Michelle Holleman's guest appearances

Michelle Holleman

Sex, Love, and Addiction

One Day You'll Thank Me

Sam Louie

Larry Hedges

Lisa Lewis

Helen Fisher

Tom Ryan

Harville Hendrix

Stan Tatkin

Kevin Egan

Jennifer Moore

Brad Baldridge

Karl Staib

Mel Robbins

Don Hilton

Rob Weiss

Leon Seltzer

OwlTail

Cast:Dr. Tara Egan, hostAnna, teen co-hostMichelle Holleman, Sex Addiction Therapist - guest expertHey listeners, today Tara and Anna are having a very interesting conversation with Michelle Holleman, Sex Addiction Therapist. Michelle specializes in the treatment of chronic infidelity, betrayal, other traumatic relationship experiences, and family systems in addiction. What Tara has been seeing over and over lately in her practice is how sex addiction is playing a huge role in the family dynamics and how it is affecting the kids of these families. Tune in to hear the discussion about "Understanding the Impact of Sex Addiction on the Family System." We'll discuss:What is a sex addiction? (Note: It' not addiction to having intercourse and typically starts at a young age) How sex addiction impact the brain and how similar it is to drug and alcohol addiction.What causes it? How is it diagnosed? What are the risk factors associated with developing a sex addiction?The different types of addiction.How ANY addiction impacts the entire family. What are some ways that the family may be impacted?Porn addiction, infidelity, sex offenders, pedophilesSometimes parents think their kids/teens don’t know or are oblivious to the fact that a parent has a sex addiction. Almost always, kids know that something is going on. So how do we handle that as parents and  how do we prevent ourselves or our kids from developing a sex addiction?To get in touch with Michelle in Charlotte, NC go to www.lifehealingcounseling.com lots of free resources, free assessments. Another great resource is www. seekingintegrity.com drop in groupsTo learn more about Dr. Tara Egan's child &amp; adolescent therapy services, visit HERE.To join our private FB group for parents of high schoolers and soon-to-be high schoolers, visit HERE.To join us on Instagram, visit HERE.To learn more about Dr. Egan's online mini-course called "Managing Your Family's Technology and Social Media", created to help parents eliminate power struggles, keep your family safe from internet misuse, and reconnect with your family, go HERE.

Cast: Dr. Tara Egan, host Anna, teen co-host Michelle Holleman, Sex Addiction Therapist - guest expert Hey listeners, today Tara and Anna are having a very interesting conversation with Michelle Holleman, Sex Addiction Therapist. Michelle specializes in the treatment of chronic infidelity, betrayal, other traumatic relationship experiences, and family systems in addiction. What Tara has been seeing over and over lately in her practice is how sex addiction is playing a huge role in the family dynamics and how it is affecting the kids of these families. Tune in to hear the discussion about "Understanding the Impact of Sex Addiction on the Family System."  We'll discuss:<ol><li>What is a sex addiction? (Note: It' not addiction to having intercourse and typically starts at a young age) </li><li>How sex addiction impact the brain and how similar it is to drug and alcohol addiction.</li><li>What causes it? How is it diagnosed?</li><li> What are the risk factors associated with developing a sex addiction?</li><li>The different types of addiction.</li><li>How ANY addiction impacts the entire family. What are some ways that the family may be impacted?</li><li>Porn addiction, infidelity, sex offenders, pedophiles</li></ol>Sometimes parents think their kids/teens don’t know or are oblivious to the fact that a parent has a sex addiction. Almost always, kids know that something is going on. So how do we handle that as parents and  how do we prevent ourselves or our kids from developing a sex addiction?To get in touch with Michelle in Charlotte, NC go to <a href="https://lifehealingcounseling.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.lifehealingcounseling.com</a> lots of free resources, free assessments. Another great resource is <a href="https://seekingintegrity.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www. seekingintegrity.com</a> drop in groups To learn more about Dr. Tara Egan's child &amp; adolescent therapy services, visit <a href="https://www.charlotteparentcoaching.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a>. To join our private FB group for parents of high schoolers and soon-to-be high schoolers, visit <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/adolescenceaparentsguide" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a>. To join us on Instagram, visit <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drtaraegan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE</a>. To learn more about Dr. Egan's online mini-course called "Managing Your Family's Technology and Social Media", created to help parents eliminate power struggles, keep your family safe from internet misuse, and reconnect with your family, go <a href="https://www.drtaraegan.com/managing-tech-and-social-media" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HERE.</a>

S3: E8 - Guest Expert, Michelle Holleman, Sex Addictions Therapist, Understanding the Impact of Sex Addiction on the Family System

Michelle Holleman is a Sex Addiction Therapist based out of Charlotte, North Carolina. Michelle councils pre-teens and teenagers about their porn addiction habits and teaches children the difference between reality and fiction. Young children are being exposed to porn and it can deeply impact their brain. Michelle shares seven tips parents can use to have a healthy conversation with their children about porn, and why they need to talk about it with them; not avoid it.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:45] Who is Michelle and what does she do?  [3:45] Michelle works with a lot of teens who get caught with porn on their school computer.  [6:25] Usually when Michelle gets called in, parents are very concerned. Michelle tries to calm them down and normalize the situation.  [9:35] Anything that can turn into porn, will be turned into porn, which means that there are pornographic cartoons out there.  [12:00] Parents are very bad at talking to their children about sex. They mostly explain how babies get made, but not the act itself.  [13:35] Locking down your child’s phone doesn’t solve the underlying problem. If it’s not at home, they’ll be exposed to it through their friends.  [18:15] How do the conversations differ between a pre-teen child vs. teenager about the conversation of looking at porn?  [21:25] Between the ages of 8 and 16, 90% of children have seen porn by that age.  [22:45] Porn changes our children’s brains.  [24:15] It’s important to tell the truth when talking to your children. [28:45] Don’t punish your child for looking at porn, it sends the wrong message and they will try to hide it from you.  [32:55] The real problem with porn is that it takes the intimacy and connection in sex away.   RESOURCES:   The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’? Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW  Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity  Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men   Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Connect with Michelle: Lifehealingcounseling.com &amp;  LinkedIn    QUOTES:  “The parents get called in and then they start to find out how much porn is on the computer, and that’s where it becomes alarming.” “There are ways we can teach our kids early on about pornography and the difference between porn and healthy sex, which includes intimacy.” “The average age kids are actually seeing porn is around 9-years old the first time they see it and the biggest consumers of porn are boys ages 12-17.” “Between the ages of 8 and 16, 90% of children have seen porn by that age.” 

Michelle Holleman is a Sex Addiction Therapist based out of Charlotte, North Carolina. Michelle councils pre-teens and teenagers about their porn addiction habits and teaches children the difference between reality and fiction. Young children are being exposed to porn and it can deeply impact their brain. Michelle shares seven tips parents can use to have a healthy conversation with their children about porn, and why they need to talk about it with them; not avoid it.  TAKEAWAYS: [1:45] Who is Michelle and what does she do?  [3:45] Michelle works with a lot of teens who get caught with porn on their school computer.  [6:25] Usually when Michelle gets called in, parents are very concerned. Michelle tries to calm them down and normalize the situation.  [9:35] Anything that can turn into porn, will be turned into porn, which means that there are pornographic cartoons out there.  [12:00] Parents are very bad at talking to their children about sex. They mostly explain how babies get made, but not the act itself.  [13:35] Locking down your child’s phone doesn’t solve the underlying problem. If it’s not at home, they’ll be exposed to it through their friends.  [18:15] How do the conversations differ between a pre-teen child vs. teenager about the conversation of looking at porn?  [21:25] Between the ages of 8 and 16, 90% of children have seen porn by that age.  [22:45] Porn changes our children’s brains.  [24:15] It’s important to tell the truth when talking to your children. [28:45] Don’t punish your child for looking at porn, it sends the wrong message and they will try to hide it from you.  [32:55] The real problem with porn is that it takes the intimacy and connection in sex away. RESOURCES:  <a href="https://blogs.psychcentral.com/blog/2019/11/the-porn-panic-is-porn-a-public-health-crisis/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?</a> <a href="https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex and Relationship Healing</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/robweissmsw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@RobWeissMSW</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Addiction-101-Basic-Healing/dp/0757318436" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Sex Addiction 101 </a> <a href="https://seekingintegrity.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Seeking Integrity</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BAEK96A/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men </a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Prodependence-Moving-Codependency-Robert-Weiss/dp/075732035X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency</a> Connect with Michelle: <a href="https://lifehealingcounseling.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Lifehealingcounseling.com</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-holleman-b6606689/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> LinkedIn</a> QUOTES: <ul> <li>“The parents get called in and then they start to find out how much porn is on the computer, and that’s where it becomes alarming.”</li> <li>“There are ways we can teach our kids early on about pornography and the difference between porn and healthy sex, which includes intimacy.”</li> <li>“The average age kids are actually seeing porn is around 9-years old the first time they see it and the biggest consumers of porn are boys ages 12-17.”</li> <li>“Between the ages of 8 and 16, 90% of children have seen porn by that age.”</li> </ul>

Porn Addiction Among Pre-Teen and Teenage Children with Michelle Holleman