Micki McWade's guest appearances

Micki McWade

AuthorTalk 2

Divorce Dialogues

Denise Seidelman

Allison Williams

Chris Voss

Kristin Neff

Carl Pickhardt

Deborah Tannen

Jill Murray

Nancy Colier

Kyle Wright

Stacy Francis

David Hoffman

Karyl McBride

Philip Segal

Terry Gaspard

Michelle Smith

OwlTail

No parent wants to hurt their children, yet the conflict dynamic that generally accompanies the divorce process can be very painful, particularly in a litigated case. Even parents with the best of intentions inadvertently engage in behaviors that seem innocuous to them—but cause their kids distress. The collaborative process seeks to approach divorce in a child-centered way, and the divorce coach is tasked with educating parents in how children experience divorce.

No parent wants to hurt their children, yet the conflict dynamic that generally accompanies the divorce process can be very painful, particularly in a litigated case. Even parents with the best of intentions inadvertently engage in behaviors that seem innocuous to them—but cause their kids distress. The collaborative process seeks to approach divorce in a child-centered way, and the divorce coach is tasked with educating parents in how children experience divorce.

Ep. 003 APPROACHING DIVORCE IN A CHILD-CENTERED WAY - Micki McWade

No parent wants to hurt their children, yet the conflict dynamic that generally accompanies the divorce process can be very painful, particularly in a litigated case. Even parents with the best of intentions inadvertently engage in behaviors that seem innocuous to them—but cause their kids distress. The collaborative process seeks to approach divorce in a child-centered way, and the divorce coach is tasked with educating parents in how children experience divorce.Micki McWade is an experienced collaborative divorce coach, psychotherapist and parent educator. She has been working in the space since 1993, when she designed the Twelve Step Divorce Recovery Group model. She continues to facilitate Twelve Step groups and teach Parents Apart classes, which help parents recognize and avoid the pitfalls of divorce for children. Micki has been on the faculty of several national conferences, and she serves as a trainer of basic and advanced collaborative practice. She is the author of four books about recovering from divorce and the collaborative process. Today, Micki sits down with Katherine to discuss the role of the divorce coach in the collaborative process, explaining how she facilitates communication between the divorcing partners and helps them both feel heard and understood. She speaks to the child-centered nature of the process and offers insight around behaviors that hurt children during and after their parents’ divorce. Listen in for information about the 12-step recovery group Micki facilitates and learn how it supports people in transitioning to a new reality after divorce.Topics CoveredThe role of the divorce coach in the collaborative processHow the divorce coach reinterprets dialogue to reduce tension How feeling heard and understood establishes trust How mental health professionals in the collaborative setting put children firstMicki’s insight around behaviors that hurt children in the divorce processThe notion of parents as the ‘executive committee’The value in learning to communicate with your ex in a constructive mannerHow mediation and collaborative approach divorce in a child-centered wayMicki’s 12-step separation and divorce recovery group•	Support through ‘gateway to new reality’•	Move forward, overcome feelings of isolationConnect with Micki McWadeMicki’s Website: http://thedivorcecoach.com/ResourcesGetting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery by Micki McWade: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768XDaily Meditations: For Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce by Micki McWade: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768XHealing You, Healing Me: A Divorce Group Leader’s Guide by Micki McWade: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-You-Me-Divorce-Leaders/dp/1891400657/ref=la_B001JP0SZM_1_3?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524707788&amp;sr=1-3Connect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.comCall (914) 738-7765

No parent wants to hurt their children, yet the conflict dynamic that generally accompanies the divorce process can be very painful, particularly in a litigated case. Even parents with the best of intentions inadvertently engage in behaviors that seem innocuous to them—but cause their kids distress. The collaborative process seeks to approach divorce in a child-centered way, and the divorce coach is tasked with educating parents in how children experience divorce. Micki McWade is an experienced collaborative divorce coach, psychotherapist and parent educator. She has been working in the space since 1993, when she designed the Twelve Step Divorce Recovery Group model. She continues to facilitate Twelve Step groups and teach Parents Apart classes, which help parents recognize and avoid the pitfalls of divorce for children. Micki has been on the faculty of several national conferences, and she serves as a trainer of basic and advanced collaborative practice. She is the author of four books about recovering from divorce and the collaborative process. Today, Micki sits down with Katherine to discuss the role of the divorce coach in the collaborative process, explaining how she facilitates communication between the divorcing partners and helps them both feel heard and understood. She speaks to the child-centered nature of the process and offers insight around behaviors that hurt children during and after their parents’ divorce. Listen in for information about the 12-step recovery group Micki facilitates and learn how it supports people in transitioning to a new reality after divorce. Topics Covered The role of the divorce coach in the collaborative process How the divorce coach reinterprets dialogue to reduce tension How feeling heard and understood establishes trust How mental health professionals in the collaborative setting put children first Micki’s insight around behaviors that hurt children in the divorce process The notion of parents as the ‘executive committee’ The value in learning to communicate with your ex in a constructive manner How mediation and collaborative approach divorce in a child-centered way Micki’s 12-step separation and divorce recovery group •	Support through ‘gateway to new reality’ •	Move forward, overcome feelings of isolation Connect with Micki McWade Micki’s Website: <a href="http://thedivorcecoach.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://thedivorcecoach.com/</a> Resources Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery by Micki McWade: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768X</a> Daily Meditations: For Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce by Micki McWade: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Up-Over-Divorce-Recovery/dp/146344768X</a> Healing You, Healing Me: A Divorce Group Leader’s Guide by Micki McWade: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Healing-You-Me-Divorce-Leaders/dp/1891400657/ref=la_B001JP0SZM_1_3?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524707788&amp;sr=1-3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Healing-You-Me-Divorce-Leaders/dp/1891400657/ref=la_B001JP0SZM_1_3?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524707788&amp;sr=1-3</a> Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: <a href="http://understandinginconflict.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://understandinginconflict.org/</a> Miller Law Group: <a href="https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/</a> Katherine on LinkedIn: <a href="http://linkedin.com/in/kemiller1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">linkedin.com/in/kemiller1</a> The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246</a> Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

Approaching Divorce in a Child-Centered Way with Micki McWade