Valerie Teller's guest appearances

Valerie Teller

Adversity to Advantage

MeetMyPotential

Robin Coghlan

Karen Briscoe

Jen Loong

Paul McGregor

Andy Storch

Scott Shay

William Pullen

Paul Lawrence

Andy Molinsky

Samantha Clarke

Mark Metry

Maneesh Sethi

Katrina Burrus

David Taylor

David Siegel

OwlTail

In this first episode we have Valerie Teller who switched carriers from being a lawyer to helping people be a fuller version of themselves. Valerie’s unique style is to walk with people in the nature to help them reflect on their life challenges. She talks about how we damage ourselves through the voice of our inner critic.What is being hard on yourself?It is the voice of the inner critic that goes on constantly in our head with a certain harshness and this can be quite limiting.Can you give an example of this voice?We can replay events in our head reviewing how things went. Reviewing in itself is not a bad thing as we learn from what we do. It is the quality of the review that is sometimes not necessarily kind. Just noticing that the voice of your inner critic is at play is key.What is the impact of being hard on yourself?The impact is perhaps feeling horrible about oneself, feeling incompetent or diminished by the voice of the inner critic. The biggest thing about it is that it can be debilitating, as it can send you to a state of being helpless as you can’t change the past.The worst part of that is that we do this to ourselves. The other impact of the voice of the inner critic is to potentially create shame within ourselves and shame isolates us; as we think something is wrong with us. That’s when the inner critic starts controlling us.What is ONE advice to get out of the suffering of the inner critic? The first step is to notice how you speak to yourself, because if you don’t notice how you speak to yourself there is no chance of doing it differently. Otherwise you suffer the impact of the inner critic voice without having any control over it. So, pay attention and notice when the inner critic is at play.The second stepis to ask yourself the question: If a dear friend who you cared about very much was experiencing what you are going through i.e. your dear friend is replaying the event and feeling horrible, would you treat them like this? Would you speak to them like the voice of your inner critic ?Be kind to yourself as you don’t deserve the suffering that comes with being hard on yourself!The third stepis to show yourself the compassion when you are learning by reviewing your past events. Be kind to yourself and know that in that moment being hard on yourself is not what you need.Save SaveSave Save

<p>In this first episode we have <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerie-teller-31214422/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Valerie Teller </a>who switched carriers from being a lawyer to helping people be a fuller version of themselves. Valerie’s unique style is to walk with people in the nature to help them reflect on their life challenges. She talks about how we damage ourselves through the voice of our inner critic.</p><h4>What is being hard on yourself?</h4><p>It is the voice of the inner critic that goes on constantly in our head with a certain harshness and this can be quite limiting.</p><h4>Can you give an example of this voice?</h4><p>We can replay events in our head reviewing how things went. Reviewing in itself is not a bad thing as we learn from what we do. It is the quality of the review that is sometimes not necessarily kind. Just noticing that the voice of your inner critic is at play is key.</p><h4>What is the impact of being hard on yourself?</h4><p>The impact is perhaps feeling horrible about oneself, feeling incompetent or diminished by the voice of the inner critic. The biggest thing about it is that it can be debilitating, as it can send you to a state of being helpless as you can’t change the past.</p><p>The worst part of that is that we do this to ourselves. The other impact of the voice of the inner critic is to potentially create shame within ourselves and shame isolates us; as we think something is wrong with us. That’s when the inner critic starts controlling us.</p><h4>What is ONE advice to get out of the suffering of the inner critic?</h4><p><a href="https://meetmypotential.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/capturing-the-human-heart-218410-unsplash.jpg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"><strong></strong></a><strong> The first step </strong>is to notice how you speak to yourself, because if you don’t notice how you speak to yourself there is no chance of doing it differently. Otherwise you suffer the impact of the inner critic voice without having any control over it. So, pay attention and notice when the inner critic is at play.</p><p><strong>The second step</strong>is to ask yourself the question: If a dear friend who you cared about very much was experiencing what you are going through i.e. your dear friend is replaying the event and feeling horrible, would you treat them like this? Would you speak to them like the voice of your inner critic ?</p><h3><strong>Be kind to yourself as you don’t deserve the suffering that comes with being hard on yourself!</strong></h3><p><strong>The third step</strong>is to show yourself the compassion when you are learning by reviewing your past events. Be kind to yourself and know that in that moment being hard on yourself is not what you need.</p><p><strong>Save</strong> <strong>Save</strong></p><p><strong>Save</strong> <strong>Save</strong></p>

#1 How hard are you on yourself with Valerie Teller

Valerie Teller is all about intuition. Listening to her body for the signs it gives her on which way to move her life forward. It's something I forget time and time again and this conversation reminds me of the information our gut instinct has for us, not only to keep us safe but to set us on the path for fulfilment. 'We're told that we should want certain things...' Valerie says, of her endless studying to be an international lawyer and barrister. Really, she just wanted to be an actress but was taught early on to suppress such silly ideas. She bravely talks about a childhood trauma that can still impact her today and how she now embraces vulnerability in order to connect and look after her wellbeing. If you've ever felt you were not allowed to fail and if you did became deeply depressed and self-critical then this podcast is for you. Learn the art of self-compassion and how the things that could destroy us can actually propel us to grow into our true power! Find Valerie Teller at http://switchedoncoaching.com

Valerie Teller is all about intuition. Listening to her body for the signs it gives her on which way to move her life forward. It's something I forget time and time again and this conversation reminds me of the information our gut instinct has for us, not only to keep us safe but to set us on the path for fulfilment. <br><br>'We're told that we should want certain things...' Valerie says, of her endless studying to be an international lawyer and barrister. Really, she just wanted to be an actress but was taught early on to suppress such silly ideas. She bravely talks about a childhood trauma that can still impact her today and how she now embraces vulnerability in order to connect and look after her wellbeing. <br><br>If you've ever felt you were not allowed to fail and if you did became deeply depressed and self-critical then this podcast is for you. Learn the art of self-compassion and how the things that could destroy us can actually propel us to grow into our true power! Find Valerie Teller at <a href="http://switchedoncoaching.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://switchedoncoaching.com</a>

30: Recovering Perfectionist with Valerie Teller