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Mary Bates

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Lloyd Barnes

Alex G

Robert Bennett

Kevin Wilson

David Gray

Erin Webb

George Niethammer

Ron Rollins

Myra Dovenbarger

Terry Cripe

Deanna Cheadle

Kelsey Bishop

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Dr. Mary Bates is a Type 6 (SP/SO 6w7 692) primary care doctor, writer, and mother of 2. Mary discovered she is a 6 with the help of the Enneagrammer typing team after having mistyped as a 2 and a 9, the other two types in her trifix. More than anything, this conversation awoke in me a new reverence the 6’s sense of sacred responsibility and “core of humanity,” which permeates Mary’s life and way of being — both as a doctor, and as an inner anchor for her in surviving major childhood trauma. Our conversation also opened up interesting questions about what anxiety “really” is. Enjoy.  Subscribe to my newsletter here: https://www.joshlavine.com/  Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/_xxAdpRFULo Timestamps:  0:00 Intro  3:15 Enneagram Origin Story, mistyping as 2 and 9; discovering I’m a 6  10:17 “In my defense" - "I've thought of everything"; not wanting to be exposed for having not thought of something  12:17 On realizing I was an anxious person; finding better words for "anxiety" - what really is anxiety?  16:46 692 the "healing trifix" - doctor fit  18:51 How do I know when to stop brushing the dog? -- "Have I covered everything / thought of everything?"  19:49 The pleasure of looking behind the curtain, "what's really going on here?" (a hugely overlooked and essential gift of the 6)  21:46 Exploring anxiety as the question: "How do I know when to stop X?" E.g. stop over-analyzing, looking around the corner, finding another answer, etc  24:49 A perfect 6 story - "Should I pull over to read the text?"  27:03 What helps with the indecision of 6? "Taking yourself by the hand and doing it even though it's scary"  29:25 The practice of making deliberate mistakes; what a "practice" really is, custom practices for your nervous system  32:03 Reactivity, being provocative, negative; "If something needs to be said, I'll say it"  38:28 Duty, responsibility, and concern as core ways of being  41:04 Double super-ego trifix. "If I feel I can, I must”; Why is it hard to shirk responsibility?  43:51 6-9 stem and anti-narcissism - "Whatever you want for dinner" -- "sure" -- realizing that it's annoying!  47:59 Justifying localizing myself by the reasoning that it makes me less burdensome to others  53:07 Silence (a beautiful moment of...)  57:14 Mary's survival of capital “T” Trauma, - the “inner core of humanity” that sustained her  1:01:11 Doctor as vocation; the "gnosis" of realizing: “I could be a doctor!”; 692 trifix singing through your life  1:06:16 "You didn’t ask me what it’s like to be introduced!" (ha!) 6-ish anticipation &amp; response  1:08:27 Conclusion  ---  Music by Coma-Media from  Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/  Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ ---

Dr. Mary Bates is a Type 6 (SP/SO 6w7 692) primary care doctor, writer, and mother of 2. Mary discovered she is a 6 with the help of the Enneagrammer typing team after having mistyped as a 2 and a 9, the other two types in her trifix. More than anything, this conversation awoke in me a new reverence the 6’s sense of sacred responsibility and “core of humanity,” which permeates Mary’s life and way of being — both as a doctor, and as an inner anchor for her in surviving major childhood trauma. Our conversation also opened up interesting questions about what anxiety “really” is. Enjoy. Subscribe to my newsletter here: <a href="https://www.joshlavine.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.joshlavine.com/</a> Watch on YouTube here: <a href="https://youtu.be/_xxAdpRFULo" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/_xxAdpRFULo</a> Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:15 Enneagram Origin Story, mistyping as 2 and 9; discovering I’m a 6 10:17 “In my defense" - "I've thought of everything"; not wanting to be exposed for having not thought of something 12:17 On realizing I was an anxious person; finding better words for "anxiety" - what really is anxiety? 16:46 692 the "healing trifix" - doctor fit 18:51 How do I know when to stop brushing the dog? -- "Have I covered everything / thought of everything?" 19:49 The pleasure of looking behind the curtain, "what's really going on here?" (a hugely overlooked and essential gift of the 6) 21:46 Exploring anxiety as the question: "How do I know when to stop X?" E.g. stop over-analyzing, looking around the corner, finding another answer, etc 24:49 A perfect 6 story - "Should I pull over to read the text?" 27:03 What helps with the indecision of 6? "Taking yourself by the hand and doing it even though it's scary"  29:25 The practice of making deliberate mistakes; what a "practice" really is, custom practices for your nervous system 32:03 Reactivity, being provocative, negative; "If something needs to be said, I'll say it" 38:28 Duty, responsibility, and concern as core ways of being 41:04 Double super-ego trifix. "If I feel I can, I must”; Why is it hard to shirk responsibility? 43:51 6-9 stem and anti-narcissism - "Whatever you want for dinner" -- "sure" -- realizing that it's annoying! 47:59 Justifying localizing myself by the reasoning that it makes me less burdensome to others 53:07 Silence (a beautiful moment of...) 57:14 Mary's survival of capital “T” Trauma, - the “inner core of humanity” that sustained her 1:01:11 Doctor as vocation; the "gnosis" of realizing: “I could be a doctor!”; 692 trifix singing through your life 1:06:16 "You didn’t ask me what it’s like to be introduced!" (ha!) 6-ish anticipation &amp; response 1:08:27 Conclusion --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: <a href="https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/</a> Pixabay: <a href="https://pixabay.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://pixabay.com/</a> ---

Dr. Mary Bates on Being a Type 6: the 6’s Core Sense of Responsibility, the Practice of Making Deliberate Mistakes, and How to Know When to Stop Brushing the Dog (SP/SO 6w7 692)

Mary Bates is the Director of Disaster Response for the Ohio District--LCMS. Her journey towards this vocation was a very personal one: it began in the wake of a natural disaster that changed her life. In this installment of Voices of Faith, Mary will share her story, describing the impact of caring Christian ministry in the face of crisis. Contact us at: faithpodcast@outlook.com. The first person to write in this month will receive a copy of Harold Senkbeil's book, "Dying to Live: The Power of Forgiveness."

Mary Bates is the Director of Disaster Response for the Ohio District--LCMS. Her journey towards this vocation was a very personal one: it began in the wake of a natural disaster that changed her life. In this installment of Voices of Faith, Mary will share her story, describing the impact of caring Christian ministry in the face of crisis. Contact us at: <a href="mailto:faithpodcast@outlook.com">faithpodcast@outlook.com</a>. The first person to write in this month will receive a copy of Harold Senkbeil's book, "Dying to Live: The Power of Forgiveness."

Voices of Faith: Mary Bates