https://www.virgingalactic.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ticket to outer space</a>, we feel you! Join us as we talk about this topic with our friend Rafa Robert.  Interview with Rafa Robert Rafa Robert is the Director of Love and Money at <a href="https://www.brightpeakfinancial.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brightpeak Financial</a>. They focus on helping couples thrive in their relationship with money and each other. Rafa has a B.A. in Religion, Theology and Ethics as well as a Masters in Counseling Psychology. He has been married for 20 years and is a dad to two “mid-west-Rican” kids. The Tension: Money is challenging Rafa: Young couples that argue about financials on a regular basis in the first five years are 70% more likely to get divorced. We wanted to find out why this is such a tension. We’ve found that it’s bigger than a budget – there’s all this stuff going on under the surface that is more than spending and saving. Finances touch on differences in values.  There are five dimensions to our relationship with money. Understanding the motivation your spouse has when it comes to money can make all the difference. <ol> <li>Spiritual – What do I believe about God and resources?</li> <li>Cultural – Our family upbringing, even the part of the country you grew up in</li> <li>Emotional – Are you anxious about money, are you extroverted/introverted, etc.</li> <li>Behavioral – Are you good with your habits/goals?</li> <li>Practical - Do you know the right things to do with money?</li> </ol> Ted: If nothing else from this interview, being able to step back and ask what your spouses’ heart is when it comes to finances could be so impactful. Rafa: We did some studies when we created our <a href="https://spotlight.brightpeakfinancial.com/relationship-assessment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Love &amp; Money Assessment</a> and we found how impactful it is to be valued and heard when it comes to money. Jesus talks more about money than just about anything in the Bible and there’s a reason for that. When you choose to understand each other’s story and speak each other’s language, that’s huge. Truth: Money can be a catalyst of connection or disconnection. Your one simple thing for this week: Ask your spouse about their first memory when it comes to money. It’s a really easy conversation to have, but you’re tapping into some truths around why the story came to mind. You’re learning about each other and gaining some awareness about their money story. That one simple thing can help you work together to be better together! Afton: The first time I remember addressing money in my family was around Christmas in 1999. We got a Gateway computer and I told my parents that Santa had to be real because there was no way we could afford that computer. I didn’t think they could ever spend that much money on something ‘frivolous’. CJ: Money really hit home when I was in middle school. My dad worked in the car industry at a dealership and the industry was struggling. They were consolidating brands and my family started praying that my dad’s dealership wouldn’t get shut down. That’s when I realized it was because we needed money.  Ted: My dad is a cotton farmer and my aunt, who served a mom role after my mom passed away, had two very different views of money. My dad’s mood was based on the weather that fed the crops – it was great when it rained. Then I had my aunt who had money, appreciated nicer things and felt that I should have them. I always felt torn when it came to money. We hope this question gets you talking about money with your spouse! Thanks for joining us for the Married People Podcast! We hope today’s episode helped you realize that marriage is a little easier than you may think. We hope you’ll subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave a review – they help us make the podcast better. Visit us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/marriedpeople/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/married_people/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. If you want more resources, check out <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Your-Best-Us-Marriage-Easier/dp/1941259995" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Your Best Us</a>, our blog at <a href="http://MarriedPeople.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MarriedPeople.org</a> and <a href="https://www.brightpeakfinancial.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brightpeak Financial</a>. Finally, we hope you’ll join us for next week’s episode!

MP 023: How do we live out for richer or for poorer? (with Rafa Robert)