Beth Luwandi's guest appearances

Beth Luwandi

True Calling Project | Finding Purpose and Meaning In Life and Career

Women In-Depth:  Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women

Practice of Being Seen

Life on Repeat: A Dementia Caregiver Podcast

Keri Nola

Traci Ruble

Mia Quaglia

Lanie Smith

Laura Reagan

Tamara Powell

Tiffany McLain

Elizabeth Cush

Julie Bjelland

Melissa Divaris Thompson

Sharon Martin

Dara Hoffman-Fox

Melvin Varghese

Ginny Mills

Tom Murray

OwlTail

Most of us have not been taught how to grieve. This is a great conversation with Beth about taking care of yourself around your loss, avoidance of the pain, and changing our coping mechanisms. My favorite quote from Beth:  "We are made to heal"  In this episode, we talk about: Why it is so important to do the work around lossApproaches outside the common "talking to friends"Types of loss  What people can expect after they do the workNormalizing the processLearning to grieve and gaining perspective Beth is a success coach and licensed professional counselor, specializing in relationships and healing after loss. She loves working with mid-life women who are ready to break old patterns and find more satisfaction and purpose.You can find out more about Beth here: Beth LuwandiHere is Beth's online course: Successful GriefHere is a great blog post that Beth wrote: "An Ideal Grief"FOLLOW LIFE ON REPEAT PODCAST ON SOCIAL MEDIA:Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonrepeatpodcastPodcast Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comPodcast Email: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comProfessional Service Website: eldercarecounselor.comSUBSCRIBE TO THE LIFE ON REPEAT PODCAST:I host a weekly podcast where I interview dementia specialists and other professionals to help caregivers feel educated, supported, and empowered.We talk about a variety of topics including how to live your best life as a caregiver, how to work with challenges that may arise, and how to gain knowledge so you can be your own best advocate.You can also find it by searching “Life on Repeat” on any podcast app (eg: Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, etc) or simply saying "Alexa, listen to Life on Repeat Podcast” on your Apple device.Or simply go to the link below for ease =).lifeonrepeatpodcast.com/listen

Most of us have not been taught how to grieve. This is a great conversation with Beth about taking care of yourself around your loss, avoidance of the pain, and changing our coping mechanisms. My favorite quote from Beth: "We are made to heal" In this episode, we talk about: <ul><li>Why it is so important to do the work around loss</li><li>Approaches outside the common "talking to friends"</li><li>Types of loss </li><li> What people can expect after they do the work</li><li>Normalizing the process</li><li>Learning to grieve and gaining perspective</li></ul> Beth is a success coach and licensed professional counselor, specializing in relationships and healing after loss. She loves working with mid-life women who are ready to break old patterns and find more satisfaction and purpose.You can find out more about Beth here: <a href="https://bethluwandi.com/about-beth-luwandi/about/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Beth Luwandi</a>Here is Beth's online course: <a href="https://www.liveswork.org/dQk169" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Successful Grief</a>Here is a great blog post that Beth wrote: <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/ideal-grief/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">"An Ideal Grief"</a><h2> </h2><h2>FOLLOW LIFE ON REPEAT PODCAST ON SOCIAL MEDIA:</h2>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeonrepeat.podcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@lifeonrepeat.podcast</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Lifeonrepeatpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">facebook.com/Lifeonrepeatpodcast</a>Podcast Website: <a href="https://www.lifeonrepeatpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">lifeonrepeatpodcast.com</a>Podcast Email: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comProfessional Service Website: <a href="https://www.eldercarecounselor.com" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">eldercarecounselor.com</a><h2> </h2><h2>SUBSCRIBE TO THE LIFE ON REPEAT PODCAST:</h2>I host a weekly podcast where I interview dementia specialists and other professionals to help caregivers feel educated, supported, and empowered.We talk about a variety of topics including how to live your best life as a caregiver, how to work with challenges that may arise, and how to gain knowledge so you can be your own best advocate.You can also find it by searching “Life on Repeat” on any podcast app (eg: Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, etc) or simply saying "Alexa, listen to Life on Repeat Podcast” on your Apple device.Or simply go to the link below for ease =).<a href="https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lifeonrepeatpodcast.com%2Flisten%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR34b75e6_OKim6QXBHm60wbHlVE1Nrm02jAq02MDHNq22XNSGLw5o25PRQ&amp;h=AT2mYTlmlDLMgfM-arSN4jaPC-Kb7yNt2wfUX61dP0ZV907LR4YDt8ZfYBOJP2HEjbzL7W2Aksnnxh7cehMeCrryeMgHq8-U1XiOKKDHnSI0rU1X9GusEH50eJUi6jCjIPwEl8jDm6Bc_C4p3QRbloI&amp;__tn__=-UK-R&amp;c%5B0%5D=AT2m8j5MeBR0-O1bWJD79ktEoQLHXNBh4JlK6Zhrda7j6sVy4WNSkkyrhPRhngYpTAsfK44tW1zfqFlM_akZ4DF2lzdWYM9S4TIE4FOWwBm0gbrPHXNRk4KddASpqNYYT-DdJ_zD-fBA0ZAf9Je8Hn6v4_S90fXJkx-Xwx5TU0Zf0z7w6DyrOaRHWOxPyUjBf3nr" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">lifeonrepeatpodcast.com/listen</a>

Grief and the Path to Healing with Beth Luwandi

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, MA, LPC is a licensed psychotherapist and Life Coach in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio. She works with couples and individuals experiencing betrayal, loss, and relationship tangles. Her Whole Human Theory (TM) suggests that a

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, MA, LPC is a licensed psychotherapist and Life Coach in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio. She works with couples and individuals experiencing betrayal, loss, and relationship tangles. Her Whole Human Theory (TM) suggests that a

78: After Infidelity: Healing for the Offender with Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, MA, LPC

If you were to ask a room full of people whether or not they’ve ever cheated on a partner or have been cheated on by a partner, you’d likely get every single person to say “yes” to one or the other, if not both.  Affairs are such a common thing in intimate relationships.  And, so profoundly painful--certainly for the partner who was betrayed by the affair, but also, according to this week’s guest Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, for the offender.   When we cheat, it has a way of really getting at the core of who we are.  We think we know ourselves and where our boundaries lie, but this thing we never thought we’d do has us questioning everything.  Often, by the end of it, we just want peace.     Beth Luwandi Lofstrom has developed her own theory and methodology for working with couples who have experienced an affair and it may go against the usual grain.  As therapists, we of course come into the room with our own biases about infidelity.  Those biases don’t often tend toward understanding of the offender.  And according to Beth, therapists are often focusing on the wrong things in our work with couples working through infidelity.   In this episode, we discuss:    The problem with our usual labels for the person who has the affair in a relationship and what Beth prefers to call them. Why it’s so important that the offending partner is healed properly and why integration doesn’t go deep enough. Why ‘Why’ is the wrong question to work through in the clinical space and what we should ask instead. Beth’s theory, Whole Human Theory, what it means, and how it informs the work she does with couples. Why the mind-body connection is lacking and how it leaves one third of the population out of the conversation. The Gentle Benevolent Observer as the highest part of a person, what it is and why it is often underdeveloped. The differences between good couples counseling and poor couples counseling. Beth’s upcoming book, who it’s for and what it intends to do. Whether humans truly are not wired for monogamy and how Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love applies to this question. The role of “the snake” in the Gentle Benevolent Observer’s existence.   Referenced in this episode:  Enneagram Personality Typology [Graphic depicting Holistic Human Parts Theory:]     Esther Perel’s  Mating in Captivity Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love  You can find Beth Luwandi Lofstrom online at BethLuwandi.com. And Beth's new book After the Affair; Healing for the offender will be available later this month; you can find it on her new site wholehumantheory.com. You can also connect with Beth on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.  Are you a part of the #POBScast Community?  If not, join us.  Let’s continue the conversation about this and other favorite episodes there.   If you’re looking for a unique, experiential gift to give your partner this holiday season, consider  this upcoming Valentine’s Retreat I’m co-leading at Menla Mountain Resort.

If you were to ask a room full of people whether or not they’ve ever cheated on a partner or have been cheated on by a partner, you’d likely get every single person to say “yes” to one or the other, if not both.  Affairs are such a common thing in intimate relationships.  And, so profoundly painful--certainly for the partner who was betrayed by the affair, but also, according to this week’s guest Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, for the offender. When we cheat, it has a way of really getting at the core of who we are.  We think we know ourselves and where our boundaries lie, but this thing we never thought we’d do has us questioning everything.  Often, by the end of it, we just want peace.   Beth Luwandi Lofstrom has developed her own theory and methodology for working with couples who have experienced an affair and it may go against the usual grain.  As therapists, we of course come into the room with our own biases about infidelity.  Those biases don’t often tend toward understanding of the offender.  And according to Beth, therapists are often focusing on the wrong things in our work with couples working through infidelity. In this episode, we discuss: <ul> <li>The problem with our usual labels for the person who has the affair in a relationship and what Beth prefers to call them.</li> <li>Why it’s so important that the offending partner is healed properly and why integration doesn’t go deep enough.</li> <li>Why ‘Why’ is the wrong question to work through in the clinical space and what we should ask instead.</li> <li>Beth’s theory, Whole Human Theory, what it means, and how it informs the work she does with couples.</li> <li>Why the mind-body connection is lacking and how it leaves one third of the population out of the conversation.</li> <li>The Gentle Benevolent Observer as the highest part of a person, what it is and why it is often underdeveloped.</li> <li>The differences between good couples counseling and poor couples counseling.</li> <li>Beth’s upcoming book, who it’s for and what it intends to do.</li> <li>Whether humans truly are not wired for monogamy and how Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love applies to this question.</li> <li>The role of “the snake” in the Gentle Benevolent Observer’s existence.</li> </ul> Referenced in this episode: <a href="https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Enneagram Personality Typology</a> [Graphic depicting Holistic Human Parts Theory:] Esther Perel’s <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1512974516&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=esther+perel" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Mating in Captivity</a> Robert Sternberg’s <a href="http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Triangular Theory of Love</a> You can find Beth Luwandi Lofstrom online at <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BethLuwandi.com</a>. And Beth's new book After the Affair; Healing for the offender will be available later this month; you can find it on her new site <a href="http://wholehumantheory.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">wholehumantheory.com</a>. You can also connect with Beth on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/1Luwandi/?ref=br_rs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/bethluwandi/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/luwandi77" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Twitter</a>. Are you a part of the <a href="https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/community/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#POBScast Community</a>?  If not, join us.  Let’s continue the conversation about this and other favorite episodes there. If you’re looking for a unique, experiential gift to give your partner this holiday season, consider <a href="http://menla.us/retreats/1756/divine-mirrors-deepening-conscious-connection-in-relationships-a-valentines-couples-retreat/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> this upcoming Valentine’s Retreat</a> I’m co-leading at Menla Mountain Resort.

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom: The Gentle Benevolent Observer

Beth Luwandi is a psychotherapist, master communicator, host of the Midlife Love Bytes! podcast, and recent TEDx speaker. We discuss the process of creating and delivering a TED Talk, and the message she wants to share with the world. The theme of TEDxGustavusAdolphusCollege was “Life On Purpose.” As a speaker, she was tasked with condensing the science and experiences of her talk into 12-15 minutes, which was later condensed further to 10 minutes, and memorizing the presentation (and, of course, overcoming her anxiety).    If you ever have to give a big presentation, here’s a hot tip: practice it in front of real people! You might feel vulnerable, but the real-time feedback and experience is invaluable.  Her talk is called “Stop Talking! How Communication is Actually Ruining Your Relationships… and What To Do About It.” It’s the culmination of years working with couples on love, loss, and relationships.  You can watch it here. You will learn why talking often makes it difficult to establish and maintain a sense of empathy and closeness, and how Beth’s four-step process – Clean, Non-Blaming Communication (CNBC) – can shift your relationship and strengthen your brain. Beth goes into detail on this topic in episode seven of her podcast, too. You can get in touch with Beth, enjoy her work, and learn more about her practice at BethLuwandi.com. -- Resources:  Here’s the TEDx Talk:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT1o2esE_88   Start a conversation at BethLuwandi.com Listen to the Midlife Love Bytes! podcast  Interested in learning more about how I can help you through coaching?  Find out more at  www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/ Production &amp; Development for True Calling Project by Podcast Masters

Beth Luwandi is a psychotherapist, master communicator, host of the <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/midlife-love-bytes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Midlife Love Bytes!</a> podcast, and recent <a href="https://www.ted.com/tedx/events/22832" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TEDx speaker</a>. We discuss the process of creating and delivering a TED Talk, and the message she wants to share with the world. The theme of TEDxGustavusAdolphusCollege was “Life On Purpose.” As a speaker, she was tasked with condensing the science and experiences of her talk into 12-15 minutes, which was later condensed further to 10 minutes, and memorizing the presentation (and, of course, overcoming her anxiety).   <ul> <li>If you ever have to give a big presentation, here’s a hot tip: practice it in front of real people! You might feel vulnerable, but the real-time feedback and experience is invaluable.</li> </ul> Her talk is called “Stop Talking! How Communication is Actually Ruining Your Relationships… and What To Do About It.” It’s the culmination of years working with couples on love, loss, and relationships.  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT1o2esE_88" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">You can watch it here.</a> You will learn why talking often makes it difficult to establish and maintain a sense of empathy and closeness, and how Beth’s four-step process – Clean, Non-Blaming Communication (CNBC) – can shift your relationship and strengthen your brain. Beth goes into detail on this topic in <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/stop-talking/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">episode seven of her podcast</a>, too. You can get in touch with Beth, enjoy her work, and learn more about her practice at <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BethLuwandi.com</a>. -- Resources: <ul> <li>Here’s the TEDx Talk:  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT1o2esE_88" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT1o2esE_88</a></li> </ul> <ul> <li>Start a conversation at <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BethLuwandi.com</a></li> <li>Listen to the <a href="http://bethluwandi.com/midlife-love-bytes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Midlife Love Bytes!</a> podcast</li> </ul> Interested in learning more about how I can help you through coaching?  Find out more at <a href="http://www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/</a> Production &amp; Development for True Calling Project by <a href="http://www.podcastmasters.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Podcast Masters</a>